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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

I'm 15 and don't know why I crave the attachments

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - My most recent ex boyfriend and I, started dating in November, we broke up the first week of Feb, but we had an on and off relationship into the middle of April. Since we OFFICIALLY called it quits, I have totally felt like I have moved on, but no...

Still in love with my ex! Could he still love me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 167 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend. He was my first high school boyfriend, my first homecoming date, and my first "love." We dated from October 13, 2008 to January 18 or 19, 2009. 3 months and 5/6 days. He was the first one to say, "I lov...

She slept with my guy years ago and now wants to be my friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 168 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Okay, here goes..I have been with my boyfriend for almost 9 years. Three years ago we broke up for about 3 weeks..we were fighting a lot! He moved in with a friend and during this break up he slept with another girl, a girl we knew mutually (she is ...

Chosing between 2 guys. How do you do it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I dated a guys for 2 years he wasn't able to commit to me (wasn't ready to move in with me or get married). We broke up because I couldn't handle that anymore. After the break up I ran into an old friend from highschool and we started talking. He ...

They just left me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - recently single and i slept with my ex ex boyfriend. he said that i will only ever be the only girl he wants because it just feels right when im near. it was a one night thing and we both agreed on that as he wanted so badly to have me i said as ...

We broke up, I got over him, and now I have to do it all over again!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm writing this after a terrible night. I was out with my ex-boyfriend last night and needless to say we both had a few drinks. I said something, he got angry and pushed me, then kicked me in the knee to the sidewalk. He kept walking to ...

How do you get over someone who has totaly crushed you?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - How do u get over someone who has absoluelty crushed you. I hate my ex 4 what hes done to me. He mentally abused me and made me paranoid about things and myself. And yet i worry what hes doing. Find myself thinking bout him and what hes doing now ...

Want to try something new, ex-bf won't let me go though

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 29 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Ive been broken up with my ex of 2.5yrs for nearly a month. He was verbally abusive but called it "jokes", would make "joking" threats but never follow thru, and the last month of our relationship he had mssged 4 other girls including his ex that ...

Still like my ex, what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 23 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Well i have this problem...i still love my ex boyfriend! He was my first love i have had and i dont know what to do! He goes out with all of these differnet girls to make me jealous and im breaking down! Teh first time we broke up was just out of ...

I think his new girlfriend needs to know what he did with me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hello all Ok i have a bit of a problam hear, anyway it involves an ex and we split october last year but have always remained friends,anyway hes now got this new gf whos 5 weeks pregnent with his baby, My problam is that monday just gone he took...

I want my ex to come back to me on his own terms

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 28 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - how do you try and get an ex boyfriend to have feelings for you again? like make him want to be with you again etc just as me and my bf have recently split (2 months ago) and i want him back i don't want to talk to him about it though, i would...

Am I controlling and difficult to live with?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

30 May 2009 (M) - Am I controlling? I have already asked one basic question about my relationship and have had some good responses that have been helpful. I want to ask something more specific now on the subject of control. I want to know if you out there feel tha...

Dreaming of my past love.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

30 May 2009 (?) - Ok, I'm feeling alittle guilty about this as I've been married for 20 years and have two teenage childreen. I've been daydreaming ALOT about my ex lover! I haven't seen him for 25 years and I find myself so curious on what he looks like now and ...

Who to choose?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I was with my ex for four months and we broke up yesterday coz he said he'd never loved me and he was doing it to spite this over guy and he treated me like crap, well anyway i went on msn and on my personal message i put im single again ;) well ...

Is he being friendly? Wants me back?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 174 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I received a message from my ex boyfriend saying he was watching a film afew days ago and it made him think about me.he also asked me if i remembered when we watched it at my house,and said we were " pre-occuppied " with other things when it was on ...

Can't forget his ex, even though we are married!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I'm 23 and my husband is 21. We have been together for a few years, and been married for about 7 months. At first, I was treated second best to his ex, who constantly tried to break us up and cause trouble between us... After almost calling o...

How can I prove that I want to be with him and not my ex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I got into an agruement just because I told him I still love my ex. We have been together for 3 months, but when I told him he broke up with me. Just 2 months ago he kissed a girl behind my back and he claimed she was a friend and I ...

