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writes:This is a question primarily for the men, but I'm interested in hearing everyone's opinion...I haven't read it, but I've recently been contemplating reading the book, Why Men Love Bitches. I googled it and from what I gather, it basically talks about how men don't want the "nice" girl, but rather a woman who is bitchy, indifferent, etc. Is this true???I have a boyfriend, but sometimes I wonder if I'm "too nice"? I have a suspicion that this could be the reason previous relationships did not work out.I want to be myself, of course, but I'm now thinking maybe I should try being a bit more of a "bitch" if that's what men truly want. I want to keep my boyfriend, but I don't want him to take me for granted because I'm "too nice". Advice? Opinions? Reply to this Question
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reader, mooh  +, writes (29 May 2012):
Stay true to who you are and don't change your personality: a boyfriend should love you for who you are.
When referring to "bitchy", this is quite extreme/radical. Usually guys enjoy a partner who is assertive, confident and knows what she wants and not a pushover (e.g. always making bf chose the movie to go to the cinema even if you don't like it) because you should feel like yourself when you are with a romantic partner (not being afraid to express what you want or what you like for example because it makes you who you are and that's who your bf should love!)
Don't try to change your personality because that's something that usually doesn't hold out on the long term.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 May 2012):
 what the book means (and I have read it) is that you should not be a YES woman. YOU should NOT be a doormat.
YOU should have your life and your interests and your opinions and you should voice them.
he says jump you do not say "how high" you say "why?"
it's just about standing up for yourself like you would with anyone...
what happens often is that women that are strong and independent tend to change their personalities in order to please men thinking they want that... but most men worth their weight... want a woman with a backbone...
that's all the title of the book means.
it does not mean to be a nasty woman.. just strong and independent and willing to stand up for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2012): hmmm if a MAN want only sex from his partner, this means guys want bitches , of course
BUT.. if a MAN want a serious relationship ,then THEY want a cool, honest , caring , loving etc.. girls.... and at the end of my ansewer my advice is "nobody know better than you , what your bf want and even if you don't know , you MUST figure it out"
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2012): When everyone says guys prefer a 'bitch' doesnt really mean someone that is mean, just simply means dont want no women that is a push over and can't stick up for herself. Me being a women i know that men think its really sexy when a women can stand up for herself and not let anyone walk all over her. So if you do wanna start being that way make sure your not literally a bitch, some women are a bitch for no reason and that's not what men want, they just want a women that will be strong mentally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2012): There's a difference between being "too nice" and being a doormat, being disrespectful to yourself, exuding a sense of low self esteem and thus encouraging other people to think lowly of you.There's also a difference between being "bitchy" and simply not letting yourself be mistreated. I haven't read the book you talk about so I don't know if that's what they are referring to (just in a tongue in cheek way). There's also men who actually do go for seriously toxic women. Those are men who are NOT mentally or emotionally healthy themselves. Those relationships between such men and women are toxic - e.g. co-dependent, abusive, soul-sucking...ending in multiple breakups, abuse, affairs, divorce, or just dragging on in misery indefinitely. You don't want to get involved with such men who would SERIOUSLY want truly "bitchy" women, as those men are not altogether "there".
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