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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Where do I stand after this one night stand?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4510 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a friend of a friend a year ago and we had a one night stand. I didn't see him for a few months, however we all began to go out as a group. Since then, everytime we have been out we have always ended up kissing and staying in each others houses after a night out, however ... (245 words)

How do I tell the girl I've been seeing for a month, that I have herpes?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4546 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Ive just found out ive got herpes, ive been seeing a girl for about a month. we've used protection every time we've had sex how do i tell her i have it. Shes a old friend as well and i feel really bad about having it, i don't know where its came from or how to tell her. I feel ... (95 words)

He makes me feel worthless I don't know why

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi guys it me again.. Hope you all are doing fine. I need some advice on yet another dysfunctional relationship I have found myself in. After a string of physically abusive relationships I finally split up with the recent one who bit a chunk out of my arm and put me in ... (653 words)

Is being loud a bad thing?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is there a problem with being too loud during sex? My boyfriend and I don't have sex like we used to because he said I'm too loud and his roomates are home and we all live together. ... (37 words)

My first boyfriend ... And how do I tell my overprotective dad?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 22-25 - I'm 13 years old and I have just started to go out with this boy. This is my first ever boyfriend. My overprotective dad says I can't have a boyfriend till I'm 15?!? But he knows I'm trustworthy and I've told my mum already and she said she is keeping quite and I will have to ... (116 words)

Dating students as a TA?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am currently a TA at a university and I teach a lab course for pre-meds. The semester ends in a few weeks and there will be only one more lab session meeting next week. Other than talking with the students about class related material, I only joke and talk in a non-serious ... (205 words)

Other Non-Pregnancy Methods

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello everyone, I thank you for taking your time reading this, I was only wondering if there is any other way to prevent pregnancy other than condoms and birth control pills. I really appreciate it, thank you.... (37 words)

He cheated, I broke it off, but I want answers!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my bf of a few years cheated on me its been a week since i broke it off with him. im still in a lot of pain. i told him to leave me alone and he said he would respect that. i promised my self to cut off all contact i blocked his number and deleted my facebook account. despite ... (248 words)

Why is this break up so easy for him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4546 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half 2 months ago. Since then, he's been out with his friends every night (usually getting drunk or high, something he didn't used to do as much) while I'm here feeling terrible. I've had depression for a while now, but it's go... (162 words)

Sex while music is playing?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4543 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, just after a few personal opinions here! Do you think it's a good idea to have sex for the first time while music's playing in the background or can that be a distraction from (or to) your partner? I'm thinking classical music, gentle stuff, but I don't know if ... (68 words)

Did he tell anyone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have Asperger Syndrome and after a current relationship I was in ended. I decided to disclose via letter by email. Now I am concerned or not if has told anyone else and how can i findout?... (37 words)

He's really slow at taking the hint

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok I'll get right to it! My boyfriend is the shy, quiet, reserved, sweet, tall, mysterious, handsome type of guy. We've been good friends for a year and started *officially dating a month ago. Thing is I'm his first girlfriend and he knows I've had previous boyfriends in the ... (264 words)

My boyfriend doesn't want my ex on my facebook friends list

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am dating a guy who is very jealous. We have been dating for 2 months and during this time he kept on telling me that I should delete my ex from my facebook. Because, my ex called me many times when I was next to my boyfriend and told me that he wants me back. I dont wa... (155 words)

Duped Wife? Or not?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age - I am married for a little under 4 years. I found out my husband has cheated on me from the beginning. He is one of these people who find it easier to "blame" me rather than to take any responsibility other than "I'm sick" routine. Although he claims to be "sick", he won't ... (188 words)

GF won't let me walk her home.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4546 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I've been dating a girl from work for almost six months now and we have been getting along very well in that time. We don't get to see each other as often as we would like as she also works as a live-in carer looking after a man who is 71 years old. My GF is from Poland and ... (695 words)

Why are guys jerks like this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I started dating this after finishing school, we live in different states. I went to visit him in his hometown and we fell really hard for each other, he told me that he loved me after about a week. I said that we couldn't have a relationship because of the distance but he ... (191 words)

Why did this special connection end?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi guys, i'm so confused. And asking you guys on the internet is the last resort I have to get some advice and clear my mind. Anyways, I've been in a FWB relationship with this guys for about 2 months. We started off by hooking up when we were both really drunk and that k... (324 words)

