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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why did I bleed after being fingered for the first time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello So, I am a virgin but was fingered for the first time, and it hurt a lot whilst it happened, in fact it was really, really painful(Yes, I know, I should have said something). However, the strange thing is, two days after this, I started bleeding down there quit... (157 words)

I'm gay, my wife says I can look not touch and my b/f won't be with me unless I'm single!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Here it is I have been married for three years, and have a 3yr old son. Im gay but my wife thinks im bi, she tells me i can look at guys but can't touch. To top it all off I have a boyfriend who only wants to be with me if im not married. I feel stuck in this relationship bc ... (73 words)

Should I or should I not date if I'm not over a guy I love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone. I am in a bit of a pickle and I don't know what I should do. See, I am in love with a man who doesn't feel the same way for me. I know, I know, and I'm trying to move on from that. The problem is that I genuinely do love the guy and it has been impossible for ... (374 words)

I can't understand why my gf feels uncomfortable holding hands with me in public

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I find it strange that my six months gf tells me she feels uncomfortable holding hands with me in public( I mean places like in a park or even on the street when we are walking)although she has no problem doing the same (holding hands indoors).At first we did not meet often and ... (149 words)

Could using a vaginal pessary have made me lose my virginity?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Had a vagina infection and am a virgin. Had to use inserting tablet and while inserting it hurt and for 3 days i bleed but not much just litle patches in my pant. Am i still a virgin? ... (38 words)

I look too straight to be a lesbian!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi am new to this,well all of it really.basically i only realised i was a lesbian a few months ago after a while on my own, the problem is i have never been kissed by a woman mainly because i look to strait ok i mean i really do look strait i have children,i was in a looooooong ... (128 words)

Why would my ex ask me to the movies after all this time apart if he was clear he does not want to get back together again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4612 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, Its my first time writing on here so here goes... im in a really weird situation and need some advice I was with my ex for 4 years in which i found out that he had cheated on me in the first 6 months of our relationship with his ex girlfriend. either way we... (579 words)

How can I make my co-worker interested in me again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What should I do about him? is he mad at me? i really like him:(? There's this guy at my workplace. He stares at me when am not looking. He was really nice and friendly with me. So I gave him my number and he even rang me a few times when he was on holiday abroad. S... (195 words)

Is it weird that I want to role play as a guy even though I am a woman?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is it weird that i want to role play as a guy even though i am a woman? I'm bi so wanting to play a guy part is partly why i want to role play as a guy.... (39 words)

Can my girlfriend get pregnant if I ejaculate into her anally?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Can my girlfriend get pregnant if I ejaculate into her anally?... (11 words)

I would like to be more than friends, but she is a serial cheat and I worry that she would do the same to me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - We're both 16 and we've known each other for about 5 years and been best friends for about 2 years. We are very honest to each other and we've both admitted to liking each other however one of us or the other has always been in a relationship so we've never dated. However, ... (247 words)

I feel I hug people too much. How can I control this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok this is a really stupid problem but I think it makes people uncomfortable. I'm a very huggy/cuddly person and I think that it annoys everyone and makes me seem strange. Like I don't go up to random people and hug them; just people I know. I'm not a generally clingy... (69 words)

My mother is emotionally abusive to me and treats me like a naughty child

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a terrible relationship with my mother. And its not one of them stereotypical type of bad its really bad. I am 20 years old and she treats me like im 6. Im not allowed to go out with my friends, if i do she constantly calls me and embarasses me. If she sees me texting ... (287 words)

I think my boyfriend is falling out of love with me

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im feeling rather worried :( Im afraid my boyfriend may be having second thoughts about me, but doesnt want to admit it or hurt me. He was the one who came to me and made the effort to ask me out, he was so sweet at first, he always used to put soppy status on facebook, my ... (202 words)

I don't want to hurt my boyfriend, but I am too weak to resist temptation.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please help, i am confused. I love my boyfriend, we have been through the most tough times ever, and he has still stuck by me through everything. But, during last year at uni, i slipped into the trap of sleeping with a guy there, on numerous occasions. Sometimes i cant stop ... (90 words)

Heart broken in Texas: I found out through facebook that my friend has been in a relationship for nearly a year and never told me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age - I am a male who has been friends with a female for 18 years. During that span we dated for about four years (at the beginning of our friendship). About 10 years ago, I moved away to a different state but I went back for visits every year until last year. And through no fault of ... (465 words)

