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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

We made it official but now he isn't texting me as much!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This guy I been talking to for couple months has been showing interest in me as being more then friends, so over the weekend we decided to meet for the first time and partied with a few friends, had some drinks, and just chilled. However, as the night went on we slept in the ... (169 words)

Should I chase after this girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone and I would like to take some advises from you today. Now I am in a new school and there is a girl who is in a year above me. We are both boarders which means we both live in the school 24/7. During school time, I do not have lesson with her but during break... (232 words)

How do I get this man to trust me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I really hope you can help me with this as I don't know what to do I met a man 9 month ago he asked me out I said yes I bought him a present for his birthday and he said it was too soon so I left that at that that was a while ago me and him don't see or speak that ... (207 words)

I really like her, trying to give her space, should I just stay in the background?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I met this lady about a month ago now, asked her if she would like to meet up for drinks and we had a fantastic time, then we met again a week later and had another great time. Then we went round my place a few days later to cook and watch films. Which was also fun, but th... (458 words)

Should I just end things? B/f being mean and I wonder if he's cheating on me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4533 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for a while and our past isn't the best, however we have agreed to put that behind us and move on. Lately it hasn't been great I have the feeling that he's cheating and he's been being really mean not wanting to see me saying I'm being too ... (122 words)

Feeling beat down in this relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been in a relationship for 4 years, we have 2 young children together. I don't even know where to start, but I feel so broken and withdrawn since our last argument. We don't fight all the time, but when we do he says the most hurtful things. He is ALWAYS right in his ... (266 words)

I'm trying to feel comfortable about my boyfriend occasionally watching porn

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

21 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I'm hoping to settle this whole porn issue (though it isn't one at all) once and for all. I watch porn myself and I know my boyfriend does. But why do I get so touchy when the subject comes up? Or when I see hot women in a movie? I am attractive, I am what some guys have called ... (235 words)

Is it normal to obsess over a celebrity?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (?) age 26-29 - Okay so i'm 15 ... and i'm just wondering if it's normal to obsess over a celebrity ... now i'm not crazy or anything. It's a member of a not so popular band and i was in covent garden for about the one and only time last week and i wrote as a joke to him on twitter inviting... (104 words)

Should I go and see my boyfriend cause his sister said they missed me and wanted to see me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - From my other post you might get the point that my bf hasn't been contacting me as much as he used to since I called him on his cousins phone. Well it's been a month since I heard from him he said "baby call me back my uncle just died" I tried calling but no answer. That phone ... (359 words)

How do I get over social enxiety?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - how do i get over social enxiety? i dont realy go out (besides work) i some times go out on friday to the pool club with some friends but thats not very often saturday and sunday a day of sports and thats it back to work, ihave absolutly no confidence with big crowds i have ... (307 words)

What was this - friends with a little bit of benefits?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I have a question about friends with benefits (FWB). My wife and I watched the movie 'Friends with Benefits' about 2 weeks ago. This past weekend we were at some of our friends home, and the topic of this movie came up. I just casually said, yep, 'xxx' my wife had a friend with ... (237 words)

Should I wait for her to get over the breakup before I ask her out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - There's this girl I've met about 4 months ago, I learned she broke up with her bf after a 4 year relationship, and about 3 months later she found a new bf, but about 2 weeks ago he ran back to his old gf breaking her heart. Truth be told, I liked her since the moment I met... (160 words)

My partner's addiction is getting in the way of his providing for the family

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi! I need some good solid advicw! Me and my partner have been together nearly 7 years we have 2 young kids! Im not working at the minute as i wanna stay at home and look after my chuldren properly! My partner tried starting up his own cleaning business and got alot of things ... (300 words)

Is it normal to feel aroused when you do pelvic floor exercises?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Girls, I know this sounds like a bit of a dumb question, but is it normal to feel sort of aroused when you do pelvic floor exercises? I don't think I've quite got the hang of them yet as I've only just started, but sometimes I have to stop because the movement kinda turns me ... (67 words)

He lied to me and I'm starting to have my doubts about him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Two days ago my boyfriend told me he had to go do some work-related stuff. He told me it would take him a couple of hours and he would come see me right after he was done. Five hours or so later (it was really late by then, around 12am or something), he called me asking m... (406 words)

