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Boyfriend moved in, doesn't have a job, doesn't watch the kids, is he crossing the line?

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Question - (23 May 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 24 May 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Idk what to do. My bf of three years is driving me crazy. We have two children together and im living in a low income apartment, he kinda came over and never left because he didnt have anywhere else to go. I dont have a job because i cant find reliable and affordable daycare. He wont get one because he is waiting to open a shop with one of his friends and its been almost a year since the shop idea popped up. He hasnt attempted to get a job and wont because he doesnt want to have to quit a job after starting it because his shop might open. He wont watch the kids because that compromises his time and he cant open a shop if he is tied up with two kids. He always has to know where i am and freaks out when i dont check in even though he doesnt check in with me. Im not allowed to go out by myself with my friends. But he is. Im relying on my seventy yr old grandmother to help me financially and he is ok with that because he feels that she owes me. She doesnt owe me anything. She has been helping me since i was sixteen helping to get me into school paying for books buying me two cars. Idk what to do. Im sick of living like this. Please help me?!

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A female reader, Wisdom Australia +, writes (24 May 2012):

Wisdom agony auntGet rid of him! Get a job even if it is lower paying, ask yur grandmoher to help with the kids ( Maybe she could mind them until you work somehting else out)

Either way he sounds awful...

2 cars, pays for your school she should get an award for the most amazing granny in the world!

Good luck

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A female reader, cmarieky United States +, writes (23 May 2012):

Why are u with him? Why is he living with u? He's shown he doesn't trust u nor will he watch your children. He basically don't want u to enjoy an outside life having friends and going out. It's okay for him to go out but u have to be tied down with both kids and relying on ur grandma over him. If he isn't contributing to you and the kids then set some ground rules. Let him know he can't live there without contributing paying bills n rent equally.

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