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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

I feel like sometimes I am more of a annoyance than a friend.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5562 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - My ex and I were together for 5 years and split up for 3. We were best friends going into the relationship. Now it's definitely not the same. I've moved on and so has he. Which we both are totally comfortable with. He always says he wants to hang ...

I'm much better looking than she is, why did he dump me for her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hiya I still have contact with my ex bf, we speak everyday and see eachother still, Anyway basically he tells me about all these girls hes been sleeping with and how this one girl he sleept with her 7 times in one nite, then again, the other ni...

How can I collect my things and have closure with my ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5555 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - Hello all, thanks for reading. I've posted two messages before on here, I'm sure you can find them through my profile name if you want any background. I've decided to leave Uni and will be leaving to go home (overseas from where I am now) in 2 wee...

I think of my ex and my heart aches for him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I have been with a man for five years now and love him very dearly. I have been with him since my junior year in high school. Before him I was with a man for five years off and on. Well recently I have found myself thinking about my ex and my heart ...

My ex is playing mindgames with me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Hi, well me and my boyfriend have ended our 14 month relationship at the end of November last year. He emotionally ended with me while I was the one who actually said "I think we shouldnt be together any more" and he said "well if it makes you feel ...

I just want to know if he's okay. Should I get in touch?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I wrote to you guys a while back regarding me and my patner who cheated on me for the whole 10 months we were together with his wife who he never left. I broke it off with him a month and half ago, I could no longer trust him, I felt sick every ...

Does my ex still love me? Is there a chance of him coming back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - hey, so im 19 and my ex is 20. HE used to be a total partier until he met me.We dated for a year and we got really serious he introduced me to his whole family and i thought we were going great. We spent like 24/7 together, we lost our virginity ...

We broke up but I can't function without her

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (M) - My Girlfriend and I broke up back in october. She told me she wanted a break but when i asked her how long she said we should just be friends right now. The reason is because she said she had school and work to deal with and didn't want to put me on ...

Curious sex question

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I have a curious question Would you french kiss a girl who engaged in oral sex with her ex boyriend 2 years ago? Next question is it true that if you kiss a girl that engage in those things it will come in like you kissing the guy private part?......

I really miss him but I want to be close to him as we were.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - My ex keeps contacting me via email, we only split 2 weeks ago, or should I say 1 week ago, coz he kept coming round crying and saying he loves me and kissing me. He even said he didn't wanna know me for the rest of his life. Now he wants to be f...

I can't stop thinking about my ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I met my ex boyfriend about 3 months ago when we I was out with friends. The thing is I havent seen him in about five years and I am with my current boyfriend for almost 4 years.He is a lovely guy and we get on really well. Now I havent seen him ...

Am I living in a fantasy land or does he still love me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - This is going to be a book...but i will TRY to shorten this as best as possible. I met my ex when I was 15 years old and he was 16. We were each others first everything..first loves, first sexual experiences ect ect. He became a real part of my ...

Should I go back out with my ex or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend of half a year about 3 months ago for the forth time. The first time I broke up with him was the worst night of my life and consisted of me at a party standing in the middle of a cirle of my boyfriend's close friends ...

My wandering eyes have got me into trouble, now I like two guys!

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30 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend since the beginning of college (over a year). We now live together even though we are still young (19 and 22). I have a problem with my wandering eyes, but this time it has led me into a larger problem. I have feelings ...

I made a list of the good things and the bad.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I wrote here a while back now, explaining the relationship I had with my ex boyfriend. One aunt on here suggested that I make a list of the good things about my relationship and the bad things. I am going to post my list, embarrassing as it is ...

Will their relationship last?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 7 years has split up with me and is seeing a 16 year old girl, he is 23 will their relationship last?...

How have people gone from similar points with relationships - friends to more than friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5559 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - So I am hoping for some guidance or advice from some of the people on here. I have this girl who I have liked for a few years and we went to college together and still keep in touch and hang out every couple of weeks or so. Two years ago we got ...

