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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How can anyone be so selfish?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age - I have known the father of my youngest child for over 27 years. Yesterday it was my birthday and he made no effort despite the fact that I asked my child to remaid him. I know my child said something as he said so himself/ I was working yesterday ( i work as cabin crew) came... (265 words)

Is it ok to used condoms which have passed their expiry date?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - hey aunts, i just wanted to know; are condoms reliable when expired? cuz i heard that it depends where its kept; eg if its somewhere in a bathroom cubboard near a steam pipe it wud last less than one kept away in a dark cool locker or sutten.. is this true? i also heard that... (130 words)

Is my man interested in more than friendship with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4588 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Well my current relationship is kinda unsure to me, only because i often hear about his friend he had in high school. He said more then once that if he was ever to marry anyone, it would be her. He claims she is a friend to this day and often calls her and visits her or ... (144 words)

I love my boyfriend but I can't stop thinking about my ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - a few months ago me and my boyfriend that i consider to be the love of my life broke up since then iv been going out with another guy and i do love him he's amazing but i can't get my ex out my head im still crazy about him even though we broke up on very bad terms and i ... (93 words)

My wife has told me she is disappointed in the way I proposed to her

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

24 September 2011 (M) age 41-50 - Hi I proposed to my now-wife a year before we got married. When I asked her, she started to cry, but not because of joy. She said yes, when I repeated the question. Later I found out, that she is very disappointed by the way I asked. We now are married and had a wonderfu... (183 words)

I got a new boyfriend over the weekend (by text!) what will I say when I see him at school?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - dear cupid, this is an emergency and I need an answer asap! so I found out the boy I really liked, liked me! so after we talked at a school dance, I had my friend ask him if I could have his number and he said sure! I was very happy, anyways we texted and it ended up to me as... (122 words)

My girlfriend had a drunken fling and now the guy won't leave us alone

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Long story short my gf has broken up with me and had drunken sex with a guy she barely knew She says sex with him was amazing and he was way "bigger" than me I hate that fact but she says I shouldn't worry that he meant nothing and it only happened because she was drunk an... (304 words)

My parents are disgusted by me after they caught me masturbating

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so I'm around 19. I'm asian, and my family are catholic nuts. (No kidding, it's all they talk about) So lately i've been kind of stressed out because i recently got unemployed and looking for another job and school work was taking it's toll on me. I could barely sle... (906 words)

Should I try to trust him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my fiance have been together just over a year now. Our relationship has been awesome, we rarely fight and we enjoy so much of the same things and just have a lot of fun together. I recently gave birth 2 weeks ago to our son, but 4 days before I went into labor I couldn't ... (364 words)

I do all the loving and giving but don't get much back in return

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - im finding it very hard moving on from a relationship weve spilt up 6 wks ago and were together a year. ive got a daughter and he had a son. so the rountine was basically this,pretty much moved in with me as he had a job in my town as he lived half hour away. so when at ... (523 words)

I hid the 'girl' side of myself from her and now I think it's coming back out!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, I'm 22 and I'm in a healthy and happy 2 years relationship with a girl. Everything is fine, but I hide something to her: at 16, I started to crossdress and I created that other side of me. I gave that side a name, buying myself girl clothes, talking to peopl... (241 words)

My ex and I text each other a lot. Does this mean he still has feelings for me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4595 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - ok so some years ago i was dating this guy. He was awesome. We didnt went too far on our relationship just held hands kissed n some cuddling, then he got me at a point where i was so head over hills for him and he tells me he didnt wanted us to continue together. To stop all... (251 words)

Is dinner a good idea for a first date?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi there. I just started uni and met this really nice girl. We've been chatting most nights in our kitchen, been out drinking together and seem to enjoy each other's company. Its been just over a week since we met and I'd like to ask her on a date. I have a hectic schedule ... (101 words)

I want to send my ex a 'hello' message but I don't want him to get the wrong idea

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey, my ex and I broke up like 6 months ago. I told him that he had to let me go and I had to let go of him too, that we needed not to contact each other (he started seeing another girl, but still kinda would text me and reach out to me). I know he's happy and has moved on, ... (129 words)

Teenage romance breakup because of University. How do I get over it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, Only last week my boyfriend of 2 years went to university a 2 hour train ride from me. On Wednesday, I asked him if we could talk more as I missed him, and he then broke up with me saying the distance was too much and he needed to concentrate on his work now... (219 words)

I don't enjoy travelling. Why can't my family just accept that?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My family is always trying to get me to go on family vacations and my parents are always trying to get me travel by myself too. The problem is I hate to travel. I tried family vacations, I tried traveling by myself and I have tried traveling with friends. No matter where ... (191 words)

I'm not sexually attracted to my girlfriend!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I've met a fantastic woman, she is funny, intelligent, thoughtful, sweet with a heart of gold... doesn't sound like much of a problem does it? The problem lies in attraction, I met her from a dating site, we hit it off immediately as we are both of the same or similar mind so ... (254 words)

