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Archived questions from: October, 2013 (see latest in Health category)

Health: Help and advice

Could it be smegma or semen? Or is it evidence of cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3838 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - this is a serious question if a man has a white powdery ring around his foreskin head does that mean he cheated and had sex? is that smegma? He is uncircumsized ....when he pulled back the skin I saw white clumpy stuff under the skin looks like ...

Should I talk about this when I meet up with an old friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3841 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - Should I talk about this when I meet up with an old friend? I'm meeting a friend this weekend, who I haven't seen for a few years. I want to talk about everything that has been going on recently, such as when I went on holiday for the weekend to v...

I want to tell him to stop contacting me because I feel like he is playing with my heart, does he miss me or is he just saying hi?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3842 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - A guy I met broke up with me and said he doesn't know what he wants. he said he is lost. I asked to help him and he said no. I decided to accept it and now after almost two week no contact he texted me out of the blue and said "hope everything good ...

My uncontrollable vanity and low self-esteem are ruining my life

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3843 days ago

28 October 2013 (M) - I am obsessed with photos and not in a good way. I spend many hours of my life constantly worrying about documenting what I do so that I can have a good view of my life in the future. Subsequently I scrutinize them to the point of obsession and cons...

I'm afraid that my life will pass me by before I find my life's purpose and I'm getting anxious

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3843 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - Ok, this isn't exactly a relationship but I'm really in need of help and could use some constructive advice. My life is not what it should be and there needs to be change, because it really sucks. I'm in a career I just defaulted into, ...

Is my negativity taking control? How do I stop being jealous and bitter about my life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3841 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - This is not so much a question, but more looking for perspective or feedback on what you think the underlying problems are with my life at the minute. I should on the grand scheme of things be content with my life, I am starting a new job next mon...

I am really stressed over my bi polar boyfriend behavior

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3846 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - What should I do about these problems with my boyfriend?. He has Bipolar Disorder. He was very drunk a couple of nights ago. I was on the phone to him. He was shouting and swearing at people going past. He put the phone down for a second , and I ...

Affair turned bad and now I don't know how to cope and be a good mom to my kids

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3845 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - I had an affair with a man I met in April 2010.... He lives 3000 miles away but we talked and texted every day often for hours each day... We also met for get always several times.... We both declared the other was the love of our life and hoped one ...

Vaginal birth after a C-section?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3847 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Hi.is it possible to have vaginal birth even if you had ceasarian section before? Just curious..thanks aunts...

My vagina is very wet and it makes an irritating sound!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3848 days ago

25 October 2013 (F) - I have a problem with my vagina,everytime when i have sex it becomes too wet and makes an irritating sound which makes me not to enjoy...

Is it normal to have hair there? How do I tell her?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3847 days ago

25 October 2013 (M) - I'm 26 years old and I have been with my girlfriend who is 24 for 5 months now and we are a stage of absolute relaxation around each other, she is the most amazing person I have ever been with, she is so kind, she is caring, she is funny and just ...

My ex-husband told my daughter about my possible diagnosis!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3848 days ago

25 October 2013 (F) - Hi Everyone, I have recently been told that I have possible tumors in my utrius. I am having further tests in a couple of weeks. My ex husband and I have been divorced for 2 years now and we are still close friends. Both of my children live wit...

I'm feeling depressed and taken for granted. Please help me to deal with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3849 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - I have been with my partner for 5 years now. We have had an ok relationship, it's had its good parts and its bad but we've usually battled on together. Recently i have come to realise that it is likely that I have depression. On top of this I feel ...

Ex is telling embarrassing personal details!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3849 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - My ex from 5 years started telling people about 2 years ago some very personal information of mine. Why he is doing this I don't know but I am horrified to the point where I can't stop thinking about it. We have had no contact now for years and I ...

Is there anything I can do to show my b/f that I'm sorry for my past behavior?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3851 days ago

23 October 2013 (F) - Hello all. I am a first time poster here. I need some general advice about what to do! I love my boyfriend very much. We have been together just shy of a year and he treats me wonderfully. He is a true gentleman and always treats me like a queen....

How do I stop beating myself up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3850 days ago

21 October 2013 (M) - Hello, just a quick question maybe a daft one but answers may help,have any guys got tips on how to not beat my stuff over things and dwell on them? for example I did go the gym 3 years back and started doing well but lost motivation and want to ...

I'm so broken-hearted, he moved his camper, took his dog, he took everything from me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3852 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - i meet my boyfriend 3 years ago. i have many children that r older but do have a16 year older and aa grandson thats 10. i have spent a lot of time with i call him sam. i couldnt understand him very well, thought maybe his ex wife he couldnt get ...

