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Archived questions from: June, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

I'm married but I can't stop thinking about my ex! How can I get him out of my mind?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 146 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Okay well here's my dilemma. I can't get an old lover out of my head. It's been years since we've seen eachother and the majority of our relationship was sexual, but I always find myself thinking back and feeling what I felt years ago. I co...

I don't know what to do. I'm falling for my ex's brother!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 146 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Helpp! im really lost and confused. need some advice because everyone keeps telling me something different everytime i bring it up. my ex and i broke up in january and we never told anyone we were dating. he always denies it now even his brother...

When I came down to it, he couldn't get it in. How do I deal with this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 146 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Background info im 16 and still a virgin ive been with my bf for quite a while and we both felt that it was right. but when it came to it. it wouldnt fit we used lube aswell but still no change, i tried to relax as best as i could but it didnt wo...

What do I do about my ex? I don't want to be back in the friends zone!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 146 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - I dated a fantastic, uniquely interesting woman for a very short time, but we were both deeply (almost soulfully) involved. It was too quick, too deep, and she broke it off for no real obvious reason, just saying that sometimes she felt confused; ...

Did I play too hard to get to win my ex back? What should I do?!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 146 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - Okay. If you like love stories (or something that sounds like one lol), read this. I need help with an Ex whom I really like/wanna be with. We're pretty much RIGHT for each other. This is gonna be long, so be prepared. This AWESOME (my drea...

When will the pain stop? My heart breaks every time I see him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 146 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Vent.....When does the pain stop when the ex husband, who left his family for a 22 year old, when he picks the kids up on his weekend. My heart breaks when the kids leave....

Ex with dead husband

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 145 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - I dated a woman for two years around twenty years ago. Haven't seen her since. What is she trying to say to me? What does she want? I really loved her but she hurt me and I have a family now. DM Yesterday the father of my ten year ol...

I can't get over my exboyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 121 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Ok, so my boyfriend {now ex} broke up with me a few weeks ago, and i really can't get over it xD. He told me it wasn't working out and tht we were better of as friends. I had saw it coming I guess...I just had blindsighted myself to just ignore it. ...

Am I a horrible person?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 146 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - Me and my Ex girlfriend were together almost a year, we split up recently and decided we wanted to be friends. Recently i've explained to her that i've had a bit of a drinking problem and i've been out of control. while at her house i wanted a drink ...

2 years with no communication and I'm still not over my ex.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 146 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Please tell me, why, after dating someone else for two and a half years I am still completely, totally, obsessed with my ex? This means checking his facebook profile nearly every night, although we are not friends so I can only see the same sma...

We broke up yesterday, I want her back, how long should I wait before I text her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 146 days ago

30 June 2009 (M) - ow do i get back my ex-girlfriend? She respected me enough to talk about it in person. She sed she loves me as a friend, and isnt in love with me, what should i do? i would like her back, but i dont know how to go about it.... We broke up yesterday, ...

I can't stop obsessing over his ex girlfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 147 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - It is driving me insane! I have been with my boyfriend 8 months and the last 2-weeks I have been obsessing over his ex. He has had numerous exes, but this one I can't forget because he lost his virginity to her about 3 years ago. He told me from the ...

Question to the men in particular: how long should it take him to get over the relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 147 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Hi, FROM A MALE PERSPECTIVE PLEASE???? OK I'm trying to find an answer to why it took my boyfriend the time it did to get over the life he had with his ex... So if you are a man and your with a girl who is 8years younger than you for 5 ye...

Should I ask if he wants to come next week before I go back or leave him to get in contact.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 146 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - hello everyone I have a small problem.. well ive been abroad for the last 3 years and every time i come over to the uk on holiday i meet my ex boyfriend, we kiss cuddle etc and i feel so excited and get the old butterflies back... anyway ive mess...

How do I summon the courage to go back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 147 days ago

30 June 2009 (F) - Dear all, I would quite like to get myself checked out at a clinic, as although I have not had sex since I was last checked out, I recently got drunk and woke up with a friend of a friend! The only "problem" is my mentality. The last time I went to ...

How can I get close to him when the only way we can communicate is by email or over the phone?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 146 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - Please, please help me! This might end up being long but I'll try my very best to make it short without missing important details (however important they may be...) My ex and I have this "mutual" friend. Mutual in the sense that whilst we were t...

Would it be terrible if I kept this as a secret? I don't want to hurt my friend...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 147 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - My boyfriend broke up with me and two days later I went out with my friend (I'll call her Jill). We went to this party and my ex boyfriend's best friend(I'll call him Pete) was there. He just happens to be Jill's secret crush. I started dating ...