The boy I love seems to hate me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4611 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello I am a 15 year old boy in my 3d year of high school. I realise that my question might seem childish or ridiculous to some, but if you remember being in love in High School, you understand what I mean. (Just to be clear, I am homosexual) So, there's this boy in my cla... (277 words)

Would doing this lead to sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, there's this guy i love very much. we've been dating for 9months now. am still a virgin. we have'nt had sex as agreed. we restricted ourselves to making out and dry humping. recently,he said he wants me to suck him and i said no, though he does not seem to be so angry ... (116 words)

Can lust develop over time?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a new man in my life, we get on great, have lots in common, laugh together, share similar interests and outlooks.. he is caring, thoughtful, positive, funny, clever, nearly everything I could hope for. I feel very comfortable around him, enjoy being affectionate towards ... (288 words)

How can I make this girl laugh no matter what mood she is in?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - First of all this is not really much of a relationship problem at the same time it is though. I want to know how a guy can have a good sense of humour or a way to make the girl he loves laugh no matter what mood she is in. This girl I like so much has random moods and i ... (117 words)

How should I get this break up over with?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ok well my boyfriend hasnt replied me for months i want to break it off with him i think he feels the same cause he sent me a message saying we need to talk and i replied i know i am storing his stuff over summere and am taking it to his house with my mum, who doesnt ... (153 words)

My selfishness has left me single and miserable

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My selfishness left me single and miserable. How can I figure out what is wrong with me why I did this. I left my fiance hanging to hang out with some guy that isn't good for me or any other woman. Let's call my ex fiance Bob and the other man Rick. So I was with Bob for ... (436 words)

How do I come clean? Or should I keep quiet and take it to the grave?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - HELP!! I cheated on my boyfriend to get revenge on him for cheating but I haven't been able to tell him. I know he'll get jealous, but I'm afraid he will break up with me and I don't want that because things are great now. He thinks he's the only guy I've kissed, but I've ... (235 words)

How do I do all these extra jobs and still study?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - This is not a dating problem, but I really think that you guys can help me with this. At least read it... I'd really appreciate it. The thing is – my mother is going away for 10 days tomorrow. She’s leaving me ( 15), my sister ( 10) and our Dad. I’m very close with her and I’m ... (239 words)

My problem is I need help getting over my boss!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age - I was dating a married man for 1 year. He is my boss. He said that he could no longer continue this affair because it was too stressful. He pursued me for seven years and I finally gave in to friendship then lovers. We have stop this affair and it is two years without him. ... (175 words)

How do I make my new boyfriend more comfortable with the physical closeness I want?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been seeing this guy for about a month and I'm really attracted to him, we have tons in common and he's really easy to be around. The only problem is that he's not very 'hands on,' the most i've got out of him has been a short kiss before I had to leave. I know for sure ... (125 words)

We are not official - can we date other people?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Heya I have a quick question I,ve been dating a young man for nearly two months now. We're not officially girlfriend and boyfriend. He hasn't been with another girl since we met but since we're just dating is it ok for him to be with other girls? like I do really really li... (95 words)

What is going on? Should I get a lawyer?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I told My separated husband, I'm pregnant by someone else. He said it didn't matter. We went on meanwhile he was seeing someone else. He needed his car fix and I gave him the money. Later he broke it off and said he wanted the divorce. Constantly he kept textin me claiming he ... (197 words)

We were supposed to be friends but he didnt even tell me he is married and expecting a baby!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm having a bit of a crisis and I'm probably mad but here goes. I split with my ex partner in November last year, though we dragged it out until January with sweet I miss you type e-mails (there was never a doubt of still loving each other, just some major communic... (257 words)

We are both married, had an affair and now he has stopped contacting me, what can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi i recently had a six week affair with a married man, i am also married. it started out online then we realised we knew each other, we met up quite a few times kissing etc then we got more serious we had sex once. now i have heard nothing from him i only sent him one email ... (158 words)

Sick of being second best......

