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writes:My fiance and I are both 20 and well he has this girl that is his friend who also works with him and she calls my fiance every morning like an hour before he has to go to work and tells him not to be late.If he doesn't answer she will keep calling like 5-6 times! This bothers me so bad because he always sets an alarm to get up to or I will wake him up I don't know why this girl thinks its her responsibility to wake my fiance up in the morning for work!what should I do? I have talked to him about it but she still calls!!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 November 2011):
 you've talked to him.. what does he say?
I'd personally answer the phone myself... and say.. "I've got it covered he'll see you at work"...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): You've skipped the most important part of the story. How does your fiance react to this situation? What is his stand? Because, this is something he should deal with, not you, assuming that he also thinks it is a problem. But if he likes the fact she calls him, then it is a problem between you and your fiance and you need to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. I like the advice from one of the previous answers, you should answer the phone and tell her you are having fun in bed, he he he.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): I would answer the phone and tell her there are much more fun things he's doing in bed than just sleeping before work with you and she doesn't have to worry about him being late as you, his fiancée, are always there! Say it with a smile and if I were you I really wouldn't be too fussed about what she thought as you dont ever have to see her : )
But seriously women like this annoy me, she knows he has a fiancée I guess so what she is playing at I have no idea. Your fiancée probably has a typical bloke attitude and can't see that this might indicate she has a thing for him as I know my partner can be pretty naive : ) talk to him and tell him to speak to her or turn his phone off every night and she will get the message eventually. His phone alarm will work even if he turns the phone off!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 She only does this because your boyfriend thinks it's okay. If he tells her to stop or not do it she wont. Be mad at him for accepting and encouraging this, rather than be mad at her.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 If you have spoken to your BF about it and this is still happening, then next time onward answer the phone yourself. Be very matter-of-fact, and ask her if there is a message that you can take for your fiance. Tell her that in case she's wondering if he's up or not, she needn't worry. Hopefully that should shut her up.
If it still doesn't, then your fiance needs to be told to put this girl in place. He has given her way too many liberties. Its really none of her business to wake him up
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Well... You COULD tell your B/F to go over to her house to spend the night.... then, all she'll have to do to rouse him is to give him a nudge......
Of course, if she's been rousing him all night, then he might not "rouse" well in the AM.... but, what will you know 'cuz you'll be miles away.....
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Is she his assistant??
Does he have an issue with being late?
Has he asked her to be his alarm clock?
Do you not like this girl for other reasons? Do you think she's a threat to your relationship?
It's no one's responsibility other than your fiance's to wake up on time. If he can't get his arse out of bed and to work on time, then that's his problem.
I say talk to her in person first about her excessive calling in the morning. If that's not feasible, then do like Ciar said and answer the phone yourself.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Have you tied answering the phone yourself? You could thank her for being thoughtful and assure her you both have everything under control. Whether or not you think being thoughtful is her motive, she is less likely to get her back up (and your boyfriend won't feel caught in the middle) if you're pleasant (and assertive) with her.
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