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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Do women have a problem with scars? Should I get mine surgically cleaned up?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Prefer women to answer this: Im near the end of my 8 week cutting cycle and my long term goal of revealing my abs is achieved. However i have lower abdomen scars from belly fat and have opted to have possible surgery to remove them. Sexually, would women prefer the scars... (61 words)

Does he really love me at all even with him behaving this detached way? Can he love if he's so detached?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in a relationship with this guy for about 8 months now. The first few months he was very detached and when I spoke to him about it, he made more of an effort to open up. It was going well, and then a couple weeks ago he tried to break up with me. He said that we didn't have... (162 words)

You'll have to trust me on this. I feel I'm ugly. Can I have some reassurance and support please?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, my problem is that I'm ugly. No, I'm not one of those plain but actually pretty girls that complain about their looks. I was born with a disorder, and while I won't go into a bunch of complicated details, I look really different, and ugly. When I'm out in public, I always g... (202 words)

Does my casual 26 year old occasional sex buddy need to know? I'm getting divorced. The 26 year old didn't want me to get pregnant, but now I am.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 33 almost 34 with 3 children and getting divorced. I have been casually seeing a guy I met on the internet for the past 3-4 months, he's 26. We both work a lot so only meet up every few weeks and text in between. It's not a relationship. I'm not really religious, h... (154 words)

Trying to live up to my mom?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi agony aunts! Well lately I'm concerned that I'll never live up to my mom. When she was a teenager she was really pretty and skinny and quite the ticket. Ok i am not lying when i say this but this guy who liked her went to the mental hospital because she wouldnt go out with ... (196 words)

Did I handle the conversation badly?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I really need an external opinion about this situation and if i handle it badly. I met this guy one month ago and i really like him. We went to a party and we finished in bed. But i left leaving him surprised. I knew he was asking about me and i managed to get hi... (199 words)

Has the society I live in changed? Is it different elsewhere? Who can tell me the negative things about using illicit drugs?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - are drugs normal? like, is it a part of life? is it not regarded as bad? or wrong anymore? if it ever was, i was brought up to think that the usual, dont do drugs thing, but i know my uncle blood relative is on them (anphetamine, speed) and he was brought up that drugs are b... (195 words)

Want him in my life. But he respects me more than I respect mysef.I want spects me more than I respect myself. How can I make this go forward, respectfully?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - There was a guy who I wasn't interested in who was pursuing me, i told him i didnt like him but wanted to be friends, 2 months later i fell for him....and 2 months later he slept with another girl. He eventually told me that he was pursuing me only b/c of my looks and want... (495 words)

I feel overcome with guilt for failing my values. How can I move forward without guilt?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - How is it possible to experience sexual tension if you've never had sex? I don't think that everyone would believe me if I were to tell them but I'm 32 and have never had sex with a man. I'm starting to feel so overcome with sexual tension that it's killing me. I feel ... (1056 words)

How can I get my study partner in the sack?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4567 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Here is the situation there is this girl, she is my classmate and she lives not far at my place, she asked me to study with her for exams just like we did last semester, but the thing is I'm attracted to her, and I told her couple of times how I think of her but she kept ... (106 words)

I feel left out. I feel overcome with guilt because I feel jealous of my friend. Is this Depression? Or is there a way to fix it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My heart is just bursting with feelings and I don't know where to begin. To make a long story short, I have played the guitar for 20 years, and my dream was to be in a band and play for real audiences. Everyone tells me that I'm a fabulous guitar player, but it still has... (787 words)

How can I deal with my freeloading siblings?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - When I was in college, I worked my ass off just to get that degree and the only person who had shown support was my mom. My 6 siblings were too busy with their lives of which I can't blame them too. Fast forward, I now work overseas and currently am the highest earner i... (527 words)

Facebooks destroyed my life........found that he's not over his ex!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

- I hate facebook. it has literally just destroyed me. I was talking to my bf online, when in the message window it said I could look at some of his old statuses. Me being me (rather nosey) decided to have a look. And there in front of me were loads of his statuses (dating back ... (298 words)

I think I have got into a sexual rut. And I am at a loss,so what can I do about this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I think i'm in a sexual rut. And I think this has been going on for a long time. Alright well basically a few days ago, I was masturbating, and had sexual lesbian thoughts. This has happened before, and it freaks me out. Mainly because the thought doesn't turn me on, and ... (225 words)

I feel I am projecting a fake image. Are my solutions going to fix this issue or is more needed to not project ''fake"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Am I a horrible, fake person? I actually am starting to hate myself. This guy came back to mine last night and i realised I had hair extensions in, false eyelashes on, contacts in and dark makeup on!! It was projecting a complete false image, that i actually hated myself and ... (302 words)

