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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

My ex is an emotional vampire!

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24 November 2009 (M) - Hello all, Sorry if my English is not perfect but I am not English but from Spain…I recently broke up with my girlfriend after two years for the third time this year at least and I am not sure what to do… She is constantly depressed and when sh...

What can we do about his troublesome ex-wife?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are living together happiness. Our relationship has been so good. He make me so happy and change my whole life with alot of joy. which I never had before. when he got a new job then his ex wife found out where he work. So she ...

Isn't he going to say sorry? Doesn't he love me anymore?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I`ve been married for 16 years and I`ve been having some problems recently. First of all my husband says he`s jealous of one or two boyfriends I had in the past (before meeting him, and what is worst 20 years ago!) and some...

I found pictures of my boyfriend having sex with his ex. Help.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - Ok. So. I stumbled upon pictures of my boyfriend having sex with his ex girlfriend. It was an honest accident, I wasn't snooping. Long story short I was fixing his old computer (from 3-4 years ago) and they were on there. I wasn't, and am not, mad ...

It scares me that he will break my heart and go back with his ex...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - I need help asap. I have been with my boyfriend for the past 7 months. things started out going great, he even came to the point telling me that he loves me and wants to have a future with me since I am the only one with him through his hard times ...

I'm worried he'll spend every weekend driving his children around and not be a proper step-dad to mine!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - Hello Aunts/Uncles I really need opinions here. I have been engaged to a wonderful man for 6 months now and although we do not live together at the moment, the plan is for him to move in next year. I have two children living with me from my first...

Should I sit back and wait to see if it all works out or should I walk away?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (M) - long story short i started seein this girl 6 months ago and all of a sudden 2 days ago she came up to me crying her eyes out saying she can tell @ 6months whether shes going to marry a guy or not and she said she doesnt see me as one she would ...

One nasty mess - please help me sort through this!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted yesterday

24 November 2009 (F) - Okay, I can't believe I am doing this, but am desperate to say the least... I will do my best to keep it as brief as possible, but it is quite complicated. Bf of 3 yrs broke up with me 2 months ago, since then I have felt nothing but hurt, confus...

Why end a good relationship only to come back to the good relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted yesterday

24 November 2009 (F) - During the summer, the guy I was seeing for two months ended things with me when his ex came back into the picture. We were only seeing each other, and although I did enjoy every minute I was with him and I enjoyed getting to know him, I understand ...

Divorcing naked creepy ex... What if he does something?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted today

24 November 2009 (F) - I split from my husband 4 years ago after being in a very passionless marriage for 10+years, no kids. I have given him plenty of time to adjust to life without me and now I am filing for divorce. He remains in complete denial. Tonight I dropped by ...

She just admitted she loves me but she is thinking of going back to her ex

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24 November 2009 (M) - I'll try to make this as short as possible, but I might have trouble... I have been kinda seeing a girl for the past few months, who only recently came out of a long term relationship. I know you're probably thinking "rebound" but we did hit it of...

I can't trust my current bf, because of past bad experiences. Please help!

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23 November 2009 (F) - i was hurt by my ex it took me more than a year to get over him, he made me ill and i was heartbroken, then i went on a wild thing when me and my ex ended where i would meet up with alot of boys everyweek, i started seeing a few but it never worked ...

Seeing my ex opens up old wounds

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23 November 2009 (M) - [moderator note: not a question as such, but the in-depth background provides the jist for one] Hi, I split up from my ex-girlfriend of a year whom i see at University a year ago after she gave some "its not you its me excuse". I was really sh...

He was married for 23 years and now she wants him back! Should I run or hang on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - Please help. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months. I am falling in love with him. We spend at least 4 days and nights together every week since we met. Everything is great. Here is the problem. He was married for 23 years. He was deeply in ...

Bf's ex started calling, should I be worried?

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23 November 2009 (F) - Hello everyone, I am in need of some advice on if I should say something to my bf or not. Ok so we have been having problems lately. Mostly trust issues that I have, for good reason. Anyhow it was just this past month or so that things go...

He asked for a naked pic of this girl he used to talk to!

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23 November 2009 (F) - [Moderator note: This post was edited out of textspeak which is discouraged here; please try to use standard English spelling and grammar for the benefit of all our readers. Generally I would reject this question but I had a little extra time today. ...