He says he can't wait to marry me, but yet he is making no moves to live with me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been going out with my bf for 3 years and I am more than willing to live with him now. But he signed a contract to live with his pal for 3 years and refuses to compromise. So we still have 2 more years of that 3 years to go. This means for the time being, I have to live ... (237 words)

Am I reading too much into his visit? Help me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (M)

age - i am gay and recently have had a reunion with a friend from 10 years ago, which then i liked him, but nothing happened as the circumstances where strange. we have met again and i have fallin for him, we spent a holiday together with another friend, all as friends, and we ... (220 words)

Do I have a chance of getting back with my ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (M) age 41-50 - Well I called my ex up, got her voice mail. I said something like, "just wanted to chat for a minute, call me back if you want. ttyl." She called back like 5 mins later and said she was in the shower. Sounded happy to hear from me, who knows? she said she had something to do ... (140 words)

My boyfriend took another girl to a hotel but swears he didn't cheat. What shall I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - sorry about this being so long ... i met my boyfriend at the age of 16 and weve been together ever since, weve had a lot of ups and downs and now i need advice. After been together 6 months, it was just a pritty average relationship then he cheated on me and we broke up... (533 words)

Tips for a mind blowing blowjob?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I want to give my boyfriend an incredible blowjob? What can I do, I'm not ready for sex just yet, and I have only ever given one blowjob in my entire life and that was with him, my first time ever, and he said I was very good that it was "awesome" and it last a couple minutes... (154 words)

Sending my ex a hello?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey, my ex and I broke up like 6 mos ago. I told him that he had to let me go and I had to let go of him too, that we needed not to contact each other (he started seeing another girl, but still kinda would text me and reach out to me). I know he's happy and has moved on, but ... (112 words)

I applied the 'no contact' rule, but last night I caved in and texted him

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Recently I wrote about the affair that I had ended I've been working really hard on keeping busy etc but last night I broke 'no contact' and text him. What should I do if he replies? Should I just ignore it and carry on with NC? I've tried deleting all his contact i... (115 words)

He just enjoys my treatment of him without reciprocating! I feel hurt and miss him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - are me and my bf falling out?im 19 he is 21 ..just began working..ever since he's started working in a different city(since4 months) he has been busy with work ..he used to call and text a lot telling me he misses me more than his parents and everything ,when he comes to visit ... (570 words)

My friend feels too awkward to be around me after we kissed

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I got really drunk one night on my friends birthday, and I kissed one of my best friends. We were both drunk and now she feels awkward around me. One of our guy friends dared us to kiss, like a peck on the lips but we ended up full on snogging. I'm bisexual, but I've only told ... (105 words)

I'm a virgin with a normal sex drive but the moment I meet someone I just freak out and my libido goes out of the door!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I have an ongoing, nagging problem that won't go away and it keeps getting bigger and bigger. I'm scared of having sex, even oral etc doing anything sexual with another person. This is long so bare with me, I'm going to get therapy to deal with this, but just t... (632 words)

Is his Borderline Personality Disorder responsible for his varying feelings for me? First loving me and then falling out of love..

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - At the start of the year, I moved to a different country for three months for work purposes. I was single and had been very happy for many years. So it came as a surprise when I met a man, started dating him and continued seeing him after I left and moved back home. I thought ... (917 words)

He is such a tight-wad in everything. Should I stay or go? It bothers me that he thinks women are after his money.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4596 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am a 46 years old woman. I've met this man 16 years older than me after my divorce. He is a wealthy man with his own house and car and still earning a good income. Im in a low paid job and just earn enough to support myself. I've got my own house. When he comes round ... (176 words)

How do I get this older guy, who's known me since I was little, to notice me and see me as a woman?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i really need help with this, pleaseeee. i've known this guy almost all my life, years have gone by and we have both definitely grown a lot. He is so attractive and hot, and i am just now starting to notice him. He is a couple of years older then me, and i know his father ... (266 words)

Its easier for us to be mean to each other rather than nice!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - i have been woth my boyfriend for 4 years and we have a 3 year old son. recently i dont want to have sex with him and dont like it when he tries to kiss me. we argue alot about nothing and i cry alot.we both say very hurtful things to each other and i havent felt the love for a ... (197 words)

Is there medicine for wetness?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - is there any medication one can take to reduce the wetness during sex?... (13 words)

Is my relationship destined for doom, or can it be fixed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Well, I have been with my husband for 5 years, we have 2 amazing kids. In the past, I believe he has cheated on me several times, I could never get over it then though he hadn't admitted to it. I know in my heart he has, I had reliable sources. Anyway, I decided to forgive ... (270 words)

The love of my life has been online cheating. I've never felt sadness like this before. Please help.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Last night my heart was broken. I found out the girl that I planned to marry and live happily ever after with, has fallen for some online with someone else and spends hours each day flirting with and getting emotionally close with him. I'm in shock, it's as though im in a bad ... (112 words)

