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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i really need help with this, pleaseeee.i've known this guy almost all my life, years have gone by and we have both definitely grown a lot. He is so attractive and hot, and i am just now starting to notice him. He is a couple of years older then me, and i know his father and brothers very well. my dad and his dad are i guess you can say best friends. I am now 18 years old and he is about 27, so i guess we are almost ten years apart, but i don't see it as a big deal at all. I am although embarrassed that i like him because i know for a fact our parents would definitely mind us being together.I do have bigger problems though. He's known me almost all my life which means that he's seen me as the little girl i once was. Years have definitely gone by and i was wondering how do i get him to see me grown up and as a woman now? how do i flirt and talk to him without seeming like i'm trying too hard?He just got out of a long-term relationship and i just am now single as well, i don't know if it's bad timing or good? What should i do... please helppppp.should i talk to him and try to flirt and see what happens... or is that too weird? Especially to a guy that's known you almost when you were in diapers. Helppppppp.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (25 September 2011):
 by all means flirt, but be aware of when to give up if he appears uninterested. your age difference is not SO bad really, be aware that he is recently out of something long term so he may not be able to connect with you emotionally like you want him to, but flirting causes no harm and at least it will let him know that you like him, so that when he is ready to look for a relationship he will know that you are an option for him
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (25 September 2011):
I think this is a difficult situation. As a boy I had a seven-year age gap with the fat little toddler down the street, who grew up to become a fashion model. Editorial/catwalk rather than catalogue so high-fashion not girl-next-door. When I saw her or her magazine covers I couldn't help laughing to myself because even though she was now taller than I, I thought of her as a well-disguised baby. In fact I still do and she's now in her late 40s and on her second marriage. Nevertheless, this might not be how he'll always view you. You're legally an adult now so all you can do is try. But be mature about it, because in a strange reversal of the male-female dynamic, you have to be careful about frightening HIM off. Don't flirt madly or wear provocative clothing as he may need time getting used to the fact you've grown up. Just chat to him in a sensible fashion, take things easy and see where it may lead.
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