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writes:Hey,Well me and my girlfriend broke up about 1 month ago. More so to take a step back. We still see each other every day (live 200 M from each other), still love each other, and still loyal with each other (as in not interetsted in other people). I know for a fact that she hasn't seen anyone and same with me. Anyway, the other day she was saying to me how she loves me, she loves spending time with me, however she doesn't want sex/kissing / any affectionate stuff from me (or anyone else). I am wondering is this normal? I might just add that she is anemic, and recently went to the doctor and found out her iron levels are really really low. From the research I have done this causes low sex drive (as well as other problems such as always tired etc..) Do you think this could be a reason why she doesn't want to be affectionate with me? Also add that even though we see each other every day, there is no kissing, sex or anything. Maybe a cuddle but try to keep it as friends..Both 19 studying at uni.. So yea, what do you guys think of this..
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 August 2009):
 I agree with Pinktopaz. Her blood iron levels have nothing to do with this. She doesn't want anything but a great "friendship", let's say.The unfair part of this arrangement is that both of you are left waiting. Who knows what will happen here? And I am afraid that one fine day one of you will simply walk out on the other, without telling the other party, who will be left waiting and wondering and with a broken heart.Think long and hard what you want to do. My advice is that both of you make a decision: either it's friendship, or it's a relationship. Or nothing at all.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (28 August 2009):
I really don't think that her being anemic has anything to do with her not wanting to be intimate with you. A lot of the time it has nothing to do with a woman's sex drive as to why she doesn't want to have sex with her ex that is now supposed to be just her "friend." She probably doesn't want to have a FWB relationship with you because she does care about you. If she were to still have sex with you, along with everything else that you told us, it would still be a relationship to any other logical human being without the label of "boyfriend/girlfriend" on it.Respect her wishes. It's not you, it's her. If you two want to have a platonic relationship, to women, that usually involves no sex.
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