What topic should I use to approach girls? I'm shy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3852 days ago

21 October 2013 (M) - hey... i am 17... i live in india.... and as you will see in my previous question how shy i am. I dont know what to talk to girls and all..... now i will explain you. Previous year i joined a class for studying and there were many hot girls ...

How much do guys care about acne?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3851 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - Hi.. Well here's my question.. I have acne it's not terrible but it is definitely noticeable and I cover up the redness but the bumps are still there... So I am 14 and all guys care about are looks! But how much do guys care about acne ? ...

Do you think he's found out about my hook-up? I don't want to text him because I don't want to annoy him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3849 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I went on a date with this guy and It went well, his definitely my type. We've texted each other and are always flirty and he said we definitely have to hangout again. However there was a party I went to and one thing lead to another I hooked u...

I want to save my mom from being neglected by retirement homes!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3853 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid , my mom came home from a nursing home because of nelect I brought her back home but before then I have been looking for a job to take care of myself and my son now I think I might have the job because I am due for drug testing and ...

Disability dating site or "normal" dating site?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3852 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - Hello! I have a question, I hope someone here has experience with disabilities (direct or through a partner) and can help me with this. Since almost 10 years I have a condition, not contagious, invisible (so I look like everybody else), that is ...

Why did he meet me then if he was going to break up by text?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3853 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - I met a guy three weeks ago. he came to my table and asked for my number. he decided to give me his number and after that I texted him and started talking. after that we liked echother verymuch and started talking as much as we can. he was leaving ...

He messaging a girl on Facebook, just like we did when we first got together! Do I have a right to be upset by this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3850 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I are in a relationship that is distance for about two thirds of the year. We've been together for about a year and a half and the distance is ending in a couple of weeks. We talk on the phone most nights and Skype each other once a ...

I got out of an abusive relationship. But now with my new guy my mother and brother hate him. How do I handle this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3854 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - I got out of a toxic relationship not too long ago - we had been together for 5 years with two kids and he used to bash me up and threaten to kill me. Everyone knew the extent of how severe the abuse was. I have recently started seeing a guy who...

How does one turn their emotions off?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3854 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - How do people keep from letting their heartache effect them? Better yet, how do people NOT have heartache? I know alot of scientist types... and I love their logic and how organized they are compared to me, but the thing I envy the most is how ...

My son is asking questions about his absent father, what should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3853 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - My son, who is 5 years old, has started asking about his dad, and wants to see him. Thing is when the relationship ended, it ended really really badly. He hasn't seen his son for a long time, when he left he made the decision to walk out on me A...

Can guys look past this hair I have?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3850 days ago

18 October 2013 (?) - I have a strange question. I am a girl and have hair in irregular sopts on my body (lower back, butt, and stomach). Ive went to the doctor and she said that there is no was to get rid of all of it. Im taking birth controll hoping that will help with ...

Do I struggle to stay and finish my course and graduate with my friends or do I take a year off? Help!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3855 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - I need some serious honest advice, i'm having to make the biggest decision and I'm stuck. My whole life plan has been ruined by something major and I didn't prepare myself for the outcome of changing plans. I had an accident over summer which mea...

Is this classed as cheating..has he learned his lesson?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3842 days ago

18 October 2013 (M) - Hi I need some peoples advice on a situation because I feel myself going crazy! I've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years, all was going great up until summer of last year... I noticed he started acting really strange at the end of s...

Why am I so nervous that he wont like how I look?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3854 days ago

17 October 2013 (F) - I am a nervous wreck. I met this man in my work uniform, we hit it off. I am a chunky girl. He went away for about six months and we kept contact. He is back in the states, and wants to see me. Why am I so nervous that he wont like how I look? He ...

I'm devastated over this breakup and over being used!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3857 days ago

15 October 2013 (M) - I’m so heartbroken right now…I need advice on how to get over this woman. I wound up being in a love triangle which has driven me into therapy but I need some additional advice, criticism, feedback…whatever it is…I just need to hear it. I met this ...

How can I learn to keep dates?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3857 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - Helo aunts and uncles, i just want to ask a question: how do i learn to keep to dates? I find it difficult always to keep to dates and its really affectin my relationship with others. I've lost most of my friends becos i barely bring myself to hang ...

He says his sub character came out and started chatting to his son's girlfriend! Does he have mental issues?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3857 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - ive come accross something that i dont understand, maybe someone who is good and understands phsycology might be able to put some undertsanding to this type of beahviour. Will try and be as brief as i can, im left completley confused so here it ...

