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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How do I make my wife wake up & see how horribly overbearing her mother is?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - My wifes mother tries to control just about every aspect of her life. She tells her how she should shop, how to spend her money, makes comments about her weight, compares her to other people, judges her AND me, and acts like a child. I found out that this has been going on... (522 words)

I have a boyfriend, but sometimes I wonder if I'm "too nice"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - This is a question primarily for the men, but I'm interested in hearing everyone's opinion... I haven't read it, but I've recently been contemplating reading the book, Why Men Love Bitches. I googled it and from what I gather, it basically talks about how men don't want the... (143 words)

Anal sex and more

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend always wanted to try anal...but we are very scared to. one of his friend's friend he heard, tore her ass and had to be admitted to the hosp.!! 2 of my friens have done it and what they advised me is ..that it is extremely painful..and bleeds a lot while an... (230 words)

Does he still care about me? Or should I just move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, So long story here, I met a man almost a year ago, well a bartender. Looking for an excuse to talk to him I went outside to borrow his lighter and we got chatting we used to sit and talk for hours while he was working and he would walk me home at night, there was lots o... (447 words)

I've never had sex before. What do we do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend are ready to have sex. I've never had sex before. What do we have to do? What foreplay can we do before? Help me please? :/... (30 words)

How can a dildo be more pleasureable than real sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - hello member of dearcupid i wanted to ask a question which is so much important for me ...hmm and i think for others too. so here it goes..i've had read on many magazines that only some woman reach orgasm during intercourse without another stimulation ( like only 30% of them)... (96 words)

Guys, should I leave my wife for a more attractive, younger woman?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - For the last year I've been having an affair with a woman who's ten years younger. We love each other very much. She's got everything I wish I would have found in someone, before I married my wife. She's beautiful and has a great body, my wife could care less about how she ... (177 words)

I found out I got clamydia and my new b/f thinks I cheated but I got it from my cheating ex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - hello everyone ... 5 months ago my boyfriend of 2 years and i broke up ... about a month and half ago i started dating someone new .. well the problem is i just had a check up and i was told that i have clamydia ... i must of caught it from my ex cause i know that he att... (218 words)

My fiance has x rated photos of his ex on his computer. He promised to delete them but never has!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (F) - I am engaged to a man that I love very much and on a day-to day basis treats me very well. About 6 months ago, I was updating and "weeding" out some computer files, when I discovered that he was had hundreds of photos of his ex wife. I think it would be helpful for me to ... (542 words)

Should I have some fun with this guy or wait and see if my ex comes back?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - so i have a question, i'm not a very good looking person, put frankly, i have never and don't ever get much male attention at all, the only male attention i recieve is off fat and ugly guys(i know that sounds bad, looks shouldn't matter, but if it's in front of friends they all ... (340 words)

I don't want my girlfriend's gay friend at my house and she doesn't respect my wishes

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend has this lesbian couple as her friends. I have met them, spent time with them and i quite like them. This Sunday, she wants to take all of us out for breakfast, me, the couple and a male gay friend i have never met, but she talks about him a lot. I had plans to... (194 words)

I'm worried with college ending that I won't be able to stay close to my friend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4349 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 19 and I've known my best friend (20) for nearly 4 years since the start of college 2-3 days a week. We've always had trouble meeting up because neither of us can drive yet, so it's money for buses and we don't live very close, but he manages to come over to my house and ... (166 words)

How can you be friends with an ex after they've broken your heart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4352 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - im heartbroken :( my boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago, on sunday night we had an argument because we werent going to see each other that night and we both have a lot of seperate plans over the next few weekends, on top of his work commitments (he often does 16 hour days ... (619 words)

I think my ex hacked into my facebook account

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - what would you do? hello im 30 and my ex girlfriend is 26 we've got 2 kids. we live together. and for years we've not been close since the birth of our first child. and this year after years of unhappy r/ship we split up. we desided for the kids sake we wouldn't move ou... (293 words)

How important is relationship experience when choosing a partner?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I wonder, how important is dating or relationship experience when choosing a partner? Does someone need to have relationship experience for you to consider them a viable partner? How do you view inexperience or someone with little relationship history? Does y... (78 words)

I think I am the reason for many of the problems in my girlfriend's life

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been dating this girl for a few months and I am worried I am the reason for all her problems. We get along great and have lots of fun together but everyone makes comments on the fact that we are so opposite of each other. And its true we couldnt be any more differen... (401 words)

I have trouble dating because I say weird things and scare guys off

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi...I am a very pretty girl with a good job. The one thing that I know I am is a bit weird. Once you get to know me though you will know that I am the most lovable person with a big heart. However, I don't come off as your normal person and say the most normal things. That's ... (162 words)

My ex didn't seem to care so why did he send a message after our breakup acting like he cared?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone! Last Sunday, I broke up with my "boyfriend" of 2 months. We are both on an exchange student programme in Europe, so we both live away from our countries (I come from Greece, he comes from Spain), me for 6 months, and he is here for 1 year. The whole breaki... (672 words)

