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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I am not too sure about my sexuality-- does this change me being straight?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey, well i'm so confussed all my feelings are so mixed up and i just don't understand. I'm 14 years old and from what i know i am straight, i am attracted to men i find them sexy, i have no problem with being intimate with them, and all ... (484 words)

I want her attention again! What happened?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - i met this girl for the first time a couple of weeks ago at my friends place...she turns out to be my friend's sister's friend. She is very pretty. A day later she just added me on facebook, and since then she had been chatting with me every single day without fail....we were ... (209 words)

I am fed up with his paranoia!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4612 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been going out my bf for 5 months now and he has started to say he loves me n getting quite clingy. He is very paranoid about me talking to other guys or when I'm away out and we have had a couple of fights about it already. I am on the fence about ending it with him. I ... (92 words)

Do temperaments or the sun signs really matter in getting the right life partner?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Does temperaments or the sun signs really matter in getting the right life partner?... (14 words)

What do these butterflies for his best friend mean?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4613 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My current boyfriend I am just going to name 'Harry' and his best friend 'kye' Harry is amazing, he's just like a perfect boy! Can't pick one fault in him, he was my bestfriend for a long time and had a horrible break up and I was the only one that was really there for him and ... (288 words)

My ex wants to meet for coffee. Good or bad idea?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4612 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So basically my ex and I broke up 5 months ago. He has a new girlfriend but he still wants us to be "friends". I have feelings for him still and he wants to meet for coffee. Do you think it's a bad idea?... (48 words)

I love 3 older married men and I'm only 18.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4607 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I am an 18 year old girl, and I am single. I met one of my mums friends husband last year and I instantly felt a connection with him. He had just been made redundant so he got a job at where me and my dad worked. He is 31 and probably not the greatest looking guy in the ... (230 words)

She doesn't treat her boyfriend right, do I warn her she might lose him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4612 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Here's the situation, I probably shouldn't meddle, but I'm wondering if I should give my friend a few "words of wisdom" about how she treats her new boyfriend. Now I know, let them sort it out on their own. But maybe a few words of advice would benefit her? Seeing as she's ... (674 words)

I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me, but don't know for sure, and I have no really way of finding out.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4607 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me, but don't know for sure, and I have no really way of finding out. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months. She is Korean, speaks korean, and I do not. Well the reason I suspect she is cheating is that she gets these calls... (299 words)

He just stopped contacting me. Has he lost interest?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a very confused girl and I would really appreciate peoples opinion on this, especially guys cos I don't know how your minds work. This guy and I got close, we had so much in common, we just seemed to connect. We hung out a few times but it was sort of casual as friend... (183 words)

Stay or go after months of lies?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm still in a dilemma about my ex, help! To sum up, after being continually accused of chatting to men, cheating etc (did none of this) and noticing changed in his behaviour and times he was going out i discovered he had been going out to dance classes and had been lying t... (417 words)

Kinky, how can I get my wife to be more kinky?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I really want to get my wife to be kinky.... she is just very shy (still) in bed and barely like to do anything outside of penatrating. I would live for her to [do more adventurous acts involving oral sex and anal play]. we do [cunnilingus] sometimes but she just does not know ... (113 words)

Would sending him texts at work put some spice back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Would like some ideas on how to put some spice back in the bed room we have been together 5yrs and got too small children so things have started getting a little boring was thinking about sending him texts at work or emails and see if that gets him going but really don't wanna ... (70 words)

My soon to be ex lacks boundaries-how do I stand up to him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I really want to get over my ex, we are currently going through a divorce, I am divorcing him for his adultery with an ex best friend of mine!! He is in a relationship with her and living with her. We have a little boy too. I really want to get over him, I want to hate him... (309 words)

I'm a balanced guy with good self-respect, what else do girls want?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - hello everyone,sorry for my bad english.. i am 24 male and have been chatting with this girl for a while. we are really close and share almost everything. we both are good initiators and have been interested in knowing each other by asking and sharing almost everything. i am a ... (258 words)

