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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in Health category)

Health: Help and advice

My partner left me and is suffering with depression

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3463 days ago

31 October 2014 (M) - I could really do with somehelp and guidance.I was with my partner for 9 years and we have 2 children.I thought everything was fine until one day I came home from and said she does not love me anymore and that her head is a mess.She suffers with ...

I don't want to be superficial, and I know the problem can be fixed ...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3464 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - Hey everyone......There is this guy I have been seeing for a month now.he is a great guy and I like him.but I can't stand his lips.we haven't kissed yet and it's all because his lips gross me out.he has a habit of chewing his lips which is an ...

Can steroids and ice be reason for cheating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3463 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - Hi I'm going through a tough experience. My partner and I were in an amazing rship for almost 2 years everything was perfect we were best friends and lovers n I couldn't fault him and then things changed n he was snorting ice and taking steroids.. ...

I'm very attached to him and rely on him as I am still getting used to living away from home! Advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3465 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - I moved out home for university in september and very soon after arriving a met someone. we were very close for around 5 weeks seeing each other day. and although we weree offically a couple we may have well of been. admittedly we spent too much ...

My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this s...

Is it normal for a woman to be completely addicted to her man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - Hey everyone, I have been lately observing 2 of my friends and how they behave in their relationships, and I have been wondering a lot about whether this is the right way for a couple to be. The 2 examples (especially the 2nd one) are rat...

What can I do to create the spark we used to have? What needs to change?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3464 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - We've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argue and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things have changed and so do our feelings. He said he doesn't ...

Seeking input on which is the better work option. Current employer or a change?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I am hoping someone can help me! I am currently a nanny and work 16 hours a week mainly working from 2.30 until 6.30 Monday to Thursday. I am also not on a contract. However, the family are moving abroad next August. They have asked me to work...

My Dad has told me he's disowning me for spending the night with my Bf. Feel incredibly hurt. What can I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I'm sorry if this post is lengthy and/or complicated. I'm 19 years old, and ever since I turned 18, I've been having more and more issues with my dad. My parents are divorced, and are very different from each other. My dad is very overprotecti...

Why are siblings so resistant to giving any support to our mother?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid,I am the second oldest child and I have four other siblings who just act as if they don't have a living parent.I can't get them to do a single thing for my for our mom everything has a price on it they won't go to the store without ...

How can the spark be returned to our relationship? What needs to change or improve?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3466 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Well, we've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argues and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things has changed and so do our feelings. He said he ...

Since my parents divorced my mother has changed. Why does she continue to reject me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - My parents are divorced. It was a messy, painful battle, and my mother is the one who initiated it. Since then, she has moved away and changed into a completely different person. Her social life is so busy she no longer has time for me. And when...

He's controlling and abusive. What's the best way to handle this situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Been with my partner almost five years, we have a four year old son together. For the last two years our relationship has been very rocky. It has been an unhappy relationship for me, since being with him he has stopped me seeing family and frien...

How do I rise above the bullying and develop confidence in me and deflect bullying?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3446 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid I feel unsupported in life. I experienced poor treatment from my dad from the beginning of my time and my mom has never really praised me that much; I felt that both my mom and my dad saw the worst in me, unknowingly. They didn't se...

This man hardly knows me, so why does he keep on asking me out? I feel conflicted due to our mutual friend's illness

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3463 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Why does this man keep asking me out? This man is friends with a man that I like. The man I like has been seriously ill lately (he had an operation recently and was in hospital for a few weeks). This man has asked me to go out with him a few time...

His apartment is freezing, but he doesn't turn up the heat! Do I stop visiting?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Perhaps this is a weird question, but some suggestions on how to best deal with this would be nice. I've got a key to my boyfriends apartment, and I have been staying at his place for about every other day these last months. It's usually his plac...

I feel I may have a mental block when it comes to sex, should I go for it anyway and hope it goes away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Okay, basically I have come to the conclusion I am mentally unable to have sex or have a relationship. This may sound really strange and I do not have a reason as to why this has happened. But for the last year and a half, I have found myself una...

Big difficulties ahead. Will this relationship last? What other options are open to me, to consider?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - A year ago, I was ready to move to another city, transfer to finish school and leave sex work behind. I had been an escort for over 2 years, had a failed marriage and a child not living with me because of my unstable and crazy lifestyle (he lives ...

