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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why is she with a complete asshole?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My best friend of 2 years has liked the same guy for just over 2 years now. I've watched her constantly get hurt by him and have seen her cry because of him. Just recently, she had been in a relationship with a GOOD guy and I honestly thought he would be the one to make her ... (162 words)

Am I wasting my time with this woman?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I met a woman 3 months ago on a dating site. It has been a very intense relationship whereby I've not seen much of her and have been regularly dumped by text! I don't even know where she lives - she's like an MI5 agent - she reckons she's had terrible abuse from previosu ... (182 words)

Is it possible to find a nice guy whom I also find attractive or what am I doing wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am feeling alone and confused about what kind of guy to go for.........I have been divorced now for 5 years from a guy I was with for 13 years and have found the dating world a confusing disaster...... My ex didnt want or wasn't ready to have children but I still hop... (197 words)

Car or bed?

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time this weekend. We have two options, either in the back seat of my car or in my room while my sister is home. Which do you think would be a little better?... (47 words)

He says he doesn't want to ruin the friendship but then why are we fooling around sometimes?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Im going to try to keep this brief but I have been friends with this guy for nearly 3 years and he has become my best guy friend. Over the last few months things have been moving to a more serious level and things have moved passed friendship. We have become more physical with ... (173 words)

Do people look badly upon me if I tell people that I think they are attractive?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Just looking for some opinions on my behaviour and how it would make you feel and to be honest how it makes me look. When I find someone attractive I tell them. I am not interested in being with any of them but always tell them if they are sexy or handsome etc. Do you thin... (82 words)

Should cheating ever be forgiven?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I moved in with my fiance, and after 14 months of being together our relationship came to an end after i found out he had been cheating on me for about 2 months every time he went to work outta town. It's now been 6 months and he is no longer with that person. Because of family ... (129 words)

I still love him but I'm with my long distance boyfriend who's also a best friend to me!

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20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a Dilema, a very complex one. I have a daughter who is two years old. Her dad put me threw hell and when I became pregnant I was a total mess. My mood swings where to the extreme. About a month ago we talked to eachother again. For my daughters sake. We also went threw ... (325 words)

Long distance relationship: I think I screwed it up out of nothing!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in a long distance relationship. It has been one year since we met and also almost one year of the relationship! He is the best guy I could ever dream of being with.. he is just perfect.. we are very happy together. He is working at a place where his old firm is. And sinc... (588 words)

I always make fun of girlfriend's class and stuffs...How should I get rid of this habit?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, I always make fun of my girlfriend’s class and her middle class dressing and stuffs . Actually she is from middle class and I am from extremely rich family and we are in a relationship for the last four years and will make it official soon. She used to just smi... (149 words)

Is she playing hard to get? Or did she pull a 180 and lose interest? Or is it that I'm feeling a bit impatient?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - So here's the thing I'm wondering: Backstory: I met this one girl many years ago through mutual friends but thought nothing of it. 2 years ago, we see each other again and started talking. We went on one date. We planned many things but then she was upfront with me the next day... (425 words)

I just can't seem to get over this memory!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am haunted with feeling humiliated and shamed from some drunken behavior that I did several years ago. Throughout high school I was always told I was fat and ugly and most people really didn't like me, I was pretty smart and obnoxious about it and very, very uncool. On the ... (221 words)

Why am I still pining for my army lover though he treats me like dirt?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

- Ive been involved with a guy for 9 months and Im going out of my mind with frustration. To say I fell for him hook, line and sinker would be an understatement.I was totally and utterly in love with him. However, we couldnt properly be together because he is in the army and ... (325 words)

How good is good enough?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 28 years old and my boyfriend is 31. We have been together for about 3 and a half years in total, although the beginning was very on and ,and we live together. Recently I have been feeling very unsure about the relationship. I have discussed this with my boyfriend and... (731 words)

Is giving custody of my baby to my parents such a bad thing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im 19 years old and 6 months pregnant. I dont feel at all ready to give my baby the best life he can have. I love him with all my heart, but im just not ready. I want to give custody to my parents. They want a baby and would love their grandbaby just as much as their own. Is ... (84 words)