I'm having a hard time with my family and need some advice.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hey...i need some family advice :) i have had a bad past life with my family but i have put all that behind me well i thought i had :\ today i saw my brother again after a year because of my controlling grand mother (dads mum) she stop my brother from contacting my mums side of ... (176 words)

I want to see him at least once before I leave, is that too much to ask?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid Me and my bf are together for 2 years and i am travelling away for my studies in another 2 weeks and we have to be in LDR for 6 months. Since i am travelling i asked my bf to meet once before i leave (he stays 5 hrs away from my place), He said he'll come and m... (136 words)

Is he only interested in sex? This guy has confused me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and this guy work together and have known each other for a while. The night we were out with co workers he admits to having his eye on me for a long time. (this wasnt the first he told me that a few months ago but I was on the rebound and wasnt ready). We talked about how ... (394 words)

I'm FWB with my younger ex, but he has another girl as an FWB too! How do I get him to like me more than her?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone, well I really need help in this situation and please reply with honesty. well here we go first of all im a 16 yr old girl and I have an ex bf that my lil brother present to me, my ex is 14 and not turning 15 till 8 months and im turning 17 in 5 months. well ... (494 words)

She didnt tell me she loves me before she went to sleep and now I'm really hurt, am I overreacting?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi. My girlfriend and I were texting each other late at night like we usually do, and joking around and everything. She told me she was tired and night. She always tell me 'night babe I love you'. I asked her if she was mad at me and she said no, she was tired and just forgot. ... (87 words)

He took part in a golf tournament with another woman because I'm not good enough! Now we cant stop rowing about this, what should I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4535 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age - My husband and I both play golf. He has been a member for years and plays regularly, but I am a beginner and only get chance to play occasionally. At the weekend the club were holding an Open Doubles Competition which he wanted to play in. All of his friends were busy that d... (154 words)

My sex drive is too high! How do I stop it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a severe problem that I can't seem to get rid of. I have a very high sex drive and I hate it! It seems as though no matter how much me and my husband fool around, or how much I masturbate that I always feel like I'm horny and need to get off and it is beginning to sicken ... (103 words)

Am I too heavy to be a stripper?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello. I know this is a bit off topic but I was recently contemplating becoming an exotic dancer/stripper to make some extra cash but wanted some advice as to what a dancer should ideally look like. I workout about 3x a week running 30 minutes to 1 hour plus weights and ... (124 words)

He used to mess me around but now he's back in my life wanting a bit of fun...I'm not getting any younger, so should I go for it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm not getting any younger and will be a 40 next year but during those years, I have not really had a steady committed relationship with anybody as I have been messed about and let down a few times. I have had a few dates along the way but nobody who has left a lasting ... (410 words)

He's 15 years older than me and from another country so his English is not great....should I ask him out anyway?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4537 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so im 21 and live in the UK....as most of us know the UK is full of people well not from here and I happen to work in a place where there is more non-UK workers than UK workers. I love my job and my old department was great as I had such a laugh with the guys in there (g... (335 words)

We fight so much! What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I have almost been with my boyfriend for a year and we fight so much. I think I love him but then theres days when I just dont know anymore. how do I make things better and save our relationship ?... (41 words)

He says "I need you" meaning????

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi all, what does it mean when a guy says he needs you? is it a sign of co dependancy, or does it mean he loves you or what? !! Thanks - x... (34 words)

I think he's just living with me for the kids and because he doesn't want to live alone

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I feel my partner or supposed partner has a problem. He has started going out at wkends binge drinking and taking amphemines. We have 2 kids and our relationship has always been volitile. I dont feel he loves me and that im just the maid that does things round the house. Our ... (332 words)

How do I deal with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi guys. I am seeing a girl for like 4 months. She is younger than me but we are very well connected and enjoy our company very much. Lately she has been going through some troubles at her home and with friends and she moved to live alone recently as well. She broke up with her ... (183 words)

She has left me and is now engaged to her ex! What should I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I am a male 24 y.o a graduate student study abroad. When I study abroad, I met this angel, she is the most beautiful girl I ever seen, and I love her so bad (we came from the same country, btw). The problem is that she already have a boyfriend back in our home country,... (478 words)

