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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

If they're bigger are they more sensitive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I have a quick question. You know the inner lips of a woman-- the labia minora? You know how some women have longer ones and stuff? I wanted to know, does that increase feeling in them? Like would they be more sensitive than a person with a smaller labia minora? ... (71 words)

Do I tell a mate that I know he slept with a girl I was seeing

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4360 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Question.... I met a girl about 5 months ago. She was in a loveless marriage, had random affairs etc. We used to tell each other what we were upto etc... It was very sexual. Anyway we ended up catching up for little sessions so to speak. Anyway during this time her husband left ... (433 words)

How do handle all this stress and stop making mistakes? Had a break up. Depressed Relocated.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4360 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I don't know where to begin, I am really upset but I'll try to list the facts as brief as possible *Recently graduated from College in finance *Never had a full time job * Moved away from home (I thought it was a relief, until now) *Moved away from home to get... (1065 words)

I like both of them. What can I do? She doesn't want to socialize with me if my boyfriend is there too

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have this friend who's really shy and awkward, she never had a boy interested in her and she's feeling pretty insecure because of it. Besides telling me all these things, she claims she doesn't want a relationship I used to be exactly like that and we were pretty close, unti... (211 words)

Why did my ex say we were back together and then move in with another woman?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex-boyfriend and I split up last March and decided to take things slow last October after being broken up for seven months. While taking to me on the phone, he stated to me that he was no longer a single man and I asked him who he was with and I then said, are you with me? ... (264 words)

She has a boyfriend, are we friends with benefits?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I met this girl at a resort on february.She was definitely made from heaven.I asked her out but she was not interested and told me to be her friend instead.Since then,we've been having fun,going out for dinner and she visit me almost everyday.She told me she has someone that ... (173 words)

We spent a lovely couple of hours together I got hooked and then he never contacted me again

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Agony aunt. On a night out a couple of months back, I met a boy who I fell for literally from the moment I saw him (as cheesy as it sounds). We hit it off straight away and he wouldn’t leave my side for the rest of the night. He mentioned that he’d split up with his ex g... (456 words)

Should I be room mates with a girl I have feelings for?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Looking for advice. Im a male with a female friend. She needs a roommate near our university and is considering me. Problem is i gave feelings for her (we flirt a lil but nothing serious). So i dunno if being her roomate is a good idea. Since i might end up liking her in the ... (62 words)

He chased me for ages, I went out then he stands me up and doesn't return calls??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

- Im completely puzzled by this guy. We met a couple of months back swapped numbers etc but I wasnt too interested. But he bombards me with texts and I finally agree to meet him for a date. The date went fine apart from one little hitch......when I first met him he said he had a ... (328 words)

He keeps breaking up with me every few weeks. Should I end things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4360 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am in a relationship with this that used to be my late first ex boyfriend's best friend. Now this BF of he sounds like he is insecure I don't know, he likes breaking up with me for few days or weeks, he broke up with me two weeks back, but we still talkhe asked my ... (147 words)

What is your opinion about what the wife should pay for after marriage?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid, I wanted your opinion on after a couple is married what is the wife, should the wife pay for? My Hubby to be wants me to pay the mortgage and he would pay for everything else ie taxes,food, insurance,pet care, car care,everything. Does this sound resonable and fa... (81 words)

I'm confused about my orientation, and I don't know what to do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I'm 14 and I'm having some problems with my sexual orientation. Please bear with me, this might be a little long. So, okay, around last year me and my siblings broke out of our mom's religion after the world didn't end. I didn't truly believe it would happen, but out of... (272 words)

I feel like my friend of 11 years is replacing me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - My best friend (let's call her Lily) and I have been joined at the hip since we were four. Now, eleven years later, I feel like I'm being replaced by someone(Sophie) who is constantly treating me like an idiot. Sophie has been in our friendship group for almost four year... (240 words)

I haven't asked out a girl in 2 years for fear of being rejected

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - For the past two years I have failed to ask a single girl out and need to know how to overcome my fear. I really want to be able to approach attractive women that I don't know, but I feel terrified and worried about what to say. I'm afraid that not only will they reject me, ... (204 words)

I'm concerned over boyfriend's behavior when he knew I was grieving

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear all, Last week I returned home and dicovered my beloved cat had died in his sleep. I was heartbroken and still am but was also upset was my boyfriends reaction. I texted him to let him know and all he replied was I'm sorry hope you're ok. We have only been together 5 ... (125 words)

