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writes:Hello, I have been seeing a man I met through a dating site, we clicked right away because we have the same goals. He treated me with respect and always sent greetings to my parents. He was actually talking about marriage after 8 days of dating. He is 45 divorced when he was 23 years, after 1 year of marriage he describes it as the painful love story in his life, also the same year his parents died, he said he worked hard to come out of this dark period.After all the nice things he told me like I am very attracted to you and you're always in my thoughts and that he thinks of me with affection, he decided to come to meet my parents. We were planning and he told me I need courage to come to your home I hope its not hard. Then suddenly he sent me an e-mail saying I will not contact you again, give me back my phone number. I was shocked and hurt and I told him that. What he said was 'it's better you forget me, it's not your fault'He actually lives in another city so I told him that I will come to see him he then said 'I dont want you to come alone I worry for you' so I replied and told him I will only come if you want me. He gave no answer.So now I am confused, how could someone so polite and nice suddenly change? And no he is not seeing anyone else he is just quiet
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reader, duce00  +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Sounds rather mentally unstable to me. I would steer very clear of this guy and avoid all contact. Im sure you feel torn right now but I think you will see in time that you were lucky to get out early.
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reader, Razor  +, writes (7 December 2009):
OMG...Don't kid yourself. If anyone mentions marriage or even I love in less that 6 months...RUN!
It takes a long time to know if you're in love, lust infatuation, or friendship.
He's 45 and he's telling you about his divorce at the age of 23 within the first week. Let's face it...he's a player looking for the sympathy play, or a loser in disguise who hasn't figured out that he'll never be ready for a relationship. Here is how it should go...
you date, he politely kisses you good night and tries to go further...if you politely disuade him and he calls again. That's good. If you make him wait 3 months before sex and he stays that's the first good sign. respect. If you find yourself becoming friends and his friends like your friends, that's good, it shows long term compatibility. If he always offers to pay the bill but lets you when it's your turn less than half of the time...then he want's to take care of you. And if you meet his best friend within a month, his parents (3- 4 months) and kids 4- 6 months. that shows that he likes you and wants you to be involved in his life. and...if at 40 plus if he doesn't own a home, a car and a retirement saving account...he never will.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 December 2009):
Sounds like this guy has issues. He would probably have turned out to be a very very bad boyfriend so you have had a lucky escape.
The one problem with internet dating is that you are exposed to a lot of nutters. It's easy for them to hide and act normal, when in real life you would have known there was something not right.
Good Luck!! xx
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