Only ever had sex with my BF so how could my BF have given me HPV? Is his excuse plausible? Or has he been cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - It seemed really strange I developed HPV from my boyfriend. I confronted my boyfriend after my doctor told me I had HPV. At this point I'm sure he was cheating, how else would he get it, how else would I get it. We lost our virginity together, so I ...

Due to my health issues, are there any devices that would allow my husband to enjoy and receive the best blow job?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - My husband and I are high school sweet hearts. hey been together for 20 years and married for over 15! We've always had a good sex life and I've always enjoyed oral sex and he has too!!! However; due to a severe case of TMJ (jaw joint issues...

He's abusive. Why do I take him back, even though I know he is not good for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid Where do I start? I was with my ex was 4 years. Earlier it used be fun, for past few months the verbal emotional abuse is more than I can take. He withdraws affection and love. Makes me beg with him to even talk to me, at last talks to...

What should I do about my partner of 5 years who has recently become aggressive and has come close to fighting with my family?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I have been with my partner for 5 years now We live together but are not married nor do we have children Recently he has become very aggressive to the point where he has been nearly getting into fights with my family I feel lost and heart brok...

I'm exhausting myself running from the pain of this breakup!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - My ex of two years and I split up and left things in a really rough way. A lot was left unsaid and unsettled and honestly, very hurtfully. It's been approaching a month, and I truly don't feel like I'm getting over it at all, I'm just ignoring it...

I'm a compulsive cheater and I suffer depressed. What help do I need to stop this cheating? I do love my older Bf

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - I'm a 30 year old woman in a committed, loving relationship with a man who is nearly 50. I'm a compulsive cheater. I can't help myself and I hate myself so very much. I've had numerous one-night stands with various men. It is hard for anyone to ...

How do I get out of my depressed slump?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3470 days ago

24 October 2014 (M) - I’ve been feeling so shitty lately. I feel very inadequate in who I am and in everything I do. It’s like no matter what I do, No matter how hard I try, I’ll never be good enough. I'm not the smartest, the wittiest, the funniest, or the most ...

I'm having doubts about the relationship because my boyfriend drinks to excess

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3470 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is intelligent and funny and fun to be with and we share many interests. What we don't share is his interest and committment to drinking on a daily basis, and at least 3 times a week being drunk to the ...

How can I communicate a problem with my boyfriend without coming across moany?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

23 October 2014 (F) - Hi all, first of all thank you for taking time to read my query! sorry if this is long a bit of a back story is needed ive been with my boyfriend 5 years we dont live together or anything like that and we both love how our relationship ...

Is my boyfriend gay? Would another guy not want me because of the acne between my legs?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3473 days ago

21 October 2014 (F) - Ok my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years the past few months our sex life has been dead! Now we are busy I work all the time an we have kids but we have had times where we can have sex but we both don't act on it I keep telling him I am ...

I have a double standard when it comes to porn and it makes me feel disgusted and humiliated with myself!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3453 days ago

21 October 2014 (F) - I feel completely disgusted and humiliated with myself. I am 23 and feel like the worst woman on the planet. In high school and at times in college I explored pornography (much more then). My fiancé has confessed as well that he would look at ...

Is it shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2700 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - It's is shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence? I'm having a hard time being in this relationship because my boyfriend's lack of intelligence and common sense. His decision making is poor, and his mental capacity is ...

After enduring so many personal difficulties I now discover the man I've started seeing is HIV positive

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3474 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Hi everybody. Please don't judge me, I feel horrible enough. I just want some advice and opinions please. I have had a difficult last ten years probably. My father had an affair and as a result of that my mother and father divorced. They a...

My wife's libido is low after having our baby

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3474 days ago

20 October 2014 (M) - I am sorry if this is an old issue - I have looked over previous thread but everyone is unique eh? Two years ago I married my wife who is considered by all who meet her, male and female, to be a particularly attractive and 'sexy' woman. Las...

Do I accept the offer from my ex? Or continue to put up with my Bf ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3471 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Hi, I will try and keep things factual! I have a bf who I have been seeing for 4 years, we don't live together but there is a strong feeling of love between us. He tried to move in last year but I stopped him because I wasn't ready. partly because ...

I need to smoke weed for medicinal purposes but my boyfriend doesn't like this!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3475 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - I have a problem because i fell in love with a guy who thinks weed is bad and i need to smoke because i have nervous problems and severe depression and fibromyalgia pain all over my body. and when i smoke weed i dont feel sick or nervous i can eat ...