HELP! Getting married in 4 months... But I still think about my first love!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I definitely need some guidance and advice! My first love from when i was 13 we were on and off until 3 years ago when I met my fiance (I am now 23). We always talked secretly throughout the years when we were with other people, or when he had a...

I'm not happy with his past and thinking of leaving

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Do i stay with my boyfriend or leave. my partner is 43 and im 24 and we have just had our first baby together. he has been married before and has 2 children with his ex wife and he also has another child with another women. This women keeps comi...

My boyfriend's ex wont allow me around their daughter

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend for 2yrs this August, I am 29yrs old and he is 33yrs old. My boyf has an 11yr old daughter and I have a 10yr old daughter. My boyfriend ex wont allow me around their daughter. She allowed it on NY and NYDay but said ...

Husband's ex left him a broken man, how do I move on from this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Hello I really hope you guys can help. I have been with my husband for 2 years. But I am having trouble accepting his past. He was deeply in love with his ex girlfriend for several years and he was left a broken man when they broke up....

How can I stop this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - I have an ex from over 16 months ago, who I found was seeing someone else from where we work. I walked away no trouble very hurt, wishing her well since that time I have tried to achieve a friendship or normality and she has simply been very...

Why is he waiting for his ex to agree with the break-up before he can be with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I been dating this guy and he promised to make our relationship official as Boy and girl friend relationship once he have settled with his ex gf. He mentioned break up with his gf and is not picking her call up, but his gf keep on calling his hous...

Bothered that the ex remarried, and my current relationship isn't great

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Hi all Please could someone answer this. Recently I heard my ex got married it was like someone had put a knife through me-I don’t understand why when I was with him we had a house-which he later sold-I relinquished my rights on breaku...

Is my ex the one calling me late at night?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I am divorced from my ex and have a child in common. To make a super long story short, this man emotionally and psychologically abused me, using his child, the courts, higher authorities, he abandoned me leaving with my child alone, unemployed and ...

Broke up badly, we share mutual friends, and that is becoming a problem, please help?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 177 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I had a major fight with my best friend, he finished the friendship and he wants nothing to do with me. This happened 6 months ago. I've moved to the next city so I don't see him anymore, however he still hangs out with mutual friends that I'm in ...

Will he miss me and want me back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 173 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Please, somebody help me. Me and my now ex boyfriend were dating about a year, we were really good friends before we got together and he ended up moving in with me into my flat pretty quick. Too quick actually... But we made it work. We went th...

He is my ex but we still talk, he wanted to be left alone and put out that message, I texted him with no response, wrong thing to do or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, this is a question i partly know the answer to but im still in 2 minds about it. My ex boyfriend and i have a very special connection, one of which where we only trust each other and no one else, we love each other madly but are no...

I'm crazy paranoid...about everything!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hey... So I've been with my fiance for 2 years now and we have a one year old daughter... And we're happy, most of the time. The problem is that I'm crazy paranoid... about everything. HE dated a girl for 3 years before me and she's caused...

Broke up and now she wants the FWB

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - I posted a question earlier saying that my ex GF dumped me almost two months ago, she starts talking to me again recently, and she wants to hang out. We talked last night and she says she isn't ready for a relationship with anyone at the moment, but ...

He only wants me back now I'm dating other people!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - My ex bf broke up with me, but now he wants me back. He showed no interest in me for so long during our relationship and kept pushing me away etc, no matter how hard I tried to be a good gf to him. Then he broke it off and didnt speak to me again. ...

I'm confused by the mixed signals!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - So, last night, my ex that I was with for 5 years came over to my house. He said he was coming over to help me forget at least for a little while about a friends death. He came over at around 10:00pm and left at around 2:00am. He did try to have sex ...

Should I keep having sex with my ex-girlfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - I dated a girl on and off for 5 years, starting when we were 17. She would leave me for other guys because it was attention from someone new; I think she was trying to reassure herself she was pretty. Then she would say she misses me, and I would ...

Follow my head? Or follow my heart?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 152 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - myself and partner have recently split up due to his paranoia,behaviour and attitude towards me,i went out saturday night and got talking to this guy he was very nice a real gentleman even sang to me which suprised me i was really flattered.he gave ...

