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Archived questions from: December, 2011 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

How to cheer up and forget the past!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4499 days ago

31 December 2011 (F) - Home alone on New Years Eve, am ill and feeling sorry for myself! Fighting the urge to text the ex happy new year, (he's with someone new, not sure if he knows I know) he wanted to be single?? Wtf?? Too much of a coward to say he didn't want me? ...

Should I ask my ex, who is the father of my children, to not date my friends?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4500 days ago

31 December 2011 (F) - My ex of 15years, father to my 2 kids is going to a new years eve party tonight where lots of my friends will be. Is it unreasonable of me to ask him not to get it together with one of my mates, there is one girl in particular, he doesnt really know ...

Why can't I stay angry at my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4500 days ago

31 December 2011 (M) - Dear Cupid, About a year ago I broke up with my girlfriend. We were together for about 1,5 years. The first years everything was fine, but in the last six months all of a sudden she felt the need to live the life of a single female, while ba...

I love my girlfriend but I'm disgusted, jealous and angry about her sexual past with her ex-boyfriends!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4390 days ago

31 December 2011 (M) - My girlfriend is a nice and I really love her a ton and want to spend the rest of my life with her. She's everything I could have ever wanted. She's smart, beautiful, and very kind. But when we first hooked up a friend of mine told me she gave BJs ...

How do I work through this rage I feel towards my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4501 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Hi all, I could do with some advice regarding my situation with my now ex boyfriend. We broke up because he just couldn't stop lying to me and in the end it became out of control and I ended it. Today we got into a row as I once again found ou...

Has my girlfriend deceived me or does the sex with her ex-boyfriend not count?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4498 days ago

30 December 2011 (M) - I am not sure where to start but I do want to document how I feel and explain what has been happening in my relationship. Without going in to too much background detail I want to start with the facts. At the end of March this year my partner walked ...

An ex wife, an Autistic son, a crazy ex girlfriend, and another son-that's my B/f's life. Any thoughts on how best to handle this situation?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4500 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for nearly 2 years. We were talking about marriage..etc. He has been divorced for over 10 years and has a 10 year old Autistic son from his previous marriage. He is a dedicated father and pays ...

I honestly don't know how to date again.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4501 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Ok the thing is that this whole dating thing is all new to me. I was with my ex since I was 19,broke up when I was 25 I'm 27 now and I've been single for 2 years and I've been pretty much scared to date.. I tried going out with this guy like months ...

My Gf still checks her ex's facebook account, should I be worried?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4502 days ago

30 December 2011 (M) - What should I think about my girlfriend checking her xboyfriends facebook page even though she unfriended him and can't see anything but his profile pic which isn't even a picture of him? He was a bit of trouble in our relationship in the begi...

I don't want my ex back - but he's still in my head. Is this normal?

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30 December 2011 (F) - Hello, I'm seeking a bit of advice on dealing with an ex. Me and him were together 5 months, he was my first love and the guy I lost my V to and we were very much in love the time we were together. However, after a very messy break up I did come to ...

I’m just wondering if I should wish my ex a Happy New Year

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4501 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Hiya, Me and my ex were together for a year (my first boyfriend and the one I lost my virginity to) and we broke up the at the beginning of October this year~ it was mutual between us and he called me up to say it~ we had both gone off to differen...

I miss him so much! And he's dating someone else!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4501 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Hey, any advice would be really appreciated. My ex and I broke up about 8 weeks ago. We were friemds/flatmates before deciding to give things a go. We are very different, but we just seemed to click in some way, especially in bed. He is a quiet ...

Is my boyfriend being thoughtless by refusing to change his facebook status?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4500 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Hi, I was having some issues with my bf because of his ex and his friendship and working with her. Anyway he swore to me that although he did really like her, they didn't really have a great relationship, that they didn't have a connection l...

Does he still love his ex? Because he keeps comparing me to her!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4502 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Hey :) I really need your advice. I go out with this lad, he's 21 and I'm 18. We've both been treated badly in the past by exs before and it helped us to get closer. However, theres this one particular ex that he keeps mentioning! She's calle...

Do I have a chance to get him back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4502 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - I was with this guy for 2 years, but he broke up with me after a difficult few months of arguments in September. We had an absolutely fabulous relationship up until the last few months. He got with another girl fairly soon after, but she recently ...

He didn't tell his ex he is TAKEN so she keeps texting him

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4497 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now and we have a great bond. I trust him fully and trully. He is very honest with me and tells me everything about him and his only ex. They have been together for 2 years and so. He thinks that ...

I'm over my ex, so why is this news making me feel so bad?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4502 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - Me and my ex were together for 4 years and broke up 10 months ago, but he's been chasing me since then and told me that the rumours were true. He took this girl out and he told me that it was cos he can't say no, she begged him and she knew he had ...

Do I let go of the one I want the most?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4502 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - 4 years ago I met someone special. We dated for about 3 months or so until just before Christmas when he basically grew apart from me and went quiet and wouldn't discuss what was going on with him. He broke up with me when I dug too deep. Later ...

