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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'd been seeing a guy on and off for 3 years, now he says he wants to commit long term

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I asked him to try and put it into words how much he liked me: "Just trust me that it is a hell of a lot, we were so close for so long, how could that have not meant the world to me" Seems like there was nothing wrong.. I'd been seeing a guy on and off for 3 years, in ... (205 words)

I'm ready to have sex with him, but it's my first time...advice?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys this is a really personal question and I hope you can help me with it I,ve been dating this guy for nearly two months. He makes me feel amazing and beautiful and like i,m the only girl in the world I,ve met his family and I think they like me and he's going to me... (167 words)

He keeps texting me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hey, i met this guy a while back just before i met my ex boyfriend. me and this guy was texting for a while and he seemed really nice but all of a sudden he changed his number. i didnt think much of this and just put it down to him not liking me. i then met my ex boyfriend.... (276 words)

My boyfriend makes me feel unwanted

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ive been seeing my boyfriend for a few months now and he as started making me feel really unwanted, He means the world to me and I thought I did to him as well but lately he as been really different towards me, He seems to be spending more time with his friends then wit... (143 words)

Letting go of my abuser

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I was in an abusive relationship on and off for 4 years. I am a recovering alcoholic and this man approached me when I was three months sober and he was around 6 years sober. I never knew the relationship was abusive until I was in it on a regular basis. Like for one ... (191 words)

Why did he alter the classification of what went on between us after it was over?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I went out with / dated this guy. He used the word "relationship" to describe us at the time and said that's what he considered our affiliation to be... but afterwards he classified it as "hanging out." I heard he told someone else that we "didn't hang out for that long." ... (100 words)

I'm over a girl, but can't get her out of my head?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I can't sleep, haven't been able to for a while now. It's not as if I'm lying there staring at my ceiling doing nothing - I know what's keeping me up; my thoughts. Problem being, I can't seem to stop them. I over-analyze every situation and more importantly think about the ... (265 words)

I want to feel apprechiated! After 4 years together, how do I tell him how I feel?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Everyone, Well I am writing here because at this point I am totally confused. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 22 years old. We have been dating since highschool. Since about 11th grade so around the time we were both 17. We had our ups and downs like every relationship, ne... (366 words)

Texting male friends constantly while we were watching a movie, should I be okay with this?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - So I met this girl, we hit it off And started seeing eachother. One of the things we talked about was how her last boyfriend was very controling, wouldn't let her have male friends, go out to the bar with her girlfriends And so forth. Well I don't consider myself a jelous ... (159 words)

How much contact between first and second date?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi Guys, This follows on from the last question I asked really, which was about getting a second date / level of contact / not being too needy. To put you in the picture, I went on a first date with this girl I met on a dating website. Now, I've been on a lot of first dat... (290 words)

Perfect one minute, drifting the next, what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So I have been depressed and heart broken for the past two weeks and a half now. I was engaged to be married and he recently broke up with me saying that he gave up on me a long time ago because I wasn't as affectionate to him as I use to be. The problem is that we had ... (406 words)

Urgent help

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear cupid i need solution of this complicated problem. I have nobody to share my grief. My mother died when i was small, since then i am a very sensitive kind of girl. Recently i am perplexed and really need your help..so here it goes : i have been cheated earlier by men i... (345 words)

Confused Signals

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I have a female co-worker who has been displaying some flirtatious behavior toward me when it is just us talking. These include: playing with / stroking her hair, pushing her hair to one side, exposing her neck to me; having pretty good eye contact; leaning back on her chair, ... (113 words)

Lesbian friend going too far!!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4606 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey everyone, I am a 16 year old female, I have a boyfriend and I love him to death but my best friend is really starting to get in the way! She admited to me two weeks ago that she is a lesbian and she hasn't stopped harassing me since. She keeps like touching me all over, ... (323 words)

My girlfriend and the new house

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi guys, please let me know what you think about this... recently, I told my gf that I'm working (painting, getting furniture, etc) on the house I bought recently so she did not have to worry about anything when we get married, she would just move in. But... when I told her ... (176 words)

What are purity rings?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I recently heard about purity rings. What are they? Do they have a specific finger they go on? I know they have something ti do with premarital sex, I'm assuming that it means you'll wait for marriage? If thats true, do you have to wait till marriage? Or just a certain age? ... (68 words)