Break my heart over and over...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Hello, I love her. But she does not love me. I think she just liked me as a friend. She broke up with her boyfriend a time ago. But still loves him. We've seen eachother from time to time and I thought she liked me. She flirted, she was smilling ...

I just can't stop thinking about my ex....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5564 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - i had a breakup with my ex about four months back.i have moved on into a rebound relationship after that. my new gf really cares about me. i never had a very comforting relationship with my ex, but we shared some really wonderful time together. my ...

The ex that doesn't want to go away

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about six months now, we get on amazingly and are very happy together. however, his ex girlfriend is clearly still not over him, they broke up over a year ago but i can see she still loves him. when she first...

I looked into his account to see he was in contact with the ex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and i love him with all my heart and he tells me the same. However theres one thing that he does which really upsets me. He still talks to his ex daily, by this i mean he often has long text conv...

Is my ex fiance playing games with me I'm so confused?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My fiance in the military of almost 2 years broke up with me out of the blue but after the break up I didn't contact him for a month, then I initiated the first contact he replied to my outmost belief quickly when we talk he talks about the future ...

Did I have the right to be insecure in our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I'm trying to gain some insight on things.. I wish my ex would come back but I have questions the situations that happened over the course of the 3 years I was with him. I wanted to reveal some aspects that made me feel insecure which led to a c...

How do you forget someone that you feel you owe everything to?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - How do you forget someone you feel like you owe everything to? My ex-boyfriend had been there for me through my best friends death and some rough times with my family. I ended our 2 year relationship when he started abusing cocaine and heroin after ...

I don't know how to ignore her or get her out of our lives... help?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about six months now, we get on amazingly and are very happy together. however, his ex girlfriend is clearly still not over him, they broke up over a year ago but i can see she still loves him. when she first ...

Partner has depression I need help to understand how he thinks

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5545 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - This question follows on from where my last one left off. I got some very sound, impartial - and ACCURATE advice, so I'm hoping for more of the same. Well, even just a sympathetic ear would do... Cheers. Let me start by saying this is a long d...

Does my ex want me back after he gets engaged to someone else????

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - This guy was my best friend of 5 years and my boyfriend for 2 of those years. Recently he and I stopped talking cause he randomly got engaged to a girl he has only known for a month and a half. (Personally I don't think they're gonna make it) My ...

Issues with his attention seeking ex-girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Well I have been seeing this guy for about 1 month and a half now and his ex GF wont leave me alone. She is a major attention seeker when ma bf dumped her when they were seeing each other she tried to overdose on her inhaler. But i have noticed at ...

When you are so hot and cold what do you want from me??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - Me and my ex split over twelve month ago after two years , I found out she was seeing someone else. I cause no fuss. We all work in the same building. All through the year she ahs been very hot and cold with me yet I have given her nothing to ...

My ex wants me back and my current b/f has given me an ultimatium. I don't know what to do!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Please can someone help me. I have been given an ultimatum by my boyfriend of 6 months and I am not sure what to do. I am happy with my current boyfriend in every way apart from the fact he has been smoking weed and taking cocaine occasionally for ...

I whinged too much and now its over. How do I show him I've changed?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - this is complicated, but, i was with my bf for a year and eight months and we had a fantastic time together, he told me his ex gf, his first love who he was with for a year cheated on him and that he absolutely hates her. but he broke up with me a ...

One day you'll read my book..I need help..I'm a train wreck!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - long story short... adult story girl meets boy on lake, 2 weeks later he moves across country... their friendship turn to love and he moves back for her. They get a house things are going good and SNAP everything goes to shit. He basically rap...

Are my suspicions right?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I am pretty sure that I already know the answers to my questions, but it is one of those things that you just have such a hard time believing until you hear it from somebody else, so here is goes. I met my husband at a new job that we had both just ...