My husband has gone from an amazing lover to not even wanting me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Please help me! My husband has gone from an amazing lover to not even wanting me. He's even gone as far as going into the other room to watch porn instead of waking me up for sex at night, which I'm up for. It's killing me because he used to love doing everything to me and ... (174 words)

I made a gift with much time and love involved but he's dating someone else. Should I give him the gift?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello Cupid’s, I have a question So I will keep this as short as I can. I have a male friend who I feel in love with, I told him back in December and he did not take it as I had hoped, such as, he did not call me or see me for months. I finally said for us to meet up and sort... (452 words)

I like him when I'm with him, but when we're apart I want to just end it

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've now been in a relationship for 4 weeks. Not long, but things are moving veryyy slowly. Probably too slowly. We were seeing each other before for about 2 months. We seemed to see each other more then than what we do now we're in a relationship. It was actually me that ini... (345 words)

My Muslin parents are extremist and I'm not allowed to do anything!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 22-25 - I need help. I have such extremist parents. I am a Muslim and I'm not allowed to do anything. I'm not allowed to go to my friend's houses. I'm not allowed to go to the park. I'm not allowed to go to town. I'm not allowed to go out. I'm not allowed to invite my frie... (121 words)

Trouble situation between my daughter, step daughter and a boyfriend. I'm caught in the middle!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have read a similiar question but mine has its own twist..on my wedding night ay reception my daughter from previous marriage and my newly found husband's daughter have a confortation over my husbands daughter and my daughters boyfriend caught in the bathroom together..which ... (103 words)

How do I tell my mother I'm dating a girl who has a kid?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I am a bit confused and worried, I am seeing someone, we are still new to each other and we haven't made action, but we told each other we love each other and we get along well. but here is the problem we can't find the space to be together(the time and especially the space). ... (179 words)

I'm a nice girl! So why do I wind up with jerks?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Why do Guys keep hurting me like this? I feel like I'm not good enough:(? I've never had a relationship where the guy didn't break my heart. I'm 23 and all the guys I've been with have taken advantage of my feelings used me and dumped me and have moved on with thei... (354 words)

Why does my dating life suck?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4352 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi every one, I grew up being a christian, never dated till I was 25 waiting for MR right only to date MR wrong. My first bf was 2yrs younger than me so I left him and worse part I found out he had a gf. My recent 1 lied so we dated until I found out that her gf is having a kid ... (178 words)

My problem is right now that there is no spark left in our relationship and I'm not sure if we should be together anymore.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years next month. My problem is right now that there is no spark left in our relationship and I'm not sure if we should be together anymore. Even though I want things to keep working between us I don't know how to move past all the ... (315 words)

I'm crushed and confused! She's hung up on her ex but in love with me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4357 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Me and my ex started our relationship both extremely crushed by our ex's before. We were a support group for each other where we could express ourselves freely and get support from each other and advice. That grew into a relationship and I fell deeply in love with her. She is ... (436 words)

Did I scare him off? Read him wrong? What do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

8 May 2012 (?) age 30-35 - Ok there is this guy I think he's shy but how do I really know?? Ok we are roommates and I always could feel a connection when he was around he would make eye contact the body language made me think he was interested. So after a while of all that I took it as he probly liked me ... (107 words)

My friend wants to leave his controlling wife but now she is pregnant

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4336 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My best friend marriage is a disaster, he always loved another women but still married his current wife. She know about his feelings and was sure that he will get over it. But last year it was very hard so he was going to break up with her and get divorced. When he told her ... (397 words)

My boyfriend doesn't seem to want to spend time alone with me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I can't tell if my boyfriend wants to hang out with me or not. Pretty much weve been together for almost a year, and until now we were both at diffrent colleges two hour driving distance away; so this is the first time we are together in the same place for long periods of ... (316 words)

Connection with fiance is lost and now I've slept with his friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hi everyone this gets really complicated! a previous question i asked helps to explain the background of our relationship. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/amnesia-stole-four-years-of-my-life-and.html i am supposed to be getting married to my partner of three and a half y... (448 words)

I suspect my husband is gay or bisexual

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - hi dear cupid. i just got married last year november and I found a text that he send to his friend, guy friend. it says" hide behind the blanket and take a photo" and when I ask him he said he don't know and he forget what does mean? So from that day after I read his message ... (124 words)

I'm worried that my boyfriend compares me to his ex-girlfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