Should I find someone that knows he wants me without still considering it five years down the road?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Last night, I was talking to my boyfriend's roommate's girlfriend, and she told me that when him and I were on a break a couple months ago he shared with them that he didn't know if I was the one. (we've been together for almost 5 years). She went downstairs and he came ... (274 words)

Are people joined at the hip once they marry?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4545 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Once people get married are they joined at the hip? Do they get time outs like a week at a time, a few times a year? On average is this acceptable? Kids can survive without a parent once in a while right? Do you think giving partners time out will prevent or decrease the ... (166 words)

Is this a traditional FWB relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - A close friend of mine which I have known for the past 3 years, and I have hooked up 4 times in the last 7 months. I'm not sure if it's a FWB relationship... we don't booty call each other (which is what I've read that FWB do), or have long chat/text conversations...... (304 words)

She kept it from me that she is HIV positive!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Am a guy who in April meet a girl, i fell in love with her so much that even though she sometimes acted childsh i would readly forgive. unfortunately she kept something important a secreat her HIV status, of which she is HIV positive. our relationship became sexual in may till ... (175 words)

I feel unwanted and under-appreciated!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend for just over 3 years, we have 2 children, weren't planned, but we are happy. The problem is he never shows affection to me very much, he will tell me he loves me and wants to be with me forever and sees a future, but never goes out of his way to ... (319 words)

She doesn't think I love her as much as I do, how do I prove it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey, um okay. I reaaaalllllyy love this girl. My girlfriend. We've been together for almost 7 months. Everything is going great except, she doesn't think I love her as much as I do. So what can I do to make her see, theres no one else for me? I love her to death, she just kind ... (163 words)

His ultimatum: Get rid of my online friends and date site profiles,or he is going to leave!

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4545 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend of 6 months has given me an ultimatum. Either I get rid of my on line friends and Date Site profiles,or he is going to leave. I have been on them for 3 years and enjoy it. I feel a bit like he is telling me what to do. Which shall I go for? Should I just pretend I ... (71 words)

Is this normal in a healthy relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 yrs, we tend to get in huge arguments about 2 times a year, they get to the point one of us is walking out. They usually start over something silly and usually him being annoyed by it (something in the dishwasher didn't get completely ... (402 words)

My boyfriend doesn't want to make our relationship official on the social network

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend doesn't want to make our relationship official on the social network. He's the son of a pastor and the same age as me and he says the reason is because he doesn't want his church members to know. But his family knows! His family doesn't encourage him having a gir... (183 words)

How can I draw boys attention to me without turning into a slut?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - how can i draw boys attention to me without turning in to a slut? ive never had a boyfriend, not even a little girl relationship, i think im ready for one now but i dont have the confidence to tell anyone that i have the hots for them, i myself dont think im up to their ... (94 words)

How do I word something to her that makes her realise that it's not appropriate to cancel dates at the last minute when a lot of prep has gone into them?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4544 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I met a girl through internet dating. She was lovely and I'd really like to see her again. We've been texting each other etc and seem to get on ok, but she doesn't seem as keen to chat as before we met up. Having said that, she's been ill and - she tells me - off work for a ... (264 words)

Is this a traditional FWB relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

Attracted to students as a teacher. Help!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4540 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm a secondary school teacher 11-18 and always find myself attracted to students. I'm 28 and married. I find myself attracted to the older students and sometimes thinking what the younger students will grow up to look like. I have never acted on any impulse and have never ... (130 words)

I feel like a used rag!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - i really need some honest constructive advice. over two years ago i met a guy at work. i had come out of a dreadful relationship and my confidence was low. i work hard at work but am always given a hard time for it so this guy seemed to like me and my working style and i was ... (469 words)

Am I releasing all my sexual tension onto my guy best friend? Am I cheating by doing things with him that I don't do with my boyfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi. I've got a boyfriend, and recently I asked about relationship advice about our almost non-existent physical relationship. We don't hold hands, and we've never kissed. I got back really good advice. The problem lies in the tips I got from the advice: I noticed some of those... (147 words)

Should I wait? How can I know if he is a liar or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hello there. i met a 53 years old man at work and i started to go out for lunch break with him - the relationship got stronger and we started to go out for valentine and after one year i asked him to marry me. he started to divorce since 3 years and the divorce issue ha... (303 words)

Shall I just keep silent or shall I voice my insecurities about his Boy's Night Out ?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My bf cheated on me 2 years ago, we argued it out and said we'd give it one last go. Since then it's been fine, and I am steadily starting to build up trust again. However, he mentioned going to another part of the Uk for a lads night out. He's had them locally and I have bee... (91 words)

