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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Am I embarrassing him, and how do I find out if I am?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4529 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I have a problem with maintaining heat, so I get cold very easily. My friend is of the opposite sex and 2 years older than me, but he is the warmest one of my friends, and when I get cold it is important that I try to stay as warm as I can so I don't get hypothermia or ... (131 words)

What do I do about my dirty little secret?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - what do i do when i really like this guy, i've dated him before and we've had sex lots of times, were not dating right now, i'm kinda making him my dirty little secret (cheating) but i really like him and i don't wanna hurt the guy i'm with...idk what to do plz help....... (54 words)

How long would you wait for this woman in this situation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - A question mainly for guys I guess - if you were in your late forties and rarely met a woman that you were attracted to and then met one that you got to know over several years and really, really liked her but circumstances were preventing you from being with her - ie. if you ... (222 words)

Why has she not run off screaming yet? What should I do now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4529 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know how but Whenever I've tried dating girls before I've somehow always ballsed things up. They tend to like me, then they get to know me a bit and then suddenly I've lost all appeal. Probably because I'm myself, I don't try to be superwoman or anything or like them, ... (936 words)

How do I find out if it is my ex who is calling?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm getting the impression that a guy I used to date who's now in a relationship has been calling me with blocked numbers. I got one the other day at 230 am. I want to ask him bc in the past I had a feeling then that similar calls would come from him. Is there anyway to find ... (85 words)

Help me interpret these men!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My bf broke up with me about two months ago, he said that he thinks we are just better off as friends. He recently starting talking to me again and told me that he still really wants to be my friend and so we started hanging out more. Last time i saw him we became initmate, and ... (119 words)

My ex boyfriend is going to call me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I broke up with my guy a month ago, we both are 31. He said he's not 100% sure about me and said he needs time to think about our relationship. He wanted to talk with me later, but I said no, because he always said I'm the one who spend his lifetime together when he's seeing... (333 words)

So if he does not want to see me why not just say "I am busy" without saying he wants to go out?

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4508 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I am a bit confused and i am not sure if this guy is blowing me off. We went out a couple of times and last week he kept saying that we have to meet up this week and he would love to see me BUT .. this never happens ! So if he does not want to see why don't just s... (151 words)

My fiance is very unhappy with our engagement pictures!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - hi i recently got engaged with my gf. great. Problem is my girlfriend feels she wasnt looking good on engagement party and thinks she was hideous. Although I believe that she was looking pretty and beautiful. This reaction of her further enforces after she sees her friends ... (185 words)

I'm scared because I'm starting to really like him and I think I should hold off on the sex, but our sexual chemistry is through the roof.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4518 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy on an Internet dating site, we spoke on the phone for 3.5 hours before meeting up and numerous texts. We went out for a very nice dinner and made plans to see each other a couple days later. We ended up sleeping together and he started to pull away but we went ... (181 words)

Is her answer code for a blow off?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - This girl and ii were planning on going out for our third date. She had previously not returned a late Phone call of mine, but a few days later when I asked her out she said yes, and that she was excited and couldn't wait. I texted a few days later, she didn't respond. I texted ... (122 words)

I'm obsessed with my boyfriend's ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4530 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i started dating my current (and first) boyfriend 7 months ago and everything's great - we love each other a lot, rarely fight, etc. issues started coming up however when i found out that he lied about several random and unimportant things concerning his ex who he started d... (618 words)

Wife says our courting period was "really short." What did she mean by that?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been married for 9 years. Recently, my wife and I were having a deep conversation about the early part of our relationship and she said that our courting period was "really short" implying "too short." We dated for about 8 months before I asked her to move in with me ... (211 words)

Should I go through with an abortion at 21 weeks?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - im 21 weeks pregnent with no family around me they all live in australia and my partner has decided to leave me and now wants nothing to do with my child and me i dont think ii can do this whole thing on my own so have recently thought about gettingrid of my baby although... (164 words)

