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Archived questions from: May, 2013 (see latest in Health category)

Health: Help and advice

how can I keep my "old self" on the surface without all the overthinking ruining everything?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3983 days ago

31 May 2013 (F) - Hello Agony Aunts! First of all let me tell you, you people are amazing. You do your best to help everyone and u do a really good job at it. So, to the problem. I used to be a bit unsure of myself but also i was naive enough to just live in the mome...

My remarks were intended to build her up but she's told me they were inappropriate

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3983 days ago

30 May 2013 (M) - I'll try to make this fairly quick. I've always been the kind of guy who's really tactful and good with words. I've always prided myself on knowing what to say and having good social skills. But lately, my girlfriend has been making me feel pretty ...

Tissue problem when giving oral!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3862 days ago

30 May 2013 (M) - I love pleasing my wife orally. However, there's often some tissue remnants. just small bits which is really off putting. Blokes, is this common? How do you deal with it in the moment? Ladies, how can I broach this with her?...

I have reached the end of my patience with my boyfriend, but I'm too much of a pushover to let him go. Help?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3981 days ago

30 May 2013 (F) - Okay. Well where do I start? I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 5 months. I'm not going to go majorly into the backstory about how we got together, but before hand I had been in a 9 month relation...

How can I get my bad temper in check, and make it clear that I love him so much?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3984 days ago

30 May 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am with the love of my life and I never want to loose him. He is my everything. I feel like I will loose him because of my anger. I have bad anger and a short fuse. I love him to much to every loose him and if I do I may just go craz...

The thought of sex with just anyone makes me physically ill. Am I the only one out there like this? Will I ever meet anyone?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3506 days ago

29 May 2013 (F) - I am 21 years old and never had a boyfriend or sexual contact or anything. Yeah, I've had self esteem issues. But realistically, I've never even ever met anyone in real life that I had any feelings for. I never met anyone that I was attracted to. ...

Fiance walked out on me while pregnant, I found out he's living with his ex. He wants me back but I can't get over the hurt!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3983 days ago

29 May 2013 (F) - he walked away without a word and left town when I was pregnant. two days later said he left to give me space. I was hurt so I didn't allow him to come right back. then I had the baby he said he was so sorry about hurting me the way he did by ...

Sex can give you STDs or cause pregnancy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3975 days ago

29 May 2013 (F) - My name is Kayla I'm 15. I think today the world should know about what sex can do... It can give you sexually transmitted deceases (STD's) or end up pregnant at a young age then your whole childhood is gone! sex is a big step in a relationship you ...

What do I do if she comes on to me? I don't want to be on her "list of resentments"!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3985 days ago

29 May 2013 (M) - Hey all, I need some help! For some backstory, understand that my ex, lets call her Sue (names changed obviously) and I were a great couple back in high school and at the beginning of college despite going to schools that were 500 miles apart. Whe...

Feel dizzy/faint when touch vagina?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3985 days ago

29 May 2013 (F) - Hi. So just some background info.. I just turned 18, I'm not a virgin, I've had sex a few times but it was really painful each time so I kind of have avoided having sex since then. A couple of years ago, I tried putting in a tampon, and I pu...

Why do I miss my abusive ex boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3986 days ago

28 May 2013 (F) - I have been dealing with a personal and confusing issue with my now ex-boyfriend, and have no idea what to do. We started dating a year ago. It was a very high and low relationship. Many fights. He did not want me to be friends with any male ...

I'm afraid of the pain he caused me, should I call him back or wait for him to call again?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3983 days ago

28 May 2013 (F) - Hello good people So I have been writing about my unplanned pregnancy with a gut that I barely know and denied the pregnancy and left me. Well he hasn't come back yet but I'm delighted to inform you that scary as it was I am HIV negetive I'm so...

I have a live-in mother-in-law who criticizes everything I do!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3986 days ago

27 May 2013 (F) - Hi, This is my first post. please be kind to me and excuse me for long boring passage. I have a mother in law who criticizes everything I do or say. It goes from a simple recipe to how to take care of my baby. She lives in with us. My husband...

Herpes. How do I tell my volatire partner? Should I avoid a big fight and not tell, or take a risk??? please help!!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3987 days ago

27 May 2013 (F) - Hello everyone, Im a 28 yr old female. I just took standard blood work because im in the health field and a routine gyn pap, every thing came out normal. I got a letter about about my bloodwork. I called the office and found out I have Herp...

Help! My boyfriend is putting me in awful moods!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3988 days ago

26 May 2013 (F) - Hi everyone. So I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. No, our relationship isn't perfect as I've been struggling with depression and its killed my sex drive but he understands and is really nice about it. However, it really doe...

Why am I not special enough for a guy to stay exclusive with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3988 days ago

26 May 2013 (F) - I feel positively stupid. And ugly... especially ugly. Long story short: I met a guy, we liked each other but it's long distance, so there's no chance it'd work... we met once a couple months ago and had a great date, we got along great, and...

