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writes:right, well i broke up with my ex 3 years ago and during that time ive got with someone who i believe i could be with for the rest of my life, who i love with all my heart like ive never loved anyone before. but for some reason my ex still bothers me.he was my first proper boyfriend, even though he wasnt a very good one. when we were teenagers he dumped me horribly to get with a girl who'd spread her legs freely just because i wouldnt. the second time we got together he'd chased me for months, when i finally agreed to get with him, he'd ignore me for days, suddenly "run out of texts" (i dont know how coz none of them were ever on me) and he always had his ex round at his house, whilst denying it to me.to be honest hes probably the worst thing that happened to me, and ive struck gold with my current boyfriend hes just perfect, hes my best friend and absolutely gorgeous. but whenever my ex is around, i have this wierd feeling in my stomach. hes always so nice to me, and when he introduced his new gf with this smirk on his face i couldnt help hating her.whats wrong with me???? whats going in in my head?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks alot everyone, and to the anonymous answer, its nice to know i'm not the only one who feels this way. Its not like i'd ever consider gettin back with my ex, its just this feelin confuses me where i dont know whether its because i still like him or because i hate him. i dont feel like i do either, but it makes me uncomfortable to be around him. hes said things to me in the past like how my current boyfriend isnt good enough for me, and how i was the nicest girlfriend he ever had. he wasnt saying that when he was cheating on me and seeing his ex behind my back.This is why it gets so confusing!! All i know is my boyfriend now is better for me than anyone has ever been.Thanks for the responses though :) much appreciated.
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reader, MissesConfused  +, writes (29 August 2009):
Perhaps you are thinking about your ex-boyfriend because you still may have a bit feelings for him, but that is okay! Eventually this feelings will come to pass. If he was your first proper boyfriend who treated you like nothing then I think you can't help but comparing your new bf, because he's so great. About his new girlfriend, it's quite clear that your ex had the intention of making you jealous. Honestly then, he's not worth the time and emotion. Don't let him get to you.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (28 August 2009):
 Stick with the love of your life. Why go back to someone that ignored you, treated you badly, screwed around on you, shagged loose women and has no respect for you?In other words, you broke up with the ex, he's gone. You have someone new and wonderful in your life. Look at what you have and be happy. Its right in front of you. Looking back to the bad ex is not going to make life better.As far as him rubbing his new girlfriend in your face, he did that to upset you. Just move on, its not worth the effort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): Hi DearI suffer the same problem. He was my first proper boyfriend for a year and a half than he broke up terribly. It has been over 8 years now. I was single for 3 years and now I'm with the best man ever! He is very great and we decided to spend the rest of your life together (will get married in April ;-)) - but still, I don't like to see my ex and still there is a strange feeling even so he was the last I would wish to be with today! Don't know what it is and I also asked on this page ones because of it - but the only answer I got was something like it seems to be normal.Just don't think to much about it! Be happy as you are!Good luck!
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