How do I get through this date?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4523 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I haven't dated for a while and I impulsively agreed to a date with my brother-in-laws brother. The thing is, I'm extremely nervous whole thing. I don't think we've actually spoken in the 4+ years that my sister has been married to his brother. He was married and then divorced ... (136 words)

I'm currently stressed out and confused about what I'm doing in life.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm currently stressed out and confused about what I'm doing in life. I'm 8 or so weeks into my Masters in a biological science, and I don't know if this is where I should be. To cut a long story short, I've always been much more passionate about English than the science... (348 words)

Why can’t they just accept him for the person he is?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for a little more than a year now. I’m going to be 20 and he’s going to be 21 next year. The problem is all about my boyfriend and what people think about him. He was working with my cousin at home depot before he got his current job. My cousin ... (288 words)

Do you think he could have cheated on me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - hey everyone I have bi polar disorder and depression and anxiety issues and paranoia...(yeah I know its a big nice gift right?) anyways...I am engaged to my fiance (obviously thats why hes my fiance lol) but lets see...a few months back I found a folded up condom wrapper on the ... (422 words)

I don't want my children going where I can't get them back!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I could do with some advice. My ex husband and I have been seperated for almost 4 years. We have 2 beautiful children together and things are now much friendlier than they were when we first split. My husbands long term girlfriend ( also of 4 years) is someone who ... (369 words)

Sleeping with an EX who is with someone else... Do I go for it or no

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4525 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so here is my problem. Ive been sleeping with my ex boyfriend (we will call him Chad) but chad is kind of still with his Baby mama. I am 19 years old and we havnt dated since I was around 15. When we was in jail we wrote n we decided we would try it again when he got out ... (774 words)

I am totally messed up when it comes to relationships/sex/dating.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi! I really need some advice and input from all of you wise people out there! :) I am 19. I've been in two relationships. The first one was at 15 and lasted for 2 months. The second one was at 17 and lasted a month. I dumped both of them. I haven't dated anyone since. I ... (441 words)

What does "I like it when you are strong" mean?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone this is my question what do you think my boyfriend of 8 month meant by this he said to me last night when we were talking he likes it when I'm strong what can he mean by this thank you ... (42 words)

What to do about his ex over the holidays?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - We're just hitting our one yr mark and he's going to be on holiday visiting family. His ex of 15 yrs and FWB up until we started dating lives near his family. They have always visited and/or hooked up over the holidays. I'm scared to death his very flirty ex will try ... (111 words)

Were these bad questions to ask?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I started dating this woman. She has asked me these questions many many times. "Why do you love me?", "Why me?" Why do you find me attractive?" I easily answer them. Early in the am, I texted her cell phone with some questions of my own. I asked her these questions: ... (396 words)

Is he going to come around and realize he can find a way better looking woman?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - This may be a little long,but hopefully people will still take the time to read it. A couple of months ago I had decided to start online dating. I was tired of being single,and being a single parent didn't allow me to go out and meet people in the real world a lot. After mee... (943 words)

Controlling mother of adult son

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am dating a man who is 23 and I am 31, I am divorced with 3 kids and he has never been married and has no kids. We both know this is not the ideal situation and neither expected this to last but after 2 years we are very much in love and can even see a future together. Our ... (375 words)

Afraid I'm addicted to porn

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4516 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Ok well i REALLY need advice..here it goes.. Him im 13 and i am adicted to watching porn.. Its kinda wrong but i cant stop watching it.. I masterbate to it till i Ejaculate when ever my parent leave to the store i rush to the computer and go on a porn site.. Is this a normal ... (67 words)

He doesn't like my breasts, other girls are prettier than me, he treat his ex better than me....all these things are making me so insecure!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4516 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I feel like this question is stupid :( but please help me out. So me and my boyfriend have been going out for 1yr and 3 months or so. At the start of our relstionship, it wasnt the best, i felt so upset with him at times with the things he would say. He once tol... (893 words)