Cannot let go of my first love

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 168 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - i can not let go of my first love. we have been dating for 5 months, we loved each other a lot, but we broke up because she would not stop flirting with my friends, and i could not stop complaining. after a few weeks of separation i grew weak and ...

What did he mean? Did he want to hold hands with me? What do I do here?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - hiya everyone, a bit of a dilemma, im still mates with my ex bf and talk to him all the time, anyway monday i spent most of the evening with him, his mate and mine, anyway when i bought him a drink he came over and said to me im going to mount you ...

Do you think I'm being too full on here?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - hi i really like this guy, i've told him and his friends, im very forward about it as i dont see the point of not being honest about your feelings. he know's my ex whom i have children with. i have told him me and the ex are over but he said he ...

We've been hanging out but now he tells me he has a girlfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Me and my ex boyfriend broke up in febuary. But we've been still hanging out. yesturday he tells me that he has a new girfreind. what should i do. I feel so down and depressed and dont know where to go from here...

I think my "soft" approach has backfired and she's gone back to her ex...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - well i have been "dating" this amazing lady since March - we are both in out late 30s. Everything has been perfect. Our emails and texts have been out of this world and we both agreed that we can't get over how much we click. Recently we started ...

She dumped me but still wants to hang out!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - My now ex GF dumped me almost two months, now she's coming back into the picture. we chat online sometimes and whenever I tell her I'm going clubbing ,to the movies, to a friends BBQ, or for a ride in my motorcycle she asks me if I want to take her. ...

Ex bf says he will change his behaviour, is it possible?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My ex whom I was with for 2.5yrs is begging me for 1 more chance. He was emotional abusive but was always saying things as "jokes" n I told him this is unacceptable but he says he didnt realize it made me this upset til now. He's 26 but is very ...

Why did she treat her scumbag ex better than me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Hi, New to these forums, but I guess my answer is straight up is; Why did she treat him better than me? What's he got better than me? So, rewind, The story goes like this... (try to make this short as I can) Ive been with this girl about 6 months...

Is it wrong for me to be texting other guys when my ex is still in the picture?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My ex want me back but until he proves to me he changed im not sure. Deep down he prob wont and i kind of no this. Anyway do u think it wrong 4 me to be texting and possible other men that could possibly give me what i want. I dont know why i feel ...

We were so good together but he cant cut off ties with his ex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I thought we could make this into a great relationship but hes turned around and said he doesnt know if he can cut ties off with his ex who he has kids with, saying i might get hurt in the long run as hes not sure how he feels about her, im so upset ...

Telling my ex that I still love her

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - i posted a question earlier this month about "does my ex want to be a family agin" we had a long talk about a relationship i had that was broken off. wierd i know. but she actually cared. this changes my perspective on everything. what i want to ...

Why can't I leave my ex - even though he cheated and robbed me??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I WAS DATING A GUY FOR THREE YEARS. He was so nice and he surprised me with gifts and he was the best at first. WE LOVED EACH OTHER ALOT, WELL atleast i know i did. I found out later in the relationship that i had an std...called herpes. I passed it ...

Does she really care more about him than me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 179 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Basically, my girlfriend of nearly eight months has been talking to this guy over the internet for about four years. She says they used to be, sort of together, long distance but then she broke with him (she says). Thing is, she always wants to ...

How do I win back my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 180 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Hi. after over a year of dating and talks of marriage, my boyfriend breaks up with me. We had had a huge argument that we never seemed to get over and things fell apart from there. Well, in the first few weeks I tried to win him back but he was ...

I feel as if he was "the one". How can I get him back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 180 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - So, I am a little lost. My ex boyfriend and I, who were together for 5 years. 3 months ago we broke up. I need advice on what to do. He tells me constantly that he doesn't want me back at all. That he is not interested in being back with me. But he ...

He SEEMED like a genuine, caring guy, but I'm starting to feel that his words don't match his actions.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 180 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I feel a little lost. My (ex-)boyfriend of two years recently broke up with me several months ago. During our relationship he cheated on me and disrespected me in many ways. I have been very down, but I have been going out with friends and trying ...