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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Overly shy and can't do anything about it

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9 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 13 and to people I'm not friends with I'm apparently really really shy I even have to put my hand up because miss can't hear me reply to the register I try really but it's very hard I really want to be just cool and calm. Also people laugh at me because I do start shaking ... (75 words)

Can I do anything to get us back together again? He blames FaceBook. His excuses seem flimsy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years. we loved each other so much and it was a long distance relationship. In fall 2010 he decided to end the relationship because he thought we were arguing and he says we were two different people. I begged him but he w... (377 words)

Is it weird that I want to ask my boss out? Should I? Despite fact that she so reminds me of my sister?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4605 days ago

9 September 2011 (M) age 41-50 - I want to ask this girl out. she is my boss, but then she is so pretty and good looking. But bad thing is she reminds me of my sister, how they act. But like her. My sister has two kids, love her kids to death and wish the other, who is my boss knew how much of a good pers... (127 words)

Sometimes I think this should be a no brainer to leave but my instint tells me to fight. Any thoughts?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This could turn into a long story so i'll try to keep it short. I have been in a relationship for 4.5yrs in which we have lived toghether for 2yrs. It was perfect at the beginning. The last year however has been very rocky. We have not cheated and trust each other totally. ... (327 words)

Do people still believe in horoscopes and can horoscopes help relationships in any way?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, everyone I was just wondering if any of you guys believe in Horoscopes, the perfect match, and that you know. I find it kinda weird when people start saying that this is not good for her and that is better, ask about his zodiac signal. Btw I'm a taurus lol. So what... (69 words)

Did he fake it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4600 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, I'm not very sexually experienced and am just a bit concerned about what happened a couple of nights ago. I've been dating a guy for a couple of weeks, and ended up sleeping with him on Wednesday night (a bit too soon, I know). We were watching a dvd and one thing ju... (261 words)

Are short men allowed to be good looking or do women find them unattractive because of their height?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

9 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I stand 5'4 barefoot, I weigh 180lbs and I still have the washboard abs approaching the 30 plateau. The problem is my face. Friends and strangers alike tell me I'm very handsome. Enough to consider modeling but a huge dose of reality hit me when an agent told me that I was ... (174 words)

My cousin is flirting with me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

9 September 2011 (?) age 30-35 - So I find this a bit weird as I can't really talk to anyone about this. My cousin started flirting with me and it all started last year. I told him once not to and he avoided me due to embarrassment. But he started it again. Anyway he's been hot/cold with me for a very long ... (101 words)

Now we are back together her libido has dropped. Do we need relationshi[ counselling ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I first started going out with my wife about 9 years ago, and she had a very strong sex drive at that time. The relationship was great when it came to sex, but we argued a lot and we broke up for several years. We got back together about 2 years ago, and we got along much ... (565 words)

Seems like I am the last virgin in my college. Have so many questions on virginity and sex. Can you help?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Right well im 17 years old and im still a virgin, i feel like im the only one which in my college there is only a few. Ive had so many oppurtunities to have sex but something keeps stopping me. Im just so scared i dont like my body and i dont really want other people to see ... (201 words)

How can I convince my Boyfriend to help me get pregnant even though he does not need to help me bring the baby up?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i need help... hi i am asking your help to convinceing my bf to get me pregnant but its not working. he does not want to have children or get marryed but i would like to some day soon for children and marry later on... he is 27 and i am 19 i know it might sound young to... (135 words)

Why can't I stop missing him? why do I ache so? I can't get over my ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What is wrong with me? why can't I get over him? i miss him so much:(? I loved my ex bf so much, but he broke up with me saying he didn't want a relationship anymore. We got in contacts after a month, but I said we can't be friends AND we always end up talking again. ... (195 words)

Morality Issue? To tell my partner, or not, that I received an unwanted, and rejected, advance on line?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

9 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - Here's a question for everyone, just curious: Let's say you get a personal message from an online community member (like you're on a forum with hobbies you enjoy, or whatever, not Facebook.) This message is from a person of the opposite sex and says something like, "You're re... (133 words)

I'm stuck in a difficult situation with my lesbian teacher and I need help? Can I fix this and how?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 18. I need some advice ASAP so I hope you guys can help me out. k, so around 2 months ago, I saw my teacher exiting a public venue, holding hands with a woman who looked to be around the same age as her (late 20s). Okay, so I know it was childish of me, but in school, t... (567 words)

Did I do wrong? He had broken up with her. Then we had sex. He went back to her. Now she is angry with me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So basically. I was seeing this guy, and we ended up sleeping together.. the problem is, he was an ex of an acquaintance, she wasn't a close friend or anything, but I did know her and we would be nice if we ever bumped into each other.. . I felt really guilty, but I really ... (152 words)

