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writes:Last night at a party, I overheard my boyfriend of 7 years tell his friend that they should go to some town because the "chicks will like them better there." He didn't know I ha just walked in the room at the time. I confronted him about it as soon as the other guys went into the other room and he acted like he didn't know what I was talking about at first and then he admitted he said it and it was a joke because him and his friends were talking about how their girlfriends and wives are always mad at them, he kept trying to say it wasn't a big deal and I would joke with my girlfriends like that too, but I got very upset and he finally apologized. I am glad he apologized, but I am still hurt about this 24 hours later and have not wanted to be around him. Has he cheated on me? No. But this statement really disturbed me. Should I be alarmed or should I take it as a harmless joke? My thing is, why joke about that even? What do you all make of this?
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe  +, writes (9 December 2013):
 I think you need more to go on than this - I understand totally why you would be disturbed but the problem is you have to stick to the facts and the facts fit both something to be alarmed about and something that is exactly as he said - he was ticked off and he made a stupid, flippant, remark, it is not as if nothing like this has ever happened in the history of relationships but concretely if this is all you have to go on I think you have to apply the benefit of the doubt principle and give it to your boyfriend....unless you have other reasons for feeling the way you do about what he said?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 December 2013):
 It's amazing how many "harmless jokes" (or, "harmless comments") take on a life of their own.... prove, ultimately, to not be harmless at all, and usher in the end of a relationship or marriage..... Think twice, and trust your instincts...
Good luck...
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