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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is he just playing me like a fiddle?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i lost contact with an old high school friend, and earlier this year he found me on facebook and started to message me, we talked for a bit and eventually exchanged phone numbers and started to text each other everyday all day. he then asked me out on a date and we went out to ... (277 words)

While applying for a job, did I do a wrong thing by sending out scanned copies of my passport to strangers in another country?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I have been applying for TEFL jobs abroad in China and have been sending out my C.V. along with a scan of my passport as some of them were asking for it. I am now very worried that this was a silly naive thing to do and am unsure of the safety of sending a copy o... (113 words)

If a person changes for the worst because of their mate, will they see it eventually?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - If someone has changed because of their boy/girlfriend for the worst will they eventually see the light or not? If you think this can't last which I can't believe it can, you cannot just change that much and push everyone away who you care about the most and be happy surely!!... (92 words)

If my b/f wants to keep in touch with his ex, its fine. If I want to do it, he gets really hateful! Why the double standards?

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22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Here's the situation. Over the past year I've been having problems with my fiance texting his ex-girlfriends, some of the stuff inappropriate, and I told him how much it hurt me. So he deleted every girl's number out of his phone. (He was having sexual text chats with other ... (618 words)

Why don't I feel butterflies anymore?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What does it mean when you used to be lovesick about a guy all the time and got butterflies too,but then you start dating and it goes away? 3 I still like him but i just don't understand why that doesn't happen anymore. ... (43 words)

Why would people lie for someone that they don't know?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - yesterday i fought a girl becaues she said she didnt like me and wanted to fight me. We fought twice in 1 day soo today everybody saying i lost.But how did i lose when she was the one on the ground and i got more hits?? i dont understand...everybody said they was there when i ... (159 words)

I'm always just used, girls like playing with my emotions and I'm sick of it all..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, I am am an 18 year old male and I just can't take it anymore. I myself try to be a nice guy, but guess what? Every girl I date acts like a jerk, and never talks to me again. I'm always just used, girls like playing with my emotions and, i'm sick of it. All I want is to ... (386 words)

How do I deal with this irritating man child whom I had been dating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm really mad. I was seeing this 40 year old man child for 5 months. He tells me he really likes me, sees us together but needed time to get himself together after a break up. He wasn't married or engaged to this woman. This guy would only call me on weekends and see me ... (209 words)

My first time lesbian sex came and I wasnt ready, now gf is feeling horrible.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Lesbian girlfriend is feeling guilty about our first time sex. I didn't want it but she did so she ate me out. I'm okay with it, at the time almost a year ago I wasn't ready to be intimate with her bc I thought she was just another person trying to sex me n leave. Now she is ... (74 words)

How can I move forward from my ex, when all I have is this urge to go up to her and beg for her to come back or at least talk to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My ex-girlfriend and I broke up at the end of this summer. Long story short, she told me over text, in these words, "I think I dont like you anymore," ending our year long relationship and crushing my heart. Since then, I've begged, I've tried to be friends with her, and she ... (238 words)

I cheated on him, now he wants me to pay

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey! So, cheated on my bf and I know it was bad and all. So, please, please, please, no judgment. Trying to win him back. He says he loves me, but his trust is gone. Then he came over to my place tonite and tried real hard to have sex.I refused cos it looked pretty sad to me ... (179 words)

Boyfriend playing mind-games?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Boyfriend broke up with me friday, says we fight to much.. i was living with him in his dads house. he quit his job and plays video games all day and smokes pot all day.. he's 23 i'm 18. Since we've broke up i've been going out with friends. he's texted me everyday trying to ... (234 words)

For the ladies who have been cheated on or have divorced parents: how do u deal with a new guy in your life and what is your reaction?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - This is directed at ladies who have been cheated on or have divorced parents. In a very broad sense, it is for those ladies who have been "broken'. I understand you ladies have a general disdain and cynicism when it comes to dating. My question is, how do u deal with a new guy ... (143 words)

I honey-trapped my own boyfriend.....he doesn't know it was me and hes broken my heart!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

- I am in bits right now.....really need some help. Ive been seing my long distant lover for 9 months. Hes in the army but we saw each other when we could. Latley he had become really distant from me though......his calls and texts became very rare and then last week I text him ... (328 words)

Ten year age difference ...

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22 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'll try and get straight to the point but it's a long story, lol. I have been dating a guy that's ten years older than me for about a month and a half on and off.. simply because he has issues with my age, which don't get me wrong.. I do understand. I absolutely adore him and ... (252 words)

New boy is changing attitude every time I see him. Flirty-friendly, then hateful!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello Aunt and Uncle agonys! Here it is. I met a new guy friend at youth. Don't worry, we have at least 30 minutes to hang out before service starts. BTW I broke up wiht my ex-boyfriend, S, and I'm fine, besides I'm homeschooled and he's not so things didn't really wrok out ... (102 words)

I'd like to move away from both my B/f's family and mine to a new city and raise our baby, but I don't think my B/f would ever agree to that

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I'm 21 and pregnant. About 5, almost 6 months along. And I'm having trouble with the family thing. I love my boyfriend, and his family has been so supportive of our relationship, of us. Well I should say his mom and his dad have. But I just really cannot stand his sister... (605 words)

My current relationship is suffering from past issues

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22 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Im gay and my 1st gf controlled me and cheated on me for the whole time we was together,, my problem is my past and current relationship is suffering threw my insercurties and jelousy im so scared she will cheat on me but deep down i no she is not that type my mind goes in over ... (117 words)

Should I break up with my boyfriend for being jealous?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I was for a week on vacation with a girlfriend to Italy. First days my boyfriend texted me said he missed me and asked me how I was doing. When I said that I met French and Polish guys and was going out with them that night he starting asking me weird questions, well he ... (166 words)

The reality of an open relationship is not so good

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello - My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have talked about an open relationship and I thought this was a good idea. I had sex with another man a couple of months ago. It was only one time and it truly was just sex. It was quick, during the day at a hotel ... (338 words)

How to tell my parents that I'm dating my ex again after a very destructive break-up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex-boyfriend and I recently decided to get back together and I don't know how to break the news to my parents (who I still live with). Back story: He is my first and only love and I am his. We were together for about two years but had a very bad break up due to depressio... (298 words)

I've met a man I like-now, how do I catch him?! What will attract him to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok guys. What can I do to help me catch the man of my dreams. I know he likes me. He has told me he likes me. I also know its not going to be easy getting him into a real relationship, beucase he has been hurt in the past. But what im asking, is what do men want? wha... (86 words)

Long distance... To give it a go, or remain a single traveler?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys. So i thought i would see what others thought of my situation. Im a dancer, and i am constantly travelling overseas and going from place to place. Me and my ex boyfriend a year ago broke up partly because he didnt want to do long distance. Its been a year and i have ... (254 words)

My married ex's birthday is coming up, how do I wish her a Happy Birthday?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, I had an affair with a married woman. It had been almost a year since we broke up. I didn't answer her call and reply her mail. I'm still single and I couldn't find a girlfriend may be cuz of my busy work. To be honest, sometime I miss her but I don't want her... (119 words)

I'm not angry that he stopped calling, I'm angry because he wasn't man enough to tell me he couldn't talk to me due to his relationship with his ex.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I was strictly friends with a guy for 2 months. We talked, texted, email and inbox one another on facebook like twice a week. He told me the 2nd time we talked on the phone that him and his ex-wife had been divorced for four years. They ended back together but he doesn't know ... (352 words)

How do I bring up the "are we in a relationship" question?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been seeing this guy for nearlly 2 months but it has gotten to the point where i think we are in a relationship however we havent actually defined the realtionship so not quite sure what we are at the moment how do I go about bringing up that convo without it being weird ... (60 words)

To add or not to add on Facebook?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (?) age 41-50 - Hi there, I met a guy through a social of a religious cult thing and then added him on FB a year later when I left town.. He accepted and we exchanged a couple of messages. I don't know much about him and he was not personal, just random likes to my photos and posts every no... (307 words)

Post-second date jitters. Why hasn't she texted me back yet?

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22 September 2011 (M)

- I have never really been one for internet dating, not sure why really. Anyway my Friends at work signed me up to this dating site so i thought i would give it a try. I went on a date last Wednesday, just for a drink. It went really well, she seemed really nice and ticked alot ... (169 words)

Empty nest, trust issues, communication issues ...

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22 September 2011 (F)

age - I have been in a rocky marriage for 24 years, broke up last year for 8 months and returned to him. But now he is texting a woman that he admitted have a sexual relationship with. I confronted him after finding the text messages and now he angry at me for checking his phone. ... (135 words)

G/f's ex has invited her for a movie, and I don't trust this guy at all

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - My girlfriend's old friend / ex boyfriend invited her to the movies with him, alone. Her and I have been dating for 18 months and I've never really felt like this before. I feel, not that she would cheat on me or anything, but the ex will do something during the movie to her ... (165 words)

He doesn't want me, he doesn't want anyone else to have me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello I need some help getting over my ex that I know is prob no good for me and maybe seeing If I was over reacting? We were only together about 4/5 months. We'd known who each other was for a year or so and it all started one night when we bumped into each other out and he... (543 words)

Who do I pick? Ducky, Arby or Dorky??

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Help me pleased I don't know what to do! Okay so I have a few diferent guys asking me out and I got no Idea who to pick. 1 guy is my ex BF (call him Ducky) Him and I were dating for like a week then I had to break up with him cuz of drama in my life. well now 2nd guy ... (181 words)

How can I help my wife to see that her partying with her gay and straight male friends is ruining our marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, i'm 28, my wife 27, been married for 18 months now. Our marriage has been good up until now; she's a lovely wife and a kind, caring person. However, she's been going out partying far too much with her gay friends, and refuses to invite ME out with them, saying "you do... (488 words)

Husband left and parents want to arrange a marriage, is this right?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I am a 33 year old female and have a very complicated problem. My husband used to threaten all the time to leave when we had a fight. I would always request, beg and pacify. The day I didnt he left home that was 3 months back. I tried to reach him however he is just not inte... (381 words)

Will marrying someone who cares about me help me forget my 31 year old married lover ?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - well i am in love with a man whose 31 years old while i am early 20s, sadly hes married and has a child.so i want to get rid of him but cant.so i am thinking of getting married to someone.at least i will have a husband and a home with whom i ll shall be busy with and then he ... (249 words)

Does he actually like me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - ok, so i have been seeing this guy for two months. the first week i met him, we saw each other three or four times and spent many hours together. our first date was planned at 8pm, and included dinner, and then we stayed out all night for drinks. our second and third dates were ... (826 words)

Why didn't he fight for me??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Pleassee help meee I've dated this guy for about a month, i broke up with him because i had a gut feeling he wasnt over his ex so i ended it, the other day i was at a local club he was there with a couple of his friends, and she was there as well, other people were around b... (313 words)

Lost my virginity and worried about the amount of bleeding

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey well i was wondering some thing, before i have used "toys" and i bleed after it some times and some times i dont but when i do its usually not very much. But tonight i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend and after awhile i noteced blood and there was alot more than ... (81 words)

I'm suspicious of what went on at this bachelor party

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend went on a bachelor party out of town for the weekend with his friends recently. He's already gone on a few of them before during our relationship and has always been good about communicating, even if it's just at the end of the night to say he's back safe. This... (380 words)

He just turned off his feelings

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend just recently broke up with me. He essentially turned his feelings off like a light switch. His father is an alcoholic, so he has learned to become very disassociated from situations that would normally be hurtful. He started letting go of me months ago, without ... (191 words)

What should I do? Wait? Make a move? Run away?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I met a girl a month ago and we started a great friendship, probably the closest and most sincere friendship I've ever had. We're both very much alike. We have great conversations and we always find new ways to make each other smile. But as you can probably guess, I'm start... (278 words)

How to get to know about my ex-girlfriend's and her family's well being in face of Dengue Fever outbreak in major city of our country?

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22 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - There is Dengue fever outbreak in a major city of our country and so many people got infected and killed by this deadly fever so far. My ex-girlfriend lives in the same city who dumped me 8 months ago saying that I was not financial stable. She has changed her number and w... (147 words)

Ever since we had sex, I am an emotional wreck!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So i am 16 and i am a junior, and I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now. We are very much in love, and he is extremely special to me, so a few weeks ago we had sex for the first time. I ended up having to take a morning after pill due to complications. Ever ... (202 words)

Any tips how to talk to this kind of guy and make them more open to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4587 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Shy and geeky guys, please help I met this very nice guy through online dating. We had two dates and it seems that he is very shy and geeky. He kept talking about work and his coworkers. Most topics I brought up he can eventually brought back to his work. And after two dat... (175 words)