Does he want to date me or just have sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - i am a lady and i am 28 years, i have a male friend that iam going out with. were are in to this relationship just 3weeks now and he is asking me of sex and he said he want me too be his wife but i dont known what too do, should i go on with him or ask him too go because ... (86 words)

Thing went well during a date but he doesn't initiate things.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been dating this guy for a month, I felt chemistry between us the very first time we met and he asked for my number and I asked him out first. I felt nervous around him, I always do, so I was a bit hesitated to have physical contact. Anyway on date three, he starte... (234 words)

She's a terrible travel partner, how can I avoid spending time with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Last year I went on vacation with one of my best friends. It was a nightmare. I already knew she can be a bit self centered and runs on an ego-trip. I don't know why I thought going away would her could ever be a good idea. I bit my tongue during the vacation. And sh... (387 words)

He's with someone else but says he still needs me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - soo im really confused! me and this guy have been talking for a long time! we had a connection before like 3 years ago and i thought he was my first love, we started talking agian like 2 years ago because i was tellin my friends about how much i loved him even though we didnt ... (313 words)

He left me for a younger woman but he still expects me to be kind to him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - my husband left me for a girl that is 24 years younger than him.when i found out i was crushed, i saw no problems in our marriage. we both worked long hours, spent time together when we had days off. i cooked, cleaned, did yard work, layed his clothes out for the next day. i ... (326 words)

Whenever I have problems he calls them stupid. Is it wrong to want to talk?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I don't argue a lot, but when we do, it's BAD. And there is a routine to it that I've been having trouble dealing with. It goes a little something like this: 1) I tell him what I'm having a problem with/what I'm upset about 2) He tells me I'm stupid, and... (282 words)

My boyfriend doesn't care about his education, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years now. He initially told me he'd gotten his high school diploma but then told me the truth that he dropped out at 15. He's asked me for help which I try to do by asking every once and a while when he wants me to go over things ... (161 words)

I want to end it with my BF but don't have the courage. Can he sense I'm detaching?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi All, I have been with my BF for 16 months and am really close to breaking up with him, as I have found it hard, work, him secretive and I suspected him of cheating, although I cannot prove it. Can guys sense it when you are detaching? I have suffered alot during the ... (697 words)

After spending the weekend together he mysteriously disappeared! What happened?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i've been dating my boyfriend exclusively for about a month now and since we started, we've talked pretty constantly by text all day every day when we're apart. this last weekend, i went and stayed with him and it was all normal. he was affectionate as always, introduced me ... (307 words)

24 year old dating a 34 year old with a kid?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4344 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, Ill try to be brief, list the facts and ask the question *I got out of my first and only relationship (so far) about a year ago, I had the toughest time moving on and even became depressed until I met him, I think I'm 80% healed, I think about my ex still but in a... (949 words)

Can't stop thinking about my ex having sex with another guy.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I was in a long distance relationship that lasted a year and a half. She's in the US and I'm in the UK. She visited me and stayed here for a month and a half. Everything was fine until this April. We had an argument which made me react by blocking her on facebook and the other ... (439 words)

How do I get my girlfriend to eat healthy and lose weight?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello guys. I need some advice on talking to my girlfriend about her weight. I will first start off by saying i DO lover her and i will NOT leave her over this because she is just too special to me. I do however, think that she is not eating healthy because ever since i met her ... (289 words)

He's great, but everything nice he does makes me sad. Why?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4353 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So in my first serious relationship, and no complaints on his part so far. He's pretty cute, extremely nice and considerate, even buys me random gifts from time to time. However, whenever he compliments me, or does something nice for me, i know i should feel happy but deep down ... (199 words)

My friends and family believe that this guy is bad news but he makes me happy. What do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm pretty sure there is no other position like mine anywhere else in the world. It's so confusing. Me and this guy have been on and off for a while. We were friends with benefits at first but I began to fall in love with him and he did too. We dated for a while and then bro... (174 words)

What type of porn would he like?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - my partner and I both enjoy watching porn but we don't do it together, I know what I like but would like to know what most men would like to watch. Due to him being a tight arse and refusing to get a new phone where he could view and download decent porn himself, I'm ... (97 words)

He's basically said that when I leave in 3 months, our relationship is over. I'm heartbroken!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy 7months ago whilst on a gap year. He's 8 years older than me and we live near each other back home (about 500km)... We started dating straight away and moved together after 3 months (hasty I know but as we're both here temporarily it makes sense) We have a good... (232 words)

She cheated twice but I still love her, help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys, i need some advice. My girlfriend and i have been together for roughly 2 and half years. We live in the same home town but go to school 5 hours apart. We wanted to make the long distance relationship work. At the beginning of the year it was tough and we werent ... (389 words)