Spotting before my period is due and definitely not pregnant....is this normal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I have been on the pill for 10 months, never missed a pill, take it at the same time to the minute, but every month before my period is due, i have brown spotting and then my period follows as normal. i have been to the doctors and they advised to stay as i am as it could just ... (135 words)

My mum is very controlling and makes my boyfriend feel like she approve of our relationship, how do we overcome this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year, the relationship occurred after a strong friendship and we are very much in love. We are both in our 20s, graduated, stable jobs, good career prospects and my boyfriend has recently moved out of his own home and got himself a flat. We ... (524 words)

Girlfriend of 19 years left me for a married man and is now pregnant

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4525 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi me and my partner were together for 19 years , and had 2 kids , we both now have a child each . we split up 13 months ago and she is now pregnant .i was in hospital and when i came home she had left, it was 2 weeks before i found out that she was living with a neighbor who ... (288 words)

Should I tell the 26 year old I like how I feel? Do I even stand a chance with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4530 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - ok so here is how it goes.im a 16 years old teen who has feeling for a 26 years old guy with me in a department..ive always ignored what i felt because this is weird and stupid..but its just that the guys is amazing and i really get along with..though ive still know nothin ... (173 words)

She used to text me all the time but she has stopped and is now talking to a guy on Facebook...should I be worried?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been dating this girl for a little over a month now, and from what I thought we are both madly in love,, we used to text eachother all the time(hundreds of messages a day), but about four days ago she almost stopped texting all together and said her phone was playing up, ... (110 words)

Could he still be pining for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been single for a while and have decided to set up a dating profile, while I was browsing the guys profiles I noticed an ex of mine had a profile on there, when i looked at his ideal date he had described me.. right down to hair colour and length, body shape, eye colour, ... (106 words)

Not attracted to the guy I'm dating....am I shallow? Will this change as I get to know him better?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey all! I don't wanna sound shallow or anything, but I've recently been on a few dates with this guy. Nothing happened, but he is clearluy interested in me. I have a good time with him and all, but... I think he's really ugly and I don't feel any kind of physical attraction to ... (89 words)

The man who I thought of as a father figure has started hitting on me and I think its disgusting!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I am feeling so pathetic right now. So I recently got to know this particular someone through my work. He was like a father figure as he was very helpful and I felt like he treated me like a daughter-ish or you know, like he took me under his wing. And he seems ... (151 words)

Does he like me or was he just being friendly?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - basically there's a guy from uni who is quiet but i always speak to him..not really ever attaractive to him bt he keeps himself to him self...then yesterday we both randomly chatting on fb and said personal family things...i said hug. his response being: I like the things ... (160 words)

I had to move back to my parents house and now I cant stop crying whenever I see my boyfriend who I used to live with!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello I have been with my boyfriend over 2 years and half and we lived together for 2 years but i had to move back to my parents house as my uni is finished and they never knew about him. I love my boyfriend more than anything in this world but the problem is whenever i go and ... (109 words)

My friends have replaced me with a girl they just met

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My group of 3 friends has replaced me with the new girl. I have been away sick for a few weeks and they tell me how amazing this girl is and I feel left out, then they say they are all best friends now. It makes me really sad because they have known her for 3 days. What sho... (63 words)

Is ejaculating in a woman's mouth more degrading than on her face?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now, and really want to ejaculate in her mouth, she can't stand the taste. She wants me to ejaculate on her face, but I feel that's degrading....what do you guys suggest....?... (40 words)

When I do choose one man over the other?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4533 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So I'm dating two men. One for six weeks and one for 3 weeks. I've seen both about 5 times. At what point do I stop dating one or the other? When a conversation arises? I like both and I want a boyfriend that will lead to marriage. Neither has mentioned monogamy yet. I've had... (121 words)

Why do men become too familiar so quickly?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - What is it with men who act way too familiar with you on the first few dates?? I've gone out with a few men who act like were already married on a first date. I say that because people will ask how long we've known each other and I'll say " 2 days" and they thought it was two ... (77 words)