Will we be passing HPV back and forth if we keep having sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3989 days ago

25 May 2013 (M) - Hello, well a women friend of mine, had a pap smear, it came back she has hpv, am the only man she's been with in years, I'm wondering, I've been told it can up to 2 years for your immune system to clear it up, I know their is a lot of different ...

Is there anyone else out there suffering from Misophonia

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3989 days ago

25 May 2013 (F) - Is there anyone else out there suffering from Misophonia (a form of sound sensitivity where noises like people chewing, breathing, snoring etc provoke a fight or flight/rage response in the sufferer) who can offer me any advice about coping with it? ...

Does sleeping in separate beds always lead to the end of a relationship?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3990 days ago

23 May 2013 (F) - does sleeping in separate beds always lead to the end of a relationship? i ask because my fiance and i live together and i find it hard to sleep next to him due to his snoring. i've had important professional exams today, so for the last week, he's ...

No sex for 2 years - should I walk away from this otherwise happy relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

23 May 2013 (F) - My mate and and I have not had sex for 2 years He says he can't get a hard on anymore, but he can materbate and watch porn alone, I am not sure if it is me or if he avoids me, I am happy about everything else in our relationship but the sex. He ...

My fiance says that if I gain weight, he won't make love to me in the same way! How should I respond?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3990 days ago

23 May 2013 (F) - My fiance has told me he hates fat women. He thinks they are disgusting and have no self control. His mother is heavy and he points to her for his reasoning. He told me, while making love to me, that if I ever gain weight, that he will not make...

My boyfriend pointed out a larger girl to me and said if I ever got that fat he would dump me!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

22 May 2013 (F) - I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for just under 4 years. At the weekend we were on a night out and he pointed out a woman on the dancefloor who was probably a UK size 14/16 and he told me if I ever get as fat as that he will dump me! Now this ...

What can I do, to stay strong, and stop myself texting him hurtful things?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3992 days ago

22 May 2013 (F) - my boyfriend keeps leaving the house when we start arguing and saying its over. I struggled a lot just before we met with money being on my own working mininum wage and having two kids. He has helped me out but now throws it in my face. I've gone...

No diagnosis for his ED and lack of desire! My marriage is almost destroyed by this!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3992 days ago

21 May 2013 (F) - I hope there are someone out there in my situation. I feel so alone with my problem. My 28 year long marriage is almost destroyed by this, and I dont know what else can I do. So my husband has a chronic sexual/erectile dysfunction, and complete ...

Pregnant and lonely, husband is always working?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3988 days ago

21 May 2013 (F) - Dear cupid, I don't know what to do or who else to talk to about this but I really need to let it out. I'm halfway through my pregnancy with my first child and I'm feeling so down all the time. It was planned and I'm not unhappy that we're havin...

Does this sound like normal puberty?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3992 days ago

21 May 2013 (F) - Im 13. Ive had discharge for two years nonstop with no period. My breasts hurt i get headaches, ive noticed lots of blackheads and clogged pores, and i am constantly grumpy and hateful. What does this mean? help, i think puberty hates me...

Why does he want to do it himself instead of being intimate with me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3983 days ago

20 May 2013 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 months and we are in love and live together. We have a really good and happy relationship apart from one thing. He would rather masturbate than have sex with me. Iv talked to him about it and he said that he ...

How do you deal with the issue of bad breath tactfully, yet firmly enough that the behaviour changes without resentment or hurt feelings?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3994 days ago

20 May 2013 (F) - My new boyfriend (3 months) has horrific breath sometimes. I tried subtle, then obvious hints like putting a toothbrush on his overnight bag. I finally said that didnt cut it, brush your teeth man! Then I turned it into a game about brushed te...

My boyfriend's lack of ambition is taking a toll on me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

19 May 2013 (F) - My boyfriend says he's lost his lust for life. And I can see a serious lack of motivation and drive but because Ive only been in the picture for two years I dont know for sure if this is a recent thing or if he has always been this way. He is a ...

I think I wasted my teenage years

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3994 days ago

19 May 2013 (F) - Hey guys. I'm wondering if anyone here can relate and give me some advice. I'm 19 years old and I feel like I've sort of wasted my teenage years and that I didn't really live the life of a normal teenager. I've never had a boyfriend, never really ...

My boyfriend wants to call me a different name during sex!

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3992 days ago

19 May 2013 (F) - Ok so now my Long term boyfriend has asked if he could call me by another girls name during sex. Im very uncomfrotable and seriously am thinking of breaking us up. Is this normal??? And then when I told him no he went soft during sex. Lost his hard ...

Was it my fault that she broke up with me? Was I wrong falling in love with a recovering alcoholic?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

19 May 2013 (M) - Hi, I keep hearing I should have left her alone during her tweive step program, but we were together for three months. I don't know if she drank before I picked her up to go dancing, movies, walks in the parks, trips, picnics. I stopped drinking...

So why am I feeling conflicted about progressing this to sex with her? Seemed the logical next option.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3988 days ago

19 May 2013 (M) - I've recently began a self-improvement kick, beginning to exercise, be more social, exude confidence. I'm getting female attention for the first time in ages. I really hit it off with a girl at a party last week, we spoke a lot and ended up holding ...