Why do exes from years ago get in touch when they're single and have nothing to do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Why do exs from years ago get in touch again when they are single and having nothing else to do ? This has happened to me ...again , im with someone , have been for two years , my ex knows this , her other half is in prison, she married him while she was seeing me back in ... (511 words)

I have a fantasy about my wife being with another woman. Should I tell her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi I need some advice I've been with my wife for a while now and I know she is bi curious. I have always had the fantasy of seeing her with another girl. Do I explain I no about her curious fantasy and ask her if she wants to live it out? I no she has got accounts on websites ... (87 words)

When is the right time to kiss in a relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I was wondering when it was safe to kiss in a relationship? Is a week too early? Should I kiss her first or wait until she asks me to kiss her?... (32 words)

If I tell anyone I'm gay...I'm dead....literally!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I could really use some help advice. I'm 22 and where I live being gay is a no-no, but I fear that I might be gay or at least bi, but I'm not very sure I dunno what to label myself as I'm so confused. Honestly I don't want to be either. Ever since I was younger and ... (614 words)

Is it too soon to say "I love you"?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay, so recently (about a month)I started dating this girl. She was my first girlfriend I did ANYTHING with, I even lost my virginity to her...Is it too soon to say "I love you" or am I just caught up in post sex lust? ... (44 words)

Whats the right way to ask my Gran if I can move in with a guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - To give you a background I dated my ex for 5 years lived with him for 2 ended up not working out so i moved in with my grandma who is very traditional when it comes to dating and living with someone before marriage...(did not think it was appropriate by no means) so i moved in ... (178 words)

I always attract the wrong guy, how do I bring the focus back onto my own life?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I need to understand what is going on with me as I'm back in the same position I've been in several times before and I've got to break this cycle. The problem is that I only seem to go out with guys who have an emotional disability of some sort. Usuall... (914 words)

Is going on a work retreat acceptable without a spouse?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi - Thank you for taking the time to read my post. My husband’s work has an annual retreat for 4 days and it has been stated, “Spouses are not welcome.” Would this bother anyone else? My husband and I are having a lot of issues as is - this “retreat” is not helping to make ... (213 words)

Should I tell my friend the truth??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - ok my "friend" has a girlfriend and i am madly in love with her. I told her my feelings and she didn't say she didn't like me or nothing will every happen but my friend has a little instinct that i like her as he has told her that and she told me. i don't want to ruin my ... (101 words)

I've uncovered the truth, but he won't say anymore!?!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a huge problem! I started dating this man, he told me that his past wife died, I fell in love, well through time things were not adding up, red flags. Come to find out his wife did not die! He is married. I confronted him and he said he would come tell me the truth, that ... (126 words)

Any suggestions on how to help someone with depression?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is going through depression and I want to help him. Any suggestions? He has always had this, even before me, but I feel like it's partly my responsibility to help. I've brought him chocolates, I wrote him a poem and left it on his night stand for him to find ... (93 words)

Is this relationship really going to work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4608 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing this guy for about a month now and I really like him. I think he likes me too. He's texted me every day since day one. I take that as a good sign. We've been on a few dates like movies, bowling and dinner. His work schedule makes it difficult to hang out ... (203 words)

Should I stay single to make my ex feel better?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for about a year. Things were great in the beginning, but I was extremely stupid and cheated on him a couple of times. He decided to stay with me, being the very good guy he is. However, the pain kept eating him and eating h... (568 words)

Should I tell him or hope that one day he'll like me like I like him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - ok, im only 14 but i like this boy who is 18, its really complicated because my mum is his boss and he has a gf, we text all the time and he seems to like me but not like i like him. should i forget about it and move on or still be friends and hope that one day he might see ... (88 words)

Is this relationship worth holding on to?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is this relationship worth holding on to? Let me start off by saying I am 20. I've been seeing a 43 year old for about 3 months now and surprisingly, our relation is great. (I'm not after money.. And he's not just after sex). We have a lot in common and can actually chat on... (442 words)

Is the thought of too many kids an marriage spooking my partner??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi all, I am new here and need some help. I have been dating a man for over 3 yrs and we are now having problems, well he is. Anyway to give you some hindsight into us - we are both divorced,over the age of 40 and i have 3 children (8,8 and 7) who live with me and he has 1 ... (707 words)

How do I come clean with my man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hello all. I need some advice on how to tell the man ive been planning on being in a relationship that i have just been diagnosed with herpes. We have not had sex, as we have been taking it slow for about a year now. I freaked out over it so im pretty sure he will. And not only ... (123 words)

