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Archived questions from: May, 2011 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Break up after 3.5 years, how does he just move on like that?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

31 May 2011 (F) - my ex and i broke up after three in a half years.it was a very unhealthy relationship and i knew he wouldnt change with the overcontrolling jealousy didnt trust and so on...he was my first everything meaning i never gave him a reason to act like ...

years later I still miss him and love him

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31 May 2011 (F) - I dated this guy over two years ago. We were never serious, but he was my first real love at age 25. I don't think he loved me, and I felt crazy because of his ambivalence when we dated. It was actually a very tumultuous relationship and not ...

Why did husband treat me like I didn't exist at this important event?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 May 2011 (F) - Why did he treat me like I didn't exist this one important event? He has always treated me well. This was my first time meeting his childhood friends at his east coast 50th reunion party. His ex gf came on very forward and acted as if he were hers. ...

Do I keep ignoring my ex and try to move on, or should I text her back?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

31 May 2011 (F) - So me and my ex broke up about a month and a half ago after 2 yrs together, and she started dating someone else a month after we broke up,which REALLY hurt me,but instead of freaking out about it,i told her that i still wanted to be friends with ...

Would a girl not like me if I was friends with her ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4711 days ago

31 May 2011 (M) - So their is this girl i have liked for a long time. She has had a boyfriend though up to a little of a month ago. During that time period I got to know her real well and found out we have a lot in common. During that time I am pretty sure she had a ...

Stuck in the past; need help to move forward

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

30 May 2011 (M) - Its been a few months since I ended a relationship because my gf was cheating emotionally. Before this relationship that just ended I had a relationship with a woman named Katherine that lasted five years. Even when I was with my last girlfrie...

Confused about being friends with my ex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

30 May 2011 (F) - hey everyone and sorry if this is a bit long: me and my ex went out for just over 8 months, things were good , only had one arguement in that time. however one day he decides to just tell me he's met someone else ( basically broke up) i obv was ...

He played me, but I still can't get him out of my heart

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

30 May 2011 (F) - I can't get this guy out of my head, he played with my heart for over three years, we became really good friends at first, he helped me with the bullies I worked with and he understod that I was shy and lacked confidence, I trusted him and after ...

I'm worried my pregnant girlfriend is seeing her ex. Now she's not answering my calls!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

30 May 2011 (M) - Hi to all, I am not sure whether I am at the right place. I have this big problem. Me and my gf of 20 months are expecting a baby this days. We got in 2 arguments lately. She chat with her ex behind my back and she knew that I don't like that at ...

My GF broke up with me saying that once she finds someone that has potential for the long run, she no longer wants to be in a relationship anymore!!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

30 May 2011 (M) - One week ago my girlfriend broke up with me at the beginning of summer. We've been together for some time now and it felt like the breakup came out of nowhere since we had fun with each other earlier that day (interestingly enough, this is the exact ...

Why would he lie about ending the relationship with this other girl if we were already dating?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4715 days ago

29 May 2011 (F) - my boyfriend used to be in an open relationship when we stared giong but he told me he wanted to settle down and have a serious relationship with me, after he told me he had dumped her we spended around a month just dateing and he slept with two ...

I'm afraid he'll become more than friends with his childhood pal

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4700 days ago

29 May 2011 (F) - Me and my bf have been together for 3 years, before our 2 years anniversary, a messed up situation occured between us and I know most relationships encounter this problem. It's not cheating, but we broke up and a friend of mine asked him to hang out ...

He lied to me in the beginning of our relationship and I still can't trust him 2 years later

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4715 days ago

29 May 2011 (F) - My bf once messed me around a bit by meeting up with his [stunning] ex-girlfriend for coffee and lying to me about it, saying he hadn't. I also found pictures of her on his computer, saved after we had started dating. This was 2 years ago. We had a ...

He says he's not ready for a relationship, but wants to continue dating...I'm not sure I want to go along with this.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

29 May 2011 (F) - Hi there.. i really need some of ur help pls..u see one of my guy friends asked me for a date..we have been friends for like a year. I went out with him just yesterday and this morning he talked to me and all..he also said that he didnt want to hide ...

I saw my ex smile and kiss his new girl, and even though I have a new boyfriend now, my heart dropped. If they break up, I know he will come to cry on my shoulder....Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4709 days ago

29 May 2011 (F) - me and my boyfriend split up a while ago now, and i am now with another boy that is treating me like I'm the only girl in his world! if he think I'm upset he'll ring me straight away, the biggest smile ever comes on his face when he sees me walking ...

He left me heartbroken. How can I get over this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

29 May 2011 (F) - Your Open Question: Why is he doing this? am so hurt:( he broke my heart:(? I loved my ex bf so much. I thought we were happy and in love. He use to tell me he loves me everyday. Then he started acting weird and broke up with me. After ...