Why does my fiance keep hiding the fact that he's been in touch with his ex wife?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted today

23 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I am getting married soon to a man whom I love very much. He is older than me, but it does not affect us. My problem is his ex-wife. He has always been a little quiet about what went on with them. Doesnt say much. I have a problem with him...

I cant get my ex's best friend off my mind!

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23 November 2009 (F) - hi i know i already posted this question before but nobody replied and i am really needing some advise on it. okay so im having a bit of a problem. about 3 years ago i met my ex and we were together for a year and a half he was my fir...

I'm losing trust in this woman...

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23 November 2009 (M) - Please help me. In reference to my earlier question, I've been seeing this girl, who I liked, she didnt tell me about her past, in spite of me asking her, she told me she had a boyfriend, but nothing happened. Later on she tells me she kissed him ...

Heartache at 40..feeling 16!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I'm approaching 40, divorced for almost 2yrs....had a boyfriend after divorce for about 8mos...he dumped me. Was pretty cold about it....why do I think of him daily? Was very close to his children, they still call me....I think about him every ...

My girlfriend dumped me and I'm still devastated

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (M) - Im so hurt! My ex gf broke up with me on Nov 4 after dating for almost 2 yrs. I always treated her like a princess and loved her like crazy. I found out on a txt msg she sent me by "accident". It devastated me bcuz even though we had been fighting, ...

The shy guy or the flirty guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted yesterday

23 November 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend, we went out in march, for about 2 months, we didnt go anywhere. we barely even talked.. that didnt work out so i ended it. a few weeks ago i realize i still have feelings for him. and he had feelings for me, and he asked me out. ...

I dare not risk telling him I love him just to loose everything!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Just think about the good times..and they'll come back again! Idlove to keep saying that to myself but even the good times depress me. Im in a mess, a big fat mess!! This guys my best friend....but sadly the love of my life! Who i cannot get over....

What can I do to make it up to him and never talk about my exes again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - i really love my boyfriend and he loves me to bits, been together for 6 months but i have known him for years, but it wasnt until one night i realised i had feelings for him and we hit it off ever since. a year ago i was hurt really bad by a boy i ...

I miss him, but we can't be together :(

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23 November 2009 (F) - okay, i'll try to keep it short and sweet, i think im in love with my ex. he really cared for me to and it we were sort of forced to end it because no one wanted us to be together. the reason why? because he was my best friends EX first and i h...

10 months and I still can't get my ex out of my head

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (F) - i went out with my ex for nearly seven years i loved him very much and really wnated to set up our lives together so we had a future, but he didnt want to move in or get engaged. i was heartbroken so we split. its been ten months and i cant get him ...

It's been a year. How do I get him out of my mind?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - I spent an amazing day with a guy that I really liked. He now has a different girlfriend (not me). I went and saw a movie with him a on 11/22/08 a year ago from today. I can't stop thinking of him. He's always on my mind. I've tried moving on but he ...

I can't stop having sexual dreams about him help?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - I can't stop having sexual dreams about me and my ex, i've been told its natural etc but its not how i am - I'm quite a shy girl and never used to think about sex really. Unlike my friends I'm in no rush to have sex, mainly because I'm quite ...

We're talking together after a year and are closer than ever... Is it possible we can get back together if we take things slowly?

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22 November 2009 (F) - I can't be friends with this ex because it would be too hard. I went through a break up and after a year of no contact I still had feelings for him and contacted him and he said he can't jump back into this and it would be like starting over and he ...

Was my ex just using me for money?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - im so hurt about this i really need your wonderful advice please i split with my ex this year after 6 years-during this time i have helped him out majorly financially it got to the stage where i felt this was all he was with me for as he never ...

He blew me off and went back to his ex. Whats up with this man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - I have been dating a man for one year who was in the process of a divorce which he filed. He was married at a young age and for thirty years,with two grown children and grandchildren. His wife would leave for months at a time and with other men. ...

Did he just get over me?

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22 November 2009 (F) - My ex asked me if i wanted to work things out... Yeh and then we went on a date and everything went well. We spoke about everything thats happened and things we both felt we had to work on. He paid for everything, took me home and even said he hadnt...

We ended things amicably, so why is he suddenly rude?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - I dated a guy for 9 months, it was never exclusive. It then ended when he moved to another city for work and we left on good terms without any closure. We kept in contact as friends for the two months since he's left. But since he left, he's been ...