How long should I wait before contacting him again and how should I start it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 147 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - I cut my ex out of my life after a series of bad events (including him cheating). However I still really love him and want to be with him. I actually want to speak to him again because I miss our great friendship/companionship a lot, but I know ...

Although I've been dating the same girl for 4 years, I still have feelings for my ex.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 147 days ago

29 June 2009 (M) - I have been dating a girl for 4 years now but still fancy my ex gf whom I dated in college. My ex girlfriend says no she will never date me again, what do I do now?...

I don't want to push my boyfriend away by becoming overly paranoid!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 147 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - I have recently got with an amazing guy, and am happy with him, however, recently my ex (who treated me quite badly and cheated on me with a girl who basically bullies me) has been building bridges with our mutual friends and is socialising with ...

I still love him, need advice on how to move on!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 147 days ago

29 June 2009 (F) - I broke up with my abusive ex-bf 6 months ago exactly and I am worried that I am still thinking about him far too much. I have sought so much advice and tried to get on with life and have fun being single, but he is still in my head. Just to f...

I think the still has feelings for me.....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 148 days ago

29 June 2009 (?) - Hi, Im 17, a closet bisexual and am in love with my best friend. The situation is complicated. In the past, a few years ago maybe, we were in a sort of pretend gay relationship, it started off as just fun but gradually got more and more "serious". ...

I don't think he is completely over her and it worries me...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 148 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - hi ok so me and my boyfriend have been together about a year now...the problem is i am utterly jealous of his ex girlfriend. they don't speak anymore... it ended on bad terms but i still find that i compare myself to her. I have seen phot...

How can a guy get over someone so easily? I broke up with him seven months ago and I'm still not over him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 133 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - Why is it so f**king easy for guys to get over their ex-girlfriends!? My ex and I broke up seven months ago after a two year relationship and I'm still not over him! He tells me he has only about a 5% emotional connection to me now and that ...

Ex is with another guy but wants to get back with me. Should I wait and say nothing or convince her to get back with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 147 days ago

28 June 2009 (M) - I dated my ex for almost 2 years. I still love her to death, but as soon as we broke up, she started rebounding with someone who clearly is no good for her. To make a long story short, she said she wants to try again when her current relationship ...

How do I get over her 100%?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 148 days ago

28 June 2009 (M) - Hey. I don’t really know where to start. About 8 months ago my girlfriend (of 2 years) broke up with me. We got into a rut and started to argue etc. Since we broke up it’s been clear we both have feelings for each other as we nearly got back ...

I want him back but he has a girlfriend. Do I wait until he's single or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 147 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - well this is a long story but ill try to keep it short well when i was younger i always had this guy wanting to be with me. i was scared of love when i was younger and hurt him. now that I'm older i completely with out a doubt love him with all me h...

After giving my ex another chance I found that he HAD been cheating, and is still texting other girls. Advice needed!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 148 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - my finance left me after 4 years in march. I had been down in the dumps for awhile due to finances and job issues. he said that I was depressed to much and he will always love me but he was not in love with me anymore. He leaves that night I dont ...

His ex is still in the picture but assures me nothing's going on. Does anyone else think this is odd?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 148 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - Ok im pregnent and due middles of jan and been with my guy for 6 months anyway, he still has a close relationship with one of his ex the one before me and i no they talk on the phone everyday, should this be wrong that they still talk and see each...

Mixed feelings about my ex's problems. Why is he turning to me for help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 148 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - can anyone teach me how to fight depression? I am so depressed right now, i dont know why..i dont understand how i feel. my ex informed me days ago that he is in trouble with the girl he left me for. i don't know..maybe they broke up. the thing...

I want him to notice but then feel guilty when he does!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 148 days ago

28 June 2009 (?) - hi my ex and me just broke it off and i wanna kiss him when i see him yet i dont i want to flirt (u know show a little clevage) and he notices then i feel really guilty about it if anyone knows why this is happening plz tell me luv you all ...

What the hell is her ex trying to accomplish?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 148 days ago

28 June 2009 (M) - My girlfriends ex told her that he likes her. They were together maybe 2 months and nothing serious. We're together 7 now. He told her 2 weeks ago or so. Recently then, he was talking to her friend and said to her "i want to tell her again incase ...

He was feeling a bit "nostalgic" indeed!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 149 days ago

28 June 2009 (F) - I had dated a guy about five years ago - Our relationship lasted about 1 year. We were very passionate and I felt like we got along well and had a lot in common. Well we broke up eventually and he met someone new about 4 years ago. I told him I ...