Where do I hide the condoms?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My friends bought me some condoms (I have a new boyfriend- he's gorgeous and very sexy- they were joking around), but I want to hang onto them just in case anything does happen- better safe than sorry! Does anyone have any ideas as to where in my room I can hide them from my ... (97 words)

Is he really into this relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Going on 11 months- he doesn't show much emotion about us but he's very sweet, generous and affectionate - his love language us physical where mine is verbal. Talk about the future is never brought up by him. The only emotion I see about relationships from him is when he s... (110 words)

How can this man hurt me with his lies and act like he's done nothing wrong?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with this guy for 3yrs and i thought everything was going well. He was involved in a horrible motorcycle accident were he became dependent on me for 4months. i had just met this man one week before, i decided to help him and quickly fell in love with him. After he ... (387 words)

How do I make him realize she hasn't changed and that I love him more than just friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I just turned 20 and i think i am falling for my best guy friend he is turning 30 in november! We have know each other for almost 10+ years and he is like my big brother. I never thought that i would have feelings like this for him. We do everything together, he is even ... (196 words)

I want to ask ex-boyfriend's sister about what she said, but am not sure if its a good idea

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age - It's been a little over a yr. now since my ex-fiance and I parted ways after 7 yrs. together. He did the dumping and soon after became heavily involved with someone else. Through out this whole ordeal I remained in contact with his family, mainly his sister. She is the one ... (573 words)

My mother can't afford the wedding, my b/f's family can but won't help!

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my fiance are planning our wedding. I've always wanted to get married in a cathedral, and have a ball-gown style dress, and of course marry the man of my dreams. Unfortunately...my mom who would be fronting the bill, can't afford how much the average wedding costs now a ... (203 words)

I miss my affair partner

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I ended my affair a few days ago although I haven't seen him for 8 weeks already, he is married and cannot give me the time and attention that I need from him. I really like him and thought that I could handle it but it became impossible for me. He stopped calling and text... (207 words)

Our relationship hit a roadblock and we aren't sure why...any advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 September 2011 (?) age 30-35 - dear cupid, soo, my boyfriend and i (he's about to be twenty-one, and i'm about to be twenty) have been dating off and on for about five months now. the first time we broke up, it wasn't because either one of us wanted to at all; there were just some circumstances th... (665 words)

What do I write in my bf's first anniversary card?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey, what do guys like to read in a first anniversary card? I'm looking for ideas of cool but not too mushy things to write in my bf's first anniversary card, please. Thanks :)... (34 words)

Broke off our engagement ...did I do the right thing?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Just found out that my bf of four years didn't marry his ex gf because her divorce hadn't come through. He claims this is not the case and it was because they weren't the right match but turns out she was separated from her ex but still married to him whilst my bf and her were ... (156 words)

Do you think having sex too much, can make him lose interest in a relationship with me? Help!!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So me and this guy have been seeing each other for almost 2 months now, like we are basically together but just without the official title. Like we act like we are together, just basically how everything between us is how it would be if we were really boyfriend/girlfriend. Im ... (191 words)

He says he is attracted to me, but wants nothing else from me! Help me understand this!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4529 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi i have this friend and we get on really well,we do have arguments alot because he says he likes me and that he's attracted to me but doesnt want nothing else with me. i dont understand him. please help ... (40 words)

Why is my lesbian partner lying to me when she goes to meet a "friend"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age - Why is my lesbain partner lying to me when she goes to meet a friend? This friend happens to be an ex of hers, but holy batman, she tells her everything that goes on in her life and when I ask her what she did on her day off, she says "nothing" and innocently ask her if ... (138 words)

I have some committment issues...what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - hey what should i do? this guy likes me or that's what i thought. we used to chat every night on facebook and he used to always say he liked me more than a friend, back then i didn't have feelings for him but now i think i do. and i don't he has the same feelings for me ... (116 words)

High school drama!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I am almost nineteen years old and my bf just turned seventeen in aug. I have already graduated highschool and have a fulltime job. My boyfriend on the other hand has just started a new school and is in eleventh grade, he failed awhile back. We have been dating for almost a ... (141 words)

