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writes:So me and my ex broke up about a month and a half ago after 2 yrs together, and she started dating someone else a month after we broke up,which REALLY hurt me,but instead of freaking out about it,i told her that i still wanted to be friends with her, but i needed time to myself to get my head together and that I'd contact her when i was ready...But than a week after that she texted me randomly asking me when was i gonna text her and she even commented on one of my facebook status asking me why i hadnt texted her and i didnt reply to any of those...so I need some advice, do I keep ignoring her and try to move on or do i text her back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe's the kind of girl that doesn't like to be alone and everytime she's in a relationships, she's always pushing to make it last..even when the other person wants to end it. Dont get me wrong, she's an amazing girlfriend, but honestly, there were times when i was with her where i felt suffocated by her, i mean she would constantly check my email and messages on facebook just to make sure that i'm not "flirting" with other girls or she just "had" a weird feeling something was wrong...Yet, I still stayed with her cause I loved her so muchActually, i know that she didnt planned on breaking up with me beforehand..that i dont doubt. So when we broke up, we were both still emotionally attached to each other...but i guess she just got over it faster then i did.Maybe she did....I just feel like what she did after we broke up was REALLY low and i never thought that she'd be someone that would do that to me..especially after everything that we've been through together
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reader, Fate100percent  +, writes (4 June 2011):
I know you are angry with her right now (I would feel EXACTLY the same), and I don't know how people move onto another relationship so quickly either!!!? Tbh, he is probably just a rebound guy and it probably won't last ;-) or maybe she is just someone who hates to be alone? Or maybe she feels too young to be tied down in a serious relationship and wants to experience things with other people?The thing is as she broke up with you, it is likely that she has gone over it in her head a long time before she finished it with you(so in a way, she had already started to emotionally distance herself from you-if that makes sense? I mean you are bound to still be hurt and angry as it came as a shock to you right? But after some time, you will probably realise little things that were said and done leading upto the break-up that will make you think 'Ooooohhhh, I should've seen it coming'! You are only a month and a half into the split, it will take time to stop feeling anger/hurt, but you will get there in the end, we all do.I am friendly with a lot of ex's (only via fb tbh) but a lot of time has passed (like years!!),and I just remember the good times with them now :-)I think she did love you but for whatever reason that has changed for her (and she can't help that either, so it's not her fault)-we don't choose who we fall for, or stay in love with unfortunately :-(Just enjoy hanging out with your friends and doing things you found hard to have time for when you were in a relationship. Time heals, and just ignore her for now as you will feel better in the long run x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat may be true, but after what she did to me after we broke up...it doesnt show me that she even cares about me, a part of me is extremely angry at her cause its like why would someone who supposedly "Love" you would want to hurt you like that?
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reader, Fate100percent +, writes (3 June 2011):
She probably still has some feelings for you, they don't go away overnight, and she's probably a bit hurt you don't wanna talk to her at the momenet, but like I said, that is HER problem, just do what you have to to make YOU heal quicker :-) Then you will know if/or when you are ready/or want her friendship x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThats what I meant when i send her that text...I want to be friends with her in the future, but ONLY AND ONLY when I'm completely over her!
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reader, Fate100percent +, writes (2 June 2011):
I think you confused her by saying you wanted to be friends tbh (even though you said you needed time to get your head together). If you really do want to be friends with her at some point (though realistically this will defo not be anytime soon!) I would send one text telling her, you are trying to sort yourself out and you need time to do your own thing,and you will call her in a month or so for a catch up and you are finding it hard that she is not respecting your wishes. If she continues to ignore that, either ignore her or change your phone number and delete her off facebook. She broke up with YOU...she wanted OUT, so her feelings are unimportant at the momement, yours are and you must do what you have to to get over it.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI cant sit down and talk to her cause she lives 5 hrs away from me....BUt i honestly dont understand why she wants to talk to me so bad when she's already with someone else, so she made it very clear that we were done
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reader, georgey5100 +, writes (1 June 2011):
all i can think is that maybe after all that time... she doesnt quite understand that you don't belong to her anymore, even though you are not in a relationship now. Maybe ignoring her isn't the right way to go about it... try sitting down with her and having a conversation about why she's so desperate to talk to you still, and explain that she is treating you unfairly by getting angry at you whilst the wounds are still fresh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe broke up with me...and your right she should have more respect for me, but she doesnt if she's willing to do that.....but today she was getting mad at me cause i ignored, so I was thinking in my wtf...i dont understand why it annoys her that i dont talk to her
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reader, georgey5100 +, writes (31 May 2011):
that was really strong of you to do what you did and not get angry at her
tbh i dont think it's fair of her to start asking you to talk to her when you asked her to give you some space and time
if you are still not ready, and i would be surpised if anyone was ready after a week, then you should confront her and tell her that wounds take time to heal.
just out of curiosity which of you ended the relationship? if she was the one to end it then she should have more respect than to get with someone that quick.
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