She wore another guy's engagement ring for several months before we were dating, I didn't know that till just now, what do I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife if nearly three years, and the mother of our 6 month old, was engaged before we were married. She was also proposed to several times. When we were dating, she told me that one serious boyfriend who proposed, she denied him and they broke up. Last week, she decide... (150 words)

My bestfriend is dating my ex-I don't know what to do!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4611 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My two best friends are dating. And one of them is my crush. Basicly My best friends started dating. She knows i fancied him and his best friend fancies her. He's just a little crush but i cant help thinking that she should have thought about how I felt before starting... (82 words)

My GF has the sex drive of a man-is this normal?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

1 September 2011 (?) age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I have found the perfect woman, but that's the problem - she's too perfect. She doesn't care that I've just been made redundant, orgasms through penetration alone when we have sex, genuinely finds me physically attractive and explained the fact she slept wit... (183 words)

Is my boyfriend ever going to marry me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - dear all,i am with my current bf for nearly 5yrs. We experienced many ups and downs, of course nearly broke up and patch back again. We ever argued over minor or major issues like married or some other disagreemts. He is very much aware of me waiting to be settle down w... (565 words)

Does a low sex drive mean he no longer loves me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4611 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - If a man no longer wants sex with his partner, is it because he no longer is attracted to her or is not in love with her anymore? Or can a man be in love and attracted to a woman but rarely want sex?... (44 words)

How do I soften up my pubic hair?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I have a problem with my pubic hair, it used to be really soft before I trimmed it but I decided to trim it and now it's really coarse what can I do to soften it up?... (41 words)

My boyfriend is marrying another girl, which is now making me stressed!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4608 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is married with some other girl. She doesn't keep him happy in any way. She is arrogant and doesn't respect him. He himself tells me all this. He is 15 years elder than me. We had three years intense relationship. I suggested him to get married. It was really ... (99 words)

Confused about increased physical contact with ex-girlfriend.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend of 1 year and I broke up 2 months ago. We are both in graduate school. Background (2 months ago): After we broke up, we met up once for dinner a week after breaking up and i asked her if she wants to get back together, she said no. I probably asked too many t... (442 words)

Should I tell her why she's no longer my best friend, or just allow time and distance to do that naturally?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F) age 30-35 - In a couple days I am seeing someone who used to be my bestest friend, until she did something very unforgivable! (Too long to explain what happened). Anyways, I haven't spoken to her since this happened and she seems to think things are okay with us, all because I chose not to ... (250 words)

She shared something personal with friends and is now making me the bad guy for telling her that bothered me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi all. Ive been with a girl for 7 months, it's only a short time but it's the best relationship I've had, I can truley say I love this girl.. But over the past 3 months she's changing her attitude, and is acting very different to the girl I want to be with. I have one... (294 words)

Why is dating a middle aged man so hard?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Why is dating a middle aged man so hard? He's 43 and I'm 30. He doesn't call much but when he does, its a 2 hour chat. He calls only once or twice a week. When we go out, its an all day outing. I've told him we can hang out for only a couple of hours instead of waiting until ... (192 words)

Can you have a love relationship with someone you don't find especially attractive?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4611 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 31 year old, generally stable, happy person. I am making my way in my chosen field of work and have good friends, good family relationships. However, I've been a bit unlucky when it comes to love relationships. No problem attracting men, but in the last five years ... (750 words)

We are in a rut!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Have been with my boyfriend for 7yrs, he used to be so romantic, birthdays he would spoil me rotton, would buy me flowers every month etc send me cute texts, but the past 6 months thats all changed. Most nights we both do seperate things and then just go to bed. I have tried to ... (129 words)

Does my ex boyfriend still love me? Or is he making me jealous?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Guyss...My ex boyfriend used to love me so much...he would give his life to me...but so many things went wrong and in this past few months we broke up many times and then got back together..He is really cute and handsome so there are many girls behind his back chasing him...And ... (158 words)

My family won't approve my American girlfriend, I'm leaving them for her, is this a correct decision?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - For the last 22 months, I have been involved in LDR with a beautiful American girl and unfortunately she is blind since birth. I met her there when I was visiting the USA for three months in October 2009. It took her 5 days to accept me as boyfriend and we could have eas... (359 words)

Getting over jerk of an ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I am having real problems forgetting my ex and getting my self-esteem back. We broke up in November last year, although he actually told me he didn't love me anymore in June of last year. But he said that he didn't know what he wanted, so anytime I tried to finish the re... (345 words)

We were having great dates and then.... utter silence for 2 weeks!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi there, Ok I know this has happened to some women before but it has not happened to me. I was seeing what seemed like a great guy, we were going out on dates, meeting each others friends. I even met his brother. I am 30 he is 28. We slept together but this was afte... (230 words)

Am I being immature for being annoyed by finding a male friend of hers asleep on her sofa?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age - I am a 51 year old male that have been seeing a gal for a few months. I am not really the jealous type. I work graveyard shift and had been pretty much staying with my girlfriend every day. I came home for lunch at two a.m. to find a male friend of hers, asleep on one sofa and ... (163 words)

I sincerely love the guy I am dating now but it is more a platonic love and the other one is a true love I guess?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4612 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear readers, I am such a lost lamb and I don't know whether I have a question or I just need badly to tell my story as I there is none who could hear me out. I would appreciate any advice given as I am absolutely lost. It all started 4 years ago and we dated for sever... (341 words)

Family fighting. No independence. I am not ready for marriage. How can I improve this situation?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi.! I m 26yr old avg person in every respect. We r the family of 4, my mom, dad and a youger brother. I m doing a readymade garment business in partnership with my dad and uncle. Business is doing fine. My dad is a hard working or I could say a workholic person. He has cros... (583 words)

We're both facing divorce. He's helped me. Does this co-worker have feelings for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I have a co-worker and over the course of the last 2 months we have gotten really close. He tells me things about his marriage and I do the same. Things really got set into motion when my, soon to be ex-husband, and I got into an argument and he hit me for the 6th time in ... (444 words)

She checked out the waiter and now I'm wondering if I should be worried?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I have a fiance that i am mad about, but i got a bad impression a few days ago that has been driving me crazy. We were at a bar having drinks, when a decently fit waiter showed up to serve us, and could see that she was impressed by his appearance by checking him out a few ... (161 words)

Ex wants to know I stopped contact

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - my question is my boyfriend called it off but claimed he still loved me as a friend. he kept calling me but a time came when i completely stopped picking up his calls because i needed to heal from pain. and he started asking his sisters why i was silent and wanted to know how... (80 words)

Why am I sabotaging a good thing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi I'm currently in a long term relationship,over 5yrs,problem is i often take things that are said the wrong way or so i'm told i do and sometimes i do tend to get annoyed and lash out verbally.then when iv'e settled down i apologize and i'm ok,trouble is my man is now sayi... (159 words)

I try to force myself to like guys when they like me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Okay, do I've been having a problem. Its come to my attention and I really don't know how to stop myself from doing this. Okay, so even though I don't like a guy and when they like me I'll try to force myself to like them back. Usually these are all really nice guys. And I... (297 words)

Something's bothering me.. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I really like this guy... We hung out twice and ended up sleeping together. I hadn't had sex in a while and figured we'd hang out and eventually go our separate ways. I've gotten closer to this guy and I really like him. I wish we waited to have sex. We were cuddling in bed and ... (163 words)

I did Snoop. Did I read too much into this? What's the next step to rectify the situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I read my girlfriend's journal to find that she has nothing but scathing personal thoughts about me: "I don't love him anymore...I don't respect him," and I also found her transcribing conversations with an ex-bf whom I think she may have stayed with when she went on vacation a ... (159 words)

Husband doesn't love me but doesn't want divorce because he wants the property

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband does not love me. He is searching young girls for long term relationship keeping our marriage as it. He loves my education, property, and background, not me. He always harass me in front of his family and close friends. When I asked for divorce he neglect for it. He ... (73 words)

Do you think he will come around?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey, would anyone be able to help me out? Went on 2 dates with a guy (well, the second one was just a last-minute invite to hang out with him and a few buddies). Both times he was romantic and a gentleman but made absolutely no moves -- barely even kissed me on date 2 (he ... (320 words)