He says my nature is bad. That was his reason for breaking up with me. What was my fault?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3476 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I met a guy online 3 months back. On the first day itself I had phone sex with him. Initially he was very loving. We were even planning to meet. He used to say if I make you pregnant I will marry you. He said we will make videos while having sex...

What can I do considering it seems that I am in another abusive relationship and pregnant too?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3476 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I am so depressed and need some help/advice... I am 22 on Thursday. I have two kids (3 and 5) and I am 23 weeks with my third. I have messed up my life up so much... I was with a "man" for 5 years and he physically and emotionally abuse...

I feel like I always mess things up with my Bf, due to my jealousy. How do I get over feeling so jealous?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3475 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I really feel like I'm messing my current relationship up... or going to. I was cheated on in my previous relationship and it left me broken. I am a very passionate and loyal person so it caught me off guard. It's gotten to the point where if I...

I miss her. Do you think she is in a rebound relationship? If yes, how long do you think it will last?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3476 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - Hello, I have a question, but i need to tell you the most important details you will need for decision in the shortest possible way. My ex (also my Classmate!!) had a boyfriend, but I got her from him and she became my girlfriend, they were ...

Early 20s and having sexual issues. Why does this keep happening?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3477 days ago

17 October 2014 (M) - Hello all. I'm a college student in my early 20s and I really need some help. For quite some time, I've been having some troubles with my sex drive/virility in general. Whenever I'm able to get an erection, it is almost always at "half-mast", s...

Passive Agressive: What should I do, and how shoudl I react and respond to his behaviour?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3477 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - How to deal with passive aggresive boyfriend? We've just get back from breakup and now he treats passive aggressive. He texted me yesterday I reply and he left it there didn't text back. But after 3 days he treated me this way, I don't show that ...

He gave me herpes and doesn't know he has it

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3477 days ago

16 October 2014 (F) - I've met a guy on tinder and been dating him for 5months and have just found out he's given me genital herpes, however he is unaware that he has it. He told me he got tested for STDs and came back clear however they don't routinely test for ...

I got married less than a month ago and I think it was a mistake! What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3479 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I just got married less than a month ago and I am having all of these feelings and thoughts that it isn't right. That I made a mistake. He isn't the one. I feel so lost because I have been with him for over 5 years... since I was 19 years old. Don't ...

How can I look thinner, feel thinner, and have my clothes fit better, yet still weigh the same thing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3479 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I have some questions about weight. I was on a medication that I thought was causing me weight gain. (You'll find out why I said 'thought' when you read the rest). My stomach was looking bloated, and my legs were getting rather celluity. I'm 5'6", ...

Could it be men see hurt in my body language, and that's why I am still single?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3480 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid,I really want to have a friend for the new year but no one seems to be looking my way if they are I can't tell.I have been single for many years about 13 and now I want companionship.I just turned 43 yesterday I feel and look young I ...

He's amazing but he does drugs. Am I being too fussy by finding it a deal breaker?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3480 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I recently met a 30-year-old guy whom I hit it off really well with - he flirts with me heavily all the time and he is clearly a very kind person (he stopped to give an old lady change for the bus the other day because she couldn't find her purse - ...

How do you ask your boyfriend, who is a recent IV drug user, to get tested?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3480 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - How do you ask your boyfriend, who is a recent IV drug user, to get tested? We are reaching the point in our relationship where we are going to be taking things to the next level physically, but I am terrified of putting myself at risk for StDs...

Rude abusive brother. He's especially nasty when he can't get his own way. How can I stop him speaking to me like this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3478 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I suffer from depression. My younger brother and I used to very close, but over the years he has grown distant. Although we live together, we rarely speak anymore because he is always out. When he wants something from me, he will speak to me, and...

I'm in a new relationship. But how do I stop being so untrusting anxious that he'll leave me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3478 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I had been in this new relationship for about two months. We first were just working on a construction job together but it gradually turned into us living together in the house we are working on and him working for me. I have 4 children that don...

My ex keeps on telling me how unhappy he is, yet he does nothing about it. How can I motivate him to do something about his unhappiness?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3480 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - I've been seeing my ex for about a year now. He is married after our breakup. Long story. Anyway he tells me how unhappy he is but still does nothing about it. I've asked him to fix things around my house but always has excuses. He did watch m...

Recently diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome. Will this spell doom for my career aspirations?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3482 days ago

12 October 2014 (F) - At the age of 24, 5 years into my degree qualifications at a top university, I have just recieved the devastating news that I have Aspergers Syndrome. I am very intelligent and hardworking but after getting fired for the 3rd time I went to see a ...