Why couldn't I get Mr. Happy to be happy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok, so hopefully i won't get too much stick for this... I have been seeing my girlfriend for 5 weeks, she is smoking hot and we sleep together everyday, sometimes 2, 3 times a day. I have never had a problem getting turned on and she loves it how i have such a high sex drive... (216 words)

How can you tell if someone is crazy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - How do you tell if someone is a bit off thier rocker or just needy/bored/alone? So i posted an ad on craigslist in the platonic section. Just wanted to meet some new friends around my area that can hang out from time to time. Nothing sexual or anything i am in a relationship. ... (134 words)

If my boyfriend gets testosterone treatments will it change him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi guys, My boyfriend thinks he may have low testosterone levels and he has a doctors appointment for it. My question is that if he does and he gets treatment, will his personality change? He has a low sex drive at the moment but this hasn't always been the case. Will he st... (82 words)

He can't move on after our one night stand. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello there, I wanted to ask help to solve this problem that i have. 4 years ago im working in a department store when i met this guy. At our first meeting he ask for my number. And because of my co-workers that are teasing me i don't have any choice but to gave my number... (448 words)

Should I embrace the fact that I am ghangeing or stay true to my formerself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Around 3 years ago me and my family moved to the rule country side. now I was never particularly keen on this idea, but my father needed the job and where ever he went i went. now i had always been a city girl all my life, so it was difficult to adapt to the country side, ... (354 words)

How do you break up with least amount of pain?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

- I've posted before e.g. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/maybe-i-do-lack-empathy-but-has-my.html I think the time has come to move on. My question is how do you break up in the least painful way possible? We share a house (mine), we share friends. How do you do th... (114 words)

Boyfriends best "girl"friend is a roach. I need a terminator!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I NEED HELP! Here is my story... so at a point, my boyfriend of 3 years was in prison. At first, we were not together, I broke it off because I wasn't gonna deal with what he was doing. While he was gone we began writing and eventually got back together. I knew of a female ... (280 words)

Sometimes I want to call the other guy just for a kiss

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - The story goes like this, i have been dating a certain guy for a year now, the problem is he cheated me twice the second time i decided that we should seperate for a while and that i needed a break. Along that seperation period, i got into another relationship because i thought ... (140 words)

How do porn actress do things with no health risks?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - How do porn actresses do things like a2m and rimjobs without any health risks? And how do they prep for anal to make it look so easy?... (27 words)

Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?

This question has 33 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or who are going to court for ... (155 words)

Boyfriend moved in, doesn't have a job, doesn't watch the kids, is he crossing the line?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Idk what to do. My bf of three years is driving me crazy. We have two children together and im living in a low income apartment, he kinda came over and never left because he didnt have anywhere else to go. I dont have a job because i cant find reliable and affordable daycare. ... (237 words)

Can you really be attracted to someone by their scent or is it just lust?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Is it possible for 2 people to be attracted by their scent, or by their odor? I met this chick about 2 months ago and we really like each other, almost as if we're in love. This chick told me not too long ago that the first thing that attracted her to me was my "scent", the way ... (187 words)

Concerned about girlfriends jealousy and what she considers porn?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - hi all, im concerned about my girls insecurity, recently iv noticed she gets snippy when i talk to my female friends, and she gets in a bit of a strop about it sometimes, she dosent seem to think she is pushing my female friends away by making them feel alienated, she c... (495 words)

His lack of kissing skills mean I lack .... well, read the rest, people!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My bf's never really been a good kisser. I like real french kisses with a lot of tongue action and that's what really gets me going down there (meaning i get wet with a long passionate french kiss.). When he kisses me, it's a lot of kisses on the lps with just a little tongue ... (143 words)

Is my jealousy valid over this girl?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I think my boyfriend may like his female friend (FF) He's known her about 6-12 months before me, but never really saw her face to face, until he went to school. He met her in school about 1 month, before meeting me. Here's what he's done: 1)he invited this female... (426 words)

Is there such a thing as real love?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4331 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Is there such a thing as real love? Or do guys just want the best girl they can convince to be with them at the time? Looking at the fwb scenario, or even guys who take a girlfriend out of convenience because she is nice to him, but who has no intension of commitment or going ... (338 words)

What should I do? I was too afraid to kiss her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey there! I'd like to ask for some advice against unforgivingly stupid cowardice. I am 18 years old and I don't have any problems sozializing or talking to people. In contrary, I call myself strong in character and self-confident. But when it comes to girls I turn into a co... (313 words)

Should I give it a go with this friendship again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know what to do, someone has popped back into my life and am I making a big, big mistake even replying back or should i leave it in the past and move on... I used to be best friends with this girl, we were close all throughout college and all my best moments from the... (443 words)

Is it possible to be stuck with somebody?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

23 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - is it possible to be stuck with somebody? is my question to you guys. ive been with a guy for 5 yrs and we are going no where in life. im getting my life together on my own i just recently got my GED and im 3 classes shy away from getting my associates degree in human servic... (198 words)