A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:is it possible to be stuck with somebody? is my question to you guys. ive been with a guy for 5 yrs and we are going no where in life. im getting my life together on my own i just recently got my GED and im 3 classes shy away from getting my associates degree in human services so MY future looks promising to me, now this significant other im with is no where close to where im at,he smokes weed, has no job no education, nothing, he had his own crib and car but lost it due to his baby mother but i dont want to bore you with that so since he says he had all that 5 yrs ago he dont need to rush to get it again so now he living in his mother basement doing nothing. i have met maybe like 90% of his family and because of this he says im "stuck" with him, let me remind you im not happy with him anymore and i wanna break up so my question is, is it possible to be stuck with somebody because you know the persons whole family ?
View related questions:
shy, smokes Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, mooh  +, writes (29 May 2012):
You are certainly not stuck with him nor his family. Its up to you to make a decision of what you want in your life and how you want your future to turn out, but i understand this is a very difficult decision to take as you have been with your bf since a long time and have shared experiences/feelings together.
Its nice that you know his family since you are together (and how about him with your family?), however you are supposed to be having a relationship with your bf and not his family.
You are still young and at the point where you are starting your career, you haven't reached the point in your life where you are "stuck" with responsibilities.
A
male
reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 May 2012):
 You really aren't "stuck" with a darn thing... EXCEPT if you ALLOW this creep MAKE YOU BE stuck ..... WITH HIM!!!!
It's usually easier to get out sooner, rather than later.... so I suggest you give that a go....
Good luck....
...............................
A
female
reader, jinxx  +, writes (23 May 2012):
 Stuck? No. Hard to leave? Absolutely.
I was with my ex for years. I considered his family my family. He was an alcoholic and I'd put up with it for a long time because I didn't want to leave the family. In the end, I had to do what was best for myself, because I couldn't bear to be with him any longer. I grew to resent him, and resent them for asking me to stay.
No matter what your boyfriend is saying, you aren't stuck with him. Meeting his family hasn't done anything positive for your relationship, has it? They're not going to make your problems go away, are they? If you want to break up with him, break up with him. That's all it takes. He may very well try to keep you around, but just cut all ties with him and move on. He eventually will as well.
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 May 2012):
 Of COURSE NOT. You can be married. You can have children with someone and you can still NOT be stuck with them.
You have to just walk away. You have to say NO I’m done.
I’m not happy I’m leaving.
YOU are not stuck. IF YOU believe him when he says you are stuck with him because you know his family you are letting him manipulate you.
You can’t make this pleasant. He will whine. He will complain, he will possible threaten and stalk you… be strong… explain to him that you are done and that it’s over and NOTHING he says or does will fix it at this point. Then make sure he knows if he stalks you or harasses you that you have NO PROBLEM involving the law in keeping yourself safe from him. (The threat alone sometimes keeps them from doing stupid stuff).
Don’t let him bully you into doing something you don’t want to do.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 May 2012):
 No, it can just means it's harder to walk away. But at some point it may be what YOU need to do for YOU.
Obviously he is still stuck in his teen years and you have grown and moved on. Time to let him go and build a future YOU want.
...............................
A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 May 2012):
 Of course not, in fact I am not even sure I understood your question, because it does not make sense . If people would get stuck with a partner because they have met his family, then there would be no divorces and no break ups ever . Once you met the family- zap !, that's it.
I think there may be some tribal villages in the heart of the Amazonian jungle, where it goes like you say , once you have been introduced to the family you belong to them, and if you get away... they'll chase after you throwing at you spears and poisonous darts- but there's no suck risk where you live, so , get unstuck whenever you want.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2012): I know how it feels to be " stuck" with someone and you aren' t stuck with anyone. If you dont want to be with someone, dont be with that person. Tell them to get their sht together or get out. You arent his mom. Its not your job to support him, you arent married, you arent his mother. He is a big boy.
You have one life to live, so live it the way you want to. On your own terms and no one else' s.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2012): No it's not possible to be stuck with someone that doesn't go to school, work or because of his family. I would leave him in his mother basement so he can get money from his mother and smoke all the pot he want.
His family proabaly treat you very nice because they know he need someone and they don't want to get stuck with his lazy a$$. He's holding you back. find yourself a nice guy that wants something out of life, you're already wasted five years , I'm sure you know that you need to get out of this relationship because othewise you wouldn't be on this site, you know you're got yourself nothing but a zero.
You're not stuck with him and plus you can still be friend with his family, they see what's what's going on.
You not stuck with him.
...............................
|