I'm still living with the "ugly-younger-me" mentality even though I've now grown to be this gorgeous woman.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I have serious body image issues. It all spawned from chronic low self esteem, depression, etc... I used to be fat and ugly and guys and girls would bully me over it.. Until one day I blossomed, and I'm what people call "gorgeous" but I genuinely do NOT see it. I look in the ... (201 words)

My boyfriend spoils me to the point where its become uncomfortable!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So ive only been dating my boyfriend for a few weeks now, but i feel like he spoils me entirely TOO much, as selfish as that sounds, in a way it kind of makes me feel helpless like im incapable of doing anything myself. I told him about it, and he just says he wants to do those ... (180 words)

Feeling used, yet culpable in becoming intimate with a 'taken' man

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know what to do, I did something very stupid with this guy a week ago. I am so disappointed in myself, that I don't know what to do in this type of situation?! Basically, this guy I really liked him and I wasn't sure whether he did to, but recently he started making it ... (306 words)

Does she see me as more than a friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi, I would really appreciate some feedback. I've been really good friends with this girl for a while now, I've always known who she was, but in the last couple of months, I've really gotten to know her. We have a couple classes together, so I see her everyday, and we... (400 words)

Is he attracted to me or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Does this man like me ?. I'll call this man J. I was talking to one of his friends today and his friend said " J loves you " and i said " how do you know ? " and he said " he told me ".Now , by saying he loves me, do you think he means it literally, or could it mean something ... (255 words)

Was low self esteem a factor in the demise of these relationships?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4533 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello guys :) I would really appreciate some insight on an issue! In the past 3 years (basically since I started dating), I've been badly hurt by 2 men. I was involved with each of them for around a year, so they wasn't exactly short-term relationships. Just to give yo... (533 words)

I broke up with the woman of my dreams. Why did I do that? What can I do now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm 33. She is 30. Last year I met her and she was the best woman I have ever met. Gorgeous woman, had her own home in a great part of town, was referring to me moving in with her but for some reason I decided it wouldn't work. I ended up meeting some chick who dated me for... (230 words)

The girl I like is a Jehovah's Witness

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4506 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - There's this girl who I found to be amazing. I am the type to fall for girls who "catch my eye" as in i am picky and i go for girls who call out to me. This girl caught my eye a while ago but she's one of those girls that i call wayy out of my league as well as taller than me ... (234 words)

My wife called me weird for shaving my pubes. I would like to try some new things. I am incompatible with my wife.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi, I am a male, 51, married with 2 children (early teens). I am a late developer sexually (I have a tumor of the pituitary gland which slowed me down for years - it was not discovered until I was early 30's although it had been there for many years quietly suppressing me )... (255 words)

How to make him hold my hand?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - This is going to sound stupid but here goes. I'm a teenager. There's this boy I like, and I've only known him a few months but I want to start moving forward with him. I don't want to hurry things though, he always gives me a cuddle as I leave him, and what I really want to ... (130 words)

Should I tell my boyfriend about the obscene comments I've been getting online?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4532 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - There are guys, mostly online, that have been making perverted comments towards me, and it's kinda hurting my pride, because it makes me think "Do I look like a slut?", and it's just bothering me, because I find it disgusting when some random guy online asks me to give him a bj ... (203 words)

Is he telling me the truth about working in Porn films? Or just saying it to shock me? How should I react?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - well at this moment in time im very confused! I've been seeing this guy for a while now and i knew he had a bit of a strange past since the beginning! but he has told told me he used to film porn movies and has also had sex with porn stars... and i really don't know how to f... (86 words)

I want to break it off with him. But its like he has me on a leash. How do I find the strength?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4533 days ago

28 November 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I'm 17 and I've been with this guy for about 6 months now. He's my brothers friend, well they're not really friends but they know each other. He was so nice and sweet in the beginning but now oh my god he is the worst. He treats me like s^^t and I know it, but he's so sweet... (131 words)