I want my son to call me 'Daddy' and not his step-dad.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4502 days ago

28 December 2011 (M) - I have been in and out of my sons life now for two years now, not by my choice but by the choice of his mother. She recently let me start seeing him again which I am truely grateful for. But she has a live in boyfriend who my son calls daddy, which ...

I want ex back she said she loved me but 5 days later she's with another guy

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4503 days ago

28 December 2011 (M) - I love my ex to the core...thing is for the past 6 months i have been pestering her to get back to me....she says she cares about me but doesnt want to get back because she thinks i will lie again or hurt her again...she says she feels there is no ...

We don't talk anymore but I still love him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4503 days ago

28 December 2011 (F) - Complicated love affair with a man I no longer have contact. I knew him for a good five years and became one of his tenants. Our relationship was purely professional, yet there was an unspoken attraction on both sides (unless) I read him all wro...

He said that being physically intimate hurts him, please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4504 days ago

28 December 2011 (F) - My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about a year ago, because I may have to move to another country for some years and he cannot go with me. We still hangout sometimes and are very attracted to each other. We kissed and got physically intimate quite ...

I used to date my sister in law...and I think we still want each other

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4480 days ago

28 December 2011 (M) - hi i'm a married man with kids and don't see all my family until we all have a family get together at he weekends at my parents house, which is where i bump into my sister inlaw who was my ex girlfriend briefly at college but now shes married to my ...

I am afraid that I will never love or find someone else :(

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4504 days ago

28 December 2011 (F) - 2 years and 7 months ago I was with my first love and I still love him although he done a few mean things. one and a half years ago I started a new relationship (the first guy and I stayed good friends) I thought he was extremely cute but to be ho...

I want to stop feeling consumed by hatred for my cheating ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4504 days ago

27 December 2011 (M) - how do I get past the hatered I feel for my ex now and is it even really hate? Basically we had been together for about two years and I really really loved her and she said she felt the same and to be fair to her she did alot for me. We ended up ...

My ex circulated racy photos of me on facebook and now he wants to be friends again?! I can't forgive him...what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4485 days ago

27 December 2011 (F) - About the ex: I was 16 years old and he was 18 then. We met online and hit it off pretty well, though he was pretty cautious about our friendship at first. He doesn't trust people easily. Well, for some reason, he started asking me for relatio...

It's been 2 years and I still miss my ex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4504 days ago

27 December 2011 (M) - I've been split with my ex wife for almost two years now. We were together for a long time (decades) and have a child together so we talk/see each other often. I did not want the divorce, but I have tried to move on. I stil think about her and ...

5 years and he left me for someone else. I'm so lost in my emotions!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4504 days ago

27 December 2011 (F) - Hello all and thanks in advance for your feedback. This past September 25th i was told by my ex that he was leaving me for another female that he met at work and had just knew for a few weeks. Him and i were together over 5yrs. He told me the d...

I'm really confused. Do I stay with my BF or go to this other guy? And how will it affects the kids?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4504 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - Need advice please. I have been with the father of my kids for six years now. We have had our up and downs. We have even split up a few times and got back together within days. About 1 1/2 years ago I started my job unknowing at the time that this...

How do I completely cut my ex out of my life? He keeps writing to me as if there is nothing wrong. He's put me off Online dating forever

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4501 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - I "dated" this guy for a year before we broke up. We met online and during that year I never fully trusted him. I always felt like something was wrong or off in some way, that he wasn't telling me everything. I mean, I never met his friends, I don't ...

His Mom tells lies about me. We have a baby girl. Should I wait until he wants to come back to me? Or contact him first?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4505 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - Just had a huge fight with my boyfriend, his mom and sister. He was drunk and was arguing with my mom and me....he was saying all kinds of things to us and well my mom was screaming things back so it turned out to be a huge fight! We ended up ...

My Bf thought I was a virgin, because I lied. But someone sent a pix to him disproving that. How do I fix this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4503 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - Please don't judge me, I know what I did was wrong. But when I meet my current boyfriend I couldn't believe having found such a lovely guy. Having been used by guys in the past, my previous relationship were just sex. No love at all. But this guy ...

Why has ex on facebook, 'renewed' his wall visibility?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4504 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - Any advice to me, who is single, and is NEVER getting in a relationship again, EVER EVER NEVER AGAIN...EVER, as to a facebook short term, but last ex, who has just posted he's in a relationship? (After 'appearing' to have 'hidden' his wall for the ...

My feelings for my ex just won't die!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4505 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - me and my ex were together for 2 years, he left me 2 months ago. he was a little emotionally abusive, would joke about me being fat, pregnant. i used to be somewhat anorexic took me 5 years to put on weight, from a size 8 to 12. i found these ...

