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writes: Why am I so awkward and shy around my boyfriend's friends? It's not like I'm at all physically attracted to either of his good friends, I just can't seem to speak up or say what's on my mind. I throw in a few jokes here and there but with great difficulty and most of the time I stay quiet. It's mostly with his guy friends. And ESPECIALLY when a particular guy friend's girlfriend is there, I feel ultra awkward (her and I are friends). Why is this? I'm usually always like this around other guys, but I shouldn't be like this around my bf's best friends because I've known one since we were 7 and the other since we were 11 in middle school classes! How can I be more talkative?? I'm very bubbly and talkative with people I'm good friends with, but over high school I lost contact with both of these guys so that's why I can't just strike up a conversation and depend on my bf to be the ice breaker. I'm truly NOT attracted to them at all so why am I so awkward??
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reader, Risingstar624  +, writes (21 November 2011):
This is not a strange situation to be in. I am probably the most talkative person you will find anywhere and I have trouble meeting the guy that I'm dating's friends. Its just the fact that it is hard to come into any group of people that are very close and feel confident enough to just jump right in. You don't really know how their group works together and it will take some time to be comfortable enough with them to feel like a part of the group and make true conversation. What I recommend would be to observe their group dynamic See how they act around one another (regardless that you knew these guys before things can change a lot between middle school and high-school and or college) don't change who you are or how you act but it makes people more comfortable if they kind of fit the group dynamic. Once you feel a little more comfortable around them you will start speaking up more and being friendlier. I would talk to your boyfriend about it and see if you can't hang out with each of them individually with you and your boyfriend to get to know them better one on one so it isn't so intimidating when you are thrust into a group situation with all of them at once.
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