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writes:I just have a quick question - but first a little background. While visiting fammily in London in October I attended the church I normally go to when there. I was able to attend on two Sundays out of my three weekends.I met and talked with a very nice man both Sundays. He's English, but said he had worked and lived in New York until 9/11. He would very much like ("desperate" was the word he used) to return there because that's where his son lives with his mother (my friend's ex-wife). He'd like to obtain a position in the Church. I offered to send the website for my church here in the U.S. when I returned.I had many emails to look through the weekend I got back, and found one from "J" to say it was nice meeting at church, and that he wanted to let me know his email address and that he looked forward to hearing from me soon. Very nice, and I was a little surprised as we'd exchanged emails that same morning after the service.I did respond about a week and a half later, basically giving him the information and a couple of comments - friendly, but as someone said later, "you didn't say you were looking forward to hearing from him" (I was trying not to be too "forward" and think now he might well have gotten the impression that I'd sent the web address, but didn't particularly care whether I heard from him or not - my counsellor thinks that, too). Its now just over two weeks and I haven't heard anything. I know this is a busy time of year, (I'm busy with lots of things too) and for all I know he could be over here visiting his son - but of course, it could be anything.I've drafted up another email to send which will let him know I thought it was nice meeting, and would enjoy hearing from him, as well as asking some questions and telling him something of activities here at my church to draw him out. (This is turning out longer than I want!My question is this: I'm thinking of putting a "read receipt requested" (I have Verizon email, his is Yahoo) which lets the sender know the person one is emailing has read the message.I have never ever tried this option, and hope it would not come across as too pushy, anxious, whatever. I really would like to use it on this occasion. And if he does not reply after a while, I'll consider it closed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): MESSAGE FOR CARING GUY: I'm the woman who posted this question. It might in fact not be possible to use the "read receipt" option from Verizon (my email) to Yahoo, so that would take care of that. Thank you for your comment on that, Aunty BimBim!Your comments are very insightful and I wished to add that I do visit London twice a year. Presumably the man I wrote about gets to New York sometimes to see his son (I'm in DC). I rather regret that my email to him wasn't really showing my own interest, just because I didn't want to appear too "forward" (sometimes hindsight is 20/20!) I hope he'll be glad to receive the email I intend to send - without "read receipt" and will reply.........The email he sent me after church (C of E) certainly did show interest.......I sometimes do respond to posts here, maybe I should register and stop posting as "anonymous"!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (10 December 2009):
 I would send the email without using the receipt function, and maybe in a few weeks and you dont hear, follow it up with a quick best wishes for Christmas and the coming new year, and if nothing after that let it go.
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