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writes:So I've liked this guy for a while but he's had a girlfriend as long as I've known him. I noticed he's been flirting with me somewhat since we first met but I assumed it was just his personality. Recently though, he's been asking me to kiss him and blatantly asking me for sex in that 'I'm joking but serious' kind of way. I'm obviously reluctant to do anything about it as he has a girlfriend. I don't want to be the other woman. I don't want to be a short term fix for a problem he's having at home.We get on really well and have so much in common, but...Am I just someone to vent his frustrations with? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): Hi i totally agree with kc100. If you start something with this guy, what will it be? Sneaking around behind another girls back, him lying to her all the time as he hops from their bed to youre..when he can fit you in!You ought to be offended by his `joke` suggestions. Hes a coward who hasnt the courage to talk to his partner about his problems....so bare in mind if you did end up lumbered with him and he wasnt happy, he wouldnt tell you, he`d just find another woman to sleep with. Hes obviously happy to lie, more than happy to have sex with women behind his partners back, so clearly doesnt care about being faithful. AND he thinks you will be so flattered by his blurb and so impressed with his abilities to lie and cheat that you will actually WANT to be his bit on the side? Kick the worm to the kerb.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): Tell it to him straight. Either he stop flirting with you and acts like a real man, or he can take it elsewhere! Tell him what you told us: you are not interested in being his quick fix, side dish, for the problems he has at home.
And do not engage in a relationship with him, just think that the way he flirts with you he is probably flirting/cheating with other women too.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (30 November 2009):
 To put it simply - if this guy was interested in you for more than just sex he would have left his girlfriend and would be trying to date you - not just pestering you for sex!
All this guy wants is a bit of fun on the side, I bet he's got a bit bored with his relationship and wants some no-strings attached sex. He doesnt like you the same way you like him - he literally just wants sex from you and has no feelings for you at all.
Now this is stealing from another of our aunts on this site but I just cant help it because it is one of the best things I've heard in a while so I hope she wont mind me using it :) So next time he asks you for sex or asks you to kiss him, just say " How about i ask your girlfriend if that is ok with her first?" I'm sure that will stop him from ever asking you again and he will just move on to his next victim.
Ask yourself this: Is this the sort of guy you want to get involved with? A man that cant be trusted, that is a cheat and is obsessed with sex? I'm going to guess that you are not the only girl he is chasing for sex, so the chances are that he will have all sorts of STD's!
Just stay away from this guy and find yourself a nice guy who is interested in you for who you are, not just for the sake of having a quickie one night behind his girlfriends back.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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