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - How do I deal with being second best? I'm second best when it comes to everything. My partner has a better ex. She was prettier and cooler and they only broke up because she cheated. He would never have left her had she not. I'm also second best when it comes to mates. ... (149 words)

We are supposed to be getting married in 2 months time but he has already stopped being affectionate. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My fiance and I have been together for 7 years and we have 5 year old twins together. He is such an amazing dad, loving, nurturing and helps with cooking and cleaning. The sad part is, we are getting married in 2 months but this last year he has stopped being affectionate. He... (278 words)

Is there anything I can do to put us back on the right track?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

- I have been married for almost 18months and with my husband for almost 3 years (known him for over 4 years). We have always been the type of couple who bicker but always make up very quickly. lately though the arguments have gotten worse (esp ones about money) and they last for... (327 words)

Has anyone got back with their ex after they dumped you for someone else?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age - Have any of you ever gotten back with your ex who you were with for several yrs. and engaged to be married once he dumped you for someone else? If a few yrs. later things did not work out with this other person and he decides he want to give your relationship another try ... (134 words)

I cant get a divorce! What can I do now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband does not love me. He is searching young girls for long term relationship keeping our marriage as it. He loves my education, property, and background, not me. He always harass me in front of his family and close friends. When I asked for divorce he neglect for it. He ... (197 words)

When should I tell my ex fiance, who I'm now having an FWB with, that I'm dating other people?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have recently split with my finance of 5 years he moved out but we are still seeing each other. When we talked about the dynamics of our relationship he said he wanted to be friends and still have sex with me. He comes over almost everyday, brings me gifts, gives me money , ... (174 words)

He has cheated on me.What's a girl to do? he asked me "so what are we?" what did he mean by that?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4544 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok im not sure where to start.. all im going to say is i have no idea what the hell im doing. and im 15 that would make sense for that reason huh. Anyways awhile back in Feburary this year i met this guy(22yrs old) online, yeah i know, anyways we had phone sex the first ni... (371 words)

Is my friend toxic? she seems to nick friends off you. Is she too much trouble?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. I have one friend who I spend more time with than anyone else. We were at school together, we’re at uni together and we’re even sharing a house this year. She’s been one of my closest friends since I met her but she can be pretty annoying. I’m not sure but I think it might... (436 words)

I've got myself into this mess. I slept with my ex. How do I get over this and move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Okay, so I now deserve the stupidest person in the world award. I split up with my ex quite a few months ago. I didn't communicate with him at all after that. I've invested so much time in getting over him (it was my decision to break up, we were going nowhere). Then a couple... (322 words)

These past few days he's been different. mean to me. How does anyone cope when a boy friend gets like this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Everyone, I am pretty upset now and don't know how anyone deals/copes with it. Anyways my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 4 years now. We had our ups and downs, never broke up EVER. If we did it lasted like 2 days. These past couple of days he's been d... (629 words)

She will not cook, will not clean. I do it all, so I ask my self the same question every night, "is it worth all of this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I dont honestly have the slightest clue on how to piece all of this together but here we go.. Just a little bit of information about my self before we start, i seem to think way too much into things, but i never actually express the way i feel verbally, and when the situati... (1283 words)

I'm newly single. Should I wait in case my ex and I can get back together? Or go with this new girl now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been in love with this girl for five years, and now she has left me saying she can no longer take the fights we generally have. And so i let her go thinking she might really be facing real trouble. And i wasn't even thinking of anything, and all of a sudden, a new gr... (257 words)

Don't want to do anything stupid. Should I tell my "friend" that I like his girlfriend, but I'm not going to act on my feelings?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - so im in love with my "friend's" girlfriend and have been since february. I just want to be with her so much and everytime i speak or talk to her i just want to kiss her. we are quite good friends and talk very often. we text and facebook. i told her a few weeks ago that i... (237 words)

Why, when I reach out to her does she still blank me out? Seems I cannot do anything right with her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I suspect the possible answers to this one, but just want to be sure. A friend of mine, not spoken to her since July, I made all the effort, it wasn't given back. I sent her a letter last week as I heard it was an anniversary that wasn't too pleasant for her family. ... (167 words)

Am I expecting too much from him? five years into our relationship and still he remains at the beck and call of his ex and others.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age - I have been in a relationship with my partner for over 5 years. Lots of difficulties have came from his ex wife, daughter, his mother and his mother's friend. I have struggled to understand why. I can see clearly now that these 4 women have had him at their beck and call... (175 words)

He has no trust in me. He says it's because he is scared of losing me. But is this the best I can expect? It makes me sad.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Cupid, I am 20 years and i have been dating the love of my life for over 4 years. He is my age and we have been going to school together. However, i feel confused of late. He is a very nice guy the kind of guy who will never cheat on you ever no matter what. However, he ... (321 words)

Ladies: Why would someone not want a boyfriend? Doesn't every girl want to be loved by someone and have a guy that they can call there own?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - This is a question to the females of DC.... Now, a while back I was very interested in a girl, we had been friends for a little while and I told her that I wanted to be more than that - however, she told me that she didn't want a bf, so I was pretty crushed as you'd expect ... (153 words)

