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30-35,
*hutup_n_eatme
writes:I stopped talking to my ex around August of this year. We had broken up months before that though. I fell hard for that boy, I still find myself thinking of him once in a while. I cried too many nights after I finally cut him out of my life. I don't think I love him, but I did feel really strong for him. When I went away to school and just decided that it'd be best to cut him off for good, so I could let go of false hope that things would change and work out. I had to deactivate my facebook account because I found myself looking at his page everyday and it would just hurt seeing his statuses. Three months later, I felt I was over him, I reactivated my facebook account and was able to look at his profile without any feelings. But tonight, I chilled with him again for the first time since August. It wasn't awkward like I thought it wouldve been, we had a few laughs. But for some reason when I left him, I felt sad. I actually cried. And I don't know WHY I was feeling like that. Is it because i'm not fully over him? It kind of sucks because I do talk to somebody else, and I like him a lot. But I get on his case all the time about still talking to and having feelings for his ex, but yet here I am, doing the same thing. I just didn't think chilling with him would've brought these emotions out. I'm really sad right now and confused.
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reader, SonOfMan  +, writes (23 December 2011):
 I think in an ideal world it would be best if you could let your feelings out in the open and talk to the guy.We build bonds through the relationships we have. Time does make a difference, the longer the time with a person the more chance you have of building a stronger bond, which is what this sounds like.We're a bit more than that though in the fact that we can also build such bonds in no time at all. This is sometimes called a "connection" and can be intense, not just in the sexual sense.I always say you have to be happy with yourself and answer your own questions and really think about the reasons before you act as you can really affect someone's life. What are your intentions? Are they genuine? Is it just for fun and sex? Is it worth it?Try having the conversation and see where it leads. What's the worse that can happen?
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