Is it possible for an addicted womanizer to change?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi cupids, please i need your advice on what to do.i'm 25yrs and my man is 46yrs old.weve been together almost 4yrs. We even have a boy of 2yrs.this man is caring,kind and the quiet type.last two days,i met one of his relatives and this lady told me how my guy used to flirt at ... (321 words)

I'm not sure if I'm "playing the game" right with this physically affectionate man!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4546 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - There's this guy I really like but I'm not sure if I'm sending him mixed signals or not being affectionate enough towards him. Let me explain, he's really affectionate towards me most of the time: taking my hand out of the blue, hugging me, kissing my cheek,touching m... (117 words)

We broke up. That's not changing. Should I go ahead and have sex with him, like a FWB? We both miss it.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend dumped me a week ago; although it was kind of mutual. We dated for a year but we were constantly arguing and although we feel really attracted to each other, things were not working out anymore so i knew we had to break up. At the beginning i was sad and upset bu... (171 words)

Why would my boyfriend consistently and deliberately lie to me? What benefit does he derive from lying to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi there ive been with this man for almost 2 years now he says he loves me and wants to be with me forever but the thing is he never opens up to me at all never once. i always open up to him. He denies things that are true like he will deny something he did and i k... (180 words)

Mother found out I'm gay. Now our bond hasn't been the same since. How do I fix this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - This mostly applies to people who came out to their families....i need help trying to have a bond with my mother recently i brought my boyfriend over to my house told my parents he was just a friend who was going to sleepover.. well in the middle of that night almost morning ... (333 words)

My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!

This question has 35 answers - newest was posted 4543 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying he has mild aspergers. The ... (520 words)

I keep striking out with the ladies, need help! is being 40 pounds overweight a factor? What needs to be done?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - so in my interaction with the ladies, I've heard this line WAY too much: "you're such a great guy, a girl would be real lucky to be with someone as nice and real as you are." All the while I'm thinking, "if i'm such a great guy, then why don't you put your money where your... (325 words)

Since the birth of our son he's changed. I want to work things out. How do I cope if he continues to want out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I been in relationship for five years an just had a baby now my boyfriend says his feelings for me have dropped and he don't want to be in the relationship no more and he cheated on me with 19 year old when I was 8 months pregnant I just found it out. It was shocking beca... (137 words)

Dumped by text. Why should I do the right thing? They all betrayed me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4545 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I got dumped by text and cheated on. Then for some dumb reason everyone took my exes side. Then I ran into the two faced sheep and they ignored me. Why should I do the right thing? They all betrayed me. What makes them think that it won't happen to them one day? Just because... (122 words)

Eleven years together. I am seriously clucky for children. He wanted children. Now his mind is closed to the idea. what can I do?.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4544 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm feeling extremely maternal at the moment and it's causing problems in my relationship. I'm 28, almost 29 and I've been with my boyfriend for 11 years. We've only been living together for just under a year. I know. Things have moved slow with us. Right from when we g... (788 words)

Why did my girl friend not try harder to talk this through? She wants space. And different things. But could more discussion help?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and i have been together for a little more than a year and a half. We do everything together, We are both living at my parents house, we work together (because my family has been friends with the GM of a company, so it was a easy job) and we go to school toge... (721 words)

How can I learn to trust? Still paranoid about being cheated on/screwed over in future relationships. What to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4545 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex dumped me by text out of the blue. I only found out I was being cheated on after the breakup. Everybody knew but me. That was a year ago, but I'm still paranoid about having future relationships.... (39 words)

He wants to stay home. I want to travel. How can I modify my thoughts or behaviour to better cope with our differences?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi Guys, My boyfriend is not keen on going on holidays, ever. Not even to our beach houses (ie. its not cost that's a factor). I would love nothing more than for us to be able to go away, interstate, maybe overseas, but it just seems like it won't happen. He's been overseas... (269 words)

Does my boss want something more from me or is he just being friendly?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4545 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi I am a 30 y/o woman from india and travel often on business. Recently, when i was abroad on a new project, i and my boss on this project went out sightseeing together. He is english and 56 years old. We got along well and a couple of days later, he aske if i'd like toh hav... (202 words)

She went from a stripper to an online web-cam model. Am I being unreasonable being uncomfortable about her new job?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4546 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My brother and I were eating at a restaurant and I spotted a beautiful girl. I gestured to my brother to look at her and she noticed that. As my brother and I walked out to my car, she came outside and my brother urged me to approach her, which I did. After a conversation, we ... (816 words)