I'm really frustrated with my husband

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi i need help, my husband realy is frustrating me, he has a lot of walls built up around him caused from an old relationship but its making my life with him hell, i love him and i no he loves me but he gives me so much verble abuse and blames everything on me, i askd him to ... (98 words)

I don't understand why I don't feel the same as I did toward her

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Funny thing...i always thought relationship were easy to read...and now however i am very confused... I've been with this girl for some time now...18 months...there was a spark at the begging...or mutual understanding...something that lead us to be together...i enj... (149 words)

How could she move on so soon?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Just wanted some sound advice. My partner left me after an 18 year relationship and I found out when trying to resolve things that within three weeks she was dated someone else. She ended the relationship in a cruel way and I didn't get closure. I am still scarred by it and ... (89 words)

If you received or read a text like this what would you think?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4567 days ago

4 November 2011 (F) - If you had sent a general innocent comment to a male friend about some hedgerow cutting and he would have been genuinely interested to hear about it (and your female) and they replied 'bout time to' (I must admit I like a well trimmed bush) would you find that a normal, cheeky, ... (98 words)

I'm afraid to waste any more time but I cant let him go....

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So last night I asked my boyfriend directly if we were going anywhere with this relationship. He said,"Maybe, maybe not" and then said "Perhaps". "Perhaps" in his vocabulary usually means "it's not something I want to do." He said he wanted to get $$$ straightened out first, ... (203 words)

Is reading his texts/facebook messages going too far?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I ask this because ever since I first glanced at his text messages which was when we first started dating (almost two years ago) was because he was texting his ex-girlfriend...I guess they were still trying to clear some things up. Since then, she has come up every now and then ... (254 words)

How can I improve my sense of humour to match my wife's?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been married for the last 2 years and were in a relationship with the same girl for the same amount of time before marriage! She is 8 months younger than me and sweet as hell. She has an amazing sense of humour but don't have to match her. She keeps making me laughing ... (117 words)

I found my boyfriend messaging his cousin so I sent messages to her from her account, he thinks I should forgive him and she is going to turn the whole family against me! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've lived with my boyfriend for 7 months all together we've been dating for 13 months and things had been going great..we used to fight sometimes over little things but lately things had been very peaceful until we decided to visit his family in new york. we live in virginia ... (624 words)

How should I ask this girl out over facebook?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Over the past couple of days I’ve met a girl at university. We seem to be mutually interested in each other and I think I have a more than decent chance of successfully asking her out. Despite the fact she’s on my course, we are doing completely different modules which means ... (175 words)

Does it sound like this guy might like me, or am I imagining it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello agony aunts and uncles. I have a problem: I'm really, really dense when it comes to knowing if a guy likes me! I've been trying to figure out what kind of signals this one guy is sending and I just have no idea... Can you help me? I met this guy a couple of months... (463 words)

Episodes of My childhood – Unloved & Abused By My Mother

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age - This is my story...I am the eldest sister of Bluegem and whiteopal who have both recently posted letters on Dear Cupid, and I endorse everything they say about the verbal and physical abuse we suffered when growing up. This is only a little of the horror that was ... (1563 words)

We have a love hate relationship, what should my next move be?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend comes out with nasty comments when we argue, by saying things such as " you're the bane of my life " and sometimes i ask if he is cheating on me ( i say it out of anger ) and he says " no, but i wish i was ". He calls me a b***h sometimes too and uses the f word a ... (482 words)

I thought men like it when their girlfriend masturbates in front of them! Who is in the wrong here?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4566 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - When i masterbate my boyfriend will either roll over or not acknowledge me at all. i asked him to help me he said " why you can do it better yourself" i thought guys liked it when their girl does this, (i usually only do it after giving him oral and hes gotten off) it really ... (94 words)

Why would his ex send naked photos if nothing happened between them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid my bf recently told me his ex gf ever sent hum naked photos of herself and although he said that it was quite some time back and that he had already deleted them, I still feel uneasy. Of the random things we always talk about, he suddenly mentioned it out of the ... (145 words)

I need breathing space!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - How do i tell my bf to give me a breathing spaz without hurting his feelings... (16 words)

I'm gutted! I can't believe that after 8 weeks he's moved on!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex of three years finished with me in a nasty way in june - by changing his locks on me. we were continuously arguing about his children etc and he said he couldn't take any more. after a month he wanted to start seeing me so we both decided on taking it slow (what he ... (355 words)