How to be friends with an ex???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4504 days ago

25 December 2011 (F) - My ex and I just broke up a month ago and I'm ready to take the next step to be friends..how do I do that?i want to get to know him more..we only got to know eachother or two-three weeks and things got too fast!..but we both don't want to be ...

Confused about ex girlfriend want her back

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4505 days ago

25 December 2011 (M) - me and my girlfriend were in a long distance relationship..she had an abusive ex that she would always bring up as well and being beaten as a child by her father. she also has skin cancer. so it was very rocky at times and her mood swings were the ...

Boyfriend lies about his past with ex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4506 days ago

25 December 2011 (F) - i have been dating my current and first boyfriend for half a year now. everything has been going well except for several lies and behaviors surrounding the issue of his only ex-girlfriend who he dated for 7 years (albeit 5 years of that was long ...

How do I get over the depression that sleeping with my ex has caused?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4506 days ago

24 December 2011 (F) - I need to know how I can get over my ex and get out of the depression that he has put me in. We dated for over five years and broke up for good a year ago. We've slept once since then, and then again last night. He has really messed a lot of thing...

Boyfriend doesn't want to talk to me about problems because it reminds him of his ex

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4508 days ago

23 December 2011 (F) - Hi Aunts, I was talking to my boyfriend of 2 and a bit years about a problem I was having with my Dad. He said he didn't want to talk about it, and it took me a while to work out why. First I thought it was something I had done, but I managed to...

My b/f's ex calls every month to remind his to pay his support and its stressing us out!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4507 days ago

23 December 2011 (F) - My boyfriend pays his child maintenance on the first of every month and he has never defaulted, pays the full amount plus extras, but the ex phones him first thing in the morning every single first day of the month, every month without fail to tell ...

Do I still have feelings for my ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4508 days ago

23 December 2011 (F) - I stopped talking to my ex around August of this year. We had broken up months before that though. I fell hard for that boy, I still find myself thinking of him once in a while. I cried too many nights after I finally cut him out of my life. I don't ...

He contacts me to cheat on his girlfriend (while he's drunk) and when I ask for an explanation, he won't give one!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4508 days ago

22 December 2011 (F) - Okay.. So i had a thing with this boy, a while ago, but it ended. Now everytime he has a girlfriend or things end with his latest one he contacts me again, and its hard cause i still have feelings for him. Anyway he recently contacted me (drunk) ...

I would give up the guy I'm seeing for my ex... but what does he want?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4509 days ago

22 December 2011 (F) - Hey guys i need some advice... ive been with my current partner for the last 7 months and he is amazing... hes so kind, lovely, caring everything i always thought i wanted in a man, but i realise that there is something as to nice... however after ...

How do I resolve that my ex is on my mind and we talk daily but I also like this guy at work? I think I love both.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4508 days ago

22 December 2011 (F) - I think I am in love with 2 people. S and M. What should I do? S is my ex-partner of nearly 6 years. We split up 2 months ago and it was quite a shock to me. We had a very good relationship and spent alot of time together. S said he was unsure wh...

I was sneaky about meeting up with an ex, but it was only as friends and now I don't know what my boyfriend suspects!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4509 days ago

22 December 2011 (F) - Is hanging out with an ex a terrible deed? this is an ex of mine from 4.5 years ago, the one prior to my current boyfriend of 4 years. It wasn't even really a relatonship, it was more fwb. but it ended because i found myself developing feelings ...

We broke up because she is a go-getter and I wasnt figuring my career out quick enough...but now I want her back, how do I show her things will be different this time?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 December 2011 (M) - I think the main reason was my wavering mind about my career, and the pace at which I was going in trying to figure things out - more slowly than her. She's a real go getter, and she really wanted me to match her pace, which I wanted to as well, but ...

Social outings, my boyfriend, and his ex

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4495 days ago

22 December 2011 (F) - Hi Hope u can help as I just need advice as I am in a very new situation! My fella and I have been together nearly 6 months. He loves me as I do him. However, he has 2 wonderful children (who I haven't met yet) and I understand that he has reg...

My b/f was messing around with his ex for much longer than what he led me to believe. Should I let it go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4510 days ago

21 December 2011 (F) - I met my boyfriend in March 2011 and at the time he said he had broken up with his ex in April 2010. We have dated ever since (about 9 months). This ex did cause some problems with us because he was letting her live in his parents' rental because ...

I turned down my ex because I have feelings for my best friend, but I don't plan on telling my best friend, so I'm wondering if I made the right decision.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4510 days ago

21 December 2011 (F) - I've been talking to my ex recently, and he asked me if I want to get back together. I told him that I like someone else and that we shouldn't be together if I can't have feelings only for him. I'm in love with my best friend, but I don't plan on ...

Birthday call from my ex (part 2). Is his reason more obvious?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4510 days ago

21 December 2011 (F) - Basically, me and my ex remained friends after we broke up. I wasn't so inclined with the idea so much and right now, I completely regret it. I don't understand half of the things he says or whether if he actually means it. Last night we were ta...