She is the one. I want to be honest with her, but I'm ashamed of my past. How can I be honest and not lose her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4548 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I guess this is a question about dealing with my past and its potential consequences on a relationship. It is also about how much you need to tell about your sexual history. For just over a year now I have been going out with this girl and she is the one. That might sound... (571 words)

Trust! Is there anything I can do to not always assume the worst and have faith in who I'm with?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing this girl for only a little over two weeks now, but we instantly hit it off. Maybe we moved really fast, but I've pretty much been over at her house non stop since we met. I'm pretty crazy about her. My question is this. I've been through a lot in my past w... (144 words)

A guy my age? Or one much older and working? The guy my age is really nice and sweet and very gentlemanly

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4546 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I really like this guy but recently started talking to him less because he works and i play basketball and the piano. Okay to get more to the point i like this guy but he is much older than i and we started talking less and this new guy i met likes me and is my age. They ... (140 words)

How could he change so quickly? He says I'm an awesome friend but he thinks thats all its going to be

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend just broke up with me out of the blue. (yesterday he was talking to me about going to his dads for dinner and making christmas lists, and the next day i saw him he broke up with me) he says that he feels like nothing has changed between us and that we just feel... (115 words)

Could we get back together after a short term relationship? Should I try to be friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I was dating a great guy for seven weeks, and we broke up about a week ago. We were exclusive very early on (he brought up the conversation). We live two hours away from each other which was difficult, but things were great. There was chemistry on every level, and he ma... (738 words)

His ex cried that he didn't visit! Should I ask him to distance himself further or what?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My BF's best mate told him that when we came to visit him, my BF 's exgirlfriend cried and cried that he didn't go see her. Would you expect that of a 50 yr old woman who says she's just friends with your BF? What would you think was going on there??? Should I ask him to dist... (94 words)

At what point can you no longer justify a relationship? marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - At what point can you no longer justify a relationship? marriage? There is this old saying that love is not enough, how many of you believe this? For example, i have witnssed a couple risk their children's lives by driving dangerously because they were argueing, the hu... (111 words)

I never played him. how can I get to be the girl I was (with self esteem) before I met him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - dear friends... i need some advice... i broke up with my bf 5 months ago and can't get over him. our relationship had it's problems and i decided it was time to end it. the thing is, i started to regret my decision... so, i asked him to get back together a couple months a... (306 words)

Which university should I choose to be able to come out as gay?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Next year I'll be graduating and when I get to college I wanted to be myself and why I say that is because I'm gay and I'm not out the closet really no one knows and when I got to college I wanted to be alone away from family and old friends because I wanted to be myself and ... (264 words)

Can someone explain how people who divorce can still remain "close friends"?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4548 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - OK, probably people are gonna think I'm too rigid and old fashioned, but I honestly don't get how two people who get divorced can remain "close friends." I mean, when I have broken up with someone, it was because we had terrible conflicts where we could not find common grou... (146 words)

I'm scared my penis won't give her an orgasm because of what I've been doing to make it bigger!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4544 days ago

13 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I was watching a jelqing video because I want to make my penis longer and thicker, but the speaker said that too much pulling causes the tendons or ligaments or whatever to become weak which makes an erect penis not stand straight up and be horizontal....I got worried and I ... (150 words)

I love my husband but am not in love with him and I think about my first love 24/7!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4548 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age - Ive been married for 10 yrs my husband has been a good man and provider.. Weve had our ups and downs. 2 years ago i met my first love on facebook and fell in love again and want to be with him but i feel real guilty over leaving. Familyn giving me a hard time too.. He loves me ... (112 words)

I'm concerned about the DVDs he's watching as a means to get an erection!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4548 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've become a little bit concerned about my husband in the past few weeks [well, 3 actually]. He's spending a lot of time at the gym and online, and in his room are hundreds of magazines with pictures of shirtless men! Also included was a DVD which concerned me a lot - there... (343 words)

Will we ever be passionate again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4548 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My relationship has been full of ups and downs. We have always been there for one another and we always have each other's back. We're best friends. But one day two years ago we broke up and I ended up seeing other people, but I didn't sleep with anyone...not even a kiss. Ever ... (170 words)

Where are all the nice guys hiding?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4546 days ago

13 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I live in Ireland and I can't find any nice guys! All the guys i meet just seem to use me. I feel as though I,ll never be loved for who I am or what I like doing. Like I,m a night person ( Not like clubbing but other stuff ) I,ve not met a guy who likes stargazing, moonlit ... (109 words)