She says she can't get pregnant and its ok not to use condoms

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - She says she can't have baby any more... Hello, the girl who I am going to have sex with told me that she can not have any more babies...she said it is safe for me to cum gallons of sperms inside her, and she doesn't want me to use condoms...she hates them. Little bit abou... (108 words)

Devastated! Husband not happy with Pregnancy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have two wonderful children and my husband and I love them very much. My husband has two brothers with schizophrenia and he watched in despair as their lives spiralled out of controlled. He always worries that one of our children could have mental illness one day, even ... (313 words)

I like her but its kind of weird

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I found out my best friends sister likes me a lot, I asked him if he's cool if i date her and he was all for it so i asked her out a few days ago. The thing is, now she's really shy and cant hold up a conversation with me, to her friends she talks normally and she likes it when ... (118 words)

I love a guy who can't give me security

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hello, thank you for taking the time to help me.. I met this guy a long time ago, maybe more than four years now, we were in love, really in love, he is three years older than me and back then I was a very naive girl, I didn't know whait's like to be in a relationship so I did... (250 words)

Why do I attract older married/attached men?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm really confused by how I always manage to attract older married men. Don't get me wrong I do get alot of offers from younger guys too but for some reason I really manage to attract the guys I shouldn't. I'm 20 and I work in a well known leisure centre, have been there ... (213 words)

My girlfriend said it might be a good idea to take a break from our relationship while she is away at college

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost four years. We started dating her freshman year and my sophmore year and graduated at the same time in May 2011. She had obtained and internship in Boston which is required for her major and lasts for ten months, so basically a ... (346 words)

I just want to be there for my girlfriend but she is shutting me out

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - my girlfriend shuts me out completely when she's upset and i don't know if i can handle it anymore. last week her grandpa had a stroke and wound up in the hospital, and rather than telling me the truth about it at first, she told me she just had a bad night at work and just ... (522 words)

Is he just being friendly or trying to even the 'score' with my friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4607 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - A few days a week I watch a friends kids while she works, as long as my schedule allows. her and the father of her kids (they're engaged) are going through a rough patch ... she cheated on him and he's slowly trying to trust her again. they are still together, and live in the ... (464 words)

How can I get over him hurting me and then rejecting me when I wanted to give the relationship another chance

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I told my ex bf how he hurt me he said he loves me and misses me so I'm so stupid I practically begged him let's start over he rejected me and says he don't know about that after he cheated and I left him he tried to flip it on me what do I do? How do I let him go ?iam so hurt ... (91 words)

My boyfriend is already engaged to someone

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am dating this other guy,well he is 12 years older than me, he is great...he treats me well, and we started dating in January this year but the sad thing is he has a fiancée and they are living together, should i go on with this relationship?... (48 words)

Is my ex contacting me just to check up on me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

1 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Is my ex contacting me purely to check up on me? Why is she doing this? Since we broke up for circumstantial reasons 6 months ago, she has moved on. She moved on very quickly (within a month) and has been in a relationship ever since. I've dated and had flings since the... (446 words)

My first husband was a liar and it seems my current one is too

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am in my second marriage of 2 years. My first marriage ended because I could no longer trust my ex-husband after a series of his repeated lies about numerous things - many involving money. I have caught my second husband in 3 "major" lies. The first lie involved his loo... (249 words)

How can I be less shy in bed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a boyfriend, everything is great and he is very good in bed. I started knowing that women reach climax also by him, but i don't think he feels good because he is always on top of me, i am just afraid to be on top, i am shy, i would really like to make our sex life ... (78 words)

How can I stop fighting with a mother who is a control freak?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Agony Aunts, I am having such a difficult life. My parents were separated when I was a kid and I always feel lonely. The problem is that I am living with a mom who has anger issues. I suffered depression since I was in middle school, and I would ask her for help or advi... (203 words)

Can trust him after I found texts and photos of a bikini model on his phone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello all. I have posted before but feel like I can explain a little better now that I have calmed down and found some new answers. I am a 22 yr old female. I have been seeing this guy for a little over a year. When we first started close, I rejected his wishes to become... (1277 words)