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Archived questions from: August, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

2 years with boyfriend but still think of my ex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5352 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I moved here a 3 years ago and left back in my country a guy that I had been dating for almost a year. He loved me alot, and now I went back to colombia and saw him again. I had always kept in touch with him, even though we broke up. He has a ...

I don't see a future for me and my now ex boyfriend... so how do I stop loving him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5352 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I split with my ex 6 months ago, after 4 years together- for all the right reasons, nothing in common, hes very childish, doesnt make me feel happy, he prefers time with his friends drinking than me- he is sort of like peter pan, lovable but ...

Can someone tell me the reason behind my ex's behaviour??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5352 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I am sooo confused:( My boyfriend and I broke up last month and I have been in bits. I really really love him and it hurts so much not being with him. The break up was his decision and I definitely played my part in the ending of the relationship by ...

Her past has been eating me inside as my mind can't accept it, please advise.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5348 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I am a 45 years old and married for 8 years. My wife told me about her past affair when we were dating. She also told me that she is not a virgin. When I met her she was not that interested in me and after my persistence she started to get involve ...

We broke up because her mom doesn't give her much freedom... is there any way of getting her back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5352 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I wanna knw wat can i do to get back wit my ex? Its cause the reason she broke up wit me is cause of her mom. She would barley let her go out and we would barley see each other.But her mom said that she would have to meet me in person to see if i ...

How can I tell what she feels?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5352 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I wanna knw if my ex still loves me like she says she does? The reason she broke up wit me is cause of her mom. She barley let her go out and we barley saw each other. So my ex said its better if we just be frnds. We were goin out for 3 months and ...

I dumped him but am having second thoughts -- should I contact him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I met a really nice guy and we 'dated' for about two weeks. He asked me out each time, paid for all dates, was a gentleman. In the two weeks I knew him all we ever did was kiss lightly, no make out, no nothing else, he didn't push my boundaries at ...

Should I tell him myself, or just hope that no one else does?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5353 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Please help me, I need some piece of mind. Let me explain... in February, I lost a baby, which devastated me and my ex, and although I have two children from a previous relationship, this baby was my ex’s first, so I cannot comprehend the guilt I ...

Is he serious about "just friends" or do we still have a shot?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5352 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Okay so I was seeing this guy for about a month. He persued hot and heavy. Everything was going along fine until an ex hacked into my email and internet accounts. I had to fess up to the new guy about this "other" guy. It seemed to really freak him ...

Someone told me my boyfriend is having a gay affair and I think its true!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5352 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - My mate and I been together for five years. We were both virgins starting out in our realtionship. Within these five years I have yet to experince an orgasm. Well recently I received a email from a guy claiming him and my boyfriend have been hav...

Has my cheating ex changed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5352 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Has my cheating ex changed? I was with my ex Sam for 10 years, we lived together for 7 and had two children together. The problems started right from the beginning when he cheated on me when i was pregnant with my first child. He told me when he ...

I'm worried that my boyfriend will meet up with his ex girlfriend when he flies over to his home country! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend we been together for 6 months and we are madly in love. we both have different culture and religion. but we both understand each other well. soon his going back to his country to see his family and im worried if we meets up with ...

Me and my girlfriend recently broke up, and I want her back, but I don't know how she feels. What do you think?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5334 days ago

30 August 2009 (M) - Hi guys. (Plz forgive my poor english) My girlfriend has recently broken up our 3 yr old relation. I really do love her and want her back in my life. Here's what has happened in brief- Last few months time was a patchy time in our relationsh...

Do you think I was TOO harsh with my ex? Should I apologise?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5334 days ago

30 August 2009 (?) - It's me again, with the ex problem. Okay so I bought the Magic of Making up, and the guy who wrote it says that if I want to get back together with my ex I need to not have any contact with him for a month and write him a letter telling him these ...

What does it mean when your ex wants to sleep with you still, even though he has a new girlfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - What does it mean when ur ex wants to shag u and always takes the piss and speaks to u still on the phone? Mates say that there is still something there between us but im not so sure he has a new girlfriend now Any advice sammie. xxxxx...

Should I have broken up with him? And should I try and get back with him now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - I had been dating him for 3 months, not that long for many people, but it is for me. I have never been dumped before, why? Because in all truth I'm afraid of getting attached and suddenly finding myself needing him every second, but at the same time ...

