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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I've been talking to my ex recently, and he asked me if I want to get back together. I told him that I like someone else and that we shouldn't be together if I can't have feelings only for him. I'm in love with my best friend, but I don't plan on telling him because I just don't think I can handle losing the best friend I've ever had. I'll have to tell him sooner or later because it's driving me insane keeping it a secret. I just wonder if I made the right choice turning my ex down. He wasn't a bad boyfriend or anything. Even though I like him, I feel like all I feel is sexual feelings for him and like there's no spark or anything like I have with my best friend. I know that's a reason not to be with him, but I wouldn't mind trying again. But I know it won't last that long, so why try again even though teen relationships usually don't last long at all. I just wonder if I made a mistake because I don't plan on telling my best friend how I feel for a while, but I don't think it's fair for me to be with my ex if I have feelings for someone else because he shouldn't have to wonder if he's who I really want. So did I make the right decision to keep my ex as a friend for now? Thanks for any answers.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (22 December 2011):
 You seem very mature not for your age specifically but for a person in general. Atleast your not stringing your ex along an you laid it out how you feel etc.
I think you should get back with him if you dont plan to tell your friend how you feel any time soon. Your ex would probably rather have your companionship for aslong as it last. Plus there's no guarantee that your freinds will want to be more then freinds or that he will be a good match for a relationship.
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