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Archived questions from: September, 2013 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Would you wish your ex a happy birthday?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3854 days ago

30 September 2013 (M) - She broke up with me and we've been no contact since she greeted me for MY birthday, two weeks after the break up. We've been friends for almost 6 years (on and off) before the romantic relationship. She contacted me only once after the BU, wh...

I hope somehow I see him to show him how much I have changed. And why would he call me after a year of no contact a few days after my birthday?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3855 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - Hello everyone, Lately I've been thinking if my ex a lot. Not in an emotional way however sometimes I get upset at how things could have been different, wondering what he is up to now, and wondering if he thinks of me. We broke up around t...

My new boyfriend's ex is pregnant. How do I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3856 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - I am a 22 year old girl who has a 27 year old boyfriend of one month. It basically took us 3 months to actually become an item, we are so alike yet different, I guess that's why we connect, love each other dearly. Our worst fear is losing each ...

Do you just let your ex become a stranger?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3855 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - My ex isnt willing to see me with someone new and i dont want to see his either so we defriended each other on facebook (FYI: It was a bad breakup) We are in different countries so we will never ever see each other again. Do you guys just let your ...

The night we met she went out had sex with her ex afterwards!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3855 days ago

27 September 2013 (M) - Advice needed please! I met this girl a couple of months ago on a night out with friends, we hit it off straight away, swapped numbers and had a really good time that night. We started dating soon after and are going steady now. Everything h...

The guy I like went back to his ex because he misses the child. What should I do?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3851 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - Please can someone help me what to do I am so much in love with a guy who loves me to but he's gone back to his ex cos he misses his son which isn't his biologically but has been there since born little one is 3 now he texts me everyday telling me ...

Should I tell my boyfriend that few months into the relationship I was still talking to my ex, and kissed?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3855 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - I have a dilemma.... I have been talking to my ex throughout my new relationship. I am 27 and I met my current bf in sept last year. Do I tell my bf that I met up with my ex even if was last January ? That we kissed and he been trying to get me bk...

I keep waiting on ex. I hate myself for it. Help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3858 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - I brokeup with him around 3 months ago because I was over his temper. I've spent time alone since and I realize how much he never put effort into the relationship, would blame me for problems he caused. He did things that are unacceptable to anyone, ...

What should I do about my ex and dating my friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3857 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - So my boyfriend (lets call him, George) of 8months and i currently broke up (14th Sept) and i went out the same night and spent time with one of my friends lets call him Pete. So Pete came and picked me up that night because i was upset and fe...

Why do I want to hold onto my ex when he cheated and I didn't?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3859 days ago

25 September 2013 (F) - Hi and thanks My ex boyfriend and I are still communicating and I still love him but hes distancing himself from me. We broke up about 4 weeks ago and his reason for being aloof is his son is talking back to his mom. Yrs ago we were in a rela...

My ex has been on my mind alot and I want to contact him. Should I?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3859 days ago

25 September 2013 (F) - About 3 years ago, I met a man. I'll be completely honest, things weren't always the best and by the end, I was pretty low. He broke my heart. At the time, I was at a very tumultuous phase anyway. I was finishing my undergrad and had no idea where ...

My ex and I broke up and he's moved on but I feel like I'm still at stage 1!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3859 days ago

25 September 2013 (F) - My ex dumped me four months ago. He was my first and it was a serious relationship for both of us. We had no contact for 3 months until last month he called and said he missed me and needed me. I told him to move on because it was a bad breakup and ...

I'm not making as much money so I'm behind on my alimony! Ideas?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 3857 days ago

24 September 2013 (M) - i need help, i have recently got married and had a baby with a beautiful 24 year old girl. my ex wife took me for alot of alimony, and i was ok to pay her for the first year she was awarded it for five years. im having difficulties now paying her ...

I just discovered that his ex owes him a lot of money!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3859 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - Hello Aunties! I have been with my bf for 3 1/2 yrs, we have lived together for the last 2yrs. He treats me like a queen...however....his ex who lives in another country and has been engaged throughout our entire relationship is a problem. They do...

Even after a nasty break-up thoughts about my ex are interfering with my new relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3860 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - Hi I am 27 femaleand I have a dilemma... I was in a relationship with Andrew until last June we were together 3 years and had some great times. But... I got into financial difficulties and lost my farm and went through some quite bad depression a...

I feel like my wife settled with me and its really bothering me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3558 days ago

23 September 2013 (M) - Ok here is my story. I met my wife 14 years ago. She was 19 and i was 28. I met her through a friend. She had a daughter and i had 2 daughters from previous relstionships. The first time I met her I asked her what she thought of me and she said I ...

