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writes:I have only married once in my mid 20's. It lasted 6 months. I never remarried until 17 years later. I have been married for 7 years, I thought I was careful with whom I married. After we married I found out I was wifie #6. I have just found out in the past 3 days that he's been having an affair for the past 3 years with a woman he works with. A month prior to me finding out, he left me while I was in the hospital at my weakest point saying the cause of break up was over his teen daughter whom I tried to correct her sexual behavior. He claimed I was too harsh. His basis for seperation - supposedly!! The day he decided to come back one hour before we decided to wipe the slate clean - one hour - he tells me about this woman. My life is changed forever. I feel like going out and screwing somebody differnt to get him back and send him the pics to let him know how it feels. I have one child with him, I had a set of twins he adopted. We had gained custody of his daughter when she was 10 - she is now about to be 17. I'm having a hard time with all of this. During our 3 week break up while we were living in seperate homes - (oh I remained in our house), he moved in with his girlfriend. I had to send my car over with my neighbor to rescue him. I gave a choice. To quit his job or she goes. She called my house at 3am while I took a sleeping pill to just get some rest. He slept on the couch just to make sure he heard that phone call after we change our cell numbers and such. He claims he never spoke to her - yeah right. And reindeers fly too. I am so angry and don't know which way to turn. I never did anything to him to make this happen. I thought my life was full of love. I cherished every moment with him - now that is all destroyed. What do I do? My attorney is in tack and I could take him for everything he owns. Is that gonna make anything better??? If I keep him I will only grow to hate him and my children will be affected - either way I am in a mess. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): Why would you keep him? He has lied, cheated, and basically been a huge scumbag! You will be much better off without him!
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reader, mr motivator  +, writes (28 November 2009):
It wont make you feel emotionally better in the long term, although taking him for everything he has may make you feel better in the short term.
Its pretty digusting thinking about how he left you and how long it was going on for, he really has no excuse..
In fact on second thoughts
take the son of a gun for all hes got....you deserve at least 50% and he deserves to know that after what he did to you, you arent just going to roll over and play dead for his mistress at work
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