Is this how things usually are? My new boyfriend rarely hugs, kisses and sometimes does not talk

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi i am new to this site but i need some help... i have a new boyfriend who i have been seeing for 5-6 months now, but it feels like he does not like me the way he been saying and he barely hugs, kisses and sometimes barely talks to me. we do live with our parents but we a... (138 words)

Why will he not collect his stuff now we are over

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4608 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Just wondering why my ex will not arrange to take his stuff that he left at mine back. We broke up about 3/4 weeks ago (he split with me)and we did still txt for a bit after we split but I think thats because we had to work together but that is no longer the case (he's finshing ... (280 words)

Snooped and found out that my some guy kissed my GF! Now what?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - So i did something bad. I snooped my GF facebook. I found a conversation that she had with her friend. They are talking about a party that my GF friend attended. her friend said something like "3 guys tried to make out with me , they pretty much attacked her face" and then ... (141 words)

Does he love me even though he is taken?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I didn't know how I started to love him I just felt it and I am sure that I love him so much.He is sweet to me whenever he is with me I guess that he love me too and everybody thought we are lovers but one day,I was shocked becaese my best friend told me that he had a ... (104 words)

What can I do about my wife who is refusing to take her medication for Depression? I cannot sleep as she unsettles me so much.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - My wife has stopped taking her Fluoxetine (Prozac equivalent as an anti-depressant) and so she has become really angry and edgy again. As a result I'm finding it really difficult to sleep and concentrate on work. A little while ago I visited my parents for a couple of weeks beca... (184 words)

Why does he want me all to himself? He does not like us going out with our friends as a group

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi so i've been with my bf for 3 months now and i like being with him . the thing is that he doesnt like it when we go out with friends. He just wants it to be me and him. I mean ok thats not wrong but i dont think im asking for a lot if he comes every once in a while with my ... (69 words)

He was jealous but now he wants me back...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Wel i advice you see my ex boyfriend broke up with me because he was jealous that i was always talking to my guy best friend that he l8r never liked.i was hurt and now he admits that he was wrong and wants to get back together. i mean i do love him, what should i do?... (57 words)

Just recently called me the wrong female name, twice. Is he cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, My bf and I have been together for 3 years. We don't live together. Recently he's called me two different female names one was his exes name, the other was some name I've never heard of. He has no sisters nor anyone he works with by that name. So I'm wondering what's goin... (83 words)

I know he's a bad boy. Should I be worried that he's rescheduled our date?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So this guy i like took me out, we had fun, he scheduled a date 3 days later, and then last minute the day of the date he called to cancel he said he was really tired and that he wanted to give me his full attention. he also seemed really apologetic and that we should defe... (172 words)

My mind says do not go back to my abusive ex. My heart says yes. what should I do? Should I just stay friends and avoid relationships for a while?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex-boyfriend wants me back. What should I do? He is 26 years old, I'm almost 17 years old. Our relationship was of 3 years. It was a long distance relationship. We met online. I broke-up with him 3 months ago but we still remained in contact on facebook. I changed my number. ... (348 words)

I am so lonely in my marriage. what do I need to do to get through this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4607 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age - i have ben married for a number of years. Due to health(hers) intercourse with her is out. She no longer has anything to do with me ( in bed)at all. i am so lonely it hurts. For 2 years now i am so fafthfull it is unreal.i would like to talk to someone about this who is dealing ... (82 words)

I have serious trust issues with men....should I try dating women?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4607 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - The last year ive been thinking about dating a women/woman. but im kinda in a boring, confusing, and unfaithful (on his part) relationship right now. im really attracted by the beauty of women. and im sexually attracted too. ive never dated a woman. only just men, but every ... (146 words)

Is this girl, who I love, worth another try, or will I get hurt again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My ex-girlfriend and I dated about 11 months before she dumped me. We had a fantastic physical and emotional relationship, we had great chemistry, and often stayed up to the late hours of the night talking and just enjoying the companionship of one another. I was always a shy ... (789 words)

I have so much love to give. But how do I encourage my first Gay love relationship? Also low self esteem is another issue for me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi I'm 16 and I'm gay. The thing is I've never been in a relationship and I feel so lonely all the time. I really want to be with someone. I'm not desperate, but one of my greatest fears is spending my life alone, and not sharing myself at least once. Like I want to know wha... (141 words)