Will this couple make it? Interested in your opinion, in view of their myriad of differences?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age - I'm asking this question purely out of curiosity. What are the chances of a couple (one of them being a relative of mine) making their relationship work the second time around if she ended the relationship the first time because her bf tried to change her to his liking? If he w... (502 words)

My mom is having an affair with her married boss!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi readers, I'm typing this, hoping to seek great advice from anybody/everybody. I am 19yrs. old, living with my little brother and mother. My parents are separated. My father does not live with us, although he does live fairly close to us. My issue is that my mom is having... (302 words)

But what can I do to make this consuming jealous feeling go away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend and i have been in a long distance relationship for almost three years on and off. i feel like i constantly have these insecurities that eat me up inside. i try not to show them because i don't want to push him away. but he has this female best friend who he has ... (289 words)

He says I'm immature and selfish. Am I being unreasonable by being upset that his family exclude me from family events but invite his ex?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. I have been involved with my boyfriend for 13 years now and we have one child. He has been divorced for the past 14 years. The problem is his ex wife. My boyfriend has refused to marry me in the past citing his family doesn't like me. After his divorce I got pregnant... (239 words)

My alarm bells are ringing. Do my suspicions about this guy seem on target?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - There was a guy who I had in a couple of my university classes with me. We would talk in class and during breaks and stuff, and he seemed interested in me. So one day he asked if we could do something together. Mind you, he never gave me his number or added me on Facebook, ... (120 words)

Why do certain men have a girlfriend if they're just going to cheat?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - Why do certain men have a girlfriend if they're just going to cheat? What's the point in being in a relationship in the first place? I mean the men who have a girlfriend but cheat on her any chance they get. Do you think they do it just because they want to look respectable to ... (175 words)

How do I get some balance back into our friendship? my friend is obessive and possesive of our other friends. Why?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4616 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - so my friend lets call her J is being super possesive of our other friends lets call them JC n A. Everyday J has to call JC n A who are sisters to see what they are doing. J textes them like crazy. Always wanting to know where they are at and if they are going to do something. ... (229 words)

What do I need to do? I'm worried and broken hearted over our falling out. She means so much to me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - my bestfriend for 3yrs. Yet we got into a heated argument over a lie someone else told.. She and I have only slept together 2 times in those 3yrs.As a guy, i have more respect her than that. Yet no matter what i say, she won't believe me. My heart is really hurting over this, a... (84 words)

My best friend is a slut and I think she's after my boyfriend....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4611 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 15, turning 16 in two weeks. My boyfriend is a really great guy. He's got everything--looks, sweet, sense of humor, caring, and on top of all that, loaded. He would never cheat as he's been cheated on. My best friend (L), for lack of a better word, is a slut. She'd been ... (287 words)

How can I stop talking to my guy friends? My boyfriend gets really mad.....

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - How can I stop talking to my guy friends? I'm still in high school and my boyfriends in his first year of college. He doesn't talk to girls at all in college because he says he loves me too much to talk to them but I talk to two guy friends and he gets really mad so now I want ... (109 words)

Fiance has no self esteem and is anorexic, now she's pushing me away. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - my fiance is very beautiful and a wonderful person however she has no self esteem and is anorexic. a couple months back she was doing great with her eating but not so good with her mood. against my wishes and judgement her psychologist and docter thought it best to put her on ... (282 words)

I hate kissing

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, I know this may sound weird and it is but I really don't like kissing. Like, I hate it. I don't even know if I can get over it? Anyone have this problem? Btw, I have a boyfriend now and this problem has been since my first boyfriend like 5 years ago. ... (53 words)

I'm bothered by my fiance's past

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello I need some help... I been with my fiancee for awhile now and we are due to be getting married here very soon. I been hurt a lot by many people... He's a wonderful guy and he's very open and honest with me about everything.... When we talk about his past relationships and ... (124 words)

I don't feel close with my parents and I feel like I can only be myself with my friends

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4618 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I don't know what my question is really. I just know that I don't really feel happy 90% of the time when I'm at home. I don't feel close to my parents and I feel like I'm being judged sometimes. My parents think I don't take pride in myself just because I don't like to wear ... (541 words)

After 8 months, he says he feels he loves me more as a special friend than a girlfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4618 days ago

5 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So i've been going out with my bf for 8 months, and recently he told me that he didn't feel like that he loves me as a gf anymore.. and he said like, right now he still loves me but he feels like i'm more of a really special friend than a gf.. But he used to be all over me,... (326 words)