Should I leave my ex a message to let him know I'm still thinking of him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - i was with someone for over 3 years...rather than rehash all the tiny things that made me insecure, jealous, just didn't feel right etc...i can admit i was wrong on some of those things and reacted too jealous at times and should have been more ...

If he is sent to prison, should I go and visit him? I still love him and feel bad about all of this...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - hi i have just won a criminal court case, against my ex for stealing fraud and driving offences whilst banned. he was an alcoholic, he pleaed guilty to all 5 charges against me. at first he tried to blame my by pleading not guilty, but come...

She cut contact with me because she thinks the distance is too much. How can I get her back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5352 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - ok so here we go. I've a rough life. im not gonna get too much into it but in short I've been thru it all when it comes to relationships, and I havnt been in one in years ever since my ex died. so I met this girl in the most unlikely of places. over ...

It seems as though my boyfriend is falling for his ex again. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - Can someone help me with my trust issues? Or just .. At all? My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year. His ex-girlfriend has been adamant about staying friends but earlier in our relationship, he told me he wanted nothing to do wi...

It's been 12 years, I still love and want my ex boyfriend and still regret breaking up with him. How can I make peace with myself?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5346 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - I was in love with a boyfriend 12 years ago, we dated for 6 years and were best friends. He was lovely, caring, everything I wanted in a life partner. However, I was young and naive and thought that the beginnings of a relationship (when it's ...

Why does he push me away but seem interested in our previous relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5309 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - *sorry if your replied to me beore*Ive written before but it seems my story never ends and he's hard to fig out.Im summin it up, so u know my deal.My ex and I broke up almost 2 mo ago.He wanted 2 see/talk to me daily.Had me meet the fam/friends ...

He has lied and cheated..and yet can be so good to me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5352 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my fiance for about 9 months. I am a 22 year old college student and he is a 26 year old with a job, never went to college. This relationship has had a lot of problems, let me just say that to start with. When we got together, we ...

My gal says she has lost the spark ... and is now in love with another guy...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5310 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - Hey... well I was in an intense relationship with a gal...with both of us in love with each other...she used to call me her soul mate...and she was the same for me... It was a spiritual connection for both of us and we both involved emotionally...

I haven't contacted him for nearly a year, but I'm still in love with him! Should I make contact?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - i was with someone for over 3 years...rather than rehash all the tiny things that made me insecure, jealous, just didn't feel right etc...i can admit i was wrong on some of those things and reacted too jealous at times and should have been more ...

How do I get over an abusive relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5352 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - Hello. First off let me thank you for even viewing this question. I was in an emotionally [and occasionally physically] abusive relationship with a guy for 18 months. It was my first relationship. I finally gained the courage to leave in J...

What does it mean when our eyes get 'misty'?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5355 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - In the past I some times looked really close at the eyes (more precisely, the irises) of my former girlfriends and I felt my eyes going sort of "misty" and almost immediately their eyes did the same. What causes this and what does it signify? T...

We broke up, still see each other every day as friends; she says she just doesn't want sex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - Hey, Well me and my girlfriend broke up about 1 month ago. More so to take a step back. We still see each other every day (live 200 M from each other), still love each other, and still loyal with each other (as in not interetsted in other people)...

What can I do to make her come back??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5351 days ago

28 August 2009 (?) - My girlfriend of over a year recently broke up with me. She is 17, i'm 19. She said she wants to be single and date around and doesn't want to be tied down to one person right now, which I understand seeing how we are both young. I love her to death ...

She didn't tell me her ex is drunk-dialing -- am I making a big deal over nothing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - Is it your responsibility to tell your significant other if an ex is attempting contact with you? I have been living with my girlfriend of 2 years for about 1 year now. her boyfriend prior to me broke up with her about 5 months before we starte...

Should I be patient, waiting for her to change her mind, or should I just move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - My ex girlfriend of a year broke up with me about a month and a half ago. We were great together and had a lot in common. It wasn't a bad breakup and she said that she needed time to work on herself and I needed the same. About two weeks after ...

I'm now with someone who I could spend the rest of my life with, so why do I keep thinking about my ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5353 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - right, well i broke up with my ex 3 years ago and during that time ive got with someone who i believe i could be with for the rest of my life, who i love with all my heart like ive never loved anyone before. but for some reason my ex still both...

Am I wrong in thinking that my boyfriend shouldn't be hanging out with his ex, even if it is with his kids?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - Am I wrong that my boyfriend is spending time with his ex wife and sons? I think he should be doing things with his sons only not including his ex wife?????...