Help! I'm falling in love, seriously, in love with someone else's boyfriend? What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Help me please!. I'm pulling my hair our here! I go to church every Sunday. Now I've known this family at church for a few years. Mates with the mom. Has three gorgeous boys. I have always liked the middle one. Except he has a gf since I've known him for two years. I used to ... (100 words)

He's changed his password on Facebook? And not mentioned it to me. Am I over-thinking this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 19 months now. He cheated on me after about 10 months and after that he completely changed his attitude and I could honestly see that this mistake was something that he regretted, so I took him back and we have been good ever ... (213 words)

My bf never texts me or asks me to come over on his days off. What does this mean for our relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I hardly see my boyfriend anymore because we work different schedules now. He works mornings/afternoons, and I work evenings (both work at different companies). I am trying to get a different job that will allow me to work morning hours. That way, we can see more of each ... (147 words)

What does it mean if a guy cannot find someone he clicks with no matter how hard he tries?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - What does it mean for a guy who has never had a girlfriend and he is still a virgin and no matter how hard he tries he just can't find that woman he can click with, even just for the time being nothing is happening in his life, no one can give him the love that he desires.... (58 words)

Why does it seem that women when they go to college just lose themselves and become slutty?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Ever since I graduated high school 3 years ago I have noticed that out of all my guy and girl friends that it seems like all the girls that where once nice and respectable have become party whores and seem to have lost their good morals. I really didn't have a lot of close ... (149 words)

I loved him, but he only liked me. Can we still be friends? If not, how can I get over him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4599 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need some advice. I've asked for advice before, and you have all proven to be helpful. :) I've been in a one-sided love with the same guy for 7 years. He knows how I felt. We actually dated for a few months. It was pretty amazing. Even though I was in love with him I didn'... (469 words)

If a guy does not defend you around other girls, what does this show about his true feelings?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What does it mean when a guy does this in association with others. With his friends around, he's nice and shy. His friends notice you but don't laugh or smile or anything. You find out that they later tease him about a girl from that nationality and link stories that rel... (211 words)

Am a straight, married female with kids, but feel a connection more thanfriendship with another woman. What does it mean and how can I tell what she feels?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm a straight married female with kids. I have been best friends with this girl for about 2 and half years. She is also married with kids. We had an immediate connection from the start. Became close quick. We spend almost every day together. I feel like there's something more. ... (73 words)

Should you stay in a relationship if the one you love, only likes you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4599 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age - Hi.Need some answers to this please, Should you stay in a relationship if the one you love only likes you.Even though you have been together for yrs. There's no fighting or bickering just a lack of love on one's part.when you say I love you, and all you get in return is I l... (79 words)

He moved on quickly. Did our relationship mean nothing to him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i was w/ my boyfriend in a serious relationship for 2 1/2 yrs and i recently broke up w/ him b/c i didnt see a future w/ him. he started dating someone new in only two weeks and when i found this out i was really hurt. does this mean that our relationship meant less to him than ... (73 words)

What does a kiss on the cheek mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4599 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I was supposed to meet the guy I like and some friends at the bar. The other friends cancled on me so I texted the guy and told him they had cancled and asked if he still wanted to meet. He did. So we met there and talked for 3 hours... at the end of the night he gave me a hug ... (101 words)

I am in a long-term committed relationship. Is it ok to see my former FWB?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So I'm in a relationship with someone I love, 2.5 years now, living together, and everything is going really well. The thing is we're long distance for a few months due to work and I'm back where I grew up and my FWB wants to hang out and I'm not sure if that's OK. So the de... (170 words)

My boyfriend won't let me talk to my friends!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4599 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - i have a boyfriend of a year and two months, he keeps me from talking to my friends and from going out with them. ive been talking to this new kid lately and i kinda like him a little, but i really do love my boyfriend. what do i do?!... (50 words)

I just want to write, but my parents just want me to be rich.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4599 days ago

24 September 2011 (?) age 26-29 - I need some advice You see, I'm an artist at heart right? basically a writer. I go to a highly respected creative arts school to study creative writing. Its like college course stuff for high school students. I'm in my first year and I'll be going to this school unti... (644 words)

Should I leave this guy or should I stick with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have been going out with a guy for past 9 months and has fallen deeply in love with him. last month he went to thailand on a holiday and it was his second visit to thailand. he wanst going out with me when he visited thailand for the first time and when he started to go out ... (630 words)

Pictures of ex's!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

24 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi all, Last week i discovered pictures of my gf's exes (yes, there were pictures at least 3 of her exes in there, probably more) she had saved in her external hard drive in a folder. In the same folder, there were pictures of me too. She tells me they are old pictures and she ... (256 words)

Sex vs. emotional support.. Which one is more important?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

24 September 2011 (F) age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have a very terrible sex life. He also is not emotionally supportive and badgers me about how the sex is so bad/little. I tell him it is because I don't feel loved or have emotional support. He says that he will not emotionally support me until I support him ... (62 words)