I'm wondering if my ex still has feelings for me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4709 days ago

29 May 2011 (F) - I was talking to my ex the other day n we were gonna make plans to go hiking just the two of us, n he said he'd have to check w/his new gf to make sure she was cool w/it. n I said ok np, do u think she'd be ok w/it or that its weird since im your ...

What am I supposed to do? Trust my ex or this creepy guy friend of hers?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

29 May 2011 (M) - Everyone has heard the phrase love is not enough. Me personally I find it hard to believe that if someone says they love you and continue to do what they want that is not love. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. Maybe I was a little over zea...

B/f in touch with alot of his exs and hooks ups. He says its nothing but I don't trust him

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

28 May 2011 (F) - Ok, My husband left me when our daughter was just 18 months. He was having an emotional affair from what I gather with a girl he worked with. My problem is now that I'm finding it hard to trust my new boyfriend. We have been together almost 12 ...

Why does he say those things to me when he's with her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4711 days ago

28 May 2011 (F) - Okay, how long is this box? I have a lot to say. But how to word it. I'll start from the begging and I will try and keep it brief. I was thirteen when I met him, yes him, you know the one. He's the one that makes your heart skip a beat, the one ...

My ex is playing mind games!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

28 May 2011 (?) - My ex has been plating mind games a bit. For the last few months we have stayed in contact after the break up. I now have got to the point where I have had enough and have previously said for there to be no more contact. Now I have been ignoring ...

Is it time I stopped this? I am still trying to get over my ex. Is it time I moved on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4711 days ago

28 May 2011 (F) - My ex and i are trying to get to know each other again, to see if we can get into a relationship again. some history we dated for month and a half before we became official and in a relationship for 6 months, we both think we should have got to know ...

A constant reminder, in my thoughts, and dreams... Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

28 May 2011 (F) - Hey guys, so i need some help and don't know where else to go, people tell me to do all different things but i just don't know what to do! Ive been broken up from ex boyfriend almost a year ago next month. Realising it's been a year blew me awa...

Why did my ex leave his current g/f when he says shes better at sex than me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

28 May 2011 (F) - Me and My Ex Broke Up 2 Months ago and a month later I found out he had a new girlfriend , his friends told me he would say she's awsome in bed better than me and gives him whatever he wants when he wants it. but Recently their relationship ...

Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

28 May 2011 (F) - My ex called me after 8 mo or so.. saying he missed hanging out with me etc. When we were dating, he was going through a custody battle, living with his mom because he was helping her out (she had back surgery) and they fought alot. We ended on a ...

Does my ex boyfriend's apology mean he still has feelings or is he just feeling guilty?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

28 May 2011 (F) - Well i split up with my boyfriend of 2 years just over 3 months ago. We ended in a pretty bad way leading me to delete him from facebook. He completely cut contact, although i finished him, he drove me to it and all i wanted was answers to why he ...

How do I stop hating her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

27 May 2011 (?) - I used to have a "thing" with a guy. That ended a while ago then he got a girlfriend who lives in the same town as him. He lives hours away from me. So, he's been with her nearly two years but for nearly a year and a half of that he's been coming on ...

My old lover has come back and asked me to be with him forever, should I take him back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

27 May 2011 (F) - dear friend, i have to talk to you for an advice, after 2 years brek up of my lover , he returned to me and asked me to be with him foreer, but before this i am going to tell you this short story what happend in the past, he met me at my school ...

My Ex is ignoring me, I miss him and was nice, why is he being this way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

27 May 2011 (F) - Currently im trying to cope with the fact my ex is ignoring me. I broke up with him a cpl months ago because he was too busy for me and seemed to be going through a depression and being overwhelmed by work and school. So instead of listening to my ...

This guy just asked me to be his girlfriend, but I'm thinking about how devastated my ex would feel.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

27 May 2011 (F) - Hey guys, so.. if you've read my questions before, you'll know the mist of my last relationship. we broke up 2 and a half months ago. He broke up with me and used the stupid "it's not you its me" thing.. he didnt know what he wanted.. so then after ...

Do I have double standards when it comes to dealing with an ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

26 May 2011 (F) - Hi, thanks in advance for your advice! My boyfriend keeps in contact with his first girlfriend (his ex) of 5 years ago, she's a little mentally unstable, and she treats him like crap. She is disrespectful of our relationship and of him. She dema...

My ex cheated on my with his sister's ex girlfriend. Why does he keep in contact with her if he has no feelings for her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

26 May 2011 (F) - my ex bf cheated on me with hius sisters ex gf, he saids he has no feelings for her, but he keeps calling her and visiting her. why does he keep lying to me about seeing her? what should i do? i still love him....

Should I Sue Her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

26 May 2011 (M) - Okay here is my previous post and question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-if-she-is-genuine-and-it-is.html My girlfriend and I have broken up now.I have spent more than 20k on her in the past 8 months. I bought her various gifts fr...

