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30-35,
*tdhurricane
writes:Hey guys, i need some advice. My girlfriend and i have been together for roughly 2 and half years. We live in the same home town but go to school 5 hours apart. We wanted to make the long distance relationship work. At the beginning of the year it was tough and we werent "officially" together, but we still talked every day and were basically a couple (we had promised to tell each other if we did something with someone else and wouldnt sleep with anyone else). Finally i realized it was stupid to not be official and made it "official" a month into the school year. However in December i found out that a week before making it official she had sex with another guy and a week before that had blown a different guy. I was absolutely shattered. She had told me that she hadnt done anything with anyone and i trusted her completly. But i took her back it took me awhile to build up my trust but we finally were back to normal, we even talked about marrying each other and getting engaged but that idea eventually fell through because she decided against it after convincing me we could do it, (im 20 and shes 18) The rest of the year went fantastically, with me visiting her multiple times. Ive never been more in love with someone in my entire life. She means the world to me. But yesterday i found out that during this past semester she had sex with another guy, during the time she said she wanted to marry me nonetheless and had lied to me about it. I had met this guy multiple times and had asked her about him but she always told me they were just friends. Im crushed and i dont know what to do. I love this girl more than anything, shes my best friend and my other half. When i confronted her about it she was extremely upset and crying and apologizing to me that it was a mistake and she didnt mean it. I dont know what to do. Part of me wants to take her back and another part of me is so disgusted that it makes me sick to my stomach and i cant sleep at night. Do i take her back?
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reader, doublejack +, writes (23 May 2012):
It's going to hurt to let her go, but it will hurt even more if you don't and she cheats again, which will happen. She's very young and her actions show that she doesn't respect you or the relationship. Time to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2012): Cut loose of this girl and then get tested for STIs. Seriously.
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (23 May 2012):
 She's young, she's at college, and she wants to experiment a bit. This is normal, and is the reason many couples decide to break up before leaving for school. If I were you, I wouldn't take her back as she has shown you nothing but disrespect. If you can take being lied to and cheated on, then I feel you may take her back regardless of what we say to you here.
I know you love her, and when you love someone that makes ending the relationship hard. But love isn't enough, and it's definitely not keeping her faithful to you. In the end it's about what you want, and what you think you deserve. If you think you deserve better, and I think you do, you should end the relationship and move on. If you don't think you deserve better, keep going back to a girl who cheats on you.
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reader, babygirllovej +, writes (23 May 2012):
 I wouldn't take her back. She cheated on you more then once and will continue to cheat if you stay with her.
Your best bet is to move on and find someone that you can trust.
It hurts but you will get over her. She clearly doesn't respect you and you know already that she isn't interested in becoming engaged or getting married.
What future is there with her? I find the easiest way (for me) to get over someone is to concentrate on your future.
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