- I was talking with my boyfriend the topic of his ex-girlfriend came up and I've been a bit uncomfortable since. Not because we were talking about it but because his ex was the total polar opposite to me. From his description she is very social, outgoing, has had a lot of boyfr... (156 words)

I know I'm in the wrong and I can't stop!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there, I think I really need help, maybe professional.. I have an irresistible urge to snoop in my boyfriend's e mail and facebook. its bigger than me and I cannot stop it, its like satisfying an urge. I never found anything suspicious on his primary e mail until today when ... (160 words)

Reconnecting with a lost half brother isn't going as I expected

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I located my half brother we share a mother. He is 4 yrs older than me we have been exchanging emails now that he is back from afghan and deployment. We have never met he hasnt seen our mom in 20 years. I have been filling in the gaps for him and the story of what I heard and ... (122 words)

It hurts that the man who would drop anything for me only to give me a lift, will no longer drop anything for me.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - 2 years ago i met a wonderful man in town but was still in love with my ex who had dumped me a month before. We started seeing each other even though i wasn't ready but he said he'd give me all the time i need. he would do anything for me - pick me up at 3am every weekend after ... (751 words)

How do I tell my parents I can't stand their parenting style?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 25 yet my parents have always been overly strict, controlling and verbally abusive. I can't stand how they never want me to leave home even though I'm a grown adult. I've always done the right thing and been a A grade student. Yet I'm always treated like a teenager. I have ... (137 words)

Should I give up on chasing her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I keep attracting bad girls. I'm quite okay looking and tall. I guess I'm super nice and well mannered, but I'm quite shy and nervous when I meet girls. I basically do what I'm told and then get taken advantage of. . As soon as they know I am very rich, they treat me as an ... (850 words)

Is the way I'm handling this good?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok, well i have been seeing my girlfriend for a few weeks and she is a very pretty girl ( not quite sure how i managed that ) anyway, most weekends we go out with friends to a bar or club Friday night and Saturday we do our thing, just 2 of us, our date night :) Anyway,... (291 words)

The women in the porns my husband watches are so different from me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - By chance I found quite some porn in the pc and i noticed that all the women in the video are so different from me. Also the sexual positions or whatever happens in the videos is so different from what me and my husband do. I have a normal weight, normal breasts, but nice sha... (172 words)

Am I overly paranoid about guys?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Am I overly paranoid about guys? I've met a lot of different people and made a lot of new friends in the past few months, but I've notice that I've become more "standoffish" towards some guys. Mainly when guys ask me random questions, I ask them why they're asking that, ec... (245 words)

Help me deal with my husband!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4361 days ago

8 May 2012 (?) age 41-50 - Hi unts and uncles I have 3 questions. [Mod note: 2 questions were combined here] 1..my husbands likes oral sex the most. Every time we meet he pull it out and ask to rub and grab the ass..pull the ass and a hand job.he also likes to rub his testicals. As foreplay he kiss an... (303 words)

Why call me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My ex whom I'm still in love with decieved lied cheated on me our whole relationship during our relationship ever other week he was at the hotel with one or the same woman we were living together I broke up wit him 9 months ago I was the fool cause I tht he loved me he got ... (241 words)

How do I deal with my parents forcing me into marriage?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hiiii dear cupid..my question is that it is allowed in any religion or any country to force someone specially girls for marriage..if parents are forcing someone for marriage then what to do..my parents always said girls r not allowed to raise there voice if elders r discussing ... (62 words)

Clouded judgement, intimacy too soon in the relationship, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (?) age 36-40 - Well, I finally found out after a half a year of contact/dating/whatever that this guy whom I met online is a complete douchebag. Looking back on it, things went a bit fast with intimacy-, even though at the time it was something that I wanted. But I realize that it clouded the ... (411 words)

I need help with my problems without hearing about other people's problems!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I'm 25 years old and have been with my bf the last 2 years - when we met I was in a violent relationship. I wanted my life to end and had been doin class A drugs but then my new bf came along and made me feel special again and I didnt think i'd ever find someone with so much ... (519 words)

Now I hate that his job takes him away 3 days a week! Help me accept this!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - my husband has always been a truck driver when i meet hem thats what he was doing he would leave monday be back tuesday nite work in twon wednesday then leave thursday and be back friday night and was off for the weekend when i got pregnant he stop goin out of twon so he could ... (358 words)

Help! Trying to get our family back together, is a camper ok?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - ok, so I have been staying with my mother...I have been helping out here and there when I can, paying the phone bill, helping with food...then this last month due to my step dad being out of work I have given them 700 dollars! now I dont mean to be rude, I dont mind helping but ... (267 words)

Do I get over him? If so how?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - ok sorry its long. in the end of 2009 a guy that is friends of my family and i started talking. we both flirted but he was living in AZ n me in IA, he came back and visited and he came over and we hung out, drank a little and played Rock Band, nothing happen between us. He ... (458 words)

How can my ex marry her so very very soon after meeting her? It hurts.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age - How can my ex marry someone 2 months after meeting her? Even though he has been driving by my house and calling me often with a private number? I called him about three weeks ago to ask him why he was doing these things and a girl answered the phone stating that she was his ... (775 words)

Is it time to leave my fiancee?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I need help, Do i leave my fiancee? Before you read this, yes its going to be abit of a rant, but this has been eating me up for about a year but even more so the last week or two. I dont feel happy being with her, but i love my 2 daughters so much that i dont kn... (686 words)

How can we get past this, and how can I drop him out of my mind so I can fully love my wonderful girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4365 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend and I have a wonderful relationship. Unfortunatly, her last one was not so great. He would tell her she 'dressed like a whore' and other verbal absuses. He also used to slap her during sex and pass it off as 'normal' (she would later tell me that she 'never asked ... (246 words)

Can anyone help me piece together a way to approach and break it off with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone, I'm not exactly sure how I should start off , I apologize if this is too lengthy. But I really need some sound advice, so here goes...My boyfriend and I have been in a on and off relationship for 6 years. The "on" part of it was good, I was happy, he was happy ... (1032 words)

Is getting tattoos on my butt cheeks a good idea?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4233 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm thinking of getting tattoos on my butt cheeks. I wanted to know if guys typically like that. I was doing it for myself and then I over heard a male friend react negatively towards it. I was going to get a centaur with a bow and arrow on one cheek because I'm a Sagittarius ... (90 words)

After we had sex is when he told me he wasn't looking for anything serious.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I started to date this guy, he's 26 and I'm 18. I was really excited because my friends is going out with his brother and it also happened that we had a lot in common. So tonight we were on a date and things got kind of heated and we ended up having sex. I know it was too ... (198 words)

What is a creative way to say 'I don't know' to him if he asks me out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F) age 22-25 - I have a big problem! So there is this guy in my class and we both really like each other.... I think that Is great we talk to each other fine and all of that. But there is this school dance and all of the boys ask the girls to go with them. This dance is nothing special just a ... (154 words)

Is talking a waste of time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4365 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age - I am here once again with something that is puzzling me. My fiance and I talk about many things and for the most part, everything. The issue I am having is that when we talk about problems in our house we usually agree that there is a problem and on what We want to do to solve ... (183 words)

He loves me but doesn't want to spend time with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am a 37 yo female who has been dating a recent divorcee. He is the most wonderful man I have met. He is a Great dad to his kids that he has 5-6 days out of the week because they have a sorry mother. She cheated on him a year ago, and ask for a divorce. When he started ... (212 words)

Which is worse, snooping or flirting?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - This is a bit of a weird question so I apologise in advance... My husband is a mechanic and works in a small village where everyone knows each other well and everyone is friends with everyone. However I am what's called a city slicker and have a few friends that I would be ... (225 words)

Need to know what to do about boyfriend who reads porn?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok and boyfriend have been together for about 3 years now. I knew he read dirty stories, he never got into the porn pics. I was ok but for the last few months It has started to annoy me. He does it mostly because 1. I will not give into him. I really have had no sex drive bu... (147 words)

What do I do? I don't feel comfortable with him in the background!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4363 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok so hear is my question. Me and my fiancé broke up for a couple months for one months she was seeing her ex we have gotten back together but she says she has unfortunate feelings for him and will not allow new feeling to happen between them but she feels she needs to keep him ... (174 words)

How do I repair the damage I've done?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4364 days ago

8 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 6 months now. the problem is i keep doing the same thing over and over again and realise too late that i messed up again. i just keep getting jealous and not trusting and worrying even when she wouldnt do anything unfaithful as ... (332 words)

Why is my boyfriend way horny when I am on my period?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4365 days ago

8 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I was just wondering why my boyfriend is always really horny when I am on my period. When I'm not on my period, I am super horny and he isn't. But when I am on my period he is the one who is horny. I feel nasty having sex on my period though, unless it is almost my last day. So ... (67 words)