Why am I so consumed with jealousy 2 years after we broke up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5353 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - I am very confused, partly because I don't know where the problem actually lies. I broke up with my girlfriend of three years after drunkenly cheating on her- the only time I had done so. I didn't tell her this, instead saying that I wanted ti...

What are your stories on getting revenge on a cheating ex?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5012 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - I would like to hear some revenge stories for a cheating ex and the affair partner... I promise I am not planning on pursuing anything... just want to live vicariously through your story. So what is your best revenge story?...

His ex is still splattered all over his Facebook page, is this nornal?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - I'm seeing this new guy. It's early, but he seems pretty great, and sort of weirdly crazy about me. Which is nice. Here's the thing about the new guy. He added me as a facebook friend a few days ago, so of course I checked out his profile. We...

We're back together, but he goes to school with an old fling, will I get hurt again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5356 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for two and half years and everything was great until about a year ago when he (pretty much) out of the blue decided that he was to young to be in such a committed relationship and wasnt sure about us at the moment. ...

Not happy with my b/f's action and now I'm seeing my ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - I've been dating a guy i work with for almost a year, we both have 2 jobs and the time we spend together is mostly late at night when he comes over to sleep. I've been bothered for a while about him having a lot of female co-workers numbers and the ...

She's filed spousal support papers, does anyone know what could happen?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - Ok here it goes my bf is getting divorced and the papers have been filed. She did not contest the papers now she has served him with spousel support papers. Does any one know what can happen? This is a never endidng nightmare. It's adding stress to ...

Is she really that over me? I'm so hurt.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - Im in this bad situation and i feel like crap. I have been with this woman for 3 years and now it ended. I cant seem to get over her. She decided to cut me off and out of her life. She says she is doing much better and feels "wonderful" and "great", ...

If I go help my ex, there'll be no going back to my current love!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - I am currently in a relationship with a man, living together. The problem comes in that my ex girlfriend needs to leave her current boyfriend (he's abusive and they have a child, he's even made the child cry.) And I love her, as much, if not more ...

I have this weird situation with my ex-boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5355 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - Sorry-it’s a bit of a long story. It started 3 years ago-me and my boyfriend had a physical fight and I had bruises, a few days after that I started seeing him in places he shouldn’t have been-like near my mum's when I never took him there I kept ...

My new partner can't understand why I let my ex see our daughter when he gives me no support

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - I'm in need of advice. I've been separated from my ex 3years now and I have a daughter by him. Now I am in a relationship with a man who can't understand why I let my daughters father see her when he gives me no money. He does not want me talking to ...

I love her, she doesn't love me, I'm desperate!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5351 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - She was my girl friend about 4 years back and now my very good friend. I love her more than words can say but I'm thinking of how 2 open up to her. I feel like she loves me but I don't want to tel her cos I don't want to lose her as my friend. ...

I hooked up with former porn star and now my ex wants me back, and I can't tell him what I did

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years, we were high school sweethearts, and after our first year of college decided to give it a break. After 2 weeks of being sad and lonely my friend and I decided to go out and party a bit and let ...

We've been broken up for a year, remained friends but I'm still in love with her. How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - hi, i would appreciate anyone's guidance here, it’s very much needed! ive been broken up with my ex for about a year now, shes 19 and im 20. weve remained really close friends ( after we had some space ) ever since and my problem is that i still ...

How should I feel about my girlfriend constantly talking to her ex-husband?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - I have been with this woman for 6 1/2 mths. we seem to get along about everything. she moved to my city to get away from her ex and start a new life. when we found each other we instantly clicked.we have been living together for a while ...

Really think my ex may be the one: how should I approach him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - I dated a man for five months and things were going great. He had a physical problem that got in the way of having sex and we broke up due to that. He told me it was due to chemistry, but I tend to differ. We have been broken up for three months ...

Being stalked by my ex's new girlfriend: what's the right way to deal with this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - She wants to know everything about me. Where I stay, what kind of car I drive, where I work. She passes by every chance she gets to see if she can see me. She's my ex boyfriend's girlfriend. Why is she going through all this trouble. If she has him ...

Does he want me back, or was he just horny?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - I broke up with my ex month ago We still living together in our place , I tried to get back to him twice, but he rejected me, and I felt my self so cheap, and I forgot about him totally and started focusing on my life and try to enjoy it ...