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*hyging3r
writes:ok so some years ago i was dating this guy. He was awesome. We didnt went too far on our relationship just held hands kissed n some cuddling, then he got me at a point where i was so head over hills for him and he tells me he didnt wanted us to continue together. To stop all n we should just be friends :( . I was truly heartstrucken mostly because we never went beyond a dating status which mostly meant we were friends with benefits well something like that never became his official girlfriend. That really shocked me so i just answered "if thats your decision i am going to respect it" so we just disconnected. A few months passed by and he contacts me again apologizing and just being sorry for his action that i didnt deserve. And dumb as i am i said sure we can be friends. It took a while to see each other but we texted each other just usual hi bye. For this past 2 years we have seen each other 3 times but we continue texting. We text anytime, while his working, when hes home, running errands and this past days he is the one that has send the first morning text and we just cant stop texting each other. He is 25 and im 30. Does this mean he stills feels something for me? Because i know i do and he knows it but could he still like me?
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reader, 5hyging3r +, writes (27 September 2011):
5hyging3r is verified as being by the original poster of the question ugh is so hard to let him goooooo!!! But im working on it.. Have not texted him in 3 or 4 days.. Actually he texted me d days ago first ..he just send me his picture ..his picture??? Yes i was llike huh?? Aww he looked so cuteeeee.. Ugh see its hard.. Anyhoo i dont know if im doing right but also joined a networking site.. Have been chatting wit some guys n yesterday stayed up wit this one guy.. N all this guys r starting to contact me :) welll as for now im very careful n just pointing out to them im just looking for friends :) this is all for now..thanks for ur help
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reader, 5hyging3r +, writes (25 September 2011):
5hyging3r is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your wise words ill take it into consideration and surely ill update you on my whereabouts on this situation
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reader, 5hyging3r +, writes (25 September 2011):
5hyging3r is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah it seems tough to face it but you all are right he is just like a texting buddy and nothing more. But surely I need to put things up on the table and ask him straight whats going on .. I might sound so dumb being this old but havent had a boyfriend just dates for some reason guys dont like me im too old fashion girl :(
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reader, PinkRose  +, writes (24 September 2011):
 He's messing with your head and keeping you on a string like Plexi said.............cut him off and move away from this guy
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (24 September 2011):
 Hun, please don't think I trying to be mean but I just want to say it the way it looks to me..........sure there is a chance(very unlikely)that he has any romantic feelings for you. Ihave been through a similar situation and it looks more like he knows you are a nice girls and wants to just play with you and keep you on a string because he is not ready of a real commitment. This guy sounds kind of immature ans selfish. He clearly likes you as a person, is clearly attracted to you otherwise he wouldn't have slept with you................BUT is not ready to commit to you? Be very careful with this guy and do not get all your hopes high or you might just end up disappointed and heartbroken again! You need to find another guy who will treat you with respect and won't play with your head!HUGS
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2011): No, he still doesn't think of you as someone he wants to date. If he did, he would want to see you pretty regularly but he hasn't mentioned it at all. I'd stop texting him because you're getting your hopes up.
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reader, bebe87 +, writes (24 September 2011):
 Sounds like he just likes the texting aspect of it, you keep him company while he runs his days but he doesn’t want anything further from that. Sounds like he is using you to make himself feel wanted and to help him move his day right along. Almost like you are feeling a lonely void of his but it isn’t fair to you. I would say something to why you can’t text anymore and then see if he lets it fade again. Then you know!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 September 2011):
 There's something that you MUST know in order to answer your own question......IF you put out for him, then the who dynamic changes.... Please let us know if that has happened.... or is likely to happen... and, then, we can give you useful advice...
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (24 September 2011):
 If he knows you still have feelings for him, but all he's doing is texting you, then I think he's just messing with your head. If he was going to text you in the first place, then he should've told you what he wanted from the beginning. This has been going on for two years and it looks like he plans to keep it this way without any validation. Either he's seeing someone or he's just too lazy for a commitment and neither of those are okay if he's going to talk to you. So ask him what he wants from you, and if it's not what you want, then I think it's best if you cut communication for good.
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