I found hundreds of porn videos on his laptop. I'm devastated.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is so hard, I dunno where to start :/ I moved abroad about a year ago, I left everything behind because I wanted to pursue some intellectual goals. Everyone supported me and it seemed pretty exciting for me. Things were good, and they got better when I met my (now -ex)... (583 words)

My vagina is so small it is stopping us from having sex! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am married from 4 months, me and my hubby tried a lot to have sex, but it never happens :( I feel my vagina is too small and his penis is too large for me. I read some articles saying that vagina feels small until the hymen breaks. But how to break it? as we have tried a lot, ... (68 words)

What should I write in my cousin's wedding card?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all. Well i dont have any relationship problem....my cousin is getting married this weekend and i wana write something funny, something unqiue, something that she will remember her whole life and laugh in her wedding card. Can you all please help me and tell me what shall i ... (58 words)

Starting over again. Running out of time to have a family. Will men be put off by my situation when I start dating?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am 39 (40 next spring) and childless. I have just come out of a 10 year marriage which pretty much destroyed my sense of self worth / esteem. I am still a little raw but trying to move on. My hopes and dreams for a happy family life with a loving man seem impossible. I am... (152 words)

He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 4161 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had so many problems. The experien... (506 words)

Is my girlfriend cheating on me ?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - So recently my girlfriend received a text message from an unsaved number. I told her to respond to it and she did it very hesitantly. She responded who is this. I then asked her to turn on her on sound because i was suspicious. So we were on the bed and i decided to text and ... (228 words)

I was sent to a department to help out but the two women already there are making it hell for me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so I know this has nothing to do with love but this is a work sitution in which I really need some help with. So around 2/3 months ago I was taken from one department and put into another to train up how they work in their office as right now there is only 2 of them who wo... (572 words)

Should I dump him despite the fact he's given up the porn??

This question has 33 answers - newest was posted 4534 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a problem. My boyfriend of nearly seven years has watched and masturbated to pornography throughout behind my back. He has also lied to me when I have caught him out. He even continued to do this whilst I was pregnant and after our baby arrived... until I caught him ... (247 words)

He's ok till we are with others then he starts to get weird and doesn't trust me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4527 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been seeing a very nice guy for about a month now. Fell in love and everything is perfect when we are alone together, but the moment we are in a group with friends its almost as if he gets very insecure abut us. He tells me I look around at other guys, and he feels like ... (152 words)

Why does he have issues with our 7 month relationship being the open?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi im in a relationship since last 7 months. the man im in a relationship with is known to have a very colourful past. though, he denies it all and says that he has had only 2 girlfriends in his past. i have nothing to do with his past. i dont even care as to how many relatio... (205 words)

I like him but he's friends with all of his ex girlfriends!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been talking to this guy, we'll call him D. We've been talking for a week and I like him. So far. The thing is, I've been hurt so much in the past, idk what to believe. He's friends with 4 of his exse, and I'm not friends with any of mines. Should I worry or be jealous ? ... (67 words)

Am I normal for wanting to remain single?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Is it normal that I shut out all emotions and don't even care for having a girlfriend? About a year ago this time I was always stressing about finding a girlfriend and wondering why I was alone but something clicked in me this past summer and I really don't even think about it... (174 words)

I still talk to my ex but am with new guy and don't feel comfortable with the new guy. Whom do I chose?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I am dating this guy, we have been seeing each other for a little over a month. Him and I started dating after 3 weeks or so of me breaking up with my ex of a year and a half. Now after a month of not talking to him my ex and I are starting to talk again. When i spend time ... (360 words)

How do I tell him that it was never him, but I had commitment phobia?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - - met man of my dreams after a serious relationship of 4 years - heartbroken over the 4-year-relationship but pursued by dream boy before healing process had even began to start. - his patience and opening his heart asking for commitment = ongoing for 3 years since we met... (307 words)

Does he mean we aren't serious or what?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing Mr X for a month now and as of thus weekend still never asked what he wants/is looking for. But he lately seems to be pulling away a bit. Yesterday I called him on it and said I just dont know what's going on with us and that I can't turn my feelings for him on ... (177 words)