Was it reasonable to be so annoyed with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Lately I can't stand my boyfriend attitude, we been arguing once or twice a week and when we argue it gets really huge but finally today I just had it. It started during the night when he slept over my dorm, I had been having a terrible cold and I was having a persistent cough, ... (544 words)

I participated in the character assasination of a teacher and want to make things right

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is going to be a little long, but do stay put and offer a way to get through this mess I'm in: This is about a 40 year old guy we used to have in our last semester. He was, first of all, a GREAT, and I do mean GREAT---academic genius. However, he belongs to the category ... (747 words)

Good guy, great morals, solid education, awesome personality, huge heart... and deathly afraid of commitment!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Well... if you saw my other question, you'd understand the background of my situation, but.. from an outsider's point of view, here's my current situation... I love a guy to pieces and secretly cannot threaten the fact that I will move on if he does not verbally commit ... (171 words)

This other guy won't take no for an answer from my g/f

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22 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I need your help. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a while and today she told me that when she was hanging out with her friends. That one of her guy friends hugged her from behind. She brushed the guy off numerous times and told him to stop because she's in a ... (84 words)

Soldier on or scrap two years of work?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for nearly the past two and a half years. I have had a lot of happy memories with him, we've attended multiple music festivals, camped, ridden horses, laughed, and cried together. He even accompanied me on a recent visit to Auburn's Veterinary ... (626 words)

I'm in love with my married boss!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm madly in love with my boss. He's the company president and I'm his executive assistant. He's very good-looking and smart. I can't stop myself from faliing for him. He's living alone now but he's married and have kids in california which is very far away from here. What ... (76 words)

I predict my girlfriend will forget my birthday in 10 days. Should I remind her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I can almost know for certain that my girlfriend will forget my birthday happening in 10 days. I know I will be upset about it. Should I somehow hint it to her? Or just wait to see what happens. I started saying this girl in Japan, 5months ago. Unfortunately my contract fini... (161 words)

Feeling lonely, stressed out and tired

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22 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - What should i do? I am always feeling soo lonely even when im with my friends, and surrounded with ppl, i just feel like they are just their .. and i am always feeling stressed out.. and tired , when i go to school .. i don't feel like talking to anyone, and everyone always ... (138 words)

Wondering if I really love him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4598 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay soo, i have been with this guy for a year and two months. We have been through a lot of things, great times, fights, anything that happens in a relationchip. well the thing is that now i been thinking bout if i really love him ? i dont think i should be doughting about ... (87 words)

Am I right to feel upset about this? Or should I accept it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My bf of 14 months and i have been looking at buying a business together for several months now. We've been looking at cafe's to run together. We've both been scouring the businesses for sale ads and i found a little lock up shop in a terrific location the other day, sent my ... (216 words)

I think I'm a jinx on the guy I'm dating!

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22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This isn't exactly a relationship problem but I think i,m a jinx on a guy i,m dating and his friends. The thing is whenever we go on a date something bad happens to him or his friends. We've been dating for two months and on two dates one today and one 3 weeks ago 2 of his ... (142 words)

I am attracted to my math tutor, but don't know what to do!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 20 years old... Almost 3 years ago I was in high school. I was in last grade (in Greece we're giving exams to enter a university) and I needed a private tutor in maths... So I started having lessons with a guy 45-50 years old (his appearance is very good, he's very athletic ... (267 words)

Do you think he sees me as his girlfriend?

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22 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - so ive been sleeping with this guy for about 5 months and we do alot of things that couples do. we text and talk to each other everyday he invites me over to his house to just hang out. he has invtes me to go with him to his friends/ cousins. he has shared some personal stuff ... (95 words)

How do I find out how my teacher feels about me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

22 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - How am I meant to see how he feels? For all purposes I'll call him Jack... He's one of my teachers currently. I started to develop feelings for him around six months ago. There was a period of time where literally every night I had a dream about him for almost a month! (I... (307 words)

How to I get my friend's girlfriend to stop coming on to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

22 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey guys, I'm really inexperienced in the whole male female dynamic kind of thing. I don't really know what's a sign of attraction from a girl. So I might as well tell you why I'm asking this. My friend's girlfriend, is like a really good friend of mine. We are comple... (188 words)