What birth defects could have been caused from caffeine, smoking and being fed by bottle?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

18 May 2013 (F) - My mother smoked cigarettes and consumed a lot of Caffeine while she was pregnant with me. I was also always bottle fed, never breast fed. I'm wondering what birth defects (if any) could have been caused by those three factors? ...

Girlfriend keeps breaking up and then saying she regrets it. What am I supposed to do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

18 May 2013 (M) - i'm having a bit of a hard time lately. i've been with my girlfriend about a year now and sometimes our ups and downs really effect me. since this is anonymous, i don't feel too bad disclosing this information, seeing as how it's very pertinent. ...

I yelled at her and due to her past it's left her feeling traumatized. Now she's ignored me for 2 days. How can I make things right?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3996 days ago

18 May 2013 (M) - in need of help... two nights ago, out of frustration and in the heat of the moment, i slightly raised my voice at my girlfriend of 6 months. this was the first time I ever did that. I simply got upset over something involving us. later on i...

At the moment, I am not ready for a threesome to happen in our relationship. My Bf would like it to happen. How long into a relationship before agreeing to it?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3993 days ago

18 May 2013 (F) - Hi, Ok I would love some fair and informative advice here on my boyfriend wanting to have a FFM threesome. We have been going out with each other for 8 months and moved in together three months ago. At the beginning of the relationship he...

Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?

This question has 47 answers - newest was posted 3932 days ago

18 May 2013 (M) - I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...

After 8 years of marriage I became totally dependant on my ex-husband to support me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3996 days ago

18 May 2013 (F) - i am 28 and i don't want to work. I'm still living with my ex husband and his girl friend, he has moved on and i relied on him so much for 8 years. i have become comfortable living like that. i don't work or pay any bills. i don't do anything...

My friend is acting as if our hot making out meant nothing!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

17 May 2013 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend of two years because he treated me like crap, but I was really feeling down so I started hanging out with a friend. Yesterday I was riding home with they guy and things just kind of happened and we ended up making out in ...

Am I demasculated pushover?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3997 days ago

17 May 2013 (M) - Hey everyone, this is something that plaeged me growing up and especially in my teen and college years. Despite the fact that I love him to death, my Father seems to fit the bill for the "Nice Guy" profile while I grew up in the far more than sim...

How does one overcome an awful childhood and the lack of a loving homelife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3997 days ago

17 May 2013 (F) - I grew up with a single mother (my dad left when I was very little) and two sisters who dropped out of school due to getting pregnant. I was raised on a council estate, but it was in a really nice little town down South (leaving out the name so ...

I'm worried that my smoking and drinking could delay or event prevent getting pregnant

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3997 days ago

17 May 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, so basically what it is is that I really want a baby (so does my partner) I came off the mirena two months ago, I drink on weekends socially but quite a lot and smoke 8-10 cigarettes a day, I know that's awful to do when trying to ...

Girlfriend's mom had a health scare and now she drops everything for mom!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3993 days ago

17 May 2013 (M) - My GF needs some help and I'm not sure what I can do. I've been with her 4 years and everything has been good. We're compatible, we resolve disagreements quick, etc. I'm not going to bore you with a list of how great things usually are... ...

How can I improve my self esteem after an abusive relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3998 days ago

17 May 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid Long story short, got dumped from a 3 years abusive relationship. My self esteem is record low and im still thinking about ways to get my ex-bf back, haven't acted on it though. I am trying really hard to move on and not think ab...

Does this sound normal for "down there"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3998 days ago

16 May 2013 (F) - Hey guys, this is embarrassing but for like the last couple years its look like there was another little hole or tear under the vagina hole there or some thing and iv ignored it but today i opened it more and noticed its like 3 litle diffrent flabs ...

Is what she told me about birth control pills for her true?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3998 days ago

15 May 2013 (M) - Me and my fiance were talking about birth control one day and i asked her why doesn't she start taking the pill.She told me that she went to a doctor about it and they said that because of her size (she is close to 100lb over weight) that all it ...

After all the drama now he's avoiding me and won't contact me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3999 days ago

15 May 2013 (F) - How Can I have a good relationship with an anxious man ? I met my boyfriend 6 months ago and he fell in love with me i tried to be more rational as i had so many bad experiences before so I couldn't help my heart and I fell in love with him too .he ...

HELP!!!! My weight is ruining my relationship

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3987 days ago

15 May 2013 (F) - I have had two children and I am now 70 pounds overweight. I'm very unhappy, angery and out of sorts with myself. I know that I need to lose weight, but after working, taking care of my dads kids and then taking care of my own kids, I find I h...

I should be happy I've been dumped by my abusive ex but I don't know how to stop wanting him back! Help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3999 days ago

14 May 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid My verbally and emotionally abusive bf of 3 years dumped me yesterday. I know i should be relieved that i wont be abused anymore. I dont need to walk on egg shells around him anymore and i dont have to scared everytime he calls me or i...