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writes:Long story short my gf has broken up with me and had drunken sex with a guy she barely knew She says sex with him was amazing and he was way "bigger" than me I hate that fact but she says I shouldn't worry that he meant nothing and it only happened because she was drunk an mad at me but yet she nags and nags telling me to get it bigger which makes me mad and think of what she did( no pun intended)Recently this guy has been trying to contact her through her cousins phone it has already been months since she talked to him but he still had her cousins number and tried to reach her. She has already been annoyed as much as I have since this guy has so many friends amoungst our small city either I or she will hear commentsShe talked to the guy once while she was at her cousin's and she tried to tell him to leave her alone but he tried to make it seem like he knew me by calling me by my nickname only friends call me and my gf got mad at that and thought I'm only using her and using this guy to break us up when in fact I hate the guy. I want him out of our lives but he insists on bothering her by trying to contact her She wants to know what she can do to get him to leave him alone she has already told him to but it hasn't seemed to work What can she do to get this guy to leave her alone and how can I prove to her I am not friends with this guy???
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 September 2011):
 She's your ex, with some very deep and creative insults for you. A fairly clear signal that you are not the guy for her. I think at this point it would be a good idea to let her deal with this 'problem' person. She can block the phone, tell her family/cousin/friends etc that his person is on her block list. That is assuming she wanted to cut contact with him. And I don't hear that she is that interested in blocking him.
I think the thing to remember is that you are her ex, not her boyfriend. If campus police are mediating for you, you two do not have a great relationship, okay?
She's got some issues, clearly. I'd let her go.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 September 2011):
 Hun, does it not at all hurt you when she compares your penis to his? Doesn't it damage your self-esteem, to have your girlfriend telling you to get it bigger? In which you really can't. Unless you had a costly surgical operation to lengthen it but there's nothing they can do for the girth.
I'm sorry but if I was a guy and my wonderful girlfriend constantly told me that during sex, I'd show her the door. Please, open up our eyes and dump your horrible, dramatic girlfriend.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (25 September 2011):
First, you need to talk to her about this. You need to let her know that you are both on the same side, and that it is bothering you and you know it is bothering her too. You don't want her to think you aren't on the same side as her.
Once you are both on the same side, you can think of what you both think is best. One option would be to let your cousin know the situation, and get them to call him and tell him she doesn't want any contact from him. Another option is for her to simply not have any contact with him. He can try call, she just doesn't answer. If he texts, she deletes it and doesn't relpy. No response whatsoever. Another opion is for the two of you to set up a phone call with him, where she calls him on speaker phone so you can both listen and talk, and for you to both let him know that you are together and that you don't want her to communicate with her any more.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (25 September 2011):
 Enlighten me please, how on earth can it get "bigger"? Is she crazy and are you out of your mind to even bother being with such a girl?!
She has dug a pit for herself, let her deal with it. Why and how are you concerned with whatever is going on in her life? If she is so bothered about that other guy, let her get a restraining order against him and seek help of her family. You dont have to prove anything to her. She cheated on you and has the audacity to say that you are using that guy against her, and you actually want to prove YOUR innocence! Seriously, grow a backbone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2011): Wow ever thought of yourself as a doormat? Sounds like she is trying to turn the tables w the accusation that you and him are friends. Next time she turns to you for love, tell her to supersize it and leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2011): "She says sex with him was amazing and he was way "bigger" than me"
"yet she nags and nags telling me to get it bigger"
And you need to prove something to her?
Why would you need to prove anything to her?
Your penis is fine, so you don't need to make it larger. But, you do need a different gf.
Is she saying this stuff when she is drinking?
Could she be an alcoholic?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2011): Sorry for the mix up no she did not cheat on me she and I were broken up at the time she got drunk we are back together now but this guy is trying to get with her. And the times he does are a really bad coincidence
I bought her a sexy dress, he starts calling
We got into a fight at school and the campus police were involved and he tries calling
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 September 2011):
What's more important is why are you still with this girl? This girl is a grade A beeyatch. She cheated on you, bragged how big this guy is, and is still comparing his size to yours!!! Being mad at you and drunk is not an excuse to cheat!! I'm sorry but it's not very bright of you to still be with her.
If you are broke up, then what does it matter if this guy is harassing her? That's her problem to deal with not yours. In fact it sounds as if she deserves it with the way she's treating you.
Now, if he tries to contact her through her cousin then why doesn't her cousin tell him to stop calling her...or change her number. Your girlfriend doesn't have to speak to him because it's not her phone. It makes no sense. Instead, I'm willing to bet she's still having relations with this guy and doesn't want to get caught. Just my thoughts.
To answer your question, she can get a restraining order like Marie pointed out. You don't have anything to prove to her. She on the other hand needs to prove she's trustworthy to you.
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