How can I regain her trust and respect?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey all, I have a question about trust. The short version is: I have a friend who used to trust me, but due to some traumatic circumstances (not involving me or anything), she's lost it. Honestly though, you'll need the long version to understand! And let me start off by say... (381 words)

So lost and hurt after discovering my boyfriend has been sleeping with some of his female friends

This question has 30 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What do I do? i love him so much but i'm so lost and hurt. I found out recently my bf has been sleeping with one of his friends since we got together and then found out he recently had a threesome with two of his other female friends. That and is still sleeping with on... (134 words)

How do I let him down gently without hurting him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm friendly with a guy thru my circle of friends. We met recently and he's very nice and funny BUT too young for me and I don't think I feel any sparks. He's been trying to get me to go out and I wouldn't mind but not more then as friends. How do I approach this without ... (59 words)

Is my interest in transexual pornography a harmless fantasy or a sign of something else?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

- I'm not sure how to start, so I will just dive in. I am 36 and married to a woman I love. We have good sex and no problems except that my testosterone may be a little low so we don't have it as much as we used to, but i'm working on that. The problem i'm having is that I... (208 words)

He held my hand, tickled me and looks at me at youth group. Does it mean he likes me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So, I'm a fifteen year old girl. I just started high school. I went to youth group tonight and we were playing a game and I would sometimes look around the room and would always catch this one guy looking at me. After youth group he came up to me and we started talking and he w... (141 words)

My friends hang out with my boyfriend behind my back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My friend who I've been friends with for 4 years, acts as if she's better then me. At school she ignores me as if she's embarressed to be my friend, but on the weekends acts as if we're best friends. She calls me every weekend to hang out and its getting annoying. I know she... (245 words)

How can I divorce my husband when I'm all he has?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4537 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've posted a few times now and had some really good replies. I'm now in a situation where I am so unhappy with my life/marriage that I am actively pursuing affairs. In the 7 years we have been together we have grown apart, we are so different now. I want so much more from life ... (281 words)

If I'm not attracted to my boyfriend's friends then why am I so awkward around them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4540 days ago

21 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Why am I so awkward and shy around my boyfriend's friends? It's not like I'm at all physically attracted to either of his good friends, I just can't seem to speak up or say what's on my mind. I throw in a few jokes here and there but with great difficulty and most of the time... (194 words)

My husband wants to wait a year before trying to conceive but my irregular periods might be a problem

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 28 and in a stable relationship. The past few months my man and I have spoken about children and when we feel will be the right time. At first M was saying he wanted to wait several years, then he said when I felt ready. I admitted to him that I am ready now and suddenl... (346 words)

How can I pursue her in a way that allows me to save face if I fail?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So my recent troubles is not really a trouble, I'm just looking for advice. i have started to think about what-ifs about this girl I'm starting to get to know. She's funny, athletic, outgoing, and very upfront. I recently was the only friend of her's to go to her sporting ... (180 words)

Some advice needed on overcoming an infatuation with my best friend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4538 days ago

21 November 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm in love with my best friend. I knew him since the beginning of the school year he helping me a lot since im new at school and that made me fall for him even more. He has a girlfriend. He is the person i been dreaming about ever since i started high school He is per... (150 words)

Is he genuinely interested in me? Or am I just a rebound?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4540 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is he genuinely interested or am I just a rebound? I was friends with this guy in high school but we were mostly just school friends. This past summer (after our first year of college), we really became close friends and would hang out a lot. I also had just gotten out of a 15-... (340 words)

This girl who my fiance works with, thinks its her responsibility to wake him up every morning for work! If he doesn't answer she will keep calling like 5-6 times!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4539 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My fiance and I are both 20 and well he has this girl that is his friend who also works with him and she calls my fiance every morning like an hour before he has to go to work and tells him not to be late.If he doesn't answer she will keep calling like 5-6 times! This bothers ... (111 words)

Some insight needed to help me figure out how I feel about him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

21 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - hey, so i'm kinda of debating on if i like this guy or not. he's pretty much my type; he's tall, funny, cute, and nice. we flirt all the time and it always seems like were never serious. he always says stuff like- i like you, or your the best girlfriend ever (but were not going ... (160 words)