I do not want to fake an orgasm and I wish he lasted longer than he does. What else can I do to make it better?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My bf cums after about 5 mins. I do not cum during sex [never been able to] so I would enjoy sex for a bit longer as that's where my pleasure comes from, not an orgasm. We have sex most days, but it does not make him last any longer. I would rather he didn't have to go off and ... (136 words)

I have lost trust in my now ex. But am doubting myself too. And I have no proof he stole from me. How do I get through this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4604 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - We have been together for nearly a year... I am 21 years old have a good job and live by myself. He is 28 still lives at home he has a job but it pays very little. I keep all my money in a drawer and the other day when i went to go and take some money there was only a £50 n... (525 words)

I hate being fingered!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I absolutely hate being fingered. I do not know whether my bf is doing it wrong or whether I just don't like it. I've never heard of anyone disliking it, and it's all over porn. I don't like doing it myself to experiment, so I can't even guide my bf to what I like. HELP! He ... (59 words)

Why is it so uncomfortable and what should I know to make intimacy better?

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9 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been with my boyfriend for a few weeks now, the first time we had sex was before we were together (only by a few days) and i didn't think it felt that amazing, but didn't think nothing of it. I had sex with him last week, and we did a couple of positions and it just felt ... (118 words)

How do I get over this? I hate saying I'm single and he's not mine anymore

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I just split up with my boyfriend a few days ago and im finding it realy hard :( He said he feels like he wants to be alone for a while but maybe we can give it another shot when he feels better because he does realy like me. I have had two panic attack because of it i havnt ... (121 words)

I have boyfriend blues. Not sure how? Need help to handle fact that he wants to go further?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4605 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was wondering what i should do in preparation if my boyfriend wanted to go down on me...? I mean i give him bj's even though i think its embarrassing and he wants to go down on me but.. idk how to feel about that.... (45 words)

Why did he behave differently? So differently the second time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4598 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hello i just want to ask with other people what do people think about him. I have met a guy in the city while i was travelling and we had little conversation it was nice. we couldnt see each other so often because i live in the north. but we exchanged contact details and numb... (295 words)

Should I have done things differently? Did I deal with this girl the wrong way?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

9 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok, so I met my now ex-girlfriend this past December, and to tell you the truth, she was not that bad at first. However, in January she developed a stomach ulcer due to stress in college academics, which I don't get because they were easy engineering courses, and so she fell ... (1574 words)

My boyfriend is still hurt over his failed marriage, and is freaking out and scared of being close to me!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4502 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear all, please advise. I have been seeing a man for around six months who split with his wife and kids around 2.5 years ago. He recently told me that he took it very badly, and that the house in which he lives whic I visit was his family and marital home. He still has old ... (332 words)

I'm afraid I'll lose him due to self-fulfilling prophecy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Why am I so afraid to lose him? We seem to be doing so well, but I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop (it's happened in every other aspect of my life, so why not in this relationship, too?). Every time we're together is bittersweet for me (so happy in the moment, so ... (126 words)

My cousin is being too playful!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - OKay i am 16 an cousin is 18. My cousin has been acting a bit weird lately. He was never like so playful since i knew him. But now i think he has changed. He s being too playful. He have been telling me that he loves me then when i gave him a surprisd face he just laugh at... (105 words)

Is there a chance that one day we'll be together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - my ex and I used to be best friends and then we decided to go out together. they were the best months until once he told me that he is afraid of commitment. he feels trapped when he is serious.at the same time he does not want to lose me. he didn't know what to do so i told him ... (103 words)

I just found out he used to be involved with my sister!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ahhh! lol I need some serious advice! I have been seeing this guy for almost 2 years. He's good friends with my step sister. It started out as friends with benefits. We only talked to each other basically when we wanted sex. And then, the sex became amazing! For the past yea... (175 words)

I can't tell if the date went well. He hasn't called, is that bad?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Went on a date w this guy on monday. We met from online. He seemed nice, opened doors, took me out to a nice sushi restaurant.i guess he was nervous because he was willing to change his shirt, if I didnt like it, kept reminding me he can be sarcastic. I was incredibly nervous n ... (263 words)

My fetish is interfering with our sex life!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

9 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - me and my girlfriend have been in relationship since two years.we often indulge in physical relation too.but for the past one year i have a strange fetish.i only get erection when i think of her sleeping with another man or when i think about her showing herself off in ... (97 words)

How do I tell if this sweet tall guy likes me? And if he does like me, what do I do next?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4604 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - i am 14, and i have never had a boyfriend. but the guy i like has never had a girlfriend. the thing is i don't know if he likes me back though. i mean he is just a very quiet normal guy. he puts no emotion into what he says to anyone. we've also been friends for over 3 year... (219 words)

B/f went to bathroom then couldn't come back and have sex

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm asking for some advice on something that I don't understand of a sexual nature. (I'm not very experienced) My boyfriend and I were in bed and then he said hang on he's got to urinate, when he comes back he gets going again and then lost the erection. Does having passed u... (123 words)

How do I approach a girl for a date?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4600 days ago

9 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - so my best friends bad are playing at this pub tonight. the girl i really like is going to be there but she has a boyfriend who is a friend so i want to get her out of my head. i think that cause its a pub i could try and talk to girls and set something up. but i haven't be... (183 words)

Have I lost my virginity to a cucumber??