How do I get over my ex, of seven years ago?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Help!! It's been seven years and I cannot get over my ex. I don't know what's wrong with me but I still think about him everyday. We are not in touch but I have a fairly good idea of where he is now. I've read loads of "How to get over your ex" ...

I didn't think I deserved him so I let him go but now I know I want him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5566 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Here's the story..... For the last 2.5 years I've been having troubled relationships. I've dated 3 guys 2 of which had serious mental and relationship problems worse than me! The guy I dated in between the 2 was wonderful! Everything a gir...

Will I ever be able to trust him while she is still in his life?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 10 months still has regular contact with his ex, he dated her for 5 years, she is 23 he is 40. A few week ago he went to meet her and she stayed the night at his, he told me he was going home to watch the footie with his neighbour ...

I don't understand why my ex still wants to be friends.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 2 months, broke up nearly six months ago now, but have remained friends since. His reasons for the breakup were that he wanted to concentrate on himself (his family, studies etc). For many of the...

She says nothing happened but I still doubt her...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I started dating a person in August of last year. We had a wonderful time together. However, she had an ex that she still loved. By Christmas, I was head over heals. Then he came back in town and poof, they were together. Now that he has gone ...

Would you ever go back to an ex???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Hiya people, One quick question when a guy says he doesn't go back to his ex, does he mean it even when people say there's a connection between you both? That's what my ex has said to me, but he's gone back to one of his ex's before and it ha...

Help needed... I'm so screwed up at the moment I feel exhausted.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Ok me and my ex split in october just gone, he dumped me to go back with the mother of his daughter, anyway that didn't work out, and we started sleeping together like once a week, as like fuck buddies. We still remain friends but, he's now ...

Is there any way that I can prevent myself from falling for him again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I've always been the type of girl to fall for a guy pretty easily. The thing is, recently I have been hooking up with one of my best guy friends, who also happens to be my ex who I was in love with. I know that he really liked me, but he never truly ...

My ex is acting strangely towards me and I think we need to talk. What should I say?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - After breaking up three weeks ago, I'm already sick of being the "ex". Me and my ex are at university together, and since we broke up things are completely different. I assumed things would change, but I can't understand why it seems to have ch...

I want to let go so we can be friends in the long run

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - ok so my ex (21) and I (22) were trying to do the friend thing. it was difficult because the relationship was brought up frequently (on my part more so). he would keep on telling me how much he loves me, misses me, and wishes he could be with me and ...

Am I the father?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - Hi, I have been seeing an ex and having sex on a pretty casual basis for the last year. She has always been on the pill. I last slept with her on the 1st January. A couple of weeks later she said she couldn't see me anymore as she had met someone ...

After 18 months I still think of my ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I was in love with this man, 1st love, you know how you think you've been in love before but then you meet someone and realise you never were? Well this was it. After a while he broke up with me, I was absoloutly heartbroken, couldn't eat, felt phy...

Can I still get him back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5567 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of a year and a half just broke up with me four days ago. we had some rough time but we finally getting better (at least i thought we were). My birthday was three days before and we had a good time, but he seemed a little distant. The ...

Does he really only want to be friends or does he just want time to do his own thing?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5567 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend broke up nearly six months ago now, but have remained friends since. His reasons for the breakup were that he wanted to concentrate on himself(his family, studies etc). For many of these months i was const...

My pics are with my ex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - this is very urgent !my ex bf and i broke up 6 months ago after an intimate relationship that lasted for 2 years .i actually suggested that we be friends and keep in touch . now im with another guy and the other day my ex texted me asking if ...

Is there a chance this could work for us again...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5567 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - Me and my ex husband were married 6 years and we ended it with a nasty divorce, for the first 5 months after we were enemies, after that we started to get close and closer. It's been almost 4 years and we have never slept together and we have become ...

I love her but I feel she still loves him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5567 days ago

26 January 2009 (M) - I really like this girl. And before she liked me. I was too shy and she got with this other guy for a while but now they have broken up and I have plucked up the courage to speak to her and call her. Things were going okay. She dropped hints but now ...