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female
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51-59,
*aclady
writes:my ex bf cheated on me with hius sisters ex gf, he saids he has no feelings for her, but he keeps calling her and visiting her. why does he keep lying to me about seeing her? what should i do? i still love him.
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reader, svf  +, writes (27 May 2011):
 Bastard...Your poor woman, I feel so sorry for you having this happen to you and so close to home. I don't like to think of the negative, but it does sound as if he doesn't want to break the contact with her. If he felt true remorse, there is no way he would be staying in contact with her, knowing that it would be hurtful and offensive to you, the one he professed to have 'loved'.I am sure that you have discussed your feelings with him? I cannot understand why a guy would continue to see someone who he has ended an affair with... unless it is because he hasn't ended the affair?What is he like? How does he seem to you, has he changed? Does he seem happier? Does he seem remorseful for what he did? What does your female intuition tell you? I know it would be really hard not to get paranoid about something happening right now, as I would feel exactly the same way, but it just does not sound 'over' to me and maybe he is saying this to protect you.Please take care and talk to your closest female friends and one really good male friend to get a better perspective on this one. I advise more girlfriends to chat to and only 1 guy, as the girls can give you hugs and tend to see the situation in a more emotional light, giving you the support and validation you need.I advise talking to one close male friend, as males tend to be more direct and down to earth, but usually hit the nail on the head with their observations, however, they may not be as sensitive to your emotions as the girls will be. And you don't need to many males opinions on this one, trust me, if your heart is already breaking!All the best and try to be strong and stay beautiful, Sammy xx
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