Do I make plans without him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been with my guy for nearly 3 months. We spent all the time we could together for the first few weeks, and it was amazing, loving, we felt very close. Then he had to move away temporarily for work for 4 weeks. We met up last weekend and had a lovely time. Now I have ... (425 words)

I don't have a job or a man in my life, my ex dumped me for someone younger, my best friend is doing great in her life, while I spend my days in bed and nights crying

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4566 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok, not sure where to begin, just turned 31 and life is shit! Really bad!!! I have always had an ok job, men and good body, looked good...but in the last 6 months lost all that. Big time!!!! I've put loads weight on (despite going gym, my age finally caught up with me and I ... (440 words)

I like both these girls,but I don't know if either of them like me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey guys, I'm having girl problems at the moment. There are two girls in question here girl 1 and girl 2. Girl 1 I've liked for about 3 months now but because she lives about 30 miles from me we don't talk much, however I have heard stuff from her friends that she might li... (192 words)

I feel like I'm not being fair to her. Our free time doesn't match up!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - May i please have some advise? I haven't had much time to spend with this girl I am dating. And I feel real bad because I am always busy. I feel like it isn't fair to her. She really likes me. And I really like her. but our free time doesn't seem to meet up with each oth... (120 words)

My lazy, manipulative in-laws are living off my wife and I find this hard to deal with. Am I being heartless? Or am I justified in taking a tough stance?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My questions are based on how to handle supporting my wife's family financially. To give you some background, my wife and I are are married for over two and a half years now. Her family consists of her mother and sister. She lost her father to alcohol about 5 years ago. She... (559 words)

She said we couldn't be together. Should I bring the subject up when I see her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am normally a confident cocky guy who knows it all when it comes to women, but i must admit i need your help. I met this girl and after spending some time with her I could tell she was the type of girl I wanted to be with. I am a guy who often in the past found myself g... (466 words)

Hubby gettin porn in emails!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age - I am a 60 year old women who has been blind sited by my husband's use of porn and emails. As both of us worked and I never saw his work computer I had no idea he received emails from his "buds" that contained naked women, porn video's,s and m, and poor jokes about wife's ... (583 words)

Girlfriend, ex-gf and bf problems! How do ask for my time and money back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, Girlfriend problem, So to start, we have known each other for 2 years and started dating 8months ago and we have been perfect all the way through. We live apart (50miles) but see each other once a week/2weeks. We are set to be engaged in the summer. But one reli big ann... (548 words)

I like her a lot, but I don't want to wait forever, what do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi. I'm hoping I can get a little help with this situation I've found myself in. I met this girl a few months back. She started working at my office and we became pretty good friends, we would often tease and flirt a little with each other. I was pretty sure she was interest... (595 words)

I need to move on in my heart, please give me suggestions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I am only 16 years old (please don't laugh) but when I was 12 I basically lied to my parents and went out with this boy. After a few slip-ups my Mom found out and she tried to forbid me not to be with him but I never listened to her much. This boy I think is my first love, we ... (650 words)

Why do I get aroused when I wear a velvet blouse, I am a male, not gay??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I wored brown velvet blouse ,when iam alone in my home ,i don't no why wored.i love to wear a velvet blouse ,only the velvet blouse not other blouse ,iam not a gay ,iam a real man ,pls ans me to tis question... (44 words)

We were "together," while he had a gf, then he split, what was the story?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - It had taken me a long time to get over a guy that I fell hard for. We had great chemistry but never wanted to make me his girlfriend. He's 34 and has joint custody of his son with an ex. I am just thirty, independent, hard working carreer woman. I have men chasing me from all ... (232 words)

My Facebook posting upset our relationship, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in an LDR. It has been over a year since we met. Have been struggling a lot. It is more because of self created thoughts of insecurity even when he is honest, loyal and totally committed. I know this also but I just feel jealous of the people he sometimes hangs out with- ... (372 words)

I am not sure what to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm so torn... I've been dating this girl for three years, and things are great, except when they're not. For a good part of our relationship, we spent countless hours fighting about stuff that, in my opinion, shouldn't have been issues in the first place. Stuff from her g... (212 words)

Any advice on how, to, I don't know, worry less when it comes to relationship issues?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4570 days ago

4 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I met an amazing girl online a few months back. I know ALL the issues about online (risks I mean). We talk a lot on the phone too. My worry is that I am too insecure to keep things going until we actually meet. (we don't live too far away from each other, but for... (199 words)

Why does he act like we're not texting or talking at all?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4567 days ago

4 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So there's this guy that I really like and we had been texting for a while but he doesn't act like we talk 24/7 or that we even text at all... I just don't understand. We really hit it off and are always flirting with each other but at school? Absolutly nothing... And he's not ... (76 words)