Dating again but fear looking inexperienced and self-concious to the new guy! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - Hey guys...I could really use some help please. I was with my ex for 4 years, and we broke up 2 years ago. It was generally a very happy match and I was pretty gutted when it ended. While I've dated a few other guys since we broke up, I've only ev...

How do I proceed to go out with this guy... and how is my ex going to take it?

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21 November 2009 (F) - Hello, I was just hoping some people would have some advice for me on a subject. So I had the FINAL/6th breakup with my bf about 2 weeks ago. 6 breakups in 6 months because he was so immature, a liar and a control freak. I have been emotiona...

How do I convince him it wasn't me who text him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - Ok everyone, I need help in trying to convince this guy that I wasn't texting him from another number trying 2 be someone else, It happened to2 be my ex bf doing this, I had only met this guy 3 times and was beginging 2 really like him. The last thi...

My ex boyfriend and my sister.

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21 November 2009 (F) - Two years ago I dated this guy. I really liked him but we got into a stupid fight and broke up. No one knew about us except for my best friend and his younger brother. Anyway, I recently found that he is very close to my older sister. She doesn't ...

Why does my boyfriend still want to talk with my ex knowing it bothers me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

21 November 2009 (?) - My bf talks to my ex knowing it bothers me. I don't know why he's keeping in touch with him after trying to steal me away from him. My main problem is that I feel like garbage. Because my bf basically tries to give me away. Like if I was an object ...

Missing my ex bf so badly... help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - i really miss my ex. its been about a month since we really spoke. i mean i seem him twice since then, and he spoke to me, he even kissed me the other day, after telling me a month ago neva to speak to him again. so i havent hit him up and wasnt the ...

If I take my ex to court..can I get sole custody of my daughter?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - my ex and i have been divorced for about 4years. our daughter is now 9. we have split custody but he hardly ever comes to see her, call her and hasnt got her annything for her bday xmas. Or helped with any of her school, personal expences, doctors, ...

How can I get over my ex and learn to trust again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - Why do I miss my ex now? He was not a very nice guy at all, he was untrustworthy, a cheater, and manipulative. I thought he genuinely cared about me, because he would make it a point to tell me so. But when I caught him in lies it was just hea...

My ex wanted me to have an abortion, but now he wants visitation rights

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21 November 2009 (F) - Im 18 years old and i have a 3 month old little boy with my ex whose 22. He wants to have some sort of visitation rights but i dont want him to. Since when i found out i was pregnant at 17 he left me for another girl and told me to have an abortion. ...

I've met his family but he hides his friends

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - I’m 21 years of age, and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months. I love him, and honestly have never been in such a great relationship. There is one minor problem which gets to me. While he has introduced me to his family, I have not met any of ...

I told him a very personal thing about me and now all his friends are calling me names. I don't know how to handle it any more. Please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - Last night i told my boyfriend of 10 months that i had been raped before we got together and that is why i do not wish to have sex before we are married as i am scared and any time i think about sex i see His face. its horrible. Even for my ...

She won't leave my love interest alone!

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21 November 2009 (F) - I've finally moved on from my ex of a year and a half and i liked a new guy but he wasnt over his ex but still lead me on, i tryed to ignore him and started to like a new guy whos tall ok looking and really funny and i really really like him i want ...

What are the odds that he still loves me?

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20 November 2009 (F) - From time to time, my ex still gets in touch with me. We have been broken up for several months now. At first our break-up was so messed up, we were bitter towards each other for months. But 3 months ago, he made peace with me that we decided to ...

Can anyone help here? How long does it take to move on...?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - I would really like some advice on how long it takes to get over a relationship. I was with my ex for 3 1/2 years and have since been split up for 6 months. We went cold turkey for a few months then got back into contact. We became very close again ...

I sit there every day and think about him (my ex) and cry.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - Me and my ex split over 3 months ago and recently even though he has a new partner he has said he isnt actually happy and he thinks he may be going through a breakdown, because we share 2 children together and we were together from a young age for ...

What do you aunts think? Does he still have feelings for his ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - Before i met my boyfriend he had a female friend whom he was proposing to bit she preferred to be friends. They were very close and did everything that lovers do except for sex(so he says). After we got together he told her about me and she was ...

He texts his ex and another girl. Is he losing interest in me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i got 2gether a couple of months ago. his girlfriend split up him then he got with me but he constantly keeps texting her and texting this other girl that he constantly talks about. he met up with her, had a couple of drinks a...