I really like both these guys. My ex is now ignoring me. I need some clarity please? What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

26 May 2011 (F) - I really like this guy. I will call him Y. And I really like my my ex, who im still in love with. I will call him X So X and i broke up in june last year...8 months later after a different girlfriend, he came back begging for me to take him back tha...

He's is acting crazy after he went though a breakup! How can I help him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

26 May 2011 (F) - So I have this friend..I dated him about 2 years ago..he just recently went through a bad bad break up and is being really rude and just crazy.. It's scaring me..I like him a lot..and I wanna help him but he's going crazy..like calling his ex a ...

Fight for the ex? or leave the past in the past?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

26 May 2011 (F) - A few months ago, my ex boyfriend and I broke up. We had been having some problems, it had turned into a pretty unhealthy relationship and it was time to move on. Since then we've had limited contact- occasional texts/calls- but nothing else. That ...

Will I ever stop thinking and dreaming of him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

25 May 2011 (F) - i bumped into my ex of four years abt 3days ago..we broke up fr a year it was a bumpy relationship but i loved him through thick and thin.he ended up breaken my heart into thousands of little pieces and i felt exactly the same way at dat moment.it ...

How do I get his ex out of my head before it ruins our relationship??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

25 May 2011 (F) - Hi Cupid, Ive been going with my boyfriend for just over a month now and already we've fallen for each other and we're very happy. However, I'm really struggling to get his ex out of my head! I know im being silly, but I was going through his comp...

My ex-girlfriend only wants oral.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

25 May 2011 (M) - Ok so I have an ex-girlfriend, who is in her mid-20's and I am in my later 30's. We live 1,000 apart now. I was visiting the city she lives in and on her birthday we hooked up and then two days later we hooked up again. She wouldn't have se...

My GF thinks I cheat on her and is subjecting me to immense physical and mental abuse!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

25 May 2011 (M) - hey guys n girls, longer story....help me.... im sorry if im not typing correctly to be honest im so depressed and sad. ok 3 yrs ago me and my gf got into a very big fight and she smacked me in my face then later she hit me with a bottle. I left h...

Do you think it is okay to have a relationship with the ex-husband of my ex-husband’s wife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

25 May 2011 (F) - me and my ex husband have been divorced for almost 11 years now and have a 14 yr old daughter and an 11 yr old son. he is now re-married and has been for about 4 years or so. his new wife had also been divorced for a while and has a son with her ex ...

Why does ex still message me after all this time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4719 days ago

25 May 2011 (F) - Hello all, Please can I have your views. I managed to get out of a pretty nice then preety destructive relationship with my ex, but he has been on and off contacting me for over 9 months now, and when I respond to him, he either sends a one line...

Fiance cannot stop bringing up old lovers!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

25 May 2011 (F) - My fiance can not stop bringing up my past lovers and Its ruining our sex life, as well as our relationship. I am 27 years old and have been with 38 men, and I'll admit, thats a lot. I have much regret for my bad choices in lovers, and wish I ...

I'm torn between my ex and my friend!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

25 May 2011 (F) - My ex is back. He is 26 and I'm 16.I love him. During our break-up I met one guy online. He is really good. He is 23. After my break-up I was depressed he helped me to get over him. But He is addicted to sex. And He love some other girl,He never to...

Should I tell my ex gf I am moving and the new place is by her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

25 May 2011 (M) - Ok. I am selling my condominium. I am sick of working on it. I have found a great deal on an apartment in a neighboring city. The only problem is that the apartment is only about 6 blocks from my most recent ex gf. We dated only 4 1/2 months but I ...

I don't want to end things when they're going so well with my current boyfriend, but I don't know if I can keep going when I can't stop thinking about my ex. Help

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

25 May 2011 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend of 11 months almost a year ago. I didn't hear from him for 4 months afterwards, and then he got in contact asking how I was. I was already seeing someone else by then, who I like a lot. The problem is, we kept talk...

Should I continue trying to be his friend? Also admit I have feelings for him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4710 days ago

25 May 2011 (F) - Sorry this is a bit complicated: Back in January I met a guy through a friend,Lora, I didn't think much of him at first but then really got interested. We flirted for about two months before our first date; he took me out on my birthday while m...

He's living 3 lives with 3 wives and I'm tired of it all!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4719 days ago

25 May 2011 (F) - How do I handle all of this? I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We are both in our 50's. We live 30 mins. away from each other. With his work schedule, we don't get to spend much time together. He has been divorced for 8yrs and has a 14 ...

Being back in my hometown is making me miss my ex.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4706 days ago

24 May 2011 (M) - So me and my ex have been broken up for about two or three months. I have not spoken a word to her since I left her house after saying it was over. She told me she had feeling for a friend of hers and they have now been dating for a while now. I ...

My ex has moved on but I cant seem to!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago