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writes:I went on a date with this guy and It went well, his definitely my type. We've texted each other and are always flirty and he said we definitely have to hangout again. However there was a party I went to and one thing lead to another I hooked up with a complete stranger. His friends were there, however he wasn't. This morning with a huge hangover that I had I also posted a few pictures of the wild night I had. And now i kind of regret it He has not texted me all day, and it may be because he may have found out about my hook up. I honestly didn't mean to hook up with anyone it was more if a dare with a few people.I don't want to text him because I don't want to annoy him. Please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI waited a few days and I texted him, he just said how he has been very busy lately and couldn't text me. we talked for a bit. but I don't think its going anywhere.
But thank you all so much for your opinions! Xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits been two days and to be honest I have yet to hear from him. If I don't at all, then that's it. Last time me and him texted I was the last to reply. I agree with you honeypie the ball is definitely in his court. And I do also regret the decision I've made, I know myself and that I am in fact better then that. Thank you guys so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2013): Like honeypie said, imagine if it was the other way round and you found out from your friends he hooked up with a random stranger....? I know for a fact this would be a major incentive for me, and anyone who WANTS to date you to back away... If his friends were there then he's gunna know about it... give it a day and then text him- I advise don't make it overly flirty, cos understand he may have just written you off as a massive flirt/ party girl- not dating material lol... If he doesnt reply, then write him off for now... theres not much you can do to change things at this early stage. If you like him enough it's up to you to prove him wrong- but in time. Give him some space for the time being. Good luck x :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2013): All you can really do is wait and see what happens. It's more than likely it's already gotten around how loose you were that night, so there is a good chance this guy doesn't want to be a notch on your bed post (an old saying typical for men and how many they have had sex with). He can't really say anything because you aren't exclusive, but it doesn't mean he is going to accept it.
Anyway, if you are looking to have some fun and not commit to just one person, then there is no problem. But if you want to be with one guy, then you need to calm down and act a bit more respectable and responsible when you are out with your friends, at parties, etc. Getting drunk and using that as your excuse is not remotely cute or acceptable. You will just continue to be a "right now" girl who just wants to have fun, not someone a guy would want to "take home to Mom". You make it way to easy and inviting for guys to take advantage of you. Please be careful.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 October 2013):
 First of, if you two only had one date, it's not like you OWE him fidelity or exclusivity (unless that was discussed already).
However, IF you thought that guy was someone you COULD date, why hook up with some random stranger? It makes no sense.
Yes, he might have seen the pictures or heard about it from his friends.
If the roles had been reversed, and HE had been the one to "hook-up" with a girl and then post pictures would YOU want to call, text him and go out on more dates?
You might have "lost" this one. Give it a few days and see if you hear from him. I, personally, would leave the ball in his court.
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