Would a very very jealous boyfriend go so far as to try and make you fall out with your friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi please could somebody give me some advice? Would a very very jealous boyfriend go so far as to try and make you fall out with your friends. what i mean is that my boyfriend who is extremeley jealous of anyone i speak to has told me that my sons ex girlfriend text him and ... (292 words)

I need to tell my best friend that I'm dating her ex who dumped her,but I'm scared of the outcome!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi guys, There's a guy I know and I like her very much and he likes me too. We've gone out for a date four times. Here's the deal: he's my best friend's ex that dumped my friend about 5 months ago. Now before things got further between me and him, we feel that I have to t... (236 words)

At night, my girlfriend scares me over the phone by talking about ghosts, how should I cope with it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4577 days ago

20 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am in SDR with girl who lives in the same city between we have distance of 15 KMs between us. It’s been almost two years since we together. We meet over the weekend and keep it going through phone . For the last two weeks, my girlfriend has picked up strange prank ov... (168 words)

Typical communication habits of guys?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Firstly, this is in a 1 year old relationship. My boyfriend said if there's something I need within our relationship that all I need to do is ask. But I feel awkward asking for affection and attention. Secondly, I don't text incessantly but when I have something to sha... (102 words)

I know we would make such a good couple. How can I stop feeling like this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I have a problem, one thats not easily solved unfortunately. I have feelings for my boyfriend's best friend and my close friends boyfriend. (there the same boy.) I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 8 months. When we first got together his best friend ... (514 words)

What's wrong with my husband? Is he insecure?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my husband used to rebuke girls(when he was 24-26) who would reject him or didnt consider him as gods gift to women,calling them the C word or sexually abusing some girl whom he fancied and she didnt return the gesture.then he would hit on girls he would like.very hurrie... (241 words)

I'm a bit confused as to whether he likes me or not!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so ive been liking this guy for quite some time now. I don't know whether he feels the same way for me or not. Because of that, I pretend that I don't like him. I act normal in front of him. Once we were studying together ( we dont really talk to each other) with other ... (196 words)

He's worried he's going to lose me to 'working' people!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have recently started a dating 1 year younger than me. it all started casual and now has turned really serious. i finished school and i m about to move to a new town to start working. he is now so insecure with the move, he feels like he will lose me to 'working' people as he ... (83 words)

A friend told my good friend that I had a small crush on him. Awkward!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I had a small crush on a guy who is my good friend, i share my chips with...so i told a friend...then, they told him...and now we are just.....awkward. What do i do..?... (33 words)

Sent a girl a dirty pic. Things are weird. Now what?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am sort of new top this online dating thing. I met this girl online and we hit it off real well. We started chatting via I'm and some of our chats got explicit. She sent me some photos of her bare legs (waist down) in the past. Last night, she was talking about how horny sh... (370 words)

I think he should have told me at the beginning that he had bad credit and had been blacklisted!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I started dating a man I met via internet 2 years ago. All seemed fine to start with. He told me once he has no credit cards because he doesn’t want any. Fair enough. He rented his flat, didn’t own property or have a mortgage. He bought a new TV and paid cash. Then he ... (201 words)

How can I change so I can trust him again and not be so insecure about the way I look?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello im stuck I basically have trust issues with my boyfriend we have been going out for nearly 7 months now and at the begining of the relationship I saw that he had asked a girl to meet up with him and that he had missed there conversations together. i also saw that he had ... (448 words)

My sister-in-law is driving me nuts!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I live with my sister in law. My husband is currently out of the country. She wants to sit all day and will not do anything to help in the house, if you ask her, she tells her mother, who in turn calls me and tells me to stop bothering her as she is still a child, she is 19.if ... (107 words)

Is this guy just being a pure jerk at this point?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I personally got annoyed today when this guy that I was interested in a little had approached me a few weeks ago. He told me his name and I told him mine, and after that I didn't speak to him again, but I did see him around the campus. His friend started speaking to me a... (310 words)

My ex who has been flirting with me, wants to come by and pick up her stuff. Is she using it to come see me or is she trying to end it completely?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4595 days ago

20 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - So my ex of about 3 weeks (whom I work with) and I have been getting along great for at a week and a half or so. She has started flirting with me and teasing me. Big, smiles, playful, all that jazz. Then today in the middle of a nice convo, she says "Do I still have stuff at ... (192 words)

