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writes:There was a guy who I had in a couple of my university classes with me. We would talk in class and during breaks and stuff, and he seemed interested in me. So one day he asked if we could do something together. Mind you, he never gave me his number or added me on Facebook, before him asking me out. This lead me to believe that he's not really interested in a relationship, but more of a hookup maybe. I thought he was single before all this, but later found out he was with someone (maybe even long term), which magnified my suspicions about his intentions towards me. Do you think my suspicion was true?
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reader, Orbiter  +, writes (5 September 2011):
Not giving him your number or Facebook is not overly suspicious. I try not to give out those details either (if possible) until I know the person a little better - there are some strange people out there you know.
If he was dating someone while also seeing you, then yes you're right he's a user so have no more contact with him.
If he has recently been made single then be more careful to make sure that you're not just a rebound.
Basically my advice in any situation where you doubt the other's intentions is to just not let yourself be a hookup. Go on a date, get to know him well enough until you feel comfortable about his intentions.
If he's only interested in a hookup he won't wait around long.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (5 September 2011):
 Sorry I'm not quite sure what you are asking or what actually happened with this guy.
But if he has a girlfriend (or is seeing someone) and has asked you out as well - then yes he sounds like a player and probably only wants one thing.
Only date single guys - that way you know they are at least available for a relationship and there is a chance of something more than just a hook up!
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