He's lost all hope of getting a job in the next placement drive!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3858 days ago

14 October 2013 (F) - I am an engineering student currently in my final year of graduation. As such, placement drives of various firms are going on in my institution. Fortunately or unfortunately, I got placed in a leading fir in the first drive itself. But my boyfriend ...

Can you sue someone for giving you an STD?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3860 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - Can you sue someone for giving you an STD? My ex boyfriend has contacted me, to say that he recently ejaculated blood and that if he has an STD he will be suing me. I haven't had a check-up for a few months, but last time I went to the doctors ...

He treated me badly so why do I feel guilty for letting him go?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3858 days ago

12 October 2013 (F) - I have been seeing a man for 5 months now. The last two months have been especially stressful. He has subjected me to the "silent treatment" for over a month and just recently started cursing towards me. On Thursday I was trying to text h...

Is giving in to one's neurosis satisfying?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3860 days ago

12 October 2013 (M) - I have had a fantasy of being completely dominated in a bedroom by an attractive woman. In my case, completely means bondage, strap on, lack of power, discomfort, but not necessarily aggression or pain. I've always been curious but never had gu...

I want to show him how much he means to me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3857 days ago

11 October 2013 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now, when I met him maybe i should have stayed single as I had loads of problems in my personal life but we got on really well and he made me feel better. Well things got even worse for me, I had ...

What do people think about dating someone who uses a wheelchair?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3862 days ago

11 October 2013 (M) - Just curious. Because I use one but it seems that most people are really weary of it and I think a lot of them think wheelchair-users are a no go when it comes to dating, or even friendship. I'll be honest and say that making friends has been...

What's the best way to get proper help, ideally free, for this rut I'm in?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3863 days ago

10 October 2013 (M) - what's the best way I can get help please? ideally free. it has nearly been 5 years now since me and an ex split up, basically I took advantage of her also was scared of growing up,so. basically she got another dude,we stayed in contact over a year ...

How can I go back to being who I used to be except better? I'm normally not obsessive so I'm so shocked at my behavior.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3862 days ago

10 October 2013 (F) - I used to be very independent, made my own rules, did my own thing, I was very happy. But the relationship progressed with my boyfriend, despite loving him and him loving me. I noticed I have become so obsessed and I feel horrible. My obsession has ...

Abusive husband wants wife to move to Iraq with him when he's deported! How do we help her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3862 days ago

10 October 2013 (F) - My cousins husband is from iraq. He is a failed asylum seeker and is now in prison as he was violent and abusive towards her. my cousin has stood by him as he begged her not to leave him. The home office want to deport him and if they can deport him ...

My friend probably gave her one-night-stand guy chlamydia (he doesn't know it might be from her) and now I'm dating this guy. How do I ask him to get checked without exposing my friend?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3860 days ago

9 October 2013 (F) - Hi all, I'm in a sticky situation! Straight to the point, I started university 18 months ago and quickly became good friends with a girl on my course. Since then we have been like best friends, we clicked instantly. She happens to be a girl ...

I'm afraid he won't accept me because of herpes

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3863 days ago

9 October 2013 (F) - I have herpes type 2. I get one bump, and thats it. Every now and again. Anyway, Im planning on going on a date with a man ive been talking to for 6 months, in a week. I know we are headed in a serious direction. He has a messed up past, being an ex ...

My friend forced me to makeout, how do I get over this guilt? I can't tell my boyfriend!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3859 days ago

8 October 2013 (F) - Please help Recently I made a dumb impulsive decision to let a friend of mine drop me off in his car. His shocking colors came to picture when he insisted to kiss me and makeout. I refused for making out but he started insisting and wouldnt drop...

Can you ever move on from a abusive relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3863 days ago

8 October 2013 (F) - Can I ever move on from being in a abusive relationship? Will I ever really, 100% trust another man again? I haven't started to date yet, since getting out of the relationship, but the thought scares me, as my ex seemed perfect and charming at ...

I am lost. I need advice on this proposed separation, help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3864 days ago

8 October 2013 (F) - I am a 42 year old woman who was married for 14 years with 2 lovely boys. About 3 months after separating I met a man, and our relationship started off slowly, but within a year it was apparent that we both cared for each other deeply-and still do ...

I have yellow nails from my parent's smoking!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3864 days ago

8 October 2013 (F) - Hi. Both my parents smoke (roughly 5-a-day each). They smoke outside or in the porch with the door open. Recently I have noticed I hav been getting yellow nails no one else has at home because I have the longest nails. I don't smoke! What can I...

Is it bad that I would date someone with HIV if I really cared about them?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3865 days ago

7 October 2013 (F) - Is it bad that I would date someone with HIV if I really cared about them? Am I stupid for this? I am HIV-. Thanks in advance....