I'm 24 and he's 20...can this work?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently met a guy at the bar that I started dating. The thing is he's 20 and I'm 24... He says it doesn't bother him at all, is this normal? We get along great but it makes me wonder what his motives are... Any insight from you guys out there? Thanks.... (52 words)

How do you keep friendships? How do you make yourself happy? How do you stay happy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - The last four years of my life were so valuable to me because I was blessed with some very valuable friendships. In college the girlfriends I made were understanding, loyal and wild. I loved them. Any given time other than class and work might find us dragging a mattress into ... (721 words)

How do you know when someone is bi curious?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - okey so this is kinda long.... but I do need some advice. How do you know when someone is bi curious? Well, this is a complicated situation. I just moved back to my hometown so to speak after living for a year in another town. SO when I came back I saw this guy I have alwa... (431 words)

How can I get the intimacy back in our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

20 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Me and my fiancée used to have a very close, fun, sexual, intimate relationship. 5 months ago she got pregnant and since then its like everything has come to a hault. She never wants to be intimate, we aren't very talkitive anymore, the sex almost doesn't exist anymore unless I ... (171 words)

What are the after affects of anal sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What are the after affects of having anal sex? My boyfriend wants to do it but I'm scared because I hear that you have discharge from the anus afterwards. What are the good things about anal and what are the bad? Please help me out!?... (45 words)

Is there anything I should be concerned about when a guy is as straight forward as him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im 18, hes 23. Ive known him for about 9 months now, he was interested in me from the beginning but to be really honest, I wasn't too bothered with taking it further with him but over these 9 months i've gotten to know what he's like and we met up again yesterday after ... (629 words)

I love him, but it's getting complicated...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, I am in a big dilema and need your help guys. I am in a relationship with a guy from last 3 years. Things were fine until his family came into the picture. I have been introduced to his family and at first, they liked me. Now things are changing. Recently, his ... (329 words)

On/Off/On/Off - What is her problem?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - i was with my girlfriend for two years, lived together for one. i loved her so much. well she started cheating on me and left me for another guy a few months back, and it crushed me. i eventually moved on and started seeing another girl. well randomly my ex gets back into ... (689 words)

First love drepression, any advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - HI, I just came back to the site... I am really sad... My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for about 2-3 months and I deactivated my facebook, blocked him from sending me e-mails to my hotmail and yahoo account and even changed my phone number (he used to play stu... (372 words)

What do the lyrics to this song mean?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - What is the real meaning behind the song "How to Hate" by Lil Wayne? Does it basically mean that love turned to hate and that the girl led him on or something? Does the scenario reflect reality? I would appreciate it if someone else can give a better interpretation o... (55 words)

Sould I inititiate a 'friends with benefits' situation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, So I have this guy friend that I have known for three years. We met in school, get along really well. We often would hang out in groups for the first year we knew each other. After that I started dating a person and we kinda grew apart. He would occasionally text me,... (403 words)

He finds a way to let me know that the way I do things is incorrect, and his family's way is the correct way!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 32 years old married for two years as of December 2011. I have been dealing with a situation where I have been basically going back and forth with my husband for the last two months everytime he brings up a topic that his aunt or mother has spoken to him about, wether its ... (302 words)

Don't think I can take all the lies much longer. Help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello :( My boyfriend keeps lying about silly little things and it's making me lose trust in him, I'll list some examples. He is very close to his ex(I have no problem with it) and I saw his emails to her last month where she was complaining about her current boyfriend an... (587 words)

Had my teeth fixed and I'm worried my boyfriend will hate it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've always had a fairly big gap in my front teeth and my boyfriend said he likes it, it's cute, etc... But I've wanted to get it fixed since I was little, so I finally did. It's really, really, really different looking. My whole face looks totally different now. I'm a little ... (252 words)

He forgot my birthday and I am going to forget his. Am I doing the right thing?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been this guy for about 4yrs. The past year has been nonstop fighting between us because he's constantly screwing up but for some reason, I always stay. I'm not even sure if I love him anymore, and most of the time, I absolutely can't stand him and hate his guts, but I ... (365 words)