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Archived questions from: January, 2014 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Found old love letters in my partner's sex drawer.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - This morning I discovered old love letters from my partner's ex-girlfriend from over two years ago-- they dated for about 6 months. I don't care about him still having them-- we all keep mementos from the past-- but I discovered them in the "sex ...

Was this man just using me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - Hi I'd like your opinion. I was going out with my ex from March 2013 to Nov 2013, he called a halt to our relationship after I text him asking what was up and not to shut me out. I was right, there was something up, but he called it all off. In...

How can I live in a new relationship without being haunted by my past?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - Hi there :) So, this is the problem: in July my (ex) bf broke up with me, after seven months of relationship. He was my first time, and I really loved him, even though we weren't good with each other. After the break up, I was lonely for a lon...

He is badmouthing me to mutual friends. Should I confront him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - I had a falling out with a guy friend some months back. I discovered he had feelings for me (I had feelings for him too), things became complicated and our friendship ended on a very sour note. He ended up blocking me on all social networks. I ...

Should I apologise to the ex for my wrongdoing?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - I broke up with my ex 7 months ago because we fought too often. We had a brief period of no contact, but eventually he started talking to me again about once a week. We decided to give things another go about 2 weeks ago, but I bought up old issues ...

I can't get over the breakup and the nasty comments I've heard since.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3735 days ago

30 January 2014 (F) - I have seeing this guy for 3.5 years. We met on the job and I thought he was a good man, come to find out that he is insecure, low self esteem and a big flirt. At first he said he was not looking for a serious relationship but over the yrs he f...

How has the new guy I've been dating made me get over my ex so suddenly?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 January 2014 (F) - I have a question that confuses me to the point that I don't know what's going on! Basically, I dated this guy last year and I loved him I've never had that strong feelings for anybody else before, but it ended just before summer and it was an awful ...

I think I'd be happier with my ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3736 days ago

29 January 2014 (M) - About 4 months ago now I ended my relationship with a girl who I really liked, as I didn't feel ready for a relationship at that point, but it affected me more than I thought it would and I can't go a day without thinking about her and regretting ...

We're not together anymore but we still act like a couple and have sex... it's starting to get to me. Advice please?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3736 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - Last month my boyfriend decided that we "take a break" (or in other words: break up) and we've been together for maybe more than three years, but we've known each other much longer than that because we originally were best friends. Him and I have b...

Should people in a relationship discuss their sexual past? I'm uncomfortable hearing about boyfriend's past.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 January 2014 (?) - Hi everyone, I had a question and I hope you can answer. If you are in a relationship with someone, is it alright to ask about their sexual past? My boyfriend was telling me about the women he has been with and it made me a little uneasy. H...

Husband corresponding with his ex despite agreeing that he wouldn't. Need advice!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3736 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - I just found out that my husband is still corresponding with his ex. I feel so betrayed because I thought he finally understood how I felt about him talking to her and for the simple fact that he assured me that he wouldn't talk to her for respect ...

Uncomfortable with ex putting naked photos of our son on Facebook. What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3736 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - This is a question concerning my ex, and our child. Hi Aunts and Uncle's, thank you for reading this, I hope to find some help. My ex and I are on good terms..kind of. We have a two y/o son and he has a 2 y/o daughter. My issue is, I'm so...

So am I plan B, or am I just wishing

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3737 days ago

28 January 2014 (M) - Hi, after two months with out any contact, I got a phone call two thirty in the morning, I didnt know the number, every one knows how often these days do you get a wrong number on a cell phone. Well i had a friend call that number an ask for a ...

My girlfriend's ex boyfriend bothers her and it's starting to bother me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3737 days ago

28 January 2014 (M) - My girlfriend and her ex boyfriend don't get along very well now. They broke up last summer and she and I started dating a few months ago. They still talk and he is really a dick to her. He says some really mean stuff sometimes, but I don't know the ...

Why send me a message, I went no contact with her!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3737 days ago

28 January 2014 (M) - Hi there, it´s been almost two months now after she dumped me and I went no contact from the first day on. Now she sendt me something via facebook the day after my birthday, but I haven´t read it yet.... She broke up things and it wasn´t ve...

Should I go out with a co-worker of my ex? My ex suggested I consider dating his co-worker

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3738 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - My ex and i broke up a little while ago, and we stayed friends. He left me because he didn't want to be in a relationship right now, since he had just got out of a long term relationship not too long ago. He says i'm an amazing girl, and I dese...

My first love is back in the picture and I'm torn ...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3736 days ago

27 January 2014 (F) - Sorry for the essay but I don't know what's the right thing to do, I've never been in this situation before and I don't want to make the wrong decision. Last night something that I've wanted for so long happened and it couldn't be worse timing! ...