How can we become closer while not being physically together ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3861 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I were dating for a year before I moved to another city a month ago. I have never been in a long distance relationship before but he has. He and his ex use to watch tv / movies on skype multiple times a week when they were dating, ...

I like the friend of my ex but am afraid he might think I'm a psycho!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3860 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - dear cupid i have this crush on a guy had it for a while and thought it would go but now he is invading my dreams i really like him and i know one kiss from him would be a dream but here's the problem: he is friends with my ex who dumped me...

He opened up to me, And now hes avoiding the subject!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3862 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - Please bare with me. IM so confused and really need advice from everyone and anyone. I have been talking to this guy for about 3 months. We talked a few years ago as well but we lost contact due to an ex trying to sabotage us. Anyway, back to...

How can someone just give up on someone you claim you have great love for

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3862 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - My ex and I of 3 years broke up offically about 3 months ago. We were on and off for the last year of our relationship. I heard rumors of him dating someone new but I didn't know or really want to know because it was so devastating to think he could ...

I ruined his birthday, but is it justified because his friendship with his ex was out of line.

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3859 days ago

21 September 2013 (F) - I'm talking to this guy and every now and then he goes and hangs out with his ex girlfriend. He knows that I don't like it at all because when hes with her I tell him not to speak to me. He tells me that hes sorry and hes trying to end things on a ...

Three of us are friends. She dumped him but now I like the guy.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3863 days ago

21 September 2013 (F) - So to try and cut this story down. Last year my friend was dating a guy who I had been friends with for a few years previous. Anyway they broke up last year, she dumped him by text, which kind of put me in an awkward situation, I felt needed to have ...

During our break, my ex sexted with a girl. What to do now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3864 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - I recently got back together with my ex boyfriend, however I found out that he has been sexting his ex before me the whole time we were apart. What to do now? ...

How do I act around my ex? I still love him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3863 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - My ex boyfriend and I broke up after a fight and mostly because he said that I have jealousy problem and feelings are in the middle. Both of us cried during the breakup. We had minimal contact . After 2 months, we met up and ended up having sex. I ...

How Do I Keep the Upper Hand Whilst Trying to Reconcile With My Ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3864 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - I am trying to navigate the waters of reconciliation with my ex of 2.5 years. It's been really frustrating for me because he sends a lot of mixed messages and does push/pull a lot. I have a gut feeling that he still loves me but he's afraid of a ...

Can't stop thinking about the ex even though I'm with someone

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3864 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - I have a boyfriend for 5 months now and things have been going okay. However I can't stop thinking about the last man I dated. We didn't even date for long but during that short time it was really really amazing. I felt like he had a lot of qualitie...

Why does he not want to talk to me anymore?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3865 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - Well, long story short; I had a brief relationship with a man who lived quite a way from me, we'd see eachother now and then but were crazy about eachother, it was very cute, romatic etc. We called it a day when things were getting a little ...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3865 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a 2 minths now and we had sex for the first time last weekend, (I lost my virginity to him, he has slept with girls before) and a few days later we got onto the subject of different places to have sex, he mentioned a ...

My ex hates me because I said hi and his girlfriend didn't like it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3866 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - Hi all, I just need to get a bit of a rant out of my system. So I dated one guy for about two and a half years and we eventually broke up, nothing harsh really just the fact that we didn't get along as well anymore, and we remained acquaintances ...

Why did my ex stop talking to me? Did he go back to the other girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3865 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - My ex-boyfriend broke up with me a year ago because he felt the long distance was not working. We were good friends for more than a year before getting together, so I still text / facebook him once in a while, but he doesn't really respond. He has ...

Getting mixed vibes from this guy who ended things then reappeared. Any advise?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3866 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice. Posted not so long ago as I had just started seeing a guy who had recently got out of a relationship. We met on a night out and from then he was texting me and we met up a few times. He would message every ...

Would it be reasonable for me to ask him to limit the picture of his ex to the kid's bedroom?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3865 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Hi everyone. I would like to know how other people feel about their husbands displaying pictures of their ex-wives in their new home with their new partner? My boyfriend and I are moving in to a new place together next month. He currently displays ...

Is it ok to be jealous when his ex-lovers call?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3866 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - I know this sounds ridiculously stupid and the answer is obviously "YES!" But, how do you guys feel about it? And what can I do to stop it. My boyfriend's ex-sex partners keep texting him. These girls are from, like, last year, and he keeps saying h...

Two guys. Which date to cancel? Considering the circumstances?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3866 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Hey, I seem to have gotten myself caught up in a very odd situation. So, let me start off by saying that I had my boyfriend for 4 months, then we broke up, except it wasn't a clean break up. We decided to stay friends, although I only agreed to that ...