After ignoring me shall I give him another chance? or just chill out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Last weekend I went out for some drinks with a guy,he is 4 years younger than me so I was a little uncertain whether I wanted to or not. He insisted that he was looking for a relationship and seemed nice enough,so I went. Things really went well I thought. We talked,we laug... (434 words)

Why is he so committed and so confident that our LDR can last the distance until we can be together?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in an LDR relationship which has gone on for about two years. We have met and want to see each other again. Problem is, there is a huge distance between us, and it will be another four years perhaps even longer until we can live closer to each other (with visiting each ot... (237 words)

I feel unfeminine. Should I get breast implants to fix this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4608 days ago

4 September 2011 (F) age 30-35 - Ok, I have small boobs, because of my age they won't grow anymore. I have an otherwise curvy build, I have a small pronounced waist and wide hips, big butt and thick thighs. I'm slim, though. My face is well, some say pretty, I'd say average, but not beautiful. My sister... (625 words)

Should I try to fix things? Or move on? I feel so insecure now that his attractive ex is trying to talk to him again

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi, so my bf of a year and i live together, and i just kinda broke up with him. we are perfect, except for that we rarely have sex. i tried to get him to open up and he talked about how he doesn't feel he fits with me sexually. I know his ex and him had quite a sex life, so... (383 words)

My friends have suggested my Gf is emotionally abusive. Should I try to make this relationship work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been in a relationship for 2 years with a girl. I am 24, she is 23. First off I would like to say I know I am not perfect, I dont think its entirely her fault and no I dont know exactly where my fault lies, nor will she tell me half the time. Instead of going through the ... (1355 words)

Do we have a relationship or not? He says only his 3 year old daughter keeps him in a relationship with me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years now and we have a 3 year old duaghter together. Now he's said to me several times over the past 3 years that if it wasn't for our daughter me and him wouldn't be together. The last time he said it was probably about 4 months ago. I d... (106 words)

How do I flirt back at this cute boy who keeps flirting with me in class?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay so in class i sit next to this hot boy and hes allways drawing on my arm and making me laugh and doing stupied stuff is that flirting cause i dont know if it is and i dont know how to flirt back please help me ... (47 words)

Why not cheat? I am interested in all your ideas and suggestions please

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been married over 10 years. Before marriage had a very active sex life. As soon as we were married, it became less, and less and kept getting less until it was 3 years. I brought it up to him, then we went to counseling, then I brought it up again. I haven't cared for ... (122 words)

I am having problems with being too hairy, Girls please what are your solutions to this problem?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok like I said this is a question for women only. Here is my problem. I hit puberty somewhat late in life (around 13 when most of my friends started around 11). Anyway I have become all too aware of my 'hairy' nature. It seems I got my father's body hair genes or something ... (418 words)

Is it me? Or do I need something? Low testosterone? No pheromones? Would supplements help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4611 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi everyone. It's not easy to talk about this but maybe you can help. I'm in my early forties, and all my life I've had almost no luck with women in terms of romance and sex. I had one girlfriend in school, and I've had a few dates over the years that went nowhere. I feel ... (245 words)

I still truly love her, but what can I do? I still try to set up dates. She has never apologised

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I seem to be stuck in the past. I met this girl 4 years ago whom i can honestly say i love with everything i am. When we first met we could talk about everything under the sun for hours and hours with not one awkward silence. After awhile our talking and friendship became more ... (669 words)

People keep calling me frigid. It pressures me and upsets me. How can I better deal with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Im ábout to turn 16 years old and i have never had sexual contact with a boy. Sure ive made out with a few, but never any further. Its not that im 'frigid' or anything i just havent found the right person. However, when anyone hears that i havent done anything i get judged a... (74 words)

Guys seem all over me. But I do not dress slutty. Why does this keep on happening to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4611 days ago

4 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't dress slutty nor do I look slutty. But most of guys I meet all say am sexy. I do have nice features and I would say am cute. But of these guys I meet say am sexy and they just come on me so sexually strong. When I go out I wear clothes that covers me up. I don't even ... (186 words)

My Affair of the heart has ended. How do I get over my lover? I've been married 7 years/

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

4 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I had an affair of the heart. I'm married and have been with my wife for 7 years, and we have a son. There is nothing wrong with our marriage in general, nothing I'm unhappy about. Anyway in February a woman came into my life. She works for the same company but not in ... (606 words)