My ex has his baby mama, why is he trying to figure out what I'm doing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3738 days ago

27 January 2014 (F) - I am almost a yr out of my divorce. My ex used me and mentally and physically abused me. I was playing all bills and basically holding down the kids, house, and money. He was so lazy that I just got fed up. Toward the end of us going through ...

Is having an ex help out wrong?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3738 days ago

26 January 2014 (F) - Hi. I started dating a divorced guy with kids three years after breaking up with alongterm partner (no kids myself). We lived together for a year but then he moved for work, we see each other once a month. As it happens this move for work put him in ...

How much help do I provide an ex who still isn't over me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3739 days ago

25 January 2014 (F) - So me and my boyfriend of 5 years broke up May 2012, and whilst now I can say that I have completely moved on, I know that he is struggling really bad. Tonight he asked if he could talk to me on the phone (the first time we have actually spoken ...

I'm dating a guy and his ex is hitting on me???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3740 days ago

24 January 2014 (F) - Okay so, I met this guy in an online game, we started getting to know eachother better and we were very clear nothing was to be expected but then things changed. We started to get to know eachother better and shared real life details (the game we ...

My ex still contacts me and it's hard to move on

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3738 days ago

24 January 2014 (F) - My ex and I broke up a year ago. Months we wouldn't talk and others we would. He always initiated contact, I never did. Last year for around 1 month we started hanging out. Somehow we knew that all we were doing was just having sex. However, I still ...

Since I have been talking to a new girl, my ex has been in my thoughts!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3741 days ago

23 January 2014 (M) - Sorry if this takes to long right so I broke up with my ex now for 9 months she was my first ever girlfriend I lost my v to her ect we was together for 18 months since we broke up all I have been doing is flirting with other girls and meeting them ...

I have a problem dealing with my girlfriend having had a lesbian relationship in the past!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

23 January 2014 (M) - Hello there. I'm 31 years old and I have a girlfriend for almost 2 years now. She's really special and she's the kind of person that I want to spend the rest of my time with. When we were talking about her past (like almost a year ago) she t...

Is being in love meant to be difficult?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - Hi everyone I have had, in the past, many abusive relationships. I have suffered from anxiety and agoraphobia (still suffer but I am very positive and proactive) and I haven't had an easy life but the good thing is that I am strong despite a...

I feel insecure. What does he see in me? I'm so different from his ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - Been together with my boyfriend for 3 years, I love him to bits but one thing makes me feel insecure and i'm honestly not sure why, was hoping for anyone's thoughts on this. His ex who is mother of his children, so he obviously loved her at some ...

Should I jump on my ex about liking his ex's posts? Whats the mature thing to do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3742 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - My child's father and I are working on getting along and being friends and possibly a couple again.. I saw that he has been liking his ex girl friends post a lot.. Should I approach him about it and cut off our plans to work on us or should I keep a ...

Should I go for a threesome?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3739 days ago

23 January 2014 (M) - So, Uni drama again. Bloody Uni eh? So someone I met in first year, liked him for ages, tried to get with him for ages, we had a sexual thing but other than that we never really went anywhere, he pretty much friendzoned me soon as he could, then w...

He bailed on me.. so what's up with him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - Okay, my boyfriend, ex I should say, broke it off with me "unofficially" by disappearing 2 weeks ago. He told me he loved me by text, had nothing to offer, blah blah blah and then disappeared. The last thing he ever said to me was "I love you...". ...

I can't get over my ex-girlfriend, her mom and some family members still keep in touch with me, what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

22 January 2014 (M) - My ex and i are both in the military, we met while serving at the same base and started to date. While we dated we moved in together and had ups and downs like any other relationship but we both knew we loved each other. Ive met her family and she ...

Ex-boyfriend came back into my life, only to disappear again!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

21 January 2014 (F) - My ex boyfriend recently came back into my life. We were hanging out and talking almost everyday again for about a month. Then suddenly the calls and texts just stopped. I haven't heard form him at all, and I have not called him. I just let it be. ...

I caught the man in lies and he finally came clean. No contact for 3 days--should I reach out to him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

21 January 2014 (F) - Ok so I started talking to this guy, who I met online, 8 months ago. We live two states away from each other and started developing this amazing emotional connection. We did eventually meet and the connection was even stronger. About three months i...

Why is he treating her better?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

20 January 2014 (F) - Me and my ex split up last year and stopped talking then I decided to get back in touch with him. WWe were speaking and seein eachother now and again. Nothing had changed it was just like how things used to be when we were a couple. I then kept ...