Is Ex-Girlfriend's mother using me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3866 days ago

17 September 2013 (M) - I am 42. I was in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 9 months but she broke up with me eighteen months ago to concentrate on a new business. Her mother contacted me a few weeks ago out of the blue. After several days of small ta...

His toxic ex won't respect our relationship!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3865 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - We've been together 3 yrs, we just got engaged recently and plan to be married soon. We both were married before for 18+ yrs. My ex is only I the picture due to our 4 kids, his ex is in the picture because she can't live without him in her life. ...

He got in touch with his immediately after we split, now we're back together and this bothers me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3866 days ago

16 September 2013 (F) - About 3 months ago my boyfriend and I broke up because I felt that he wasn't as affectionate anymore, more importantly that he had started initiating contact with his ex- girlfriend. I still miss him after 2 months, so I made a move and we got back ...

Am I selfish because I want to move closer to my mother and take my son?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3867 days ago

16 September 2013 (F) - I am in major conflict here and feeling very guilty because I'm not sure what to do. I have an ailing mother that lives in another state. I have several siblings and relatives that are with her, and caring for her. However, I want to be with my ...

My girlfriend has contact with her ex and lies to me about it. How do I talk to her about this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3867 days ago

16 September 2013 (F) - I dont feel hurt by her actions, just disappointed that shes lieing to my face and not telling the whole truth. I told my girlfriend that if she had contact with her ex it would break us up and its not that i cant or dont trust her its how he b...

Is there ever an instance when abuse and fear of your significant other is justified?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3868 days ago

16 September 2013 (F) - I am wondering if there is ever an instance when abuse and fear of your significant other is justified. My boyfriend thinks I cheated on him even though he knows it's not true. He bases this on my ex still contacting me(my ex loves in another...

How can I help my girlfriend feel less "broken" and regain confidence after a previously emotionally abusive relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3868 days ago

15 September 2013 (M) - A little over 5 months ago I met my "dream girl", and our relationship has been going really well so far. I'm 24 and she is 22. She doesn't seem to have a whole lot of confidence in herself though. I asked her about it in the nicest way possible and ...

My best friend and my ex are dating just 3 days after we broke up!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3869 days ago

15 September 2013 (F) - I had a boyfriend that i was really, really in love with. He was the first in everything for my life, I thought of him before myself. We had great time, he was my first kiss actually which is weird for me because i am not attracted to how a person ...

Is it normal for people to check up on their exes on Facebook?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3863 days ago

14 September 2013 (F) - I was wondering, is it normal for people to Facebook stalk their exes? I've recently caught my boyfriend looking up his ex a few times, just looking at her photos and stuff. This bothers me, but I have a feeling it's pretty normal behavior. I ...

Was I wrong in how I asked the question about her 'number'? I've had 6 sexual partners, she's had 65.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3869 days ago

14 September 2013 (M) - I am not your typical guy but to date in my life i have had a total of six female sexual partners. All were long term relationships and each relationship was rewarding and satisfying. I started these when i was sixteen years old and continued ...

Why doesn't my ex believe me when I say I've been celibate for the past 11 years?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3868 days ago

14 September 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am still kind of sort of fond of my ex boyfriend, it has been years since we have saw each other plans to see each other but when the time comes its always something that gets in the way. We had a conversation on the phone with eac...

Why is my ex's girlfriend telling me I'm evil and ugly?!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3867 days ago

14 September 2013 (?) - It's been 3 yrs!! since my separation my ex a cheater!! I am in a good place emotionally and it seems that my ex's current girlfriend is on facebook under a fake account and messaging me calling me ugly and how my ex is happy and at peace. Funny ...

Am I crazy to give up everything to be close to my son?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3868 days ago

13 September 2013 (M) - My ex has decided to leave the state we are in for a distant one taking our son with her. Our son is 11 years old. She has decided to leave b/c her mother is ill, and she would like to be by her side. She has all of her family away, and has just ...

Dramatic 2 years

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3871 days ago

13 September 2013 (F) - Hello everyone, I am in a pretty sticky situation regarding an ex. We have a two year old daughter together. A few months after she was born, he met and fell in love with a stripper. It tore a wedge between us because he would put off visitation t...

Should I reach out to my ex after several years of silence?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3865 days ago

13 September 2013 (M) - I am not sure about something and wanted to get some opinions before I act. I have been separated/divorced from my ex for about three and a half years now. It was a bitter divorce, and up till now we have avoided contact except for emails and ...

My ex is taking time out to work on herself as she's severely depressed, should I wait for her or move on?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3870 days ago

13 September 2013 (F) - I'm super torn up about a break up. My ex girlfriend is having major mental illness issues and can't hold down a functioning relationship anymore. we had been together for over a year, and she'd always battled with severe anxiety and depression, but ...