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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

He's playing with my head. How can I get over this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Once i started back to the life ,back on the track , he got back to me .....why ? i am not going to finish from this story or what ? he broke my heart 3 months ago , he said awful things about me, trashed my reputation he was the happiest...

Should I have him visit to see how he feels?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I dated TJ during the summer. We had a good relationship and we had a lot of fun together. I was going away to school so I decided to end things. After Almost two monthes of guys here I realized that they just want to hook up and I'm not ok with ...

My ex is a jerk but I still want him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - My ex is a jerk but I sitll want him. Last night he took me to a pub, because he was meeting a guy over there. I told him he could go alone, 'cause I wasn't in the mood for going out. But he begged, so we went. It was all ok, but suddenly he ...

Is this relationship one-sided?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 20 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend since June and even from the begining she told me she still had feelings for her ex. But she and I pushed foward and wanted to give our relationship a try so we did. What happened was she accidently got pregenant and ...

Should I accept my boyfriend's continued friendship with his ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi, My boyfriend is currently friends with his ex. However, they were NOT friends when we started dating. They dated for 2 or so years, and that was a couple years ago. But when our relationship really started to advance, a few months in, she ...

Why is he so unsure about what he wants in life yet IS so sure he doesn't want to be with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - My ex-boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me about two months ago. The reason we broke up was because he lost his feelings for me. Recently we had a conversation where he said we can't be together if our goals/ wants are different. So i asked him ...

Scared of my virginity, tempted to give it to an ex.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - My ex is in town and i'm tempted to lose my virginity to him ... i over analysed the importance of it before and even now have slight fear of not being a virgin forever but at the same time have fear of being a virgin forever. I trust my ex and i ...

My obsession of my b/f's ex has turned into depression, please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (?) - I am glad I have found this site.I have been obsessed with my bf's ex ever since we first started going out. We have been together 10 months now and he moved in with me quickly.I love him very much.This week I have deleted my facebook to stop myself ...

Help! I left a 31-year relationship with a woman I could 100% trust, for a relationship that I don't think I can ever trust!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - hi all this is a long one so here we go,i meet this girl about 16 months ago by the way im 48 shes 45 around the same time i left my wife now ex-my girlfriend isn't exactly the honest type found out she was seeing here old boyfriend behind my back ...

Should I tell him what happened? I'm leaning towards no.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of a year and I broke up over a month ago and at first we were still sleeping together until I told him it would end up hurting me and we needed to stop. He had been really mean and unappreciative of me during the relationship and he ...

Does he still like me, miss me or maybe want me back if he was sticking around?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hello everyone I came on here in hope for some advice and maybe help me understand what's going on. 2 years ago me and my ex broke up. It was a pretty good relationship for a while then it all went bad and we had the worst breakup where we didn't ...

Any ideas on what I could say to meet up with my ex again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - About 3 years ago now, me and my ex-boyfriend split up when he went to College 2 1/2 hours away from where we live.. (his decision to split up not mine) after going out for around 7 months. He was my first love, so I did fall hard for him at the ...

Regaining trust in yourself...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - hmm ok like over a year ago i had a relapse with my ex bf, he came over to my house nobody was home... we didnt have sex he just fingered me a little.. and we made out... my uncle came home he didnt catch us in the act but i knew he was disappointed ...

Why do I always see my ex in my dreams?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I always see my ex in my dreams and I do not know why. Apparently he was holding me tight close to him and then we started kissing. I really want to stop dreaming about him since it is always delaying me from moving on completely with my life.. do ...

How would you act and behave to your ex that dumped you?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - If it were you, how would treat an ex that yea was good and bad to you, not necessarily the best, you made your own mistakes but was very cold to you which eventually led to breaking up with you after trying so hard to mend things. You finally ...

I love my ex to death but she has moved on!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - my ex and i dated for 2 years we broke up bout 3 months and she got a new boyfriend. i wana be with her so bad im willing to do anything. i just dont see how she can treat me like im nothing to her and ignores me and tries to avoid me after 2 ...