I'm afraid my boyfriend with sleep with this woman when he goes to a party!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3745 days ago

20 January 2014 (F) - There is this girl that my boyfriend has slept with a couple of times. Once when he was with his on again/off again ex - they were off at the time. The second time he was broken up with a different ex (though they did get back together). It was a ...

Does he deserve a second chance?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3745 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - We dated for a two years it was great until the last 6 months. He started to mistreat me such as not wanting to hang out with me and talk down to me. I broke up with him and went no contact for four months. He recently sent me flowers apologized ...

Boyfriend of 3.5 years broke up with me out of the blue and I'm feeling lost

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3746 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I were together over 3 years. 2 weeks ago he told me that he has nothing to offer me. He called himself a pathetic piece of shit that can't get off his ass and take care of stuff that needs to be taken care of. He said that he wants ...

Is the girl in the pics his girlfriend or his ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - I was so attracted to guy i met at the mall,he told me he don't have a girlfriend. when i check with his friends they said the same thing. he showed me a picture of a girl and said she was his ex girlfriend and they are not together. he asked me...

How do I learn to relax around him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - So im trying one last time to save my family ny cool child's dad is single and so am I... but ive.been.putting my foot in my mouth often sending king emotional text, calling but losing my words which make awkward silence.. I've been annoying him... ...

My head is going nuts and he has left me confused!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3746 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - I wrote here about a week ago about a guy I'm dating, it isn't serious I don't particularly want it to be serious I just want to go with the flow kind of thing enjoy the moment take things slow. Last night we went out and had a great time decid...

How do I let him know his behaviour is not acceptable?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3741 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - Hi guys. I'll try to be as brief as possible because this is complicated. So, I met my current guy two years ago through a mutual friend and very quickly we became inseparable. He was the best boyfriend I ever had, beautiful, romantic, and totally ...

Ever been stuck on someone who's bad for you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3747 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - I'm stuck on my ex of almost 7 months. He only just convinced me to try the relationship again this week, and he was back yelling at me again within 24 hours. He hung up like always, will pretend not to talk for like 2 weeks but I don't really doubt ...

How much should you tell a new partner about past relationships?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3746 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - When embarking on a new relationship how much should you tell your new partner about your "relationship past" I ask this not because I've had a problem with this nor am I embarking on a new relationship but simply because I see on this site that t...

She told me she didn't want a serious relationship, then turned around and started dating someone else!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3747 days ago

17 January 2014 (M) - So this girl was dating for a few months ended things with me over Christmas. She at least seemed to be a really down to earth and nice girl but broke up with me after SHE missed one of our dates. So a few days we talk and i tell her that i'm...

My girlfriend wants to break up because she has no independence!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3748 days ago

17 January 2014 (M) - Hi, I will try to start from the begging, 8 month ago I started a new relationship with toni who is love of my life. Before that I was in a relationship for 5 years with my ex Claire. It was a violent relationship on her part, she use to punch, k...

My ex boyfriend is now running around with my sister!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3748 days ago

17 January 2014 (F) - Hi everyone. I hope you are all alright and God is following your steps. Today I'm writing here to ask everyone advice on a matter that seems complicated to me. So. I had a boyfriend, and if anyone has read about it before, we are not blood related, ...

I hate feeling like a hypocrite and a loser! Any insight is appreciated!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3748 days ago

16 January 2014 (F) - I'm 25, and my boyfriend is 25 too. We've been dating for a couple months now, so it's still a "new" relationship. everything's great, except from time to time, I feel insecure because he was really promiscuous in the past (ie. up until right before ...

I want to win my ex fiance back

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3749 days ago

16 January 2014 (F) - This is long...been in a relationship with this guy for the past 4 years but we broke up 8 months ago. We also were engaged. We have had alot of ups and downs and hurdles. Now as soon as we were about to work on trying back again I had a ...

I never slept with anyone or did anything more than kissing, I want to move in with my boyfriend but the past is haunting me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3749 days ago

15 January 2014 (F) - Hi there I am tormented. Sorry if this is long but i want to explain everything. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. In the beginning things weren't good. We argued A LOT. He played computer games and neglected me or would leave me...

He ran away without even listening to me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3751 days ago

14 January 2014 (F) - [Moderator note: Here is a link to this OP's previously submitted question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-announced-he-wanted-a-month-apart.html] My boyfriend of 4 1/2 years broke up with me over 2 months ago and I can...

The ex doesn't like my boyfriend spending time with our daughter

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3751 days ago

14 January 2014 (F) - Hello aunts and uncles. I am 21, and I share a 2 year old daughter with my ex boyfriend. When we were together he constantly cheated on, but he always managed to convince me that whoever had told me was lying. It wasn't until I found text messages ...