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*irekyll
writes:For the past few months my girlfriend and I have lost contact. I've not been able to get hold of her at the best or worst of times with the constant reasoning that she's sleeping. I do understand some people have sleeping problems, however I call once every 4 hours to just say hi to her and she's always sleeping. When we were talking, she always seemed preoccupied, like someone else was taking her time. I constantly heard another mans voice however she convinced me it was my imagination. She completely stopped saying "I love you" to me, and I stopped shortly after as I felt she didn't really care to talk to me. Her conversations were always extremely short with me, with the reasoning that she was tired and she hadn't slept. For 6 hours previous to this I had called twice and was told both times she was sleeping. I had been keeping in contact with her sister through texting on my cell phone, and now she wont even talk to me. I hear from other parts of her family how she's always at family events, watching movies, playing football, and just enjoying her family. Please do not mistake this as me saying she shouldn't, I believe everyone should be able to keep up with their family. I've never put restraints on her as to who she could talk to, or when she could talk to them.Around 6 or 7 months ago, we talked on the phone for 12+ hours a day and now absolutely nothing. I've not heard a word from her for days. My friend called her to tell her I was in the hospital with pneumonia and they came to me, saying she sounded like she didn't even care. A note to bring into this, her and I have never met. We met online and kept our relationship to that as we live 1200 miles away from eachother. I understand the distance can put a lot of strain on someone, however not even contacting me seems a little much. I don't really know what to do about this, I'm rather at the end of what patience can deliver me. If anyone has an answer for me I would love to hear it. Thank you for reading this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): Face it, you had a pen pal, not a GF... she's lost interest as she never connected with you. Cut your loss...
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reader, Tirekyll +, writes (16 December 2009):
Tirekyll is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNot a huge fan of the "googlin'" comment. We have been together over a year now and it mostly fell as we were both lonely and desiring someone else to share with.
At the time neither of us were working, nor going to school. We had no hobbies, rather why we wanted to be together, so we had something to keep us sane.
I was honestly foolhardy...perhaps desperate for love in a place where no more than deceit can be found. Not saying people online are deceitful, well, no more than people in real life anyways.
Thanks for your opinion on this, I guess true love branches from more than just voice and pixels of text.
Freaking DUH, but still.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (16 December 2009):
 I have to be honest and say that I dont know how people can refer to others as boyfriend / girlfriend / lover / fiance etc etc when they have never met face to face. Online friendships yeah, I know and have, but online love affairs ... they are a completely different kettle of fish.
You havent heard from your "girlfriend" for several months. That in itself should tell you something, especially when you have been keeping tabs on her via her family members.
As to the fact you and she spoke on the phone for 12 plus hours a day eh, what about work, school, studies, meals, sleeping etc etc, hobbies and past times, you know the sort of thing, the stuff that most people do so that they dont have 12 hours a day to talk on the phone.
I think this relationship has run its course, and its time for you to start googlin' for a new one.
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reader, GoGreen126  +, writes (16 December 2009):
Honey, you know the answer to your own question.
She used to act interested, now she doesn't. This sounds like she's just lost interest--maybe the distance is too much for her. Calling every 4 hours won't help either, because that gets really annoying really fast.
I'm really sorry to say this, but your gf wants to end it with you and is too cowardly to actually do so.
I'd suggest ending it yourself.
I'm sorry.
Message me if you need someone to vent to
--GG
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