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writes:My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years now. He initially told me he'd gotten his high school diploma but then told me the truth that he dropped out at 15. He's asked me for help which I try to do by asking every once and a while when he wants me to go over things with him. He gets mad at me for asking because he says he'll ask me but its been almost ten years since school and o honestly don't see him getting it. He thinks I'm an idiot for telling him if he doesn't get it sooner then later I'll leave him as he has no motivation for his education or getting a better job (he works from home but doesn't make enough to help me with bills).Is it so stupid to not want to be with someone who cares so little about himself? I don't think so Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe wants to get his education he's just not motivated. And yeah it was harsh of me to want to leave but my main reasoning for that is because he is never happy with himself, he's said many times he doesn't matter so what's the point in doing anything. Who really wants to be with someone who is so miserable? If he chooses not to get his ged it boils down to ok, not now, maybe sometime in the future. I just want him to be happy and he's not. I will have to wait it out andand hope that I can help him get some self-worth right? Thanks everyone for replyi
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 May 2012):
 I would ask you to see this from his perspective.
I would think that you can't force someone to get an education. Not even parents can do that with unruly children.
I wouldn't give in if my significant other threatened with leaving me unless I get an education. If I were not good for her the way I am, then I would think she should be better off with someone else.
You may not like that he doesn't have as much schooling as you do, and you could leave him if that does not go well with you, but you cannot make the relationship dependent on whether he attends school or not.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 May 2012):
 Go with your last paragraph and part ways with this guy, now....
Good luck...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 May 2012):
Time to walk away. You know it. I know it. It's not so much the lack of education, it's more the lack of motivation. Someone with no qualifications, but who is at least wiling to try is better than the guy you have.
Why settle for second best? I wouldn't. Neither should you. Find someone who is motivated and wants to do well in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2012): This is not something YOU can fix. It starts with him alone.
I've met and pseudo-dated a guy like this. WHY is he uninterested in furthering his education? Does he not feel like college is a good fit for him? Or does he want to, but lack the motivation?
Overall, if he's steadfast on staying where is he is, either you need to accept him, or get out the relationship.
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