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4282 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a 19 yr old girl who has always prided myself on the idea of being a virgin when I got married. I got super horny tonight, though, and used a cucumber. I didnt notice until afterwards that I had bled. Does this mean I have lost my virginity? Or will I still bleed my first ... (102 words)

Why can't I last long during sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

9 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - 1.I am now 30. I have been suffering from haemorrhoids for the last eight yrs.And I found myself not satisfying my sexual partner. I ejaculate very soon. I can not stay more than few seconds. Do you think the hemorrhoids can be causes for my sexual problem? 2.I also pract... (106 words)

Does what he's saying mean that he's been cheating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone, I have a quick question. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. 9 months out of the year its long distance when he goes away to school. The other months he's home which is half an hour away from me at most. Anyways me and him have had a lot of pr... (248 words)

How do I relax more? How do I let my guard down and let my inhibitions go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4607 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi: I'm 28, in a great relationship where we have worked out our issues. I own a few businesses, am very busy, often stressed and it's hard for me to relax and I dont sleep well. How do I relax more? How do I let my guard down and let my inhibitions go? I want to be more ... (84 words)

Boyfriend won't let me dump him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - What do you do when your bf wont LET you dump him ? I mean honestly... Its really hard on me because i really DO care about him so much, and if i knew a way id make it work if I could... But he tends to put his own needs first and put mine aside... He had a colesore on his l... (712 words)

Is he having a change of heart about me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4607 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What do i do? I love my boyfriend but lately things have gone weird. We used to live 10-15 mins away from each other and we used to spend all of our time together, texting, calling and hanging out but ever since i moved closer to my family about 1hr - 1 hr 30 mins away,... (351 words)

Is being a slut the way to mend a broken heart???

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi again Aunt/ uncle agonies. Thanks in advance for taking the time to read. I am going through an awful breakup, and all i wanna do is move on. I've been getting advice from all my friend on how to achieve this, but for some odd reason every suggestion they make is related ... (181 words)

We're "Facebook married" but I want him as a legit b/f

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4607 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So I'm "Facebook married" to my legit crush..one night i was at his house and he proposed to me and gave me a ring and everything..the next day he sent me a facebook marriage request and of course I said yes! we've been really close for over a year now..on our "anniver... (145 words)

His age information isn't matching up with the background check!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I really really need help and advice because I'm so confused at this point. I met a guy online and at the time, his profile said he was 30 and now a year later, he's 31. I believed him. But today I was talking to a friend about stalkerish things we need and she mentioned an... (193 words)

Is she a bot, is this a scam?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - alright this girl friended me on facebook and I was suspicious to begin with because she is the typical facebook bot. really pretty girl and has under 100 friends. well here is what made me change my mind. My number is on my facebook and she started to text me. well alright ... (316 words)

I felt betrayed! He proposed to me and then kisses my best friend??

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4570 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - ok i have a boyfriend and we have been dating for six months and he proposed to me last week. then yesterday i saw him with my best friend kissing and i shouted at him and now he won't stop calling what to do?... (44 words)

He has to get over his ex to love me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there!!! I need advice... I've been in a relationship for 2 years now with a great guy, he's amazing, and he loves me but he has one problem He's divorce and with a girl, that's not the problem, when we met he just had separated from his ex for aobut 6 months, more less... (441 words)

I'm married and can't get over a crush!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Help! I am married and can't get over a crush. The guy is married too and is not as good looking/hunky as my husband. I think I fell for his wit and sense of humour. I did enjoy flirting with him. I don't know why I am feeling this way. I've been married for 20 years. Am I ... (107 words)

Friends our whole lives, should we try being in a relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4607 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been friends with this guy for virtually our whole lives. We were both in serious relationships with other people throughout high school that have both ended a year or so back. We used to mess around a few months ago, but just drifted apart for a while on good terms. ... (227 words)

My wife angry because I was helping a student online

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4607 days ago

9 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My wife has a big driving test today. Last night I couldn't sleep so I thought it was fine to go to the other room for a couple of hours (before midnight) and a student of mine (grade 12) came online and was asking for my help with her college application. So I chatted to her ... (889 words)

Have you ever broken off a friendship because of things your friend did? I feel so guilty...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

9 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This girl I have been friends with for 3 years were once close. We'd chat or talk every day. But then as I got to know her, I realized things about her I never knew. And I cut off the friendship for the final time a little time ago. One thing is I realized she lied a lot. To me ... (294 words)