She thinks her ex is innocent and I've had enough!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 17 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Heya, I dont really want to be in this position, but: I am in two minds about my GF speaking to her ex, I've never liked it, and its been hard work for me to let them talk and see each other, they broke up just under a year ago, she says she mis...

How can I get her to come back to me...?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 22 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Me and my ex went out for 2 years, we broke up about 3 months ago and in that 2 years i hurt her bad but i told her it would never happen again and it didnt she hurt me also. about a month and a half ago she got another boyfriend i wanna get back ...

Help me with my ex. Should I send her a letter or Just wait to see if she ever call me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - In July 10, 2009 my ex break up with me after more than 2 years of living together in a very good and lovely relation. She was always talking about getting married and has kids; we were even planning of buying a house together. Even 10 days before ...

My girlfriend is accusing me of being unfaithful when I've done nothing wrong...How many accusations should I put up with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Hi everyone, I've been dating a girl for a little over a month now. She has never been in anything you could call a "serious relationship" before, so the whole thing is new to her. She has been with some nasty guys in the past, so she has some tru...

He is always bringing up his former crush in front of me, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - so... im 15. My boyfriend and I love each other a lot. but my problem is he had a huge crush on this girl before me - for about a year he was obsessed with her - she liked him too, but wasnt ready to date. so, my boyfriend claims hes over her, and ...

Should I be able to discuss difficult issues with my gf without the fear of massive arguments?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I would be greatful of your advice. My gf and I have been together for nearly 4 years and have known each other well as close friends for 8 years. I am a communicator and value talking about problems and then negotiating a resolution or agreeing ...

Are these signs that my ex wants me back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Does my ex want me back? These are the signs. - After me telling him i didnt wanna talk to him for the rest of my life because he didnt want a relationship, he sent me an email apologising and telling me he wanted us to be in good terms. - I asked...

My ex is tormenting me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I broke up with my ex because he was paranoid, he's extremely clingy, and he craves sex all the time. He also cheated on me in the past and thats why I broke it off as well. He was in love with me but I lost my love for him completely, so it was ...

Will he leave his ex alone for good if we get back together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 22 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Ive been seeing this guy who lives an hour and a half away from me. We really conected and Ive been seeing him for about 5 months at this point. He told me he had an ex that he has a 2 year old daughter with and they were no longer together. But one ...

Who do I chose? He divorced his wife to make me his.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - please help..to make this story short here it goes..i had a relationship with a married man...we parted went our seperate ways painfully he broke it off...he said that i deserved better and that if he got divorced he would come back to me because he ...

Should I end it if he doesn't trust me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - please help me, i'm 16 and have been going with my boyfriend for 1year and 9months, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i really regret this and would never be unfaithful to him, however, my boyfriend has trouble ...

How do I keep myself from contacting him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Oh help me! He is at it again. How do I keep myself from any contact with him - I think I need to be hospitalized! He is texting me again this morning. About what they are doing and their jobs etc. I think it is a desperate attempt from him ...

Why does my ex argue with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i agreed to just be friends - we talk to each other a lot, but whatever i say he always argues about it, even if it's just my own opinion, and i dont know why?...

Talking with the ex after you're over them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Its been almost a year since we broke up and since then we've remained as awkward friends...as in, we'd talk once in a while about hows things, what we've been up to, and sometimes he'd touch the more sensitive topics and the conversation would get ...

What is up with this guy? Please help

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I went on a date with my ex yesterday and I'm confused right now. He asked me on monday if I would be willing to try again and I just said we have a lot of things to work out right now. He also made it really clear that he wanted me back and that he ...

Who should I believe, my boyfriend or his ex wife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriends ex wife told me that she and my bf had sex since weve been together. When I confronted him about it he said he almost had sex with her one time when she tried to seduce him. He said he stopped himself. However, months later she said ...

I like him and he doesn't know!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I need major help. My bf dumped me 2 months ago for someone else after 3 years of relationship. I was hurt very badly, but tried to stay friends. I thought it would be very hard to fall in love again, but I hated being lonely. I’m an extremely...

My boyfriend cheated with me on his ex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend cheated on me with his ex wife 2 or 3 times that I know of. He has kids with her and sometimes talks to her 4 to 5 times a day, but not when I'm around. I told him that if he has nothing to hide he would talk to her in front of me. She ...

Telling me about a BJ he received at work, is he trying to make me jealous?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Ok here it goes, and sorry if this is long. Last year i dated this guy for 3months (i new him before this and i fell in love with him). Anyways I dumped him on new year's. I felt really bad about doing it and i never got over him for the longe...

He said he can't trust me... what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - I recently just broke up with my boyfriend. We were dating for a year and a half and were very serious we even moved to another state together FL. We had a lot of trust issues in our relationship. In the beginning of our relationship we were madly ...

My girl friend dated my best friend before me and I find this difficult

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have dated for about 5 months now and I love her but she dated my best friend just before me and her. They dated for about 2 months. She told me it was not a big deal at all and it was not serious but if it was not a big deal I ...

Should I just leave him alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - After three years my Ex and I broke up. The reason was because he is an alcoholic and the disease became progressively worse. He sent me a text that stated that he must remain distant from me because every time he thinks of me and how he failed me ...

In love with the father of my child! Could it be real even if I haven't seen him in a year?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 24 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - Do you believe in love at first sight,, well i did and it was with my ex who i was with for almost 2 and ahalf years. when we first got together i ended up moving in with him and his parents. moved out and ended up 8 months down the road i was ...

Is this complete rubbish or is he being honest?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i broke up and have recently got back together ..he told me durin this time apart he had no contact with other women because he only wanted me which was one of the reasons i took him back...then he opened up his facebook account in ...

It hurts that I can put away my problems to be there for him and he can't even attempt to do the same

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been friends for six years and together for a year and a half. Our relationship has always been fiesty, we're very different people with very different approaches to relationships yet we seem to fit each other perfectly. He's ...

Did he appreciate my honesty and my regard for his health?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 25 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - This is a question for men, but ladies feel free to answer too especially if you had a similar experience. How would you guys react to a woman you previously dated/ seeing casually informing you after a month or so of breaking up/ parting ways (es...

What should I do if something happens between us?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 17 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - I feel so weird talking about this. Here's the back story: My ex (we'll call him seymour)and I were best friends. We started dating when I was a senior in high school and he was still a junior. I fell for him and well let's just say it didn't e...

What should I say to get him to really understand?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - my fiance is sneaking and talking to his ex behind my back. i've confronted him about it but he still does it anyways. what should i do to get him to understand how much this bothers me?...

Will she forgive me and date me again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My ex gf had sex with another guy while we were dating. When I found out I called her a whore. I was hurt bad. I felt like I was justified at the time for callin her that but now I know I wasn't. We havn't talked in almost a month. I want her back. ...

What should I say when I write him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - Hey there we broke up 3 month ago ,, i cant get over him , he already did i moved in my life , but i still love him and keep thinking of him any way i have a lot of spams on my e-mail and i receive a lot of junk mail ,, so he got e-mail fr...

My girlfriend had a rebound during a short breakup now wants me back.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My relationship lasted for 1 year then I broke up with her. I apologized within 24 hours and wanted her back but she said no she needed more time to think about getting back together. We got back together 1 month later. I asked her if she did anyt...

What is worse - being blocked or deleted from MSN?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - What is worse - getting deleted or blocked from MSN? My ex deleted me from MSN because I was getting on her nerves but has not blocked me but I know we are still friends because we had an argument but forgave each other and she is giving me one last ...

What do I do to get it into his head that I do not want to get into a relationship with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - theres this guy, call him David, i had got to know him during this camp thing from our school which was for 11 days in june last year. we had got pretty close and after we got back, he asked me out sometime near end of august. after eight days i had ...

Does she think she is not worthy of me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - my ex gf cheated on me and then broke up with me the next day. She didnt tell me til about a month later and said that was the reason she broke up with me. She said she felt guilty. I forgave her and we remained friends. We even discussed hangin out ...