Is life going to get any better?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 146 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - aw my life is crap at the moment. 6 years ago i had just bought a house with my first ex-we were on the verge of marrying etc, but in the back of my mind i knew something was not right-he didnt seem all that caring about me and i would normally ...

Should I suggest we reconcile our relationship, while both of us are on a holiday in Jamaica?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 149 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - I recently found out from my hairdresser that my child's father is going to Jamaica for the summer to do voluntary work. I saw him last week and mentioned that I willl be going on holiday to Jamaiaca. I did not mention that I heard he will be. ...

Should I worry she's cheating on me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 149 days ago

27 June 2009 (M) - I've been with my girl for 6 months now and things are great. But lately she has acting a little shady. she hides her myspace page and has been keeping her phone to herself a lot lately. she just recently confesed that her ex of 5 years has been ...

Should I fly and see my ex, who has a gf, or should I wait for him to come to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 149 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - My ex and I dated for three years, one of those years was our freshman year in college. After that, my family's business was suddenly not doing well, and I needed to come home, as there was not enough money for tuition. We broke up and since, he ...

Why doesn't he just leave me alone and move on?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 149 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend a little over a month ago. When we first met he was a sweetheart and would do anything for me and made me feel very special. He was proud of my medical studies as I am a med student and he was very encouraging but after ...

New baby but don't love the father. I still love my ex! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 145 days ago

27 June 2009 (F) - i've just had a baby with my current bf but i don't love him anymore and i feel trapped we've been together only a year and everything has moved so fast i dont feel he's the one 4 me plus his family are horrible!! but i dont want our daughter ...

Although we've broken up I have this feeling in my gut that he still loves me and that this can still work.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 150 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - My ex boyfriend and i have been going at it for quite sometime. We dated in 07, and broke up seven months later. We been trying to work things out ever since. Its been on and off over and over again. Sometimes i feel like its not worth the time to ...

I found an email written by my husband to his ex saying he wanted her bad!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 148 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - Couple of months ago I went online to pay my phone bill and I saw that me husband used like 230 text messages, I was wondering whom he is texting to, as he is not a big texter and it was to a same number. He was texting every single day and actually ...

Is my ex over me? I'm not sure why he still wants to be in my life.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 150 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - My b/f and I broke up mainly due to an outside event. An ex fiance of 6 months ago who when he found out i was happy and with someone else keep staulking me. My b/f told me to get a restraining order but I did not and he thought I was being ...

Why am I feeling jealous when I totally trust him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 150 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now and have never had any problems, i trust him 100%. But I still get very jealous when has around other girls. For example, his ex girlfriend was in his house last night (She is his house mates ...

I don't want to step in but I want to date her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 150 days ago

26 June 2009 (M) - ....i need a little help here... there is this girl i met a few months back through some close friends, and she has this boyfriend who is kinda a jerk to her, but she says that she is in love with him and not willing to leave him yet, however i hav ...

I thought it would be the right thing to do to tell my best friend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 24 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - my best friend whent out with my ex and i had a little fling with him, we whent in to a field and did things,i told my best friend because i thought it would be the right thing now she hates me and most of the people at school apart from my true ...

How do you deal with the mother of your husband's child?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 150 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - Hi, i got married last year to a wonderfull men, He has a child with another women. Now we a planning to take the child to come and stay with us. Now my husband want us to go and have a meeting with the mother of his child to discuss arrangement, I ...

Her ex is around a little too much!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 150 days ago

26 June 2009 (M) - This is my problem. Me and My Girlfriend have been together since early april, we 'paused' our relationship until may 2nd because she was having problems with an ex of hers. He keeps luring her into his car and kissing her, grabbing her ass...

Do you contact your ex if nothing is there?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 150 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - It's common knowledge that you dont call your ex endlessly if you're no longer interested in them, right? My boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago and has slowly been contacting me more and more often. Now, we talk a few times a week. I ...

Is this what normal couples do in relationships?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 151 days ago

26 June 2009 (F) - I'm gunna try to make this short. Basically I feel I'm horrible with relationships mainly because I overthink and overreact. So I just want to know if I'm reading to much into this. My ex and I are going back out after awhile of being broken up ...

How come I can't let this first love go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 150 days ago

26 June 2009 (?) - My ex is my best friend. We still talk all the time about everything. He's my source of advice and my best confidante. He keeps me grounded. He understands me